SAMBARRY:
exactly what I was about saying

Op do you know how much house rent is alone talkless OF other bills

The cheapest and decent house in Lagos is starting FROM 100k upwards and that is even self contained

If you're talking about 3 bedroom flat it's 200k upwards

Abi you want to live in face me I slap you where over 24 people will be sharing one toilet and bathroom, where they'll be stealing your wife's pant or your clothes.when you're fuckig your wife your neighbours will know and when your neighbours are having sex you will know.that one is gbo gbo ero house. Everyone will be in your buisness giving you solicited and unsolicited advice ON how to live your life.meanwhile your neighbours can be hemp smoker or drunkard. It's 24k per year but I can assure you you won't enjoy your life living there

You will still pay nepa bills
buy generator
fuel it (especially when the kids start coming )
Your wife has needs you will satisfy her otherwise she's leaving. A woman's tolerance level to poverty differs
You will buy food stuffs
To refill gas cooker you're talking of 4,500
The cheapest private school in Lagos is at least 80k.how do you want to cope?

You better get your priorities straight. Marriage is not your problem now get a job or start a buisness, get comfortable before you turn to a wretched frustrated and angry or violent man

dnt mk him fe so bad nww

Joel3:



you must still be a child to comprehend my write up. I didn't state that it’s a must to live in the BQ. that is only a backup. choice of work always come to play. what if everything failed? like he lost his job? where will he go to? from house to village? there are people in the city of lagos who live in rents but they put tenants in their houses outside the city.

that house will always remain a backup when everything failed.

Your pettiness is irredeemable. Where do you expect a struggling man in his present position to raise the quantity of money required to buy a land to build a house for personal use? Obviously, you're still eating mama thAnk you, else you would have known that it will be a grave mistake for him to engage in such a venture at the moment.

Buying a land as a form of savings and for investment purposes is a good idea and part of proper and futuristic planning (which is part of building his business before private estate as wise people do - my postulation therein). However, my postulation is different from your myopic idea; which is buying a land and build a personal/lease house - your foremost post pointed to this. He can't afford such for now.

The young man is talking about planning with what he has and earns at present. There you're making a wishful statement. . . . If wishes were horses beggars would ride.

Now run along and play with your mates, because I don't join issues with anyone - least of petty people.

the standard at which u wanna live matters...

DollyParton1:
And does your wife have an income to support you with?
You need to sit down and calculate your average monthly expenditures.
Although I have seen families depend in less than that amount, but it is a very tough journey.

You,ve just asked the most important question,If his wife to be is also on an average income life might not be too harsh for them.But if No then i,ll advise my guy to at least save for about 1yr and have an account that can be called on when child bearing finances as a family man starts coming

SAMBARRY:
exactly what I was about saying

Op do you know how much house rent is alone talkless OF other bills

The cheapest and decent house in Lagos is starting FROM 100k upwards and that is even self contained

If you're talking about 3 bedroom flat it's 200k upwards

Abi you want to live in face me I slap you where over 24 people will be sharing one toilet and bathroom, where they'll be stealing your wife's pant or your clothes.when you're fuckig your wife your neighbours will know and when your neighbours are having sex you will know.that one is gbo gbo ero house. Everyone will be in your buisness giving you solicited and unsolicited advice ON how to live your life.meanwhile your neighbours can be hemp smoker or drunkard. It's 24k per year but I can assure you you won't enjoy your life living there

You will still pay nepa bills
buy generator
fuel it (especially when the kids start coming )
Your wife has needs you will satisfy her otherwise she's leaving. A woman's tolerance level to poverty differs
You will buy food stuffs
To refill gas cooker you're talking of 4,500
The cheapest private school in Lagos is at least 80k.how do you want to cope?

You better get your priorities straight. Marriage is not your problem now get a job or start a buisness, get comfortable before you turn to a wretched frustrated and angry or violent man

Abeg where and how i fit get that 24k/yr apartment please.

dfrost:


Sorry bosslady. No offense intended.

My sister speaks Spanish, at least basic conversation for someone that has not traveled to any Spanish speaking country. When she started, I was laughing at her but now every time we want to start chatting, she starts with Spanish and switches to English.

Hopefully we can open a thread and flow with the language. Ciao!

oh. That will be great. Woah, I wish to know that your sister. When will you open the thread. Biko mention me oo

lawnreigh:
Hello plz how did you go about learning Spanish in Nigeria, I wish to learn it in the nearest future. I speak 2 International Languages already, so I know the logics and tactics on how to go about learning fast. But kindly let me know where and how, moreover the readily available opportunities one can get by learning it

you speak two langs already . You are selfish sir . I just wanna learn my first one. Im Learning online thou. We wanna create a thread

is no more news that lagos is so expensive, so u should kno better, avoid unecessary expensive things then u r good to go

pamelga:
It's not the main focus but it's important I start considering it...I'm a guy and based in Lagos.

