Hey,

about a month ago I met this nigerian guy on some flirt app. We started talking on Skype and Whatsapp, and we've had hours of video and text chats ever since. He said I love pretty fast, which confused me a lot, and I told him that he would be delusional if that was the truth, but he did not let go of me. I started falling for him, and now "I love you" has become part of our daily routine.

I started reading a lot about Lagos, his city of residence, and I came across the word "scam", which again both confused and worried me. I even confronted him with that, which first made him break out in laughter, and when I did not let go, he started being all offended.

He told me that he just finished schooling, but isn't able to find a job that would make him enough money to make a living, so he told me that he's supported by his family.

He never asked me for money. And he wanted me to come visit, but I told him that that would be too dangerous for me, and that he should visit me first here in Germany.

So that's the plan now. He told me that he will borrow the money for his ticket from people he knows as soon as he's able to show them his visa.

Yet, I read that many Nigerian/ African guys are only dating abroad that way they can live a better life.

I can't and I don't wanna believe that everything he told me so far is a lie.

What does this whole thing sound like to you guys?

Thanks for reading.

Wake me up when he has finished scamming you

Hehehehehehehe..... make I no spoil market for a fellow hustler biko....

They are gud and bad people everywhere, both in Nigeria and other parts of the world. So dont just dismiss him but tread with caution.

Julester:
Hey,

about a month ago I met this nigerian guy on some flirt app. We started talking on Skype and Whatsapp, and we've had hours of video and text chats ever since. He said I love pretty fast, which confused me a lot, and I told him that he would be delusional if that was the truth, but he did not let go of me. I started falling for him, and now "I love you" has become part of our daily routine.

I started reading a lot about Lagos, his city of residence, and I came across the word "scam", which again both confused and worried me. I even confronted him with that, which first made him break out in laughter, and when I did not let go, he started being all offended.

He told me that he just finished schooling, but isn't able to find a job that would make him enough money to make a living, so he told me that he's supported by his family.

He never asked me for money. And he wanted me to come visit, but I told him that that would be too dangerous for me, and that he should visit me first here in Germany.

So that's the plan now. He told me that he will borrow the money for his ticket from people he knows as soon as he's able to show them his visa.

Yet, I read that many Nigerian/ African guys are only dating abroad that way they can live a better life.

I can't and I don't wanna believe that everything he told me so far is a lie.

What does this whole thing sound like to you guys?

Thanks for reading.

Lemme ask first. Who is paying for the travelling ticket?

Well not me, as I said he will borrow the money from friends I think

Julester:
Well not me, as I said he will borrow the money from friends I think

That's kinda selfish? So what if he shows up and for some reason ya'll get into some sort of argument? Will you still reimburse him?

Just share the expenses... the country's economy is in the tank (literally) + the forex conversation rates.

#split the fare costs.

Julester:
Well not me, as I said he will borrow the money from friends I think

not all Nigerians are fraudsters. Just very little percentage are.

Since he didn't ask for money from you, he could be real and genuine


Anyways, Follow your heart but use your head

I wish you all the best

So that would be a thing if we shared the expenses? And that would not be a sign of a scam? And what if we meet in person, like, what is my proof that he's not scamming me? Sorry, these questions might sound naiv, but I'm pretty worried tho

Jacksparr0w1207:
not all Nigerians are fraudsters. Just very little percentage are.

Since he didn't ask for money from you, he could be real and genuine


Anyways, Follow your heart but use your head

I wish you all the best

Thanks a lot

Julester:
Hey,

about a month ago I met this nigerian guy on some flirt app. We started talking on Skype and Whatsapp, and we've had hours of video and text chats ever since. He said I love pretty fast, which confused me a lot, and I told him that he would be delusional if that was the truth, but he did not let go of me. I started falling for him, and now "I love you" has become part of our daily routine.

I started reading a lot about Lagos, his city of residence, and I came across the word "scam", which again both confused and worried me. I even confronted him with that, which first made him break out in laughter, and when I did not let go, he started being all offended.

He told me that he just finished schooling, but isn't able to find a job that would make him enough money to make a living, so he told me that he's supported by his family.

He never asked me for money. And he wanted me to come visit, but I told him that that would be too dangerous for me, and that he should visit me first here in Germany.

So that's the plan now. He told me that he will borrow the money for his ticket from people he knows as soon as he's able to show them his visa.

Yet, I read that many Nigerian/ African guys are only dating abroad that way they can live a better life.

I can't and I don't wanna believe that everything he told me so far is a lie.

What does this whole thing sound like to you guys?

Thanks for reading.

I see a lot of red flag in this relationship

1- the time is too short, please show some restrain and test the relationship for another 6months
2-he doesn't have a work and spends lots of time on skyppe for hours !
In Nigeria, they are three three people that stays on Skype long enough,the topp business executive, a journalist and a scammer. Sadly your friend profile fits a scammer
3- finally he may not be asking you of money now but he had prepared the ground well enough. No job? To borrowed money? It is a matter of time he will ask you.
Please give it time a scammer is beckoning

Julester:



Thanks a lot

He prolly wants to leave Nigeria and sees you as a means to do so. He doesn't want to defraud you(money wise) based on your text.

He may not love you as much as you love him. If you feel inclined to, send him an invite but please, do not send him any money. Don't listen to those who say you should either.
Give him the invite and see how things play out when you guys finally meet.

delishpot:
He prolly wants to leave Nigeria and sees you as a means to do so. He doesn't want to defraud you(money wise) based on your text.

He may not love you as much as you love him. If you feel inclined to, send him an invite but please, do not send him any money. Don't listen to those who say you should either.
Give him the invite and see how things play out when you guys finally meet.

