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Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by samblessed: 11:09pm On Aug 25, 2016
EfemenaXY:


She should save those messages, take screenshots of them and head off to the nearest police station and show these to them, emphasising she's living in fear of her life, with the constant death threats from her husband - so it's all on record at the very least.

She should also inform her kids about this and get them to help her secure the services of a good lawyer. Then apply to court for a restraining order for him to keep away from her.

This is no marriage. Not with the constant death threats, and this man may just carry them out as promised. A separation is very much in order too.
I concur.
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by NigerianScholar: 11:19pm On Aug 25, 2016
missyadorable:

Now here it is: They have been married for almost 30 years with grown up children,all out of the house

They have been having problems as soon as the marriage started but the woman has managed to cope,fast and pray as expected by the society...despite the beatings,abuses and torture. At a point,her dad refunded the dowry and asked her to come home,she refused.Now both parents are late and they have been separated for abt 4 years.but as the children took sides with the woman and abandoned the man,he is now threatening to kill her diabolically or physically via charm or hired assasins...and he sends her such messages via sms.

What can she do?


She should offer to gv him mouth action. Thats an automatic yes
When shes doing it. She shoupd bite hard and ask him if hes sure bouh d threat



Trust me. He will apologise.
Thank me later
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by lordkhalifa(m): 11:33pm On Aug 25, 2016
use this, even if you regret it is safe defence

Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by Seahawk: 12:01am On Aug 26, 2016
He's reaping what he sowed. All those abusive men end up like him or worse. You can't treat your wife badly and expect your children to respect or accept you. He's a loser and should go die as the loser that he is.

As for his threats report him if she is sure the police can handle it or handle him her own way. No one has the monopoly of violence. If she arranges to deal with him the way he's threatening to do to her, for the rest of his miserable life he will be too busy nursing his wounds to remember to threaten her life again.

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Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by Jamean(f): 12:21am On Aug 26, 2016
eyinjuege:


I doubt divorcing him will make much of a difference.
He will still continue his threats.

What's paining him is the fact that his children would rather be with their mother than a man they saw as abusive towards her and possibly them while growing up.
I'm sure he feels the mother "poisoned" their minds against him, but what most people fail to realise is that children are not stupid. They see things, feel things and make up their own minds.

If you act like a jerk towards your loved ones, you will be avoided. Nobody wants to be in the presence of such a person if possible.

Well said.
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by doskie(m): 12:23am On Aug 26, 2016
missyadorable:

Now here it is: They have been married for almost 30 years with grown up children,all out of the house

They have been having problems as soon as the marriage started but the woman has managed to cope,fast and pray as expected by the society...despite the beatings,abuses and torture. At a point,her dad refunded the dowry and asked her to come home,she refused.Now both parents are late and they have been separated for abt 4 years.but as the children took sides with the woman and abandoned the man,he is now threatening to kill her diabolically or physically via charm or hired assasins...and he sends her such messages via sms.

What can she do?


go abroad , change your lines and start a new life. The air is too clean there: witches cant fly easily, the place is cold, people are happy, celebrating Christmas in the month of june is common, everyday is somebody's birthday, juju doesn't work properly there. Majorly science.

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Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by Excuzeme: 12:47am On Aug 26, 2016
eyinjuege:


I doubt divorcing him will make much of a difference.
He will still continue his threats.
What's paining him is the fact that his children would rather be with their mother than a man they saw as abusive towards her and possibly them while growing up.
I'm sure he feels the mother "poisoned" their minds against him, but what most people fail to realise is that children are not stupid. They see things, feel things and make up their own minds.
If you act like a jerk towards your loved ones, you will be avoided. Nobody wants to be in the presence of such a person if possible.

Depending on the age of the children, they are usually very much under the influence of their mother (who carried them inside her for 9months, breast fed them for a year or more... so it is natural) and most women in such situation are known to brains-wash the children and sow hatred into them, just to punish the father.

In most cases, these children grow up to realize that they have been misled and their life ruined, psychologically, because they have been turned into abusers themselves, from all the hate sowed into them by their mother.

