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The Sacred Search (by Gary Thomas)
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sacred-Search-Gary-Thomas/dp/1434704890

I can't recommend it highly enough to any and everyone who is considering marriage! It's a big eye-opener.
OP, it is not how quick but how well. The race is not to the swift.

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

.

The ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. Nice trips. Everythin self nah scope!! Yeah Ma'am, everything nah time, e go be!! Just check and balance everythin b4 b4 believing there's no problem. God's time is anytime, roger that and keep moving!!

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

i hope ur not an rccg or redeemed member cos your situation will get worse and if the people/books/family/pastor,pastors wife's etc are rccg members, their influence will also make the situation worse.all those conflicting man-made ideologies bring disappointments. simply BE YOURSELF and stick to the word of God (only)the right man will come

[b][/b]This is very best post and comments i have ever read here on NL, hence my very first comment on NL too. I so much appreciate your insightful comments and advices. I am also blessed by them cos i have learnt alot. OP, pls, exercise some more patience...you will surely get there...

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

am interested can we hook up? 08172819892

seizethaBae:
Thanks all for your kind and wise advice.I really appreciate. @Chubhie;God bless you for putting up that piece together,indeed such a wise God we serve. But y wld i pray to God for 3solid years to have feelings for someone,did everytin possible for me not to lose this great guy,I TRIED I REALLY TRIED,yet nothing happen?. I really cant go deep discussing that relationship bcus he is a nairalander(he might put one or two tins togeda and figure out its me),but just picture NO SINGLE FEELINGS AT ALL,NONE THAT CAN EVEN MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK FOR 24HRS hence i treat him as i want,even tho im not a bad person dat treat people anyhow.

seriously, I perfectly understand what you are going through, I thought bout d same thing today. I won't say their is something wrong with you cause I don't know u, but I need you to know we are not formed or created d same way, not everyone will do all things so easily. some have to wait for some things to happen and our period of waiting differ so dont compare yourself with anyone. someone said "sometimes, what we want comes at the time we are no more looking" I know it's hard, but focus on other things too, when you meet guys, dont let marriage or husband be the first on your mind, just relax and focus on knowing people, you may not be able to find love when you are very conscious of it. just relax and cont to trust God. but don't let anyone convince you to marry someone you don't love, you will regret it and they won't be there.

seizethaBae:
Thanks all for your kind and wise advice.I really appreciate. @Chubhie;God bless you for putting up that piece together,indeed such a wise God we serve. But y wld i pray to God for 3solid years to have feelings for someone,did everytin possible for me not to lose this great guy,I TRIED I REALLY TRIED,yet nothing happen?. I really cant go deep discussing that relationship bcus he is a nairalander(he might put one or two tins togeda and figure out its me),but just picture NO SINGLE FEELINGS AT ALL,NONE THAT CAN EVEN MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK FOR 24HRS hence i treat him as i want,even tho im not a bad person dat treat people anyhow.

Perhaps,its time u took a closer look at urself. 4rm this point u made,I can confidently say u're the architect of ur problem. Perhaps,u need 2 learn how 2 love.

ogboni76:
NOW DOES THAT SOUND FUNNY TO YOU?
Ogboni is a deep yoruba way of saying OGBENI
And as per your question.... NO I AM NOT A RITUALIST, atleast I used ogboni not some dumb sweet name that most guys use to lure ladies into their net and ended up strangling them to death....

Who said anything about funny
Comprehension skill, acquire that first.

Eyin boys, roll out the PMs

KingTom:
I dey find wife na Oya come

Guy!!...... The babe na Asset o! .....send PM shaperly... I ready to design your wedding IV for free! .......no wait!... Not free... But 50% off!

Thanks for the advice, since you've already aquired yours please where can I aquire mine?

amunkita:
Who said anything about funny
Comprehension skill, acquire that first.

I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

[i]And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired am dsame wit u dear

The problem with most Nigerian Ladies is too much of Telemundo and South Korean Movies. These movies and soap operas are just fantasy, they are not real.

Love is not the basis for marriage....It is a sign of a good and successful marriage.

It develops while u are in the marriage...Love is not constant, Love is blind..U can love someone today and hate the person tomorrow.

