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seizethaBae:
Let me chip in one or two thing abt dis ex of mine,bcus pple are getting it really confusing. When he askd me out,i like him(note:like),den in between d r/ship i noticed dis guy is rough(not rough of rough-rough) but d kind of rough that doesnt makes a guy to brush his hair,he might nt use soap to tk his bath,might not brush his teeth by 3pm nd still want to kiss me,we can park nd buy boli nd groundnut on d road side nd dis guy will b eating d boli hungrily sometyms eating with half of d paper dey used to wrap it,he can decide to use hand to b eating rice hungrily(we are both uni grad),den u know most pple realise they have saliva on their pillow wen they woke up(no biggie,i do dat wen i slept very tired,or eat yummy food at nyt without brushing my teeth nd slept off,but i dont feel comfortable with d pillowcase again without washing it)bcus of d nature of dis guy's biz(he owns a restaurant nd event),he eats all dis yummy foods late nd drop loads of saliva on his pillow accumulatively nd daily,now imagine me coming to say hi to my bf on saturday,nd i said i shld lie down on his bed(he was staying with his parent den) nd every inch i move smells saliva,he doesnt care how he looks,nd to sum it up,u might ask him what 9/11 is and he will tell u it happend in abuja or lets even look for a simpler example:lets saying we were both reading a simplest comic internet joke nd i expect us to burst into laughter togeda but i'll have to explain to him like 3tyms before he got d joke behind it. He started building one irritating wide chest muscle,i hate fat guys with extreme muscles.I can go on and on,nd i know most comments dat will quote dis post is;why dint i tell him to adjust;i was only 21 wen i met him,i was more of an introvert den,i couldnt confine in anyone nd i assumed men have ego,i wouldnt want him to feel bad or uncomfortable around me. So before d end of d third year,all dis things continue (many more stuffs too lenghty to type),so d likeness reduced drastically(remember we were just on 'like' phase initially) so my subconcious mind were always ahead of me,even wen he bought 30k perfum,i still smell 'spit' (subconcious mind),even wen he's in d midst of his friends arguing abt football, i feel ashamed even tho i know nothing abt football(but my subconscious mind had already tagged him(below average)so i will assume he doesnt know wat he is arguing abt,even wen he just pick his car frm d carwash,my nose still smell rotten salad. It was war,i was trapped bcus he is a good,kind hearted man. Nd i was believing it was d devil behind dis subconcious mind,hence i started praying. Nothing worked. Anyone can comment nd crucify me,but believe me u werent in my shoe,i felt all wat happend,i began to felt 'raped' anytim i attempt to even kiss him(it was dat bad). I never had sex with him,my body cant even connect with him,nd i tink we only kissd d first few mth of d r/ship. No intacy,nothing watsoever after den,he felt it,we later discussed it(but i dint tell him his flaws,bcus even tho he has/will change) its like cleaning faeces on d surface of a plate,believe me u remember d feaces if u decide to eat wit dat same plate even after washing it.he told me to hang on,dat i will hv feeling for him,so months to to several months,sev mths turnd to 3yrs!!! It goes on and on nd much more deeper dan d few things i listed. Trust me,u can believe its a minor thing i can manage if i marry him...,but i know d marriage cant last a week. Believe me if i were to be 27 wen i met him,i would hv made d same decision,i taught wat i did was wrong until i read a woman's interview nd they askd her y she love/married her husband nd her response was:he is intelligent,nd wen dey ask d husband d same que:he wrote:my wife tks her bath at nyt nd rub baby powder on her body,dat turns him on since day one nd will always turn him on.

My sister, having gone through your feelings over this subject, I felt for you. I would wanna let you understand that you are a perfect person and nothing wrong with your present state. You took the right decision not to have gone into the above relationship no matter what. If you had gone into it, by now, you would have ended up regretting that action.

For now, nothing is wrong with you.As an introvert then when you went into the above relationship for about 3yrs, it affected your person, hence the chances of getting into another relationship and building it up, has become a problem. It's like having your past hunting your present.

There are lots of responsible and God fearing guys out there.Look within the environment were you work ( Not same office though), your area of worship, good mall on a weekend, laundering outlets or good parks on a weekend, you can be lucky to come across a good guy that you can develop interest on. With God, all things are possible. Delay is not denial. At 27, you are not too old.