This realisation comes later when the children are matured and themselves go into their own 'relationship' with the opposite gender.
But the damage is already done.
Women! ehn!!
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by Excuzeme: 12:48am On Aug 26, 2016
lordkhalifa:
use this, even if you regret it is safe defence


Its no defence, at best it will get you LIFE, instead of the ELECTRIC CHAIR

Murder, aggravated, in self defence or not, is still Murder.

BTW, the man is only doing shakara!
Those who really mean to kill, dont announce it!
They just do it.


Reporting him to the police with such text messages as evidence is a good thing.
It will sober him. Silly old Man
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by kid7soccer(m): 12:55am On Aug 26, 2016
missyadorable:

Now here it is: They have been married for almost 30 years with grown up children,all out of the house

They have been having problems as soon as the marriage started but the woman has managed to cope,fast and pray as expected by the society...despite the beatings,abuses and torture. At a point,her dad refunded the dowry and asked her to come home,she refused.Now both parents are late and they have been separated for abt 4 years.but as the children took sides with the woman and abandoned the man,he is now threatening to kill her diabolically or physically via charm or hired assasins...and he sends her such messages via sms.

What can she do?


"POLICE IS HER FRIEND" NEVER EVER TAKE THREAT LIGHTLY. She should have ran for her life when her parents told her to. I also recommend she gets a good Female lawyer ( u no what i mean) to handle it legally, marriage is not a do or die affair. Her children should be able to step into the matter too their not kids anymore . If all fails She should pray for him to "DIE", since it is now "KILL OR BE KILLED" my church dey everywhere. By the way wat worng with we men of nowadays. Y must u beat, abuse etc a woman, haba kilo sheyi
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by missyadorable(f): 1:07am On Aug 26, 2016
eyinjuege:


I doubt divorcing him will make much of a difference.
He will still continue his threats.
What's paining him is the fact that his children would rather be with their mother than a man they saw as abusive towards her and possibly them while growing up.
I'm sure he feels the mother "poisoned" their minds against him, but what most people fail to realise is that children are not stupid. They see things, feel things and make up their own minds.
If you act like a jerk towards your loved ones, you will be avoided. Nobody wants to be in the presence of such a person if possible.

You are right.His major frustration is the fact that the children don't want anything to do with him.Growing up was painful.Watching their mother beaten,abused,threatened by a man who was supposed to love and protect her not a nice experience..Not forgetting the abusive violent manner he also related with his kids.Now,they are adults and have chosen to avoid him totally
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by bamite(m): 1:10am On Aug 26, 2016
sexymoma:
I bet you this is just mare threats... the man nor fit do shingbain
u know the pple i respect most... those men wey be dem go sitdon like this wey u nor go know dia next movement
men wey be say dem nor dey brag, inshrt dem nor dey fit talk finish...biko fear dem
that man is just a coward... if na me as a comfirm ekiti gurl omo i go bounce go im house... God punish Devil. angry
Please advice your gofnor to buy some sense before poverty go finish una kpatakpata
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by missyadorable(f): 1:13am On Aug 26, 2016
Excuzeme:


Depending on the age of the children, they are usually very much under the influence of their mother (who carried them inside her for 9months, breast fed them for a year or more... so it is natural) and most women in such situation are known to brains-wash the children and sow hatred into them, just to punish the father.

In most cases, these children grow up to realize that they have been misled and their life ruined, psychologically, because they have been turned into abusers themselves, from all the hate sowed into them by their mother.

This realisation comes later when the children are matured and themselves go into their own 'relationship' with the opposite gender.
But the damage is already done.
Women! ehn!!
If a woman is not always blamed in a way for every wrong thing a man does,i will be surprised.
Children grew into teenagers and young adults watching you beat,abuse and maltreat their mother yet you still find a way to blame the woman for the reaction of the children...For your info,the woman has done her possible best to reconcile them with their father but they all refuse.They didn't grow up having a good relationship with him because he was also very abusive, too harsh and cold towards them.Thats story for another day.

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Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by Seahawk: 1:13am On Aug 26, 2016
That's what you people tell yourselves.

