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My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Nobody: 6:54pm On Sep 22, 2017
Good evening guys
I usually come on here to seek advise because I have no one to talk to... My husband has been acting weird for the past one month. He has refused to Make love to me, Whenever I ask he's always giving out excuses,like he's exhausted, or not in the mood. We're trying to have a baby but I think he's given up on me. We have a daughter and I initially did something bad nd I've been unable to conceive since then. While this issue was going on, he was always so nice to me even when I went to Do some Family planning poo without his consent, he wasn't really upset but now he's acting really weird. He comes home late at times and would sometimes refuse my food, tho he plays with me once in a while(no sex involved) love my husband so much and I can't bear to lose him..Please Guys I need advice..i would have spoken to his mom about it but she doesn't really like me..

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by TINALETC3(f): 7:01pm On Sep 22, 2017
I tink u over_relaxed, 4rm no sex to coming home late and now he doesn't eat ur fud undecided, it's really getting out of hand. Wat were u doing 4 hm b4 dat u no longer do? Wat does he find attractive in u b4 dat he no longer see? Ur dressing? Ur stature? Check ursef well, Wateva Dats is missing wen he met u, put it bak. Double ur caring attitude 2wards hm, treat him like a king he is, b4 he coms home, prepare his favorite meal, put water 4 hm 2 take his bath, offer 2 Even bath hm, u no Wat he likes, jst do anything to get hm bak. Men ar like babies, gv dem Wat dey like and watch dem surrender.

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Headlesschicken(m): 7:03pm On Sep 22, 2017
undecided You mean one of yuh boyfriends
Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Nobody: 7:05pm On Sep 22, 2017
Pray..
What did I say...
Pray...

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by senatrpaichulo(m): 7:06pm On Sep 22, 2017
sex is not everything. besides what attracted him to you will sustain you. look for that thing so you won't have to feel rejected
Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by LivinaPatrick(f): 7:06pm On Sep 22, 2017
Just pray and hope for d best. Its well with u

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by OrestesDante(m): 7:07pm On Sep 22, 2017
This one pass me embarassed

Unless your husband is on nairaland grin. The two of you should sit down and talk
Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by IamLEGEND1: 7:07pm On Sep 22, 2017
The holes contained in this story pass mad man trouser.
What is that 'thing' you did that rendered you barren?
What is the 'family planning_shit' you went to do?
and why did you have to do it behind his back?
Why doesn't his mum like you?
Madam, provide the readers with all the necessary details required so they can prescribe valid solutions because your story only gives room for a very one-sided public trial and execution of your husband's character.

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by LivinaPatrick(f): 7:08pm On Sep 22, 2017
senatrpaichulo:
sex is not everything. besides what attracted him to you will sustain you. look for that thing so you won't have to feel rejected
really! Sex it not everything... Is he not her husband, he should fulfill his responsibilities.

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Evaberry(f): 7:09pm On Sep 22, 2017
He has a side chick.

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by agbonkamen(f): 7:10pm On Sep 22, 2017
Marriage dey fear me die. My dear keep praying God is still on the throne, Jehovah value marriage

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Adaumunocha(f): 7:11pm On Sep 22, 2017
Sometimes we make costly mistakes. Why go for family planning without his consent?

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Nobody: 7:16pm On Sep 22, 2017
You have simply failed to upgrade yourself.

Your man can't be interested in sex with you because you seem like one of those ladies who are not innovative in bed.

The man don tire for you.

Him don get one sweet babe wey him dey fire down for corner.


My advice is for u to look for one fresh blood wey go dey remove cobweb from your aso rock.

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Nobody: 7:17pm On Sep 22, 2017
agbonkamen:
Marriage dey fear me die. My dear keep praying God is still on the throne, Jehovah value marriage


Marriage dey fear u abi?

Big preek dey fear u too.

Watin no dey fear you?


Lol

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by charleff512(m): 7:18pm On Sep 22, 2017
One Of Those Times When He Is In A Good Mood, Have A Heart To Heart Talk With Him About The Expectations That U Have Not Met As A Wife And Adjust.Most Often Than Not,After Use Of Certain FP Methods, Babies Might Not Come Easy You Guys Must Increase Intimacy For A Good While Before Conception Will Take Place
Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by newyorks(m): 7:19pm On Sep 22, 2017
would've spoken to her mum but she doesn't like yu? i feel for yu dear but do some mother in-laws hate their son's wifey, try ur best to make peace with ur mother in-law ok!

are u a nurse? what kind of work do u do that made u sought for family planning to space ur child bearing without mutual agreement with ur hubby?.

ask him what his anger is and pray he's not seeing mistress outside. goodluck

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Papiikush: 7:20pm On Sep 22, 2017
Too many marriage councilor on this thread. Lol... Y'all not even seeing the loopholes in her writeup

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Nobody: 7:20pm On Sep 22, 2017
IamLEGEND1:
The holes contained in this story pass mad man trouser.
What is that 'thing' you did that rendered you barren?
What is the 'family planning_shit' you went to do?
and why did you have to do it behind his back?
Why doesn't his mum like you?
Madam, supply the readers with all the necessary details required so they can prescribe valid solutions.



I'm not barren!!
I told him about the family planning stuff cause I've always been on it and when it was time to renew it, he refused to go with me and said we should try for a baby but I wasn't ready so I just went for it without his consent tho I'm sorry about that
We got married really early And his mom didn't like the idea, she's always hated me and the first day I got to see her after 6 years the first thing she asked was "Where are your kids" knowing fully well that I had just one, she keeps talking about having so much grandchildren that I can't bear and how I'm going to render her son useless and how my daughter isn't really important as she's just a girl

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Nobody: 7:21pm On Sep 22, 2017
You've to get to the root cause of why he has changed towards you and work together to better your marriage.
Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by IamLEGEND1: 7:22pm On Sep 22, 2017
TINALETC3:
Men ar like babies, gv dem Wat dey like and watch dem surrender.
Try and tell your boyfriend this nonsense_one day.