I hate guys who don't wanna understand the importance of neatness. Most guys do not know the importance of having their toiletries in place. Some guys would take their bath without putting on their role on deodorant. They just spray their body cologne and off they go.

I would wanna tell you that the environment you stay or where you find yourself could attribute to your present state. Take a week off to a neutral place and maybe God might end up connecting you with a nice guy and you can now check him out to know if that's what you want.

Good luck and stop thinking negatively. God is with you.

sofadj:
OP,
You are not ALONE.
Like many ladies/women, you DO NOT know what is needed to maintain a relationship/marriage.
Study your self, find a man who is compatible with you.
By compatibility, I'm talking in terms of your attitude, beliefs and lifestyle.
If you find a man like that, marry him. Period.

Your relationship with your ex probably failed because it lacked
Commitment - You entered into it with trial in your mind. There will be a limit to how much you will want to sacrifice in such circumstance.

Love is not mysterious, it's not magical too as we have been made to believe.
LOVE can grow, COMPATIBILITY can not.

After compatibility comes COMMUNICATION, and COMMITMENT

With these 3 things your marriage will last (Any relationship will, for that matter)

NOTICE I DID NOT INCLUDE LOVE.

Even with LOVE, without these 3 things, any relationship will collapse.
Men and women, choose wisely.
PM me to know more.



PS: Simply my opinion

classic I must say.

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

Please babe.....Have you tried a truck pusher or mai ruwa?

You may develop love for them..just try them and thank me later.

ADBOK:
THIS IS OBVIOUSLY A WELL TOLD REAL LIFE STORY, YOUR STORY. THE THING IS YOU ARE HEADED EXACTLY FOR THAT DESTINATION YOU NOW MORBIDLY DREAD - FORTY AND STILL FLIPPANT! YOU SEE GOD IS NOT WICKED. NATURALLY WHEN A LADY CLOCKS 21 YEARS OF AGE, THE TENDENCY IS FOR HER TO SEEK SOME FORM OF COMPANIONSHIP THAT MEANS YOU HAVE HAD 6 GOOD YEARS TO PICK AND CHOOSE AND YET HERE YOU ARE. MY INFERENCE IS YOU REALLY DON'T WANT TO GET MARRIED, YOU DON'T WANT SOMEONE YOU CAN HAVE A BIT OF A STRUGGLE WITH TO BRING ABOUT LASTING ENDURING BOND. YOU WANT THE PERFECT MAN EVEN THOUGH YOU WRITE OTHERWISE! THINK ABOUT THIS, WHAT IF THAT STRUGGLING NOT TOO 'NEAT' FELLOW JUST AROUND IN YOUR NEIGHBOURHOOD IS THE DESIRE OF GOD FOR YOU, WOULD YOU BE WILLING TO SETTLE WHOLEHEARTEDLY WITH THAT CHOICE? STOP LETTING PEOPLE HERE DECEIVE YOU, GOD IS NOT BRINGING ANYMAN FOR YOU DEAR, HE'S PROBABLY BROUGHT HIM AND YOU REJECTED HIM BECAUSE "YOU COULDN'T LOVE HIM". SAD...

I know you are trying to make a point ...but all capitals.

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

how about we get to know each other better and see if we could reach to common ground on the subject raised by you 08148608184

dytbabe:
Wow
Straight up you got a hook up
Congrats in advance

You shouldnt congratulate her yet. All I see ahead of her is confusion. She will have many guys showing interest in her on nairaland and she will get confused on which to choose among them.