But an adult human knows what it knows. And remembers what it saw while growing up. If one ruins their relationship with the kids by themselves, they shouldn't turn around and blame the woman for it. Same way they blame the women for their own abusive nature. Nothing is ever their fault.
Excuzeme:


Depending on the age of the children, they are usually very much under the influence of their mother (who carried them inside her for 9months, breast fed them for a year or more... so it is natural) and most women in such situation are known to brains-wash the children and sow hatred into them, just to punish the father.

In most cases, these children grow up to realize that they have been misled and their life ruined, psychologically, because they have been turned into abusers themselves, from all the hate sowed into them by their mother.

This realisation comes later when the children are matured and themselves go into their own 'relationship' with the opposite gender.
But the damage is already done.
Women! ehn!!

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Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by Seahawk: 1:15am On Aug 26, 2016
I didn't even see your post. I wouldn't have bothered.

You're punching someone, causing a ruckus and generally making everyone in the home uncomfortable and scared whenever you're around. Yet somehow It's not your fault? Wonder how some men think.
missyadorable:

If a woman is not always blamed in a way for every wrong thing a man does,i will be surprised.
Children grew into teenagers and young adults watching you beat,abuse and maltreat their mother yet you still find a way to blame the woman for the reaction of the children...For your info,the woman has done her possible best to reconcile them with their father but they all refuse.They didn't grow up having a good relationship with him because he was also very abusive, too harsh and cold towards them.Thats story for another day.

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Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by missyadorable(f): 1:17am On Aug 26, 2016
EfemenaXY:


She should save those messages, take screenshots of them and head off to the nearest police station and show these to them, emphasising she's living in fear of her life, with the constant death threats from her husband - so it's all on record at the very least.

She should also inform her kids about this and get them to help her secure the services of a good lawyer. Then apply to court for a restraining order for him to keep away from her.

This is no marriage. Not with the constant death threats, and this man may just carry them out as promised. A separation is very much in order too.

They have been separated for about 4 years.She currently lives in another state with one of her children.But he keeps threatening her via sms.
The marriage ended long ago.The woman was just enduring for the sake of the children and for what people will say,if she goes
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by NaBanga: 1:56am On Aug 26, 2016
If she is in another state and his threats are only coming by sms, she needs to change her number. I doubt the children will call him and give him the new one. Once the communication stops, he may just move on to a new woman.

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Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by kosokoadeyemi: 3:11am On Aug 26, 2016
She report him to highest authority,don't play with life&pray to God
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by ibkgab001: 4:56am On Aug 26, 2016
Anybody who threatening to kill must be killed As soon as possible

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Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by 9jatatafo(m): 5:10am On Aug 26, 2016
Two things must be done, firstly, keep all messages and proceed to the nearest police station to make complain and let the police invite him.
Secondly, let that woman run far from where she is now to a place the man don't know. Out of sight is out of mind, I hate passion crimes
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by cindyrocks(f): 6:13am On Aug 26, 2016
She should lodge a formal complaint to the Police and copy her state's DSS. She should also show them the text messages.
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by fwcs(f): 6:34am On Aug 26, 2016
missyadorable:

Now here it is: They have been married for almost 30 years with grown up children,all out of the house

They have been having problems as soon as the marriage started but the woman has managed to cope,fast and pray as expected by the society...despite the beatings,abuses and torture. At a point,her dad refunded the dowry and asked her to come home,she refused.Now both parents are late and they have been separated for abt 4 years.but as the children took sides with the woman and abandoned the man,he is now threatening to kill her diabolically or physically via charm or hired assasins...and he sends her such messages via sms.

What can she do?

She shd record d voices nd save if there any msgs, then report to d police
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by Nobody: 6:59am On Aug 26, 2016
via sms? and she is still there asking what to do?,Moses said he permitted divorce because of the hardness of the heart of the men of that time, now that the man's heart is hardened, the next thing is to hand it over to the law,with the sms as proof, simple,state CID straight, not a small police station where they can close the case with 20k bail
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by Pylony: 7:09am On Aug 26, 2016
missyadorable:

Now here it is: They have been married for almost 30 years with grown up children,all out of the house

They have been having problems as soon as the marriage started but the woman has managed to cope,fast and pray as expected by the society...despite the beatings,abuses and torture. At a point,her dad refunded the dowry and asked her to come home,she refused.Now both parents are late and they have been separated for abt 4 years.but as the children took sides with the woman and abandoned the man,he is now threatening to kill her diabolically or physically via charm or hired assasins...and he sends her such messages via sms.

