parents are humans also...they make mistakes as well....and 4 those sayin what an elder can c when sittin..a child cant c when standing...its a blatant lie...if a child stands with d right mind and perception,he definitely c...what d elder wont b able 2c...if ur mum had any oda reason apart from d tribe ish..she would have brought it up...at a point in our lives..our parents should only acts as advisers and pray 4 us...if we should end up makin any mistakes...nothin stops us from learnin from it and becomin more experienced in such aspect......on a final note..if u find peace with her,u luv and she luvs u in return..then go ahead and wife her,make d mistake and learn from it...is there any perfect human on d surface of d earth?and pls dont allow ur mum perception of her,2 mk u start assuming things.*peace*

rosalieene:
Sometimes I don't blame parents for refusing to give their children's hand in marriage to a particular tribe. Just last week, I lost a neighbor. She got married to a calabar man last year. before their wedding, her family and friends kicked against it but she insisted and was saying that its her life. Immediately after the wedding, she took in and that was when trouble started. The man's family were angry as he doesn't send the quota of his salary he sends to them. They told the lady they will deal with her as they felt she was the cause. When she took in, she was sick all through. God been merciful she gave birth. After delivery, she ran mad, if the madness go another form of sickness would come.
they took her to different prayer houses.. Everyone was happy that she recovered. They were meant to go for Thanksgiving service last Sunday as all her siblings came due to her recovery, in the midnight of Saturday that week, she gave up.
In essence, I ain't saying calabar or any tribe is bad but its important to make inquiries about the family of the person you are getting married to, to prevent stories that touches.

u have spoken well...but what about cases ...where d family of such people are still ok and there is peace all round?the story u just narrated points 2d greed and selfishness of d man's family...and in due time..they will get their reward 4d evil perpetrated...d story matches d ops dilemma....but yet de differ 2 a certain extent.goodmornin.

Kobicove:
There are so many more issues to deal with when you marry someone from a different tribe...

You must be ready to deal with these additional issues if you want to proceed with this relationship, do you really want to complicate things for yourself?

What an adult can see while sitting down a child will not see even if he climbs the tallest tree

Trust me, your mother wants what's best for you


I am NOT a tribalist but I would not advise a person to marry from a tribe that is very dissimilar from one's one if it can be avoided!!!

when u have experienced what d poster is experiencing..let us in..so we know ur stance...a bad wife could be gotten from any tribe and vice versa!are our parents perfect?they mk mistakes as well...been from same tribe doesnt equate 2 a happy marriage.*peace*

GoldenJAT:
u have spoken well...but what about cases ...where d family of such people are still ok and there is peace all round?the story u just narrated points 2d greed and selfishness of d man's family...and in due time..they will get their reward 4d evil perpetrated...d story matches d ops dilemma....but yet de differ 2 a certain extent.goodmornin.

Good morning..... nice one

rosalieene:
Good morning..... nice one

*smiling*u r a corper?

GoldenJAT:
*smiling*u r a corper?

yea

rosalieene:

yea

cool!can we talk ova d whatsapp app?we may mk really cool pals from there!*smilin*

Thnx a whole lot to u all who have advice me on what to do, may the good lord bless you all

newsphase:


But, forgive me you talk like a mama's boy, or a spoiled child who doesn't have a stand..

You even said she warned your girl to stop seeing you... meaning that you are still living with your parents? I was watching an episode of tinsel today when the mother wanted her son to go for a conference and he refused.. she ordered him to, but he refused according to the fact that he is a man and has his own say, then the mother let him be...

So have you made your own say known to your mum... also check out the girl it may be more than just her tribe, as mothers are kind of very perceptive

Guy abeg who movie EPP.
You sound like a kid. Never use movies to compare real life experience.

numericalguy:


Guy abeg who movie EPP.
You sound like a kid. Never use movies to compare real life experience.

Oh c'mon... I was making a reference to something I felt worthy to be used as an example.. remember, many movies are born out of real life experiences...

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