sekundosekundo:
Have you discussed it with your wife to be?.

gidjah:
You must be fully in charge o, you must stop it before it transcends In To your home after wedding and hence you won't be able to control such.tell your girlfriend you will no more tolerate that attitude from her again,if she can't come through your girl, then let it remain un done.you will still be the one to keep such bad attitude away from your own family if you really wanna keep the girl with you,but once you notice that's it is a trait In Their family, you might wanna cut that thing off, by calling it a quit.bros, you must deal wit it now, o, if you know you won't be able to then you either back out or manage the situation your self.if your family gets to know then it will seem as if her mother is a gold digger and the you know the aftermath ba??

san316:

my family has generational hatred for begging

Nyceguy92:
Which issue worries you the most:
The fact that the relationship is a distant one...?
Or the matter of your fiancée's mom asking you for money?

If you love your lady enough to marry her, you should go ahead.
You only give that which you have and when it will not inconvenience you.

san316:
guy just check this out now. One major discouragement to guys getting married is the feeling of additional responsibility. I'm not earning much but what I earn can cater for my immediate family. My parents are not that buoyant but they are okay. All what I don't want is for everything to come back to my head. Because when we are married, they start demanding n not requesting. I wanna have a family without distraction from outside. Daz I'll.

san316:
guy just check this out now. One major discouragement to guys getting married is the feeling of additional responsibility. I'm not earning much but what I earn can cater for my immediate family. My parents are not that buoyant but they are okay. All what I don't want is for everything to come back to my head. Because when we are married, they start demanding n not requesting. I wanna have a family without distraction from outside. Daz I'll.

Nyceguy92:


I understand your concern but know that some measure of financial responsibility is inevitable.
Every married man shares in the financial burden of his in-laws.

Attend only to reasonable requests , not demands, for assistance if it is within your ability.
You may have to deal mainly with assistance for feeding, hospital visits,
Rarely will one be asked to help set up a business. Some do if they can afford it.

I am not sure I get an idea what your fiancée does; does she work?

ElsonMorali:
Have you ever heard the phrase, "like mother, like daughter"? Well trust me your long distance ish has prevented you from noticing the same in your fiancé.

Speak with your significant other face to face about this issue and see how she responds.

san316:


She's a student. Not working. That's another thing sef. After supporting her studies, the mom too wil be bringing hers

Nyceguy92:

I sense that you are reluctant to proceed with the marriage.

It is your choice between the girl you love, I presume...
and the supposedly expected requests from her mom.

Discuss with your woman and then decide.

louken:
The truth is that the woman is not ever going to change. A lot of ladies see men as meal ticket and it's unfortunate your girlfriend's mother has not outgrown hers. Since you said your girlfriend has shown tendencies of being a good wife, I won't advise you to leave her. Assuming you marry her and her mother continues and intensifies her demands, what will you do? Whatever it is you are going to do, start doing it now. Let everybody start getting used to the reality. With the turn-out of things, it will be easier to decide whether to continue with the relationship or not

san316:


Not that. I just feel uncomfortable with what's happening and hoping I can put it on hold for a while.

She wouldn't even expose her hair for me to see because I hvnt married her yet but would like to receive money from me. I feel there is something amiss.

5minsmadness:


What are the tendencies of a good wife that the girl has shown?


Long distance relationship.
Beggarly attitude from the mother.
No idea of how fiancee truly behaves because its a long distance relationship.

@san316
I suspect people r reluctant to speak thier mind since u are already planning wedding.
Anyway i'll tell u something. Marriage is for life. Once u don enter u don enter. Even if you want to divorce later (God forbid) you would still have a lot of emotional and mental trauma to deal with.

An adage says if u want to look at what your wife will become, study her mother.

If you know begging disgusts you and you cannot live with it... Hmmm... My brother, think very well before you proceed. This woman u want to marry and her mother will be the mother and grandmother to your kids o. I dont want u to be a victim of those people that say "You knew all these things about her before, yet you still went ahead to marry her, so carry your cross".


My candid opinion.

George22016:


u mean your girl won't expose hair for you to see.hahahaha baba you be mugu big one.see forget students now that's how they do.but guy why u be mumu like this

George22016:


u mean your girl won't expose hair for you to see.hahahaha baba you be mugu big one.see forget students now that's how they do.but guy why u be mumu like this