5. Good Christian men know their worth too
and don’t want to settle either: Yea ladies…men
are understanding their worth a bit more
too.Christian men are getting more and more
comfortable attending relationship seminars and
getting information about seeking God’s face for a
wife. They are realizing how powerful of an impact a
wife has on the outcome of their lives and ministry,
and they are spending more time trying to see what
is beneath the surface. They know that a woman can
make or break everything. They realize that a
woman’s desires can accelerate him towards purpose
or derail him.
They are praying more and they are realizing that
while you still remain a prize, they too are precious in
God’s eyes and want to do right by him. They are
realizing that a wife can make or break a man.
Yes they are praying for a Ruth but they are also
praying against Delilah as well.
The Boaz, David or Joseph kind of man knows his
worth too.
6. Many Christian ladies have no testimony
with men: A few years ago, an older friend (a
number of years older than me) came up to me after
a church program and asked me about a lady in my
church. Who she was and what she was like as a
person.
I didn’t stop talking for minutes. They were married
about a year later.
Same thing happened to Ruth. (Ruth Chapter 2 from
Vs 3) Boaz came back from a trip, saw Ruth and
asked his Foreman “Who is that and who does she
belong to”, to which the foreman answered and gave
a fantastic testimony of her character. (See Boaz’s
response in Vs 11)
Here is a secret ladies, you know how you like a guy
and try to keep it to yourself until your girlfriends
force a confession out of you? We guys don’t do that.
The moment we think we are interested in you, we
are telling someone and we are asking around about
you….and we are asking our MALE friends/mentors.
Because we know they will tell us like it is and of
course won’t spread it all around church and make
things suddenly awkward or cause all the sisters to
start giving the dirty eye next Sunday. Bro code.
The truth is that even Christian ladies can be toxic
sometimes when it comes to how they treat men who
they don’t consider a prospect. You forget that when
the real prospect comes and is interested in you, he
will ask other men…some who may never have
approached you but who have watched you from
afar, and yes some who may have had an interest in
you but you didn’t like. How did you handle those
situations? (You totally need to read that article link
above…especially the 2nd part of that series)
The Boaz, David or Joseph kind of man looks deeper
than the surface beauty. They look for testimonies of
the woman’s character
7. Many Christian women want a Proverbs 31
Man: That’s not a typo. Pick up your Bible and read
Proverbs 31 again with fresh eyes… from the
perspective of the character of that woman…and you
will see that those qualities are the ones that many
women are looking for in a man when they should be
busy developing those qualities themselves.
Single Christian men are reading that passage
looking for those qualities in a woman, and women
are putting that passage down and instead looking
for those qualities in a man.
The Boaz, David or Joseph Kind of man has read
Proverbs 31 and wants her.
8. Many Christian ladies want to be married
but they are not truly ready to be led: They
want to marry a boyfriend but not a husband. They
want only a partner but not a leader. They want an
emotional prenup that things will always be 50:50.
They say they will concede authority to God himself
but in their heart, they are not willing to be led by his
representative in the home. What I am about to say
next I say with the utmost respect to women.
Men were created to lead at home. Now, with that
leadership comes accountability to God meaning that
God holds him accountable and will punish him first
for bad leadership. But a man cannot be accountable
for a woman he can’t lead….and a Christian man
does not want to be over anything he can’t be
accountable to God about.
The Boaz, David or Joseph kind of man is a great
servant leader like Jesus Christ…but he is a born
leader and he knows it
9. Many young married Christian women are
painting a fairytale picture of marriage to their
single ladies
Many young married women are doing a major
disservice to single women. These young married
women create a fairytale picture of weddings and
marriage to their single friends. They love being the
center of attention and talk up how dreamy it is.
Perfect Instagram photos, perfect wedding photos,
expensive glamorous weddings, perfect Facebook
updates, photos and so on. Is there anything wrong
with that? No. It would just help a lot more when
married young women keep it real with their sisters
and tell them that the wedding day does not make
the marriage. It would help a whole lot more if they
sit their single friends down and talk about the
importance of a praying wife, a strong wife, a
submissive wife (to a Godly man) and how contrary
to popular opinion, the faith of a wife is both a
weapon for the family and its defense as well.
Instead, they get their single sisters all dreamy eyed
and waiting for a perfect story and a perfect man…
waiting for KalEl from planet Krypton with the big “S”
on his chest and a red cape, when they should look at
Clark Kent from Planet earth.
The Boaz, David or Joseph kind of man knows that
the wedding is not the marriage and doesn’t want to
create an impression he can’t maintain.
Sisters, God has a beautiful story of love written for
you. Am I saying settle? No way. But I am saying look
at these men through the eyes of Christ. Get your
pride out of the way. Don’t define your marital
success by how well your wedding day or “lifestyle”
stacks up with other women. Most importantly, start
seeing yourself as a true (not just perceived) gift
from God that can bring God’s favor and blessings
into your husband’s life because that’s what you are.
So work to BECOME that and I truly truly wish you a
love-filled, Christ centered happy marriage when it
does happen.
You can add me up on whatsapp @ 09095009511 or email me @ martinenui461@gmail.com if you find it difficult to understand what I ve said or still having more issue contact me,and again invite me on your wedding day coze I know it coming soon.have a good nyt.

