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How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by orbis(m): 9:41pm On Aug 31, 2016
Like seriously I'm trying hard to control myself from doing something crazy. To all the married folks in the house, please how do you handle an angry woman at home. I've tried ignoring, talking and walking out for a beer or two but it seems not to be working. She doesn't say out her issues but you can clearly feel the air is thick with something bad. Honestly I don tire
Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by SAMBARRY: 9:52pm On Aug 31, 2016
Leave her for some time and travel. Just travel for a year without her notice. When she doesn't see anyone to take out her aggression on she will calm down

One of the most crazy things you can do for a tempramental woman is leaving them with their craziness. E dey pain them die say after all the hot air the husband no even look her side.When boredom ,konji and cold rainy weather nearly kill am she will be forced to change.you know say na rainy season we dey and the thing needs to be lubricated this season. When sexual frustration nearly kill am she go senmpe wink

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by bennyrazz: 10:13pm On Aug 31, 2016
SAMBARRY:
we dey and the thing needs to be lubricated this season.
kikikikikikikik cheesy my eyes are closed to this.



@op, managing a temperamental person starts with knowing what makes them angry in the first place. Your wife can't just wake up and be angry all of a sudden. You are definitely doing some things that are pissing her off. She is bottling them up. my advice to you, be more caring and understand. Start to pamper her.

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by Nobody: 10:16pm On Aug 31, 2016
She's obviously not happy at something.
Ignoring her or walking away will only feed her anger. Talking is the right thing to do but you've done that, so maybe you need to change your approach. It matters.

If you are financially comfortable, you can take her out for shopping, then have a nice sweet dinner together. Now that you've set the mood, ask her to talk to you.

Why is she so/always angry? What's wrong? Talk alot.
Tell her it's eating you up, and if she wouldn't let go the anger, it'll be best if she or you take some time alone.

You can send her to her parents. Or you yourself can go somewhere to chill. At least a week of no communication.

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by dollyjoy(f): 10:22pm On Aug 31, 2016
SAMBARRY:
Leave her for some time and travel. Just travel for a year without her notice. When she doesn't see anyone to take out her aggression on she will calm down

One of the most crazy things you can do for a tempramental woman is leaving them with their craziness. E dey pain them die say after all the hot air the husband no even look her side.When boredom ,konji and cold rainy weather nearly kill am she will be forced to change.you know say na rainy season we dey and the thing needs to be lubricated this season. When sexual frustration nearly kill am she go senmpe wink
Seriously? A married man should travel for a YEAR without due notice.



What an advice!!

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by Nobody: 10:22pm On Aug 31, 2016
Nothing works like silence, i bet when you ignore her, you still talk back sometimes, here is the thing, when you go total silence on people it makes them think if what they doing is wrong or right. if its right, they would take your silence for approval but when they wrong they take your silence for maturity over them and it gets them super angry to know you smarter than them, treating them like a kid by not replying. so silence is the answer.

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by missjo(f): 10:24pm On Aug 31, 2016
If she can't state exactly what is eating her up but keeps expecting you to miraculously figure it out on your own,then I think you should just keep ignoring her and going out more.
It's women like her dat make majority of men think women are nothing but a walking heap of emotions,and I so hate dat stereotype.

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by missjo(f): 10:28pm On Aug 31, 2016
bennyrazz:
kikikikikikikik cheesy my eyes are closed to this.



@op, managing a temperamental person starts with knowing what makes them angry in the first place. Your wife can't just wake up and be angry all of a sudden. You are definitely doing some things that are pissing her off. She is bottling them up. my advice to you, be more caring and understand. Start to pamper her.

orbis:
I've tried ignoring, talking and walking out for a beer or two but it seems not to be working. She doesn't say out her issues but you can clearly feel the air is thick with something bad.

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by lilmax(m): 10:29pm On Aug 31, 2016
there is this thing called slap I heard it works
Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by orbis(m): 10:30pm On Aug 31, 2016
Someone who's extremely jealous and if she sees something she feels is cheating, instead of asking to clarify...wham...she'll start to keep face. You'll them have to reassess yourself and look for what might be the issue ....damn
Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by Nobody: 10:54pm On Aug 31, 2016
@ op what you stated here isn't enough for one to understand the clear picture of your ordeals..was she like that at the beginning of your relationship or its a new development, if the latter is the case then you have to check yourself cuz there's always two sides of a coin

are you arrogant

are you selfish

are you careering

lots of questions begging for an answer. .a woman you married can't suddenly turn to a monster without your impute. ..last time I checked women don't even choose whom to love they love who shows them careering and your case won't be different either

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by byvan03: 11:28pm On Aug 31, 2016
"If she sees something she feels is cheating ", meaning you know exactly what you do to her that upsets her so much. You are married for goodness sake, she shouldn't be seeing anything that should suggest you are cheating. Nothing breeds passionate hatred like a perceived loose husband, whether her fear is real or imagined. You are the one that needs help on how to be married so you don't upset your spouse to insanity.

