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Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Nobody: 5:37am On Aug 27, 2016
That's his fetish, a real fetish for him. U either take it or leave him cos am telling u, if u don't allow him then he's secretly looking for someone to fulfil dt fantasy and once he gets the girl or already have her, u will become a second option. So think twice, dts d way fetishes work, it's either ur partner gives in or u search for it else where. Folo me, I will share sth with you
Caprigal:
He has a habit of trying to exchange spit when we kiss. The first time he did it I was very very disgusted. He just deliberately tried to put so much spit in my mouth when we were kissing and I spat it out again and wiped my mouth angrily because I was disgusted.

I assumed that he is not so good at kissing that first incidence thats why he did it.

Only for him to openly ask for it again another time, like some months after the first attempt. He said I should spit in his mouth while we were kissing and I told him I cannot do that I don't like such things.

He asked again. Two other times and I repeated the same answer that I cannot do such things.

I am getting disgusted with this man if he brings it up again I will flare up. What kind of dirty and disgusting request is that?

Am I overreacting or is this spitting thing actually a normal fetish thing with some guys?
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Nobody: 5:51am On Aug 27, 2016
Lmao

Y U C K

I would faint
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by ZeeAfrica(f): 5:58am On Aug 27, 2016
Lol, nigerian men and deir craziness. Cazzzz u made yo bed, so lie on it sugar. Lol, just kidding girl, but listen, there is a reason our parents always tell us to take time to know him, bcoz marriage is no childsplay. So learn more abt de dude,its actualy good dat u found dis now, try come to a compromise, try to find a way u can handle dis, if yo marriage is important to u. Tell him u hate it, or learn to accept it sugar. Marriage is all abt compromise, if u cant compromise, it means u aint ready for dis, bt he also needs to compromise as well in his side, love is a 2 way street.u give,i give. I wud suggets yal go for marriage counseling before de deed, it might help a lot. Dats wer u wil find out more abt each other, find how u can handle each other, and even see if u r truely compatible.if u aint, better quit early dan have a miserble marriage,i know most girls r just after being de tittle of being a mrs, but babe, b wise oo. Desparation wil murder u ooo
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Menzy86(m): 6:10am On Aug 27, 2016
Caprigal:
Thanks everyone for your advice, I appreciate your help.


I have considered breaking up but the man has other attributes that I think I want in my future husband like he is very forgiving and easygoing and he is God fearing. But the spit thing irritates me so much. I have told him before that I don't like it so why is he still bringing it up?

I have a feeling he will want to force me to accept it after marriage because I noticed that even after I complained that I don't like spitting he was cunningly still trying to put spit in my mouth when we were kissing.

The whole thing is disgusting. I avoid french kissing him these days because when that strange desire overcomes him he will start trying to sneak some spit into my mouth because he is hoping to gradually make me like it.
from d way u are narrating this issue, it seems it's probably his biggest flaw as a man and to be honest with u, sexual flaws shouldn't be taken lightly because it can easily metamophorse and destroy a relationship. On the other hand, though sounds really disgusting (I actually cringed when I started reading ur post at first), you need to lovingly start avoiding the whole act of french kissing him. Truth is it's obviously something he seriously fantasizes about and enjoys during intimacy so if he stops it because u have complained, it means he absolutely cherishes u HENCE u will need to discover his other sexual fantacies (that u r comfortable with) and EXPLORE that one to make him totally forget this one. Truth is, if u r a one dimensional and predictably rigid person, it's only a matter of time b4 his sexual attraction towards u begins to rapidly diminish and ultimately, ur relationship. In simple terms, this situation is ABSOLUTELY WORKABLE.
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by alobright17(m): 6:17am On Aug 27, 2016
mercichoco:
Op to say the least, that act of his his is dirty, but chill. You can sort it out, discuss with him, make him understand how you dislike it, if he's reasonable and loving, he'l listen and change.
what if he insisted on that? Is either the Op accept it or die rejecting it?
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Menzy86(m): 6:24am On Aug 27, 2016
FinestPINACLE:
please who is that your fiancehuh I think I know him.
Haba? Serious matter here o!
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by FinestPINACLE(f): 9:36am On Aug 27, 2016
Menzy86:
Haba? Serious matter here o!
lol.... make she spill who her fiance is o cuz I know him.
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Caprigal(op): 8:13pm On Aug 27, 2016
DeLioncourt:
i have to laugh small. grin grin grin grin grin

ok. it's probably a fetish...possibly acquired from several wasted hours watching pornography. you have to talk to him about it if you cannot adjust to it.

let him know that it repulses you and he needs to stop it...however he can. Trust me, sh*t like this can wreck a marriage.