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

Hi

27 is not old.
Marriage is not a bed of roses....you want the fairytale the reality is different.

To meet intelligent guys you need to be in the right place. Also your intelligent guy, could be known to you already.

Lust fades.....you must have other things to talk about.

Intelligence sometimes doesn't have a lot of letters after their name.
Open yourself up

Op, I don't mind marrying u oo. Am also s and s (single and searching) and am almost tired of this search

OnyeIbo:
Ghen Ghen!
What do you know!
Don't be sacarstic with her. We know what she meant when she said that she wants intelligent guys.
Some guys are just very bad. I am sure she meant 'average guys'
I can relate with that.

seriously bro, I wanted her to fully refine herself before looking for intelligent guys. For example, I also wanted an intelligent girl so I knew I needed to improve my IQ. Also I wouldn't want a girl with big tummy so I ate boiled fish, boiled chicken without the skin, steamed lettuce and spinach, and coconut oil-made omelette every day in order to maintain a flat tummy. I still don't eat rice, beans, yam, and other starchy foods.

Most often than not, humans expect what they can't give. There's more to life than that jare.

sirTesco:
I love´this, first. I must thank you for your sincerity.There is a solution to this and is very simple if you dont mind.
1.Tell your priest/ pastor about this and ask for his prayer
2.Buy this books,Holy Bible, THE IMPOSSIBLE IS POSSIBLE BY JOHN MASON, THINK AND GROW RICH BY NAPOLEAN HILL
3.Avail yourself in church activity
PLEASE,
NOTE.Before the end of the last page by John mason and Nepolean Hill,the light ll shine.It work miracle. This secret is a Treasure if you wholeheartly applied it, seeing you celebrating.

So, holy john mason, and holy nepotism hill will go find husband for her abi? na dem kidnap her husband abi? a don hear

Nigayoyo:
seriously bro, I wanted her to fully refine herself before looking for intelligent guys. For example, I also wanted an intelligent girl so I knew I needed to improve my IQ. Also I won't want a girl with big tummy so I eat boiled fish, boiled chicken without the skin, steamed lettuce and spinach, and coconut oil-made omelette every day in order to maintain a flat tummy. I don't eat rice, beans, yam, and other starchy foods.

Most often than not, humans expect what they can't give. There's more to life than that jare.

You should eats beans....to reduce starchy food eat more protein and exercise.

Lleigh:
I know you are trying to make a point ...but all capitals.

Milady there are worse things in the world that should be the focus of your complaint not my seemingly inconsequential use of the uppercase letters...

Chubhie:
You place premium on intelligence.Has it occurred to you that your ideal husband could be too busy locked away with passion in putting his intelligence to work?

Paths MUST be crossed either through angelic orchestration or self-help.

Dont appear desperate cos an intelligent dude can spot such from one mile radius.

Look for locations or places you feel your ideal intelligent dudes congregate and adapt to such environments.

Iron sharpens iron.you MUST first become that which you desperately seek.

It must be a give and take situation with that which you seek or you end up bored and miserable with them.

Can you be comfortable with a Seun sitting in front of his computer all day and coding in alien languages without having his bath?

You talk of an ex being all perfect yet you can't love him? You must understand that love is a fleeting sensation and barely enough to see you through marriage.

If that your ex ticks all the other boxes why not work on yourself and reconsider him?

You can not have everything on a plater of gold else that's rigging from your maker.

Perhaps,your maker is looking up to you to make this one decision.Such a wise God!

Are you my Sensei?

Why always women?

