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Julester:
Hey,

about a month ago I met this nigerian guy on some flirt app. We started talking on Skype and Whatsapp, and we've had hours of video and text chats ever since. He said I love pretty fast, which confused me a lot, and I told him that he would be delusional if that was the truth, but he did not let go of me. I started falling for him, and now "I love you" has become part of our daily routine.

I started reading a lot about Lagos, his city of residence, and I came across the word "scam", which again both confused and worried me. I even confronted him with that, which first made him break out in laughter, and when I did not let go, he started being all offended.

He told me that he just finished schooling, but isn't able to find a job that would make him enough money to make a living, so he told me that he's supported by his family.

He never asked me for money. And he wanted me to come visit, but I told him that that would be too dangerous for me, and that he should visit me first here in Germany.

So that's the plan now. He told me that he will borrow the money for his ticket from people he knows as soon as he's able to show them his visa.

Yet, I read that many Nigerian/ African guys are only dating abroad that way they can live a better life.

I can't and I don't wanna believe that everything he told me so far is a lie.

What does this whole thing sound like to you guys?

Thanks for reading.

firstking01:
I'd love to learn the dutchsland/german.

Julester:
Hey,

about a month ago I met this nigerian guy on some flirt app. We started talking on Skype and Whatsapp, and we've had hours of video and text chats ever since. He said I love pretty fast, which confused me a lot, and I told him that he would be delusional if that was the truth, but he did not let go of me. I started falling for him, and now "I love you" has become part of our daily routine.

I started reading a lot about Lagos, his city of residence, and I came across the word "scam", which again both confused and worried me. I even confronted him with that, which first made him break out in laughter, and when I did not let go, he started being all offended.

He told me that he just finished schooling, but isn't able to find a job that would make him enough money to make a living, so he told me that he's supported by his family.

He never asked me for money. And he wanted me to come visit, but I told him that that would be too dangerous for me, and that he should visit me first here in Germany.

So that's the plan now. He told me that he will borrow the money for his ticket from people he knows as soon as he's able to show them his visa.

Yet, I read that many Nigerian/ African guys are only dating abroad that way they can live a better life.

I can't and I don't wanna believe that everything he told me so far is a lie.

What does this whole thing sound like to you guys?

Thanks for reading.

Julester:
Then go for it

BoboYekini:
Another one.

@julester, I was going to fly into a tirade and say how presumptuous, prejudicial and small minded you are. And then I see fellow Nigerians falling over themselves to label this DIQ (dude in question) a scam artist. Like you didn't know already. But that's the point. You always thought he was out for your food stamps, and you're here seeking validation for your twisted mind.
All's I got to say is, you're not welcome in Lagos. Plenty of friendly and open minded oyinbos here so don't even come and foul the air with your rancid mentality. You can get plenty of black cõck in Germany, no need to get on a plane.

delishpot:
He prolly wants to leave Nigeria and sees you as a means to do so. He doesn't want to defraud you(money wise) based on your text.

He may not love you as much as you love him. If you feel inclined to, send him an invite but please, do not send him any money. Don't listen to those who say you should either.
Give him the invite and see how things play out when you guys finally meet.

Julester:
Wow, what the Bleep is wrong with you? I'm not any of the attributes you stated, but hearing all these bad things is of course making you start wondering. I know exactly what to do. I'm in love with that kid, and I do wanna believe him, and I will drive this fucking ship against some cliff, if that is even necessary. All I wanted was some advice that would relax me, that's all. No need to be offending!

Julester:
Hey,

about a month ago I met this nigerian guy on some flirt app. We started talking on Skype and Whatsapp, and we've had hours of video and text chats ever since. He said I love pretty fast, which confused me a lot, and I told him that he would be delusional if that was the truth, but he did not let go of me. I started falling for him, and now "I love you" has become part of our daily routine.

I started reading a lot about Lagos, his city of residence, and I came across the word "scam", which again both confused and worried me. I even confronted him with that, which first made him break out in laughter, and when I did not let go, he started being all offended.

He told me that he just finished schooling, but isn't able to find a job that would make him enough money to make a living, so he told me that he's supported by his family.

He never asked me for money. And he wanted me to come visit, but I told him that that would be too dangerous for me, and that he should visit me first here in Germany.

So that's the plan now. He told me that he will borrow the money for his ticket from people he knows as soon as he's able to show them his visa.

Yet, I read that many Nigerian/ African guys are only dating abroad that way they can live a better life.

I can't and I don't wanna believe that everything he told me so far is a lie.

What does this whole thing sound like to you guys?

Thanks for reading.

hpk:
COMMENTS LIKE THESE WERE THE REASON MY UKRAINIAN CHICK BROKE UP WITH ME. BADMIND DEM NEVER WANT MAKE THE NEXT MAN ELEVATE.

Jacksparr0w1207:
why do you guys always jump into hasty conclusions? If he was so much interested in traveling, he wouldn't have asked op to come for visit.

I'm not ruling out the possibility of him being a scammer or all that, but then, we can't be so sure. And we shouldn't paint him black. #justsaying

delishpot:
What conclusion did I jump into dear sir?

Jacksparr0w1207:
The part you concluded he's only in it cuz he sees her as his way out of Naija

delishpot:
You read through and I said definitely he just wants to use her? Oh pardon me, I thought I mentioned the word "PROBABLY " I am making my point because the OP needs to know all possibilities. Even a surgeon will tell you the success ratio of a surgery. They may go as far as saying the person may not even make it out alive. Does that mean they are saying don't do it? She has to learn the possibilities of every outcome. I do not see where I said she should abandon him and not give him as chance.

soupandeba:
Well, I've come to realise that we have three sets of Nigerians online: the one who wants to make money, the one out there for fun and the one who doesn't know why he is online.


The scammer falls into category 1 while the dupe (the person scammed) falls into category 2, whereas the one who spoils people's hustle online fall into category 3. From this thread, it's evident that category 3 is loitering this space.


@Julester; My question still remains, do you love this guy? Because in Nigeria, we understand that Europeans and Americans love easily and that's why they have been scammed over and over again ad infinitum. Whatever the case appears to be, you can't love someone millions of KMs away from you forever. It's only a matter if time before you guys meet. Whether you like it or not, since he's jobless you're gonna be used as a tool even if he loves you or not! Take for example he comes over, he's gonna live with you and all other expenses from your purse, right? So, if the guy were sensible he wouldn't even scam you, he has already scammed you by making you love him. God has buttered his bread!

firstking01:
I'd love to learn the dutchsland/german.

Julester:
Well, then ask all the questions you have

Julester:
So what?! If I bought my ticket to Lagos he would have to support me while being there too, for I'm not freaking rich, and he knows that. Plus, as I already mentioned, he get's supported by his family, meaning he has at least a bit of money.

Julester:
Well not me, as I said he will borrow the money from friends I think

firstking01:
Whats i love you in german

CaraJewel:
Oga jxt google it...if u rily wanted to learn german lang..u knw what to do

firstking01:
Sorry but i never asked you??

CaraJewel:
Ok but i wrote it already

firstking01:
Then let the answer come from whoever the question was directed to...


Have a nice day

CaraJewel:
Whichever way...u too