You don't wanna be on your way home from work thinking about how you'll avoid kissing your husband.
True. I don't do deep kissing anymore cos I know he will still try to sneak some spit in it. Eewwww
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Caprigal(op): 8:14pm On Aug 27, 2016
byvan03:
Please if you can't deal with this, end it. No normal person can deal with this, he is sexually depraved. If you end up marrying him, be ready to accept all fetish.
I want to end it actually. I don't think the guy is normal. I just don't know how to break it off.
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Caprigal(op): 8:16pm On Aug 27, 2016
Egbabiekperemo:
Verakruz aikhomu. U done show again
Whet d fvck bruh ?? huh ?? ??
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Caprigal(op): 8:18pm On Aug 27, 2016
FinestPINACLE:
please who is that your fiancehuh I think I know him.
I can't mention his name here.
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Caprigal(op): 8:20pm On Aug 27, 2016
jaybillionaire:
That's his fetish,Folo me, I will share sth with you
Share it on this thread naaa
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by byvan03: 9:31pm On Aug 27, 2016
Caprigal:
I want to end it actually. I don't think the guy is normal. I just don't know how to break it off.
The next time he tries anything weird, take it from there and break up for good.
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Nobody: 10:06pm On Aug 27, 2016
Caprigal:
Share it on this thread naaa
nope, it's personal
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by antieverything(m): 10:39pm On Aug 27, 2016
mayb d gods from ijebu ode told him to do so
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Caprigal(op): 11:22pm On Aug 27, 2016
byvan03:
The next time he tries anything weird, take it from there and break up for good.
kk will do.
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by FinestPINACLE(f): 11:50am On Aug 28, 2016
Caprigal:
I can't mention his name here.
I knw him though. his name starts wit a D. he has I in his name too.
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Caprigal(op): 1:24pm On Aug 28, 2016
FinestPINACLE:
I knw him though. his name starts wit a D. he has I in his name too.
tehehe

eyaaaa

sorry but you is so wrong boo

his name starts with H grin

thats all I am saying about it canLt give any more clues
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Prince16: 1:43pm On Aug 28, 2016
Caprigal:
True. I don't do deep kissing anymore cos I know he will still try to sneak some spit in it. Eewwww
Be no longer unsettled;
Dental dam to the rescue!


http://www.ekekeee.com/mysexuality-how-to-keep-yourself-safe-during-oral-sex-by-greatise/

Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by EmekaBlue(m): 1:54pm On Aug 28, 2016
hahaha...so how does he fvck u? I guess he first oil ur pvssy...That nigga must love to add spicing to his food
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Prince16: 2:05pm On Aug 28, 2016
Having 'A' doesn't necessarily connote 100% o!
Remember "A" starts from 75%. So, if, as u confessed dt d guy is good in all other areas and dt ds 'spit' issh is his only 'defect', my sister abeg sofri-sofri o.
You may get a 'good kisser' (sic) who'll end up a cheat/wife batterer etc.

Kindly weigh ur options well-well o. some of ur 'friends' advising u: "God forbid''," leave him", "me, I can't take dt o" bla-bla-bla will end up marrying him once u fall mugu o.





Juss as good wife-material scarce, good husband-material scarce like dollars o.
I rest my case!
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by DeLioncourt: 5:20pm On Aug 28, 2016
Caprigal:
True. I don't do deep kissing anymore cos I know he will still try to sneak some spit in it. Eewwww
just talk to him and make him understand how serious it is. the success of a relationship depends a lot on how both parties get along with each other. If it gets to a point you can't stand him anymore you won't be happy with him.
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Caprigal(op): 6:42pm On Aug 28, 2016
Prince16:
Be no longer unsettled;
Dental dam to the rescue!


http://www.ekekeee.com/mysexuality-how-to-keep-yourself-safe-during-oral-sex-by-greatise/
hahahahahaha

lwkmd
so i should wear mouth guard before kissing him?


Maybe thats what I will do sef so he will finally get the point that I hate the whole spit kiss thing
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Caprigal(op): 6:43pm On Aug 28, 2016
EmekaBlue:
hahaha...so how does he fvck u? I guess he first oil ur pvssy...That nigga must love to add spicing to his food
He likes using spit as lube when we get down. I found the whole thing disgusting so I told him to start using cream instead
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Caprigal(op): 6:46pm On Aug 28, 2016
Prince16:
Having 'A' doesn't necessarily connote 100% o!
Remember "A" starts from 75%. So, if, as u confessed dt d guy is good in all other areas and dt ds 'spit' issh is his only 'defect', my sister abeg sofri-sofri o.
You may get a 'good kisser' (sic) who'll end up a cheat/wife batterer etc.

Kindly weigh ur options well-well o. some of ur 'friends' advising u: "God forbid''," leave him", "me, I can't take dt o" bla-bla-bla will end up marrying him once u fall mugu o.





Juss as good wife-material scarce, good husband-material scarce like dollars o
I rest my case!
@bold, I agree 100percent.

In short good people are scarce generally. Not just wife and husband
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by EmekaBlue(m): 6:46pm On Aug 28, 2016
grin u dating d SPITMAN
Caprigal:
He like using spit as lube when we get down. I found the whole thing disgusting so I told him to start using cream instead
Re: My Fiance Has Strange Bedroom Needs by Caprigal(op): 6:47pm On Aug 28, 2016
EmekaBlue:
grin u dating d SPITMAN
muchecheche grin
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