Well, OP, I'm very intelligent o, and I don dey feel like to marry

The only problem now be say I can only marry a very beautiful woman

So my question is: are you beautiful... very beautiful?

seizethaBae:
if u guys no d level of my seriousness walah iu wont take it as a joke. shams040 im not here to look for patner/husband but to find experience pple to diagnose what could be wrong with me or if it happens to most ladies before they settle down. Experience pple pls respond plsssss

Try to love those who loves you,Its better to be loved by a man.He will be willing to do anything for you.We women we re emotional,and most times we can't really get the kind of man we dream of,but out of a nonsense God can make a sense.Give those men u say u gat no feelings for a chance and you might see the Treasure you are about to lose.

If not for the fact that I had propose, I would have surprised u cos ur description is just me. Except that I get money

It's not about being choosy; its far better to be choosy and marry the right person. You probably aren't looking in the right places. Be tactical.

That makes us two then

After reading all ur writeup, I still have questions to ask? What do u actually want? Let me start from my own point I was once a womaniser then people wia like I can't marry or get a good wife but when the time comes (never said the right time)if the time comes lady u will get married ,to my own best of knowledge ur still looking around for a particular choice of a man not ready yet to settle down. When ur ready he is fat or slim or educated won't be the question rather this is what I want. He has a good heart,he love me so much and so on. Honestly speaking my wife happens to be a blessing to me but I never dated a lady like her before in size, I met her and propose to her just because am ready to marry. Marraige has no rule is just all about u and him. Most people telling u what to do have u asked urself or check if the person is happily married cos a single guy can't just tell me things about marriage Yes sweet and bitter but when ur ready and needed to u will overcome the bitterness and make it sweet ,who is perfect? To some people ur just a mere lady with ur level of education while some will value u, my point is this when ur ready to marry make up ur mind and do so. Work on urself ok think twice.

Sister meself they find girl wey i go marry, you know they say age is just a number, so chilax lets have a date, who knows we might be compatible
*no pix,

shams040:
OK, sorry for dat.

Well to me every one as it destined time for everytyn. Just keep up wit d prayer and attitude I knw d one who created man from a clot of blood wld give u one very soon in an unexpected way.

man was never a Clot of blood according to Biology

Nigayoyo:
Dear, I could have suggested hooking you up with some of my friends but your written English needs adjustment. First try working on that since you also want intelligent guys!

I have seen a guy who put on blazer ontop agbada. shey na can or could be the yastick or error free life den they take measure IQ?

I look forward to reading or writing a book titled: 'Marriage and the Nigerian Society'. The pressure, especially on our ladies, nowadays, is just too fvck!ng much.



Op u sef, all eyes open, hmmm?

Egungun be careful

Please try and marry one of those guys that you don't like because with time you will grow to love him.

Alot of women are not happy in their marriages. Most women are living in regrets especially some that got married at a very early age. Live ur life my dear and pray that God shows U d way and also direct ur partner to locate U.

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady

Tick tock tick tock..... Time is running out

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

you are proud

drop that and ur wish will come true

Chubhie:
You place premium on intelligence.Has it occurred to you that your ideal husband could be too busy locked away with passion in putting his intelligence to work?

Paths MUST be crossed either through angelic orchestration or self-help.

Dont appear desperate cos an intelligent dude can spot such from one mile radius.

Look for locations or places you feel your ideal intelligent dudes congregate and adapt to such environments.

Iron sharpens iron.you MUST first become that which you desperately seek.

It must be a give and take situation with that which you seek or you end up bored and miserable with them.

Can you be comfortable with a Seun sitting in front of his computer all day and coding in alien languages without having his bath?

You talk of an ex being all perfect yet you can't love him? You must understand that love is a fleeting sensation and barely enough to see you through marriage.

If that your ex ticks all the other boxes why not work on yourself and reconsider him?

You can not have everything on a plater of gold else that's rigging from your maker.

Perhaps,your maker is looking up to you to make this one decision.Such a wise God!

best comment av red so far. God bless u.

seizethaBae Love is a choice not a feeling. Likeness is a feeling. And even at that love is not enough for marriage. Look for an intelligent,responsible and God fearing man as you said. However have it in mind that there is no perfect guy out there. Pls watch the movie ' The Perfect Guy' it's a 2015 black American movie.

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

Your problem is bigger than what we solving here...just go and settle yourself