What can she do?


It's simple, she should report the matter to the Police with the evidence from those threat sms.
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by lordkhalifa(m): 7:11am On Aug 26, 2016
Excuzeme:



Its no defence, at best it will get you LIFE, instead of the ELECTRIC CHAIR

Murder, aggravated, in self defence or not, is still Murder.

BTW, the man is only doing shakara!
Those who really mean to kill, dont announce it!
They just do it.


Reporting him to the police with such text messages as evidence is a good thing.
It will sober him. Silly old Man
u have said ur own... Op use that snipper below , since the bug on ur ass like food more than any other thing... a drop of snipper every morning in his food in a week will kill him gradually , first he will develop persistent cough, running stomach, cardiac arrest, then he will die a very slowly and painful death... don't leave and trail... dispose the contents or anything that will look suspicious, even if they suspect foul play, let them go to autopsy... hahahahaha I trust Nigeria doctors lazy and boring, they won't even try to check his intestine or liver to ascertain if there is any toxic or foreign contents that will raise an eyebrow, play ur path very don't cry more than the bereaved because those lazy Nigeria police detective will start suspecting you, hardest path and final stage before u sent me thank u message.. some folks are strong in spiritual realm... look for good babarowa in ijebu ode, he will help u chain his spirit via black magic, if u can't afford babarowa , look for one of two agberos, they will help u dug his grave, use strong chain and padlock to chain him very well, if u can remove his eyes bows with knife cut off his tongue should in case his relatives want to go and ask what killed him... once you cut off those things he is spiritual blind and dumb, he is powerless... if u anything went successful thank me with a bottle of moet.
of they catch u in doing one of this act blame it on Buhari bad economic policy... if u try to implicate me hmmmm u will die a slow and painful death while looking for me...


Oga moderator abeg no ban me ooo problem share problem solve


for that guy that will comments after this you be OLODO




warning don't try this @home +18 only

Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by Adecks01(m): 7:19am On Aug 26, 2016
She should use those saved messages, as evidence against him and report to de police.
2.pray,fast & supplicate...............
................#men are wickedcheesy...................... I am still a kid ............
.........if i grow i will be...... sad confused
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by xtervaganza(m): 7:35am On Aug 26, 2016
This is a one-sided story. If true the man is a fool. If not then thunder fire the woman.




One thing i know and I'm 100% sure about is that woman like to manipulate their kids against their father.




If you have issues with your husband you shouldn't turn his kids against him.



She should repair the damage and enmity she caused between the man and his kids else she should expect anything from the man.



A lonely sad man can do anything. If you like report to commissioner of police
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by Anabel(f): 7:50am On Aug 26, 2016
Marriage! Marriage!! ... what a union! She should show it to the police. I mean the sms. Then show it to her kids. So when she dies, they know who to kill first
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by gj22(m): 7:58am On Aug 26, 2016
missyadorable:

Now here it is: They have been married for almost 30 years with grown up children,all out of the house

They have been having problems as soon as the marriage started but the woman has managed to cope,fast and pray as expected by the society...despite the beatings,abuses and torture. At a point,her dad refunded the dowry and asked her to come home,she refused.Now both parents are late and they have been separated for abt 4 years.but as the children took sides with the woman and abandoned the man,he is now threatening to kill her diabolically or physically via charm or hired assasins...and he sends her such messages via sms.

What can she do?



What she can do is divorce him. How can someone be threatening your life just because you are married to them?
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by Xview(f): 8:00am On Aug 26, 2016
The Era of *for better for worse* is gone.! She should separate herself from the man as far as she can and be prayerful as well, thats the key
Re: What Can A Woman Do If Her Husband Keeps Threatening Her With Death? by sexymoma(f): 9:34am On Aug 26, 2016
bamite:
Please advice your gofnor to buy some sense before poverty go finish una kpatakpata
wetin we dey talk wetin u dey talk... so upon all the things wey i write put for dan... wetin pepper your body be say i be Ekiti madam... angry

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