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well bro, you can just arrange ur self first. B4 family, don't you wanna enjoy urself as a guy? All these days of no job.. Nah part of why guys no dey live too long these days bro, too much of wahala. If your not too old. Don't rush in like that, take your time. Live well..

themodernman:


Abeg where and how i fit get that 24k/yr apartment please.

Its in the outskirts of Lagos more like the rural side of Lagos

mikaael:



dnt mk him fe so bad nww

in nairaland you get all sorts. Those who will deceive you to make you feel good and Those who will hurt you with the truth but change his life for good
However the ball is in ops court.it depends on what he wants. Whether to live an unplanned frustrated life where he cannot pay for what he wants
yorubas say otoro biomo iya isokuso.it's never pleasant to the ears but beneficial to the life

SAMBARRY:
Its in the outskirts of Lagos more like the rural side of Lagos

Men me i no mind oh...

ventq:
We know ur type

we know your type to.broke nights who will not plan their lives for a better tomorrow but will bring innocent kids into the world to suffer with you

When your wife leaves you for a better man financially you will start ranting that all women like money as if the men hate money. Continue deceiving your selves.ato yin to

Shioorrrr

Joel3:
it's advising you build your house first. even if its BQ. then you can complete the main flat or duplex later.

because when bills start to surface then you will know 70k is chicken change. except you want to suffer. my friend who had a wife and one child stock his fridge every week with meat 10k only. other food items is not among. just imagine that your money for food, rent, change of clothes at least 2 clothes a month u and kid each.

I spent more than that amount a month. I don't know how I do it but I don't have a family.

not forgetting that I relax always with few drink daily. life is too short bro. so decide for yourself.

lalasticlala, seun.

Still wondering the same thing

eyinjuege:


The wife to be might be earning more.
Also, it's not compulsory they stay in a flat. People live in face me I slap you, or go to outskirts like Mowe to live. They can still get a self contained there for less than 100K I think.
It's not compulsory to use gas, though I think it's cheaper at the end of the day.
Those living in the outskirts enjoy cheaper foodstuff. It's not compulsory the children go to private school, though it's better. Most private schools are mushroom schools anyway, and you can get some for 's cheap as 20K.
Nobody likes poverty, but the truth is how many people are not poor? How many young men and women earn more than 70K in Naija?
So that's why family income is important, which is what both husband and wife bring home. The Naija of today, very few men can single handedly run their homes.
Everyone just has to cut their coats according to their cloth.

haaaa!!!

Okunrin!!!

Small time you will open that smelling mouth and say I cannot allow my wife to foot the bill of the house.I am a man.I will not allow any woman to emasculate me.infact if she earns more than you and supports in the bill una go still give her wahala

True dey boom

Btw you're encouraging him to take his children to mushroom schools with teachers who are semi illiterates to teach his kids and learn how to cuss
That's nice.iyen na da
I

pamelga:
I just got a job dat pays 70k per month couple with other allowances. Considering the economy, can I begin a family with this pay...
Advice please!

Yes you can marry.

All you need is to be disciplined in your choices...Your choice of wife, apartment, lifestyle. Above all, starting a family is not a child's play. You will need to have an understanding with the lady you want to marry and if she works, it will be an advantage to the two of you.

Iamhatey:
oh. That will be great. Woah, I wish to know that your sister. When will you open the thread. Biko mention me oo

I'll open it today. Will mention you immediately.

justmenoni:
Omo see advice, you don't even know Op that much and you have concluded that he should build a house, this kind of advice has led alot of people into further debts.

Let's assume Op is currently residing in a room apartment somewhere in mushin and he works on the island, considering that a room apartment might not be more than 5000 a month, that means op is left with 65,000..then consider other expenses, transportation, bills, misc etc how will it be possible for the op to build that house you have just suggested?


If he's going to build a house, putting into consideration the high price of lands and building materials then it means op will have to save alot, and I'm optimistic that with such salary op might need to spend much more to get to work, maybe he'll end up getting to work late and you know what that'll result in..


Anyway, back to the question..Op I'm not an economist ooo but I'll advise you to first manage or stay a bit where you currently stay and then save up in a year, let's say you manage to save up to 30k a month, that's 360 in a year, then after one year you can rent a mini flat(one room,one living room, one toilet, and kitchen), then get married( doesn't have to be extravagant, just go to the registry blah blah blah).. try to use the remaing money to furnish your place a little bit( you can furnish further later on) but keep small change for foodstuff and transportation, then save 30k again for another 6 months( that should give you 180k, use this to establish your wife, small shop and stock it up a bit, at least to start from somewhere).. use the remaining 6 months to save 30k again and use that to pay your house rent( this way you'll be in the good books of your landlord,)... next year try to save for 6 first 6 months and use part of it to support your wife's business and keep the rest just incase a child come's in between, use the remaining 6 months to save and pay your rent...