It take 2 to tango....those qualities of the opposite sex u put up there a mere wishes and u can never get them......I met my wife online, went to her place the second week, started leaving with me the fourt week, got pregnant and we married the 6th week and we are still together after 6yrs. There was no love or feeling when I met her, but today we are like bread and butter with 2 kids.

u have not make up mind...u are not ready.

U are still very young.

Op, u need to get more closer to your God.

Let's start from here; did u really follow your Pastor's advice? if not, I will implore u to do that... leave all your wealth somewhere and rent a small spinster's room, then u bring urself so low for a real man to see u.

Some guys who suppose to propose for you may not have the courage to do that if they sees that u are richer than they are and those who may come around you may ask u out because of your wealth (Gold diggers). pls, be wise n wait for God's intervention as well, then u will be surprised for good.

Gabby91:
Dear op, I do exactly what you mean. Like you, I finished school early @21 yrs. I'm 25, working and live alone. I am not rich but I can take care of the few needs I have (as long as I don't get greedy, I'm fine). I didn't play games in school for fear they'd come back to haunt me later. Now, I think I'm ready but I have not been fortunate to be 'toasted '. Only guys who want side chicks. I have this uncanny ability to fall for people who don't want me. I also seem to be a great friend, so I'm told, just not exactly the kind that inspires romance. I have friends both males and females, married and single. Just not that one special person. I get sad about it sometimes. Now, mostly I just ask God to turn it off, to turn this need/craving for something I might never have. I just ask for the meekness to learn to be content.

No ma'm
Don't sell ur self short if it's ur desire to marry it's Gods desire for u to marry, stop listening to the voice of the devil That depresses

Like I told op please google and download this book power of your Subconcious mind by Joseph Murphy .....it can solve all your problems trust me,...if u can't get it I can and a copy to u

sisisioge:
Hmmm, my idea of "lighting me up like a bulb" has nothing to do with fairytale. It has everything to do with reality. Can you imagine doing anything for a non relative just to keep that person breathing? Yeah, he's got to be super important to you. I haven't met anyone that had me feeling that...I long to meet someone like that.

About lighting someone up...I'm already a great person. I hope the feeling I desire for me will be mutual for him too. Trust me...na ultimate search!

LOL...just take it easy. Don't judge a book by its cover, get to know them, you might be in for a pleasant surprise. Happy searching

What's happening to you happens to us men too!. There are 'plenty' of women but the 'marriable' ones are few. Likewise women, they have taste. Nothing is wrong with you, just continue in prayers and never go for shortcut. 'We' men ain't "choosy" but we have taste too. No lady needs a soothsayer to diagnose my problem once she visits my living room. "Too perfect" is the 'sickness'. Even a single sand in the kitchen floor, not to talk of the bedroom or the living room gets me angry. My mother has already prophesied that it's only Angel from heaven that will suit me. I am not worried, that Angel will come when God sends her. Never you worry about your so called situation, the Lord will give you your real bone when it pleases him. Shalom

Well....i often think if anybody else do pass tru wot dis op is going tru nw.. d truth is , u v nt found d right ribs dis makes u been choosy.. just pray to find d right person.. wuld like to knw u better op... Whatsapp me. 08068825376

seizethaBae:
if u guys no d level of my seriousness walah iu wont take it as a joke. shams040 im not here to look for patner/husband but to find experience pple to diagnose what could be wrong with me or if it happens to most ladies before they settle down. Experience pple pls respond plsssss

I will like to meet you

JeffreyJamez:
Guy!!...... The babe na Asset o! .....send PM shaperly... I ready to design your wedding IV for free! .......no wait!... Not free... But 50% off!

Hahahaha. I'm pretty sure lots of fake guys on Nairaland would send her PMs.

Sirbun:
Write me immediately or whatsapp me.. 004915145930419 or 004915217118711,, I don't care where you came from just reach me

Another heart ❤ breaker spotted...

Berbierklaus:
Nothing is wrong with you...
Not even spiritually,because from your writeup every other thing is working fine.
Marriage is not something you force,desperation has led a lot of ladies to the grave.
Marriage will come when its right.