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Adaumunocha(f): 7:23pm On Sep 22, 2017
agbonkamen:
Marriage dey fear me die. My dear keep praying God is still on the throne, Jehovah value marriage
Do not fear marriage... The op made a bad decision. She should b prayerful plus resourceful.
Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Nobody: 7:24pm On Sep 22, 2017
KunkAcid:
You have simply failed to upgrade yourself.

Your man can't be interested in sex with you because you seem like one of those ladies who are not innovative in bed.

The man don tire for you.

Him don get one sweet babe wey him dey fire down for corner.


My advice is for u to look for one fresh blood wey go dey remove cobweb from your aso rock.


That's not true I'm only 25 and definitely sexy
Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by NevetsIbot(m): 7:28pm On Sep 22, 2017
overdo or oversabi...


why a are you not ready for another kid. if your husband wants one more... give him. forget about the mother in law. 6ys and just one kid.... look... which man likes that? is it until your husband grows old to the extent he won't be able to discipline a child effectively that you'll then have another one?

ion get what the time wastage is all about for real. you went behind his back to do it.... disrespect of the highest order.

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by agbonkamen(f): 7:29pm On Sep 22, 2017
Adaumunocha:
Do not fear marriage... The op made a bad decision. She should b prayerful plus resourceful.
OK sir
Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Nobody: 7:31pm On Sep 22, 2017
tollahni:



That's not true I'm only 25 and definitely sexy


And you think age defines who is old or young?

Being old is about loosing all that makes you a marvel regardless of your age.

You have simply lost the things that made u a marvel to your husband.

Maybe you should start thinking about where the axe has fallen.

You need to discover to recover!

Until then, your husband will keep distance from you.

More so, I don't so much think, you are a kneeling woman.
Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Safiaa(f): 7:32pm On Sep 22, 2017
What did you do thats causing you fertility problems?
Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Lalas247(f): 7:34pm On Sep 22, 2017
Do not speak to his mum ! You are a grown lady sort out your marital problems between you two
And from what you are saying he has a SIDE CHIC
No man can be exhausted from sex only if he getting it elsewhere also maybe he doesn't really want a baby with you

Though it hurts to know better you either speak to him a get clarity or you start looking for way out ... Do you work ??

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Nobody: 7:40pm On Sep 22, 2017
Lalas247:
Do not speak to his mum ! You are a grown lady sort out your marital problems between you two
And from what you are saying he has a SIDE CHIC
No man can be exhausted from sex only if he getting it elsewhere also maybe he doesn't really want a baby with you

Though it hurts to know better you either speak to him a get clarity or you start looking for way out ... Do you work ??

I had to quit my job shortly after we arrived nigeria.. He said it was taking much of my time and was preventing me from raising a family..so now I just work from home

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by IamLEGEND1: 7:41pm On Sep 22, 2017
tollahni:

I'm not barren!!
I told him about the family planning stuff cause I've always been on it and when it was time to renew it, he refused to go with me and said we should try for a baby but I wasn't ready so I just went for it without his consent tho I'm sorry about that.
We got married really early And his mom didn't like the idea, she's always hated me and the first day I got to see her after 6 years the first thing she asked was "Where are your kids" knowing fully well that I had just one, she keeps talking about having so much grandchildren that I can't bear and how I'm going to render her son useless and how my daughter isn't really important as she's just a girl.
You took her son away from her. It's a feeling shared by all mothers-in-law around the world - they, on average don't like their sons' wives. Unless of cause some other beef went down that you're not telling us.

But moving on: for exactly how long were you taking the pills in secret after he said you two should try for another baby? Or did you get the pills and didn't take them? Because if you went on taking them behind his back and left him grunting and twisting on you numerous times hoping you'll conceive for longer than a couple of months then that's some stone cold shit_right there. This is a man who went against his family's wishes and married you and you couldn't try to meet him halfway. due to what? I don't know. Is it your job or is it just plain stubbornness?
That is a breach of trust between couples that is not easy to recover from.

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Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by TINALETC3(f): 7:42pm On Sep 22, 2017
undecided stop staring at d statement, jst get d meaning behind it, tnx
IamLEGEND1:
Try and tell your boyfriend this nonsense_one day.
Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Nobody: 7:42pm On Sep 22, 2017
Safiaa:
What did you do thats causing you fertility problems?

I got infected with erm STD
Re: My Husband Keeps Avoiding Me by Nobody: 7:44pm On Sep 22, 2017
IamLEGEND1:
You took her son away from her. It's a feeling shared by all mothers-in-law around the world - they, on average don't like their sons' wives. Unless of cause some other beef went down that you're not telling us.

But moving on: for exactly how long were you taking the pills in secret after he said you two should try for another baby? Or did you get the pills and didn't take them? Because if you went on taking them behind his back and left him grunting and twisting on you numerous times hoping you'll conceive for longer than a couple of months then that's some stone cold shit_right there. This is a man who went against his family's wishes and married you and you couldn't try to meet him halfway due to what? I don't know. Is it your job or is just stubbornness?
That is a breach of trust between couples that is not easy to recover from.


I was put on family planing he found out a few days later..His mom just hates me for no reason...then I had a very demanding job and was definitely not ready for another child

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