Now here it is: They have been married for almost 30 years with grown up children,all out of the house

They have been having problems as soon as the marriage started but the woman has managed to cope,fast and pray as expected by the society...despite the beatings,abuses and torture. At a point,her dad refunded the dowry and asked her to come home,she refused.Now both parents are late and they have been separated for abt 4 years.but as the children took sides with the woman and abandoned the man,he is now threatening to kill her diabolically or physically via charm or hired assasins...and he sends her such messages via sms.

What can she do?

missyadorable:

Now here it is: They have been married for almost 30 years with grown up children,all out of the house
They have been having problems as soon as the marriage started but the woman has managed to cope,fast and pray as expected by the society...despite the beatings,abuses and torture. At a point,her dad refunded the dowry and asked her to come home,she refused.Now both parents are late and they have been separated for abt 4 years.but as the children took sides with the woman and abandoned the man,he is now threatening to kill her diabolically or physically via charm or hired assasins...and he sends her such messages via sms.
What can she do?

She should save those messages, take screenshots of them and head off to the nearest police station and show these to them, emphasising she's living in fear of her life, with the constant death threats from her husband - so it's all on record at the very least.

She should also inform her kids about this and get them to help her secure the services of a good lawyer. Then apply to court for a restraining order for him to keep away from her.

This is no marriage. Not with the constant death threats, and this man may just carry them out as promised. A separation is very much in order too.

EfemenaXY:


She should save those messages, take screenshots of them and head off to the nearest police station and show these to them, emphasising she's living in fear of her life, with the constant death threats from her husband - so it's all on record at the very least.

She should also inform her kids about this and get them to help her secure the services of a good lawyer. Then apply to court for a restraining order for him to keep away from her.

This is no marriage. Not with the constant death threats, and this man may just carry them out as promised. A separation is very much in order too.

Exactly

EfemenaXY:


She should save those messages, take screenshots of them and head off to the nearest police station and show these to them, emphasising she's living in fear of her life, with the constant death threats from her husband - so it's all on record at the very least.

She should also inform her kids about this and get them to help her secure the services of a good lawyer. Then apply to court for a restraining order for him to keep away from her.

This is no marriage. Not with the constant death threats, and this man may just carry them out as promised. A separation is very much in order too.

U re right, d man should also b made to sign an undertaken, incase anything happens to d woman he will b held responsible. She should never cease 4rm praying... God dat saw her tru all dis yrs will continue to fight her battles and protect her... It's well, some men re nt it if u ve a gd one thank God.

EfemenaXY:


She should save those messages, take screenshots of them and head off to the nearest police station and show these to them, emphasising she's living in fear of her life, with the constant death threats from her husband - so it's all on record at the very least.

She should also inform her kids about this and get them to help her secure the services of a good lawyer. Then apply to court for a restraining order for him to keep away from her.

This is no marriage. Not with the constant death threats, and this man may just carry them out as promised. A separation is very much in order too.

^^That's it.

Since they are separated,she can start the process of divorce.

thorpido:
^^That's it.

Since they are separated,she can start the process of divorce.

I doubt divorcing him will make much of a difference.
He will still continue his threats.
What's paining him is the fact that his children would rather be with their mother than a man they saw as abusive towards her and possibly them while growing up.
I'm sure he feels the mother "poisoned" their minds against him, but what most people fail to realise is that children are not stupid. They see things, feel things and make up their own minds.
If you act like a jerk towards your loved ones, you will be avoided. Nobody wants to be in the presence of such a person if possible.

eyinjuege:


I doubt divorcing him will make much of a difference.
He will still continue his threats.
What's paining him is the fact that his children would rather be with their mother than a man they saw as abusive towards her and possibly them while growing up.
I'm sure he feels the mother "poisoned" their minds against him, but what most people fail to realise is that children are not stupid. They see things, feel things and make up their own minds.
If you act like a jerk towards your loved ones, you will be avoided. Nobody wants to be in the presence of such a person if possible.

Yes,it won't make a difference to his threats but it will make him come to terms that it is over between them.

Those who sow the wind will surely reap the whirlwind. The man as sown what he is now reaping. Instead of him to crawl back and start apologising for all the terrible things he's done in the past, he's busy forming nigga. By killing his wife, will his children still come back to him? the answer is no. He was a monster then, now he wants to turn himself into a demonic monster. Efemenaxy has said it all.

I bet you this is just mare threats... the man nor fit do shingbain
u know the pple i respect most... those men wey be dem go sitdon like this wey u nor go know dia next movement
men wey be say dem nor dey brag, inshrt dem nor dey fit talk finish...biko fear dem
that man is just a coward... if na me as a comfirm ekiti gurl omo i go bounce go im house... God punish Devil.

SirVintageCock:
She should kill him first. Either diabolically or physically.

OP let her report this issue at the nearest Police station, death threats should be taken very seriously

She should pack her bags and run..





A dead Man can't fight.

Let me use the Biblical term

FLEE

Leave him. Simple!

She should get on NL instead of reporting to the right authorities.agod forbid we type another RIP

missyadorable:

Now here it is: They have been married for almost 30 years with grown up children,all out of the house

They have been having problems as soon as the marriage started but the woman has managed to cope,fast and pray as expected by the society...despite the beatings,abuses and torture. At a point,her dad refunded the dowry and asked her to come home,she refused.Now both parents are late and they have been separated for abt 4 years.but as the children took sides with the woman and abandoned the man,he is now threatening to kill her diabolically or physically via charm or hired assasins...and he sends her such messages via sms.

What can she do?

Ensure she doesn't delete the messages. Write to the Inspector General of Police through her lawyer and inform him about her travails.
Don't stop there, tell your pastor and his people what is going on. Get a lot of witnesses

Nothing hurt a man seeing his children abandoning him because their mother say so.

Whatever the ish between husband and wife, none of them should disabuse the mind of the children against the other.

The woman should encourage her children to recognize their father and take care of him. That way no one dies

kill him first.... dazzol.....

1. Get a lawyer 2. Inform the police 3. File for divorce 4. Continuous efforts on prayers 5. Resettle in another town.

Involve the police and stay grounded spiritually.

sexymoma:
I bet you this is just mare threats... the man nor fit do shingbain
u know the pple i respect most... those men wey be dem go sitdon like this wey u nor go know dia next movement
men wey be say dem nor dey brag, inshrt dem nor dey fit talk finish...biko fear dem
that man is just a coward... if na me as a comfirm ekiti gurl omo i go bounce go im house... God punish Devil.

talk is cheap ...

SirVintageCock:
She should kill him first. Either diabolically or physically.

Abi o my brother.

Suck his cuck, dammit! The answer is in the question already.

she be cripple?

I think the person should report him to God in prayers first and then repot him to the police for appropriate action... That's a threat to kill her. Very dangerous. God will rescue her.

I will only tell you to pack your things and leave the house cos you not leave to tell the story

Runaway and live or stay and die. Your choice

hmmm I just want to remind her of a man called USAIN....THE FASTEST MAN according to records, if she does not have his phone number I can help her by contacting him to borrow us his legs for her to use it......madam, if your husband keeps threatening you with death and you are still within his reach .......your name na voice mail...
you have no reason to stay anywhere or him knowing your where about... remember a staying that says...."YOU CANNOT BEND A DRY STICK"
Run away as far as you can and be prayful......God dey your side.
chakam..........

I ve said it in many fora. It is better to remain single than to get in an abusive marriage.