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by SAMBARRY: 12:26am On Sep 01, 2016
dollyjoy:
Seriously? A married man should travel for a YEAR without due notice.



What an advice!!
YEs. A good advice at that

O so you want him to sit down there and keep putting up with her aggression undecided
Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by Nobody: 2:11am On Sep 01, 2016
SAMBARRY:
Leave her for some time and travel. Just travel for a year without her notice. When she doesn't see anyone to take out her aggression on she will calm down

One of the most crazy things you can do for a tempramental woman is leaving them with their craziness. E dey pain them die say after all the hot air the husband no even look her side.When boredom ,konji and cold rainy weather nearly kill am she will be forced to change.you know say na rainy season we dey and the thing needs to be lubricated this season. When sexual frustration nearly kill am she go senmpe wink
dis is TERRIBLE advice . travel for a yr without her knowing , wah kinda marriage is dat ? dey r married !!! da wife is clearly not happy with something in da house or with her husband, there's always a reason 4 anger . do u respect her , op ? ru cheating ? hv u cheated b4 ? when last did u argue, wat was it abt ? ibet u know y she gets angry , it's not rocket science . communicate , work it out !! ignoring her sure will only make u a terrible hubby , will make things worse too

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by cococandy(f): 4:38am On Sep 01, 2016
orbis:
Someone who's extremely jealous and if she sees something she feels is cheating, instead of asking to clarify...wham...she'll start to keep face. You'll them have to reassess yourself and look for what might be the issue ....damn
I was going to ask you if you cheated on her before I saw this post.
It's clear You know what's wrong. Fix it.

Maybe she's not confronting you about it because she's afraid that it will be true that you're actually cheating and she wouldn't know how to deal with it. Whatever it is you think she saw that's making her lock up, you need to be the one to bring it up and clear the air.

Goodluck

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by PresVA: 7:05am On Sep 01, 2016
Why is she angry? No sane person will be angry for no reason

If you like go out and take a crate of beer, it doesn't take away the problem or issue. ..
Go and talk with your wife and tackle whatever issue in a lovely way.. all d best..

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by SAMBARRY: 10:48am On Sep 01, 2016
Sambarry has spoken! !!! wink
aflyingbird:
dis is TERRIBLE advice . travel for a yr without her knowing , wah kinda marriage is dat ? dey r married !!! da wife is clearly not happy with something in da house or with her husband, there's always a reason 4 anger . do u respect her , op ? ru cheating ? hv u cheated b4 ? when last did u argue, wat was it abt ? ibet u know y she gets angry , it's not rocket science . communicate , work it out !! ignoring her sure will only make u a terrible hubby , will make things worse too

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by shegxi(m): 11:27am On Sep 01, 2016
byvan03:
"If she sees something she feels is cheating ", meaning you know exactly what you do to her that upsets her so much. You are married for goodness sake, she shouldn't be seeing anything that should suggest you are cheating. Nothing breeds passionate hatred like a perceived loose husband, whether her fear is real or imagined. You are the one that needs help on how to be married so you don't upset your spouse to insanity.
so you are in essence saying that as an adult, i can be angry about something or someone and be quiet about it and i will be justified?
and do u also know some people are just overly sensitive and extremely paranoid, are u saying it's the people around them that need to adjust and not the person with the issue himself or herself?
i get the point of not giving the other person reason to doubt, but the onus still lies with the aggrieved to speak up.

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by shegxi(m): 11:38am On Sep 01, 2016
missjo:
If she can't state exactly what is eating her up but keeps expecting you to miraculously figure it out on your own,then I think you should just keep ignoring her and going out more.
It's women like her dat make majority of men think women are nothing but a walking heap of emotions,and I so hate dat stereotype.
i will never understand how adults would have issues bordering them and wn't speak up and expect the other person to just figure out.
going further, even when the partner knows and dn't talk about it, the onus still lies with the aggrieved partner to air it. if u have choosen to be quiet, then dn't go around like a bread dat has too much yeast in it.

