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Feranchek:
Here's the thing, you like her a d she likes you. Her ONLY problem is the dear that you both MIGHT NOT get married. It's happened before and guess what.... till you both EVENTUALLY get married, I can bet my yesterday's bet9ja winning that it'll happen again. If the ONLY reason you both always quarreled and breakup is cos of HER fear of not getting to say "I do" to you, then you've got yourself someone to FIGHT for.

Now what to do:


Fight for her. How? Make her mom accept you cos she seem to be the bane of this problem. Don't be too nice or something, buh be her friend. Call her mom once a while to ask questions on issues you already know the answer to (just tomake her believe you trust her judgments), visit her once a while when your bae is at home. Be friends also with the family (especially the male folks)

On your bae.

There's really nothing much to do. Just keep reassuring her and NEVER give her any reason not to believe in the ULTIMATE goal. Try not to cheat on her (buh medical students sabi cheat..... Kai!!!!) Always tell her the truth.

When BEING A MAN with her, be kind with your words.

In general, WIN HER TRUST (cos you already have her love)

iWish you a happy relationship brov.

Feranchek:
Here's the thing, you like her a d she likes you. Her ONLY problem is the dear that you both MIGHT NOT get married. It's happened before and guess what.... till you both EVENTUALLY get married, I can bet my yesterday's bet9ja winning that it'll happen again. If the ONLY reason you both always quarreled and breakup is cos of HER fear of not getting to say "I do" to you, then you've got yourself someone to FIGHT for.
Now what to do:

Fight for her. How? Make her mom accept you cos she seem to be the bane of this problem. Don't be too nice or something, buh be her friend. Call her mom once a while to ask questions on issues you already know the answer to (just tomake her believe you trust her judgments), visit her once a while when your bae is at home. Be friends also with the family (especially the male folks)
On your bae.
There's really nothing much to do. Just keep reassuring her and NEVER give her any reason not to believe in the ULTIMATE goal. Try not to cheat on her (buh medical students sabi cheat..... Kai!!!!) Always tell her the truth.
When BEING A MAN with her, be kind with your words.
In general, WIN HER TRUST (cos you already have her love)
iWish you a happy relationship brov.

fayded:
thanks bro..ur spot on..right...we ve known each other for bout 4 yrs now..she should trust me...nd I umm..dunno bout visiting her mum..they stay in Lagos..I stay in d east here..nd dude..I no know..as I go take dey call her mumsy oo..dunno what to say..dnt even have her number..
and this girl ..just texted me now..asking us to be friends again..nd promise her something..
I dunno..between neuroanatomy and her..I dunno which is more difficult to understand..

thanks bro for ur advice..buh I no fit call her mumsy..

aaronson:
Okay, solution number one, work on your grammar maybe she don't even understand the messages you do send her on whatsapp that was why she blocked you, If you work on your grammar, it will solve half of your problem.

Feranchek:
A good friend of mine will always say "Bros soup wey hot, na small small dem dey take lick am"

Just start with the basis. You've both come a long way and it's high time you become friends with her momma. She'll be happy with such development. Ion know them both buh trust me, she'll come around if she see you're serious with her daughter.

Whenever you're both on hols, try visiting her here in Lasgidi (if you've got anyone here to stay with). It goes to show how much you wanna be with her and she'll value it ALOT.

fayded:
dude ur soooo right...she still loves me..she sent me some songs..the lyrics are like"don't let go,I wanna grow old together with you"..buh then she keeps insisting that she has made a decision..and wants to keep to it
I do not understand why someone would want to break up and at the same time..not want u to go..

Feranchek:
The only way to save yourself some thinking is to understand that women are a very confused and complicated creatures. What makes you think a gurl who claims not to want sex will be moaning when you touch her buh keeps telling you "fayded no... stop... I don't want....awww. ... I'm dying.... you're killing me.... stop please...." and then you stop and ask her " should I stop??" And I'm sure you already know the answer to that

They're very confused biko. Don't let her go. She loves you and you her.

fayded:
lolz..thanks man..I guess I have to ride ds wave out...I ll be honest tho..ds girl is stressing me..way way much more than neuroanatomy nd med.biochemical combined together..
never thought I'd ever say that

Feranchek:
Lol. Na woman na. Pele.

fayded:
baba ehh..even after all these days..she still no free..she said she won't go back on her decision..buh her dp on WhatsApp are love pics..nd we re friends..she even suggested some girls I should date..nd when I suggested a guy for her..she got angry and was like "I'm not a cheap slut"... I dnt know..what ma move should be..
should I be friends??..as in just friends..or should I keep making her see reasons why we should date??..or should I just back off and gve her space..
abeg reply..cos..I really suck at ds girl atuff

feranchek..hope u see ds

Feranchek:
You've done all you could bro. Give her space. Be her friend. Don't bring up relationship matters. Upload at intervals, pictures of your salf looking cool. If you've got a female cousin or good friend of yours that is pretty, upload her pictures on WhatsApp or BBM buh without any captions.