Have you checked your attitude? are you nice and approachable?
If you believe you have ticked everything tickable to be marriageble,you have nothing to worry about,marriage will come but you need to put in some extra efforts.
1)Subtle advance/green light : Go the extra mile to show you are likeable and loveable.

2)Do not show desperation

3)Mingle with men of marriageble age

4)Pray and commit your fears to God.

Please never ever be desperate,it will be a disaster if you fall in wrong hands,you will wish you were single again

pls can we do shoki?

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

you women are the cause of ya problem!

you want handsome

you want tall

you want gentle


you want money


you God fearing

you want respect



did you think we are telemundo

always imagining rubbish where that one someone next to you maybe your husband but you have friend zone him or break his heart.


naija women are rubbish

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

I just bought a Wedding RING, problem is Mrs Right hasn't been found.

ogboni76:
Thanks for the advice, since you've already aquired yours please where can I aquire mine?

It's acquire Sir..
Try Shoprite Sir..

Eddodoh:
Where do you based because I owe you a lunch. What a fabulous piece of a dvice?

thanks bro, FCT ,Abuja

I'm single too. Looking for a wife but I'm not desperate o, everybody is desperate for me.

ojinuocheibi:
will you marry me?

Another heart ❤ robber spotted...

KevMitnick:
LOL...just take it easy. Don't judge a book by its cover, get to know them, you might be in for a pleasant surprise. Happy searching

thanks

akeensbussy:
The problem with most Nigerian Ladies is too much of Telemundo and South Korean Movies. These movies and soap operas are just fantasy, they are not real.

Love is not the basis for marriage....It is a sign of a good and successful marriage.

It develops while u are in the marriage...Love is not constant, Love is blind..U can love someone today and hate the person tomorrow.

It take 2 to tango....those qualities of the opposite sex u put up there a mere wishes and u can never get them......I met my wife online, went to her place the second week, started leaving with me the fourt week, got pregnant and we married the 6th week and we are still together after 6yrs. There was no love or feeling when I met her, but today we are like bread and butter with 2 kids.

u have not make up mind...u are not ready.

U are still very young.

yes no mind these girls,those people who playing that characters in d movie no get marriage o,

Onegai:
There's a difference between dating a guy you're not sure of and dating a guy you are wondering what you're doing there. I have been on dates where I wondered what made my legs come to this place and i have been on dates where I was hoping the guy would like me but inside me I was baffled why I was setting my standards so low.

See, if you think this longings you have and loneliness you feel are bad, try getting married to someone whom in a year's time you think to yourself "maybe I should have waited a bit longer". That is the truth of so many marriages, each spouse thinking "maybe, just maybe if I had stayed a bit longer, the next guy/girl was The One". So don't rush. The only people who can live a happy life in a loveless marriage are those whom are able to effectively distance themselves from any sort of emotion: happiness doesn't carry them away and neither does Sorrow. They are pragmatic to the core. That's less than 15% of the world's population. You're not one of them, because this is getting to you. You get?

If the pressure gets to you, get off social media. Why bombard yourself with a million pics of your classmates posting pictures of smiling babies and happy husbands and blissful peace? You're not jealous, just being sensible: no need to punish yourself looking at cake when you're dieting. You get?

What are your interests? Go find them. It is better to find someone who likes you the way he met you. So if you like going out, it's better to meet a guy in a club than meet him in church and pretend to be what he wants for a ring and dying inwardly. Go pursue your interests.

When you meet a guy, take a look at your list. Find the one thing that you really need, not what you desperately want. The first thing in my list was a Strong Sense of Humour and Wit. But every single witty guy i met didn't want me. Guys are weird, they want girls they can impress, not girls that can match up to their skills. That Intelligence factor you crave, well those guys will friendzone you so quickly for that chick who thinks a Sidney Sheldon novel is deep intellectual thinking and puts up motivational pictures which she barely understands. That's why every wise woman will tell you to "laugh at his jokes and don't crack yours ". You get?

Live and love your life. Don't wait around for Prince Charming, go out there, attend the ball like Cinderella did. He may be waiting there. Enjoy this minute because you are never getting it back. You get?

You're gonna be fine. Fist bump!

Hello can I send you a pm