Its an old trick. You can call it, "the street harassment"

Studies (including my very own experiences) have shown that men of a particular breed do not find it funny when a woman's sense of worth stems from any other source but them, esp (certainly) not from within her.

The moment a woman who is attractive but not according to conventional standards dares take pride in herself, that would be the beginning of her sorrows with them.
You wonder why?

-They are jealous that this "ugghh" woman who is not a mainstream belle if esteemed has a better chance of getting what she wants than them. So what would that make of them?

-They would get more casual sex from an average woman if they told her she is ugly and bad and unwanted. True, they will because when we get down to the real deal, we find that many women are very gullible and easy to manipulate.

Where is all this coming from. Its a deep-seated anger that activates when a harasser is not getting enough attention from the woman he desires or would desire as the case may be
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The old street harrassment patterns thus; A woman is beautiful until she walks past the harasser without accepting his advances How dare she not acknowledge his presence or accept his proposal? Then he fishes out the problem with her nose, her leg, her voice.

And then declares himself the final judge of how a beautiful woman is and is not.


Apply the same thing to a successful woman. Men who shame women see themselves as gods. And every woman that wants success must bow to their whims and caprices. They must be at the centre of her achievement.

Even when is said that some women have done so much for themselves without a personal male influence, they would hear non of that. To them, a woman's existence should be tied around them. And the only thing she is permitted to meet is their narrow-minded and unrealistic beauty standard. For what else, apart from looks, is a woman suppose to offer? (they wonder)




p/s for those doubting if this piece is mine should please search for this write up and see if they wont be referred back here.
If i did copy i would have provided the link where i dubbed.

I think Linda Ikeji is in a better position to write this article and certainly not the Op.

lol if I hear I make a fellow human being cos he Is a man my centre of my life


where will I now put the one that created me

donbenedict:

why sad

LuvU2:
why sad

lol I modified.. no offense

halfricanadian:
lol if I hear I make a fellow human being cos he Is a man my centre of my life


where will I now put the one that created me

Lolss hmm so how do you handle a man that calls u ugly because u refused him?

Abeg sorry no vex again. I been no know say e go vex you

Where's the sense in this write-up?

donbenedict:
I think Linda Ikeji is in a better position to write this article and certainly not the Op.

LuvU2:
Lolss hmm so how do you handle a man that calls u ugly because u refused him?

I simply laugh it off nd do my things

when I was told I'm wonderfully nd fearfully made

if I'm called ugly its motivates me to work hard earn well nd find a man dat will flaunt my beauty to their face

IamLEGEND1:
which yeye studies.
every linus now go claim 'studies'.
No one shames women more than they shame each other.....so give us a break jare.

All ur problems na men dey cause am.
abeg come up with a better argument.

Type like a gentle man cos i am allergic to vulgarism

LuvU2:
Lolss hmm so how do you handle a man that calls u ugly because u refused him?

she knw she is ugly so she will nt pick offence in it.

In other words, men shame women to stroke their own ego's?

halfricanadian:


I simply laugh it off nd do my things

when I was told I'm wonderfully nd fearfully made

if I'm called ugly its motivates me to work hard earn well nd find a man dat will flaunt my beauty to their face

wow how great!

MUVA:
In other words, men shame women to stroke their own ego's?

Yes bae. And i am glad u dont

LuvU2:
wow how great!

tanx asin every disappointment we turn it to a blessing

halfricanadian:



tanx asin every disappointment we turn it to a blessing

Very correct lady. Most of us hv faced a lot from these sickos but whether we pick ourselves up and set our own standards and take pride in them, depends on our will not to fail ourselves again.

LuvU2:
Yes bae. And i am glad u dont

Stop patronising me jare



Back to the topic: I personally think that guys who like to berate women just to feel good about themselves have self-esteem issues. I'm not talking about a particular nairalander though..

Iamlegend1 dishing it out like it's hot

Ok noted

I dont shame girls to stroke my ego
I only shame Shameless girls

LuvU2:
Very correct lady. Most of us hv faced a lot from these sickos but whether we pick ourselves up and set our own standards and take pride in them, depends on our will not to fail ourselves again.

exactly I can't fail mysef d more u try to bring me downd more I raise my esteem high I was created to excel have dominion take control of my life make choices nd not please ANYONE BUT THE ONE THAT CREATED ME.

MUVA:


Stop patronising me jare



Back to the topic: I personally think that guys who like to berate women just to feel good about themselves have self-esteem issues. I'm not talking about a particular nairalander though..

yea not a particular nairalander but lots of them.

To add to their failing self -esteem, many hve been falsely indoctrinated into thinking, everything on earth has its place such as men ontop and women down below. And they want it to stay like that.

IamLEGEND1:
baba,no try stoke fire wey no even dey there.

my brother

IamLEGEND1:
You're allergic to vulgarity. Do I look like I care?
abi I know you before?

na this ur comment make me burst laff

LuvU2:


yea not a particular nairalander but lots of them.

To add to their failing self -esteem, many hve been falsely indoctrinated into thinking, everything on earth has its place such as men ontop and women down below. And they want it to stay like that.

And how would my snowflake rather have it?