Op, I'm not advocating that you shouldn't build a house, but to me, that's not and shouldn't be your top priority for now and shouldn't even be for the next couple of years,.

I am not suggesting he should build in expensive location. .. he can remain in rent and build his house somewhere.

some times I just sit and wonder why some guys have low IQ,because when they are in school back then.how they suffer with parents in other to finish and be a better person in life. one day they will just get a job and started looking for their own family they don't even think for one second to wait for a year so that they can treat their parents well before family stuff begin,anyway I don't kuku mind I just remembered one word says boy child is a offering for a family

When some pple are buildn their family with 30k. U just got d job. Pls do save up first. 70k is small but knw that some pple are receivn 20k 30k as salary. Plan and knw what u wnt..shalom

Guy don't allow pipo to deceive you oooo....If you plan yourself well you will succeed in managing that money....At least after few years dey can increase your salary or you can also change job and earn more.

Well, it's possible. That's if your wife is earning too. I will advise you not to buy a car yet, just in case you have it in mind.

hmmm,a lot of guys here are trying to discourage young men from getting married n be responsible. I think the only physical factor to consider here is the wife's prudence n discipline,of course after GOD'S help. Tell me,how many of such guys saying 83k or 70k is chicken change would remain a virgin at 32 as a man?think n answer yourselves..i would take my chances with GOD on my side,with diligence n prudence. December 3rd,you are invited..cheers!

Miladi:



Your pettiness is irredeemable. Where do you expect a struggling man in his present position to raise the quantity of money required to buy a land to build a house? Obviously, you're still eating mama thAnk you, else you would have known that it will be a grave mistake for him to engage in such a venture at the moment.

Buying a land as a form of savings and for investment purposes is a good idea and part of proper and futuristic planning (which is part of building his business before private estate as wise people do - my postulation therein). However, my postulation is different from your myopic idea; which is buying a land and build a personal/lease house - your foremost post pointed to this - he can't afford such for now.

The young man is taking about planning with what he has and earns at present. There you're making a wishful statement. . . . If wishes were horses beggars would ride.

Now run along and play with your mates, because I don't join issues with anyone - least of petty people.

it's very clear that you are ignorance of how a man live his live. Unfortunately you are the type of girls who lead a man into early grave so good bye. I am more wiser than the men you have been mating with. good luck.

yes, just commite everything in the hands of God, and pray for your real wife. not that type of materialistic who bring nothing to the table.

Yes, just commite everything in the hands of God, and pray for your real wife. not that type of materialistic who bring nothing to the table.

Iamhatey:
we are both looking for it sir . You can mention me when you find one

Let's start start by telling me how to learn Spanish


I'll be glad

SAMBARRY:
haaaa!!!

Okunrin!!!

Small time you will open that smelling mouth and say I cannot allow my wife to foot the bill of the house.I am a man.I will not allow any woman to emasculate me.infact if she earns more than you and supports in the bill una go still give her wahala

True dey boom

Btw you're encouraging him to take his children to mushroom schools with teachers who are semi illiterates to teach his kids and learn how to cuss
That's nice.iyen na da
I

Excuse you, I'm just someone who sees life as it is.

I don't do all that gender battles or what not.

Hardly will you see a man these days that'll refuse his wife's help in meeting the needs of the home. Women's earning power is equal if not more than the men these days in Naija, at least in the corporate world.

Let's be real here and face reality. It's not all men that have good jobs.
Even those with relatively good jobs don't live according to the standard they would have loved to. Who doesn't like going on holidays to exotic places? Who doesn't want their children to go to BIS?
But the truth is few people can live that lifestyle.

Don't be deceived that because we're all typing and chatting on the Internet that we are all on the same level.

Those mushroom schools cater for a lot of children including those whose parents are on NL (until our govt can provide basic education, and increase the no of public schools primary and secondary levels) . At least the govt can put checks and balances in place to monitor those mushroom schools and the people they employ

Not all NLers live abroad, or in duplexes or flats.
Millions of people live in face me I slap you, and some are also on NL, some send their children to mushroom schools. Public Schools are not really bad with the staff employed, but they have poor infrastruture and we have plenty of pupils registered there. In fact, I've got some wonderful colleagues who are products of these public schools.
We have some men in their 40s and 50s not earning upto the 70k, do we still ask them to wait till they hit it before starting a family ? Remember, it's not everyone that'll get that breakthrough.
Like I said earlier, everyone should cut their coat according to their cloth. Some families live on the 70k

pamelga:
I just got a job dat pays 70k per month couple with other allowances. Considering the economy, can I begin a family with this pay...
Advice please!

my advice, dont begin family with liability woman, 80% succesful family, all hand is on desk. Hand wash hand to make it clean

YES U CAN IF YOUR WIFE IS ALSO WORKING SO THAT U WONT CARRY ALL THE RESPONSIBILITIES ALONE