But he wanted me to come to Lagos. It was me who refused to..

Julester:


But he wanted me to come to Lagos. It was me who refused to..

Btw, are you a german??

Julester:


But he wanted me to come to Lagos. It was me who refused to..

It still doesn't mean he is not after what he is after. Do not come to Lagos. under no circumstance should you do that for a stranger.

firstking01:
Btw, are you a german??

Yes. Why?

delishpot:



It still doesn't mean he is not after what he is after. Do not come to Lagos. under no circumstance should you do that for a stranger.

I know, and I'm not gonna do it.

Julester:


Yes. Why?

Who taught you english, dnt mind me i'm joking...for your topic, why is everything happening too fast??,,,i'd advice you give it time dear, let him convince you that he's for real so you won't come here and say that nigerians are scammers...my thought tho.

Julester:
Hey,

about a month ago I met this nigerian guy on some flirt app. We started talking on Skype and Whatsapp, and we've had hours of video and text chats ever since. He said I love pretty fast, which confused me a lot, and I told him that he would be delusional if that was the truth, but he did not let go of me. I started falling for him, and now "I love you" has become part of our daily routine.

I started reading a lot about Lagos, his city of residence, and I came across the word "scam", which again both confused and worried me. I even confronted him with that, which first made him break out in laughter, and when I did not let go, he started being all offended.

He told me that he just finished schooling, but isn't able to find a job that would make him enough money to make a living, so he told me that he's supported by his family.

He never asked me for money. And he wanted me to come visit, but I told him that that would be too dangerous for me, and that he should visit me first here in Germany.

So that's the plan now. He told me that he will borrow the money for his ticket from people he knows as soon as he's able to show them his visa.

Yet, I read that many Nigerian/ African guys are only dating abroad that way they can live a better life.

I can't and I don't wanna believe that everything he told me so far is a lie.

What does this whole thing sound like to you guys?

Thanks for reading.

hey!!!

you're from german right?
can you pls tell me what burgess means in German?

firstking01:
Who taught you english, dnt mind me i'm joking...for your topic, why is everything happening too fast??,,,i'd advice you give it time dear, let him convince you that he's for real so you won't come here and say that nigerians are scammers...my thought tho.

Wtf, wow, didn't know I'd sound that bad

Julester:


Wtf, wow, didn't know I'd sound that bad

I'd love to learn the dutchsland/german.

christinnah:




hey!!!

you're from german right?
can you pls tell me what burgess means in German?

It means "Bürger"

pharmagba:


I see a lot of red flag in this relationship

1- the time is too short, please show some restrain and test the relationship for another 6months
2-he doesn't have a work and spends lots of time on skyppe for hours !
In Nigeria, they are three three people that stays on Skype long enough,the topp business executive, a journalist and a scammer. Sadly your friend profile fits a scammer
3- finally he may not be asking you of money now but he had prepared the ground well enough. No job? To borrowed money? It is a matter of time he will ask you.
Please give it time a scammer is beckoning

I think you should go with this advice...Be ready to refund him the ticket fee because he will tell you he borrowed it and he needs to pay back...and you know he isn't working.. so you will definitely have to sort that out.
I think you should pretend and make him understand that you're only managing in Germany and you don't have much...then watch his reaction. So if he still decides to come, he wouldn't have the guts to ask you for a refund for the ticket fee he borrowed.
Secondly, only a scammer would spend time skyping apart from top business executives as this poster i quoted stated...
Just use your brain...If you fall mugu, OYO is your case!

Julester:


I don't think "burgess" is a word tho

I mean is it a person's name?

christinnah:



I mean is it a person's name?

No, it's an old word for 'citizen'. Sorry, I thought you wanted me to tell you what the German word "burgess" means, and therefore I said it's not a word

chillingbabe:
I think you should go with this advice...Be ready to refund him the ticket fee because he will tell you he borrowed it and he needs to pay back...and you know he isn't working.. so you will definitely have to sort that out.
I think you should pretend and make him understand that you're only managing in Germany and you don't have much...then watch his reaction. So if he still decides to come, he wouldn't have the guts to ask you for a refund for the ticket fee he borrowed.
Secondly, only a scammer would spend time skyping apart from top business executives as this poster i quoted stated...
Just use your brain...If you fall mugu, OYO is your case!

Well, whatever the last sentence means , I already told him that I'm pretty short on money. Like, we were talking about sharing the expenses, and then he came up with the borrowing part

Julester:


No, it's an old word for 'citizen'. Sorry, I thought you wanted me to tell you what the German word "burgess" means, and therefore I said it's not a word

ohh thnx...

I've been wondering whats it means cos that is grandfather's name...he's Germany "Burgess"

Julester:


Well, whatever the last sentence means , I already told him that I'm pretty short on money. Like, we were talking about sharing the expenses, and then he came up with the borrowing part

He came up with the borrowing part so you would know it's not his personal money.Don't be surprised when he asks you for a refund later,cos he'll need to pay the person he borrowed it from. It'll still mean that you paid his ticket fee. Scamming is a gradual process, he can't just hit you once...it's gradually,he's almost there
The last sentence OYO "On Your Own" means you're on your own

chillingbabe:
He came up with the borrowing part so you would know it's not his personal money.Don't be surprised when he asks you for a refund later,cos he'll need to pay the person he borrowed it from. It'll still mean that you paid his ticket fee. Scamming is a gradual process, he can't just hit you once...it's gradually,he's almost there
The last sentence OYO "On Your Own" means you're on your own

Yeah, well, we'll see about that. I was really only asking, because I've been confused. I will only go as far as I can bear. I am generally a very sceptical person, so if he screws me over because of money, he will only be able to buy himself some ice cream cone, that's what!