Most importantly, don't approach her with the relationship ish again. And REDUCE YOUR CALLS AND CHATS.

fayded:
dude..I speak and type well..I was just in a hurry..forgive ma grammatical typos..

nubian999:
That's unforgivable because I can't read it. I don't understand a word of it. "Be been " and you're a medical student? I bet your auto correct went crazy! Unforgivable! !!

fayded:
feranchek..thanks man..thanks a lot
I know I might be disturbing..buh ur d only guy dt I trust his advice now
she called me up ds nyt..nd asked for us to chat..mid way
.she brought up d relationship stuff..nd was like.."i ve already let go"..I told her..I haven't..nd tried to talk of other things..buh she was hell bent on talking bout it..nd she kept saying..am over u..am done wth us..
when I asked her ...one reason why we won't work..she said..life..
dude..I bared ma heart out to her..nd she said some pretty mean things..nd was now like.."my battery is at 8%..I have to go"..m sorry for d disrespectful things nd insulting things I said..
tmao we continue..goodnight"


dude..am outta words..I dunno whether she actually means ds breakup..I dnt even know what to say again..abeg more advice..thanks bro..

Feranchek:
Send me a pm

aaronson:
Yours is even worst than him who went to medical school, let me guess, you not a medical student, Are you?

kellycute:
@fayded, why are you acting like a puss.y? Come on, that babe is playing with your emotion taking u for a ride and u are there feeding her the more. You need to lay aside all this negative emotion and be a man for once. You gotta have to put her in her place. Acting nice or loyal aint finna cut it out. The more u act nice or wanna convince her d more she keep messing up with your head. My advice is that you should let go of her completely. You don't need her or her gabbage friendship. Next time she say * I am done with u or let jus be friend bla bla*, reply with *yea that is good but sorry my friendship is expensive u can't afford it.. I've got neuroanatomy to study.. U need to be on queue like everyone.
Abeg throway dis yeye negative emotion joor n be a man. NICE GUYS ALWAYS CARRY LAST. She gat low self esteem and that aint your business. Rubbish..

fayded:
..

umm..dunno how to do it oo..buh ds ma number..u can add me up on WhatsApp..09092537264
make I mention name..make u notice am..dunno how it works here..feranchek

fayded:
Okay guys... I really need ur help with this matter... My go of bout 2 yrs now... Just broke up with me.. She is a class above me in uni..we re both medical students she.. But am in med surg.. She is in a different course.. We be been best of friends since I be been in school.. And only started dating 2yrs ago.. Her reason for breaking up is dt.. We won't get married.. Cos she is a yr ahead of me.. Am older sha..nd she has tried breaking up to with me 3 times before.. But I held on.. ND we still got back together.. ND she told me to promise her.. Never to let her go.. Even if she wants to break up. Fast forward to last week Monday.. She started giving signs.. ND well I held on.. ND now ds morning.. We had a very long chat.. I got angry Nd decided to break up myself.. Cos she kept saying.. We won't get married.. We won't get married..
Nweiz... I took bk my word.. Nd said.. Am not breaking up again.. But she said.. She has been crying ever since.. She read it..
Long story short.. She broke up with me ds morning.. Nd blocked me on whatsapp .. Cos.. I refused to accept d breakup.. ND u know.. Kept saying we can work ds thru
My question is Wh do I do??...gve her space or what??..nd also..in d past..if we tried breaking up..we ended up as friends..nd from friends..we have sex..nd start dating again...now she is like..if we become friends..it will happen all over again...nd am her first..(dunno if ds info helps)..nd she is religious..too..am kinda umm..d golden rule kinda person..
one of her reasons is dt..she has weird dreams bout us..nd dt her mum said..we won't get married..
I know I sound somehow..buh..I kinda need u guys unalloyed advice..nd experience here..what do I do..ur free to insult me too..ds is ma first post here sha..thanks guys

..abeg make una forgive all my typo errors..I was in a hurry oo...nd I abbreviate a lot...one of d consequence of my very fast professors..

btw..ds morning...just now.she added me up on WhatsApp agn..nd was like..let's be friends..