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by byvan03: 11:41am On Sep 01, 2016
shegxi:
so you are in essence saying that as an adult, i can be angry about something or someone and be quiet about it and i will be justified?
and do u also know some people are just overly sensitive and extremely paranoid, are u saying it's the people around them that need to adjust and not the person with the issue himself or herself?
i get the point of not giving the other person reason to doubt, but the onus still lies with the aggrieved to speak up.


Sometimes not saying anything is some people 's way of controlling themselves. There are people that can't address an annoying situation without completely going bonkers. If you know you are shady and it drives your spouse mad,the sensible thing to do is stop. Why isn't OP responding and you are on his behalf? Probably because he is guilty as charged.


Sometimes is better to shut up when the rage boiling inside might make one lose her mind. She shouldn't be seeing" anything she thinks is cheating ", OP is a husband and not a boyfriend.

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by missjo(f): 12:00pm On Sep 01, 2016
shegxi:
i will never understand how adults would have issues bordering them and wn't speak up and expect the other person to just figure out.
going further, even when the partner knows and dn't talk about it, the onus still lies with the aggrieved partner to air it. if u have choosen to be quiet, then dn't go around like a bread dat has too much yeast in it.
It seems it's only you, I and sambarry on this thread that read the part where the man has already tried talking to her undecided

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by shegxi(m): 12:02pm On Sep 01, 2016
byvan03:



Sometimes not saying anything is some people 's way of controlling themselves. There are people that can't address an annoying situation without completely going bonkers. If you know you are shady and it drives your spouse mad,the sensible thing to do is stop. Why isn't OP responding and you are on his behalf? Probably because he is guilty as charged.


Sometimes is better to shut up when the rage boiling inside might make one lose her mind. She shouldn't be seeing" anything she thinks is cheating ", OP is a husband and not a boyfriend.
i am not about whether op is guilty or not, he should deal with that. even if op was guilty, i still insist there is no excuse for her not to speak up.
she can let her rage calm down before speaking. but if for everytime anyone wants to speak he/she goes bonker, i think that is even a bigger problem.

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by byvan03: 12:18pm On Sep 01, 2016
shegxi:
i am not about whether op is guilty or not, he should deal with that. even if op was guilty, i still insist there is no excuse for her not to speak up.
she can let her rage calm down before speaking. but if for everytime anyone wants to speak he/she goes bonker, i think that is even a bigger problem.


OK, direct your insistence to OP.
Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by 5minsmadness: 12:25pm On Sep 01, 2016
missjo:

It seems it's only you, I and sambarry on this thread that read the part where the man has already tried talking to her undecided

No they saw it. They just enjoy arguing.
Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by 5minsmadness: 12:30pm On Sep 01, 2016
byvan03:



OK, direct your insistence to OP.
Hi byvan
So i've been trying to sort of picture u out.
Not for anything bad o.

But i wanted to know a few things about u.

R u married or single?
Fair or dark?
Working or a student?
Slim or on the chubby side?
Tall or short or just average?


If u could oblige me...
Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by byvan03: 12:36pm On Sep 01, 2016
5minsmadness:

Hi byvan
So i've been trying to sort of picture u out.
Not for anything bad o.

But i wanted to know a few things about u.

R u married or single?
Fair or dark?
Working or a student?
Slim or on the chubby side?
Tall or short or just average?


If u could oblige me...



I won't oblige you, those that know me know me cool.

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by Dyt(f): 12:43pm On Sep 01, 2016
I am an angry woman so I can relate to OPs wife

Sometimes a woman just keeps quiet so as not to be seen as a nag
You def ain't be fair on that woman

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Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by missjo(f): 12:43pm On Sep 01, 2016
5minsmadness:


No they saw it. They just enjoy arguing.
Ahh,oKay then.
Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by missjo(f): 12:46pm On Sep 01, 2016
Dyt:
I am an angry woman so I can relate to OPs wife

Sometimes a woman just keeps quiet so as not to be seen as a nag
You def ain't be fair on that woman
cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
This section sha cool
Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by byvan03: 12:48pm On Sep 01, 2016
Dyt:
I am an angry woman so I can relate to OPs wife

Sometimes a woman just keeps quiet so as not to be seen as a nag
You def ain't be fair on that woman


Thank you!
Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by byvan03: 12:49pm On Sep 01, 2016
Dyt angry woman ke? Lol.
Re: How Do You Handle An Angry Wife by Dyt(f): 12:50pm On Sep 01, 2016
missjo:

cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
This section sha cool

You want a piece of me?
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