Toks2008:
The primary duty of the man in marriage is to provide the basic needs of his family talking about the wife and the children while the primary role of the wife is to nurture the husband and the children which is the perfect definition of help mate.

Now it is important to note that no two marriages are the same and what works for you may not work for the other person and the fact that a man provides all the needs of the family does not mean that he can't assist the wife to do some of her primary duties if needs be and a wife who has become the breadwinner may also not mind playing her primary duties without any support from the husband .

But nevertheless i sincerely believe that every man whose wife have become the main bread winner or a co-bread winner to realize that it is very expedient for him to be ready to also be a co-nurturer of the family and also perform the primary duties of the woman such as cleaning the house,cooking,taking care of the children and helping the wife to do things that will ease off the stress from her.

I have heard of several cases where a man who is fully financially dependent on the wife still expects her to do all the domestic activities and prepares all three course meals and some men even get so angry with the wife because she complains of tiredness.

It is very wicked and uncaring for a man whose wife is also a partaker of his primary duties to still expect the lady to fully take care of the home front and this does not make you less a man but will rather encourage the woman and not make her look like a slave in the house.

I know some men will say it is not in our tradition as Africans to do domestic chores and I sincerely agree but we must also understand that it is also not an Africa tradition for a woman to be a breadwinner.

I don't know if this makes sense.

doveda:
So if I pay MY children school fees and feed MY family, I become the husband of the home....seriously toks, can we get dvmber than this
My husband is no less of a man or a father or a husband if he does the chunk of house chores. Unless of course, you are insinuating that house chores is for slaves and subhumans.

LuvU2:


may no woman i knw ever consider a man like you

may u marry a strong headed, disobedient, irrational, illogical woman

may your home be a battle field, a ridicule, nd scorn of the whole world

Amen Amen!

funnyworld:
Nice one! time to know the responsible nairalanders and also the irresponsible ones. By their comments, you shall know them. sorry ooo, by their fruits, you shall know them.

wrongnumber:
Hog wash.

A wife must still play her full role even if she is the full breadwinner.

If I like I help and if I like I won't .

Oga toks I be your fan but i don't agree with this one.

doveda:
So if I pay MY children school fees and feed MY family, I become the husband of the home....seriously toks, can we get dvmber than this
My husband is no less of a man or a father or a husband if he does the chunk of house chores. Unless of course, you are insinuating that house chores is for slaves and subhumans.





@Jarizgod, when men who earn higher than their wives disrespect their wives and treat them like trash, we don't attribute it to their earning power or gender. Neither do morons say it derogates femininity. However when it involves stvpid women treating their spouses like trash you conveniently blame it on her earning power and the how the feminine gender is prone to bad behaviour and the audacity to tell us how it makes a their spouses less of a man.



Your logic....you are indeed very smart..

Thanks dear..it's Jarizod btw not jarizgod

RoadsAndGreen:
there are some chores you can ask a man to do as a married man and there are some exclusive to women. A man should have little or no business in the kitchen. a woman on the other has no business cutting grasses or changing light bulbs.
that's how I personally see it. if you think differently please don't try to bite me lol

Joy1706:

What role would you be playing then? Couch warmer? If I hear say you no put hand for house chores eh? Cooking o, cleaning o every every. Or you sit there and starve na

vectoh:
rubbish! wetin buhari talk about rice today abeg?

johnson232:
Na dem francis tony be dey open this kind of thread, op use to be a correct gee...

op NL women don dey threaten u?

this thread get as e be bros....

LuvU2:


may no woman i knw ever consider a man like you

may u marry a strong headed, disobedient, irrational, illogical woman

may your home be a battle field, a ridicule, nd scorn of the whole world

Amen Amen!

johnson232:

This thing still dey alive?

johnson232:

Sharraaap!!!

See your small yanshh..

Joy1706:

But when it's time to eat, you can open your mouth and eat. Exclusive my azz. What's there in changing bulbs?

Joy1706:

Why e no go get as e be? Any post that does not attribute suffering to women will not be favourable to you na. May your daughters marry men like you. Amen

funnyworld:

excess weed at work. sorry ooo. You must be among the irresponsible ones but it's not too late for you to change

Rexhenrex:
[b]the thing is this,whether or not the wife is the main contributor of the family or the man is there should be a balance the husband and wife are supposed to help each other out...the husband should also participate in chores same as the wife it doesn't mean that since the husband is the bread winner he won't do chores but and when he is not and the wie is the bread winner then he is expected to do chores no...them both should liase as husby and wify to get things smoothly running irrespective of who puts food on the table,and that is why marry a virteous humble wife is paramount because when u marry a fine irrational beautiful girl and she happens to be the one putting food on the table then its finished.to me as a man even if u are the bread winner it doesn't stop you from do something romantic like cooking for ur wife and bathing your kid ain't no taboo if its the wife thats the bread winner always encourage her and it doesn't mean the husby should be a slave she could still wash his cloths...thats why at the long run marrying someone with a good heart superseeds beauty and other things.[/b]

johnson232:
U want me to slap u now?

doveda:
So if I pay MY children school fees and feed MY family, I become the husband of the home....seriously toks, can we get dvmber than this
My husband is no less of a man or a father or a husband if he does the chunk of house chores. Unless of course, you are insinuating that house chores is for slaves and subhumans.





@Jarizgod, when men who earn higher than their wives disrespect their wives and treat them like trash, we don't attribute it to their earning power or gender. Neither do morons say it derogates femininity. However when it involves stvpid women treating their spouses like trash you conveniently blame it on her earning power and the how the feminine gender is prone to bad behaviour and the audacity to tell us how it makes a their spouses less of a man.



Your logic....you are indeed very smart..

johnson232:

Amen

Yeye girl...

shegzy23:
ok, he should also wash her pant abi?thank u, u speak well, nonsense

LuvU2:

may no woman i knw ever consider a man like you
may u marry a strong headed, disobedient, irrational, illogical woman
may your home be a battle field, a ridicule, nd scorn of the whole world
Amen Amen!

LuvU2:

may no woman i knw ever consider a man like you
may u marry a strong headed, disobedient, irrational, illogical woman
may your home be a battle field, a ridicule, nd scorn of the whole world
Amen Amen!