LadyMessi:
*Runs to the room*
*Grabs MIC*

Birth Alert! Birth Alert!! Birth Alert!!!
Mamas join us to celebrate
Our priceless jewel who made her triumphant entry into the world in a grand style through VD.


God bless the remaining November mamas.
Our moto is :Baby alive, mother alive, while dady will be Rejoicing.

May the Almighty who did it to me do it to other waddling mamas.

Bs later

cc: iomoge2

Congratulations! Thank God for safe delivery.

Twogreatnations, congrats on the birth of ur twins, they are blessed.

iomoge2, ur teamies dropping it like hau.te

Safe delivery to the remaining waddling mamas.

Covenant Babies' dust to our ATC mothers.

hotmomma:
To God be ALL THE GLORY, i announce the birth of my son this morning thru vd. Kai it is well.
Bs coming soonest. Still soooo raw in my memory mehn.
all november mamas and so many i cant mention.

Do you know I had no idea you were pregnant? Did i miss your bfp announcement? At least I dint miss your birth Alert!!!! I'm super excited for you. Congrats and may your son always bring you and your family joy.

BellaElla:
There are so many things I wish I had known about motherhood before I became a mother. Perhaps I wouldn't have been so depressed right now.

I wish I had known that breastfeeding is so hard.
I thought that once I put to bed, milk would keep gushing.
I wish I knew that people would judge me so harshly because I introduced NAN to my son at 2 weeks because my milk production was too low, perhaps I would have lied that I was o EBF
I wish I had known that people would openly compare my son's weight to theirs at his age and tell me he isn't looking fresh and chubby cos am not on EBF. My son's birth weight is 2.9kg. He is 4 weeks old, pls is he supposed to be a giant?
I wish I had known that your in-laws think they can love your baby more than you and take better care of him than you can. Maybe I wouldn't have been feeling this cold rage at my DH right now for trying convince me to go back to EBF, when he was the one that pressured me into giving formula in the first place. Of course in laws can never be wrong
I wish I knew that childbirth would scar my body so bad, I always thought that the love I feel for my son would make me welcome a the wrinkles, fat and stretch marks. That is not my case. I feel terrible when I look at my pre pregnancy pics.
Mamas pls would man son become a drooling slowpoke because he is on formula
How do i increase an almost non existent milk supply. Breast pump isn't helping.
Mamas not on Ebf pls come out and say something. Tell me how you dealt with all these...

Cc feddy27, zaynie, helovesme, alphahandmaiden

Firstly your son is an individual, and every experience with him is likely to be unique to him. Even subsequent babies can shred the manual you used for the first/ previous. So there is no rule per se.

EBF is not a medal wining sport. As long as he is eating ok and is healthy, you are mentally and physically healthy then all else is secondary. I managed EBF, but i cannot hold it against anyone for not doing it , irrespective of their reasons. As a parent you so what you think is best for your child and no other person's opinion should matter.


The body changes can be a shocker, but i will ask you to try not to dwell on it too much. And dont wallow in any self pity. Eat well, eat healthy, excercise as often as you can and take care of yourself.

Remember it took you 9 months to add the weight, dont expect to loose it all in 4 weeks.

Ensure you are well hydrated,

use a good moisturiser, (mix some raw cocoabutter / shea butter with cold pressed coconut oil to make it easier to aplly ) and use it religiously. You will notice a difference after a few weeks.

Try and rest! Dont try and be superwoman! It only leads to illness and mental breakdown.

And if anyone oversteps their boundaries, dont feel bad when you tell them to stick their opinion where the sun dont shine!

Dont be letting anyone steal your joy! And that includes that silly voice in your head that makes you feel inadequate. Because that is the worst one of all, because people you can shut out or avoid but if you let negative thoughts creep in and settle, they are hardest to get rid of.

Affirm positivity and put it all in God's hands

A few memes below to help you on your way!

Twogreatnations:
BIRTH ALERT,

My princesses made their entrance yesterday at 10:00am. BS later please, vigilante is reeeeal!



Thanks to everyone on this beautiful thread.

Waw congrats teamie, we made it. God bless your princesses

Enejeta, besea, Sugarbuns, firsttymum, iomoge2, enque, hotmomma thank you so much for your encouragement, you mamas don't know how lifted you have made me feel. Mama iomoge2 you are too musshhhhh . So you remember that my peperempe pix

Wow mamas, so long a time. I pray that the Lord will do what only Him can do in our lives. Amen.

it's better you let it out than keeping it all stored up inside.....Depression isn't a good thing
pele dear, we love u!!

meanwhile, we never see ur LO for thread cuties o abeg sama us with plenty pix this week o

BellaElla:
Eneje..ta, be..sea, Sugarbu..ns, firstt..ymum, iom..oge2, enque, hotmo..mma thank you so much for your encouragement, you mamas don't know how lifted you have made me feel. Mama iom..oge2 you are too musshhhhh . So you remember that my peperempe pix

Good evening mamas, congratulations to new mummies, God bless ur Los, please am eight weeks can I take habib yogurt. Thanks

LadyMessi:
*Runs to the room*
*Grabs MIC*

Birth Alert! Birth Alert!! Birth Alert!!!
Mamas join us to celebrate
Our priceless jewel who made her triumphant entry into the world yesterday by 10:pm in a grand style through VD


God bless the remaining November mamas.
Our moto is :Baby alive, mother alive, while dady will be Rejoicing.

May the Almighty who did it to me do it to other waddling mamas.

Bs later

cc: iomoge2

Wao.
Claps! Claps!! Claps!!!
Jumping about happily.

Welcome Princess.
Momma and your internet aunties love u like kilode

@mummy bellaella and any other mum who feels inadequate!
Know this; there are women who are waiting to carry their babies, do you know the kind of prayers some of them pray? Some wish to have the worst body shape afterwards, some even say the don't mind if the have to undergo CS, provided the have their babies to show for it.
People will always talk, but no one can run you down without your consent. Be thankful for you can bottle feed your baby yourself, think about hundreds of babies born everyday whose mothers pass on due to the process that has scared you, do those babies turn out differently cos they weren't breastfed? Some of them turn out to be the best among their peers!
So my dear count your blessings!
Giving birth should be your greatest achievement not your greatest fear or shame”
The way your body looks after childbirth, has a story to tell, so keep your head high and be proud of your achievements!
Look at it this way...
"YOU'RE A TIGERESS WHO HAS EARNED HER STRIPES"!!!
#BeautifulThingsAreNeverPerfect
#LoveYourStripes

sugah:

Do you know I had no idea you were pregnant? Did i miss your bfp announcement? At least I dint miss your birth Alert!!!! I'm super excited for you. Congrats and may your son always bring you and your family joy.

Like
Chio.
Coding things.

So happy 4 u hotmomma.
Hugs.

BellaElla:
There are so many things I wish I had known about motherhood before I became a mother. Perhaps I wouldn't have been so depressed right now.

There's no need to be depressed dear. What u're going tru is absolutely normal and most, if not all, FTMs experience it. From inadequate BM supply to insufficient sleep/rest to unsolicited advice to unnecessary criticism to displeasure at how u look. It's all very normal. Infact, I think mothers here sum it up as "Vigilante is real!"
When I had my daughter I remember wishing one day that she was still in my tummy. She was just more controllable from there . I also started giving her Nan from 2weeks. I wonder how I managed to do EBF for that long sef. My nip.ples were cracked and so painful.
About d weight, with exercise and with time, u will lose it. Just love urself as u are now.
As for people's comments, u sef suppose know say people must always talk na. Download a sieve app and install in ur ears. So u take in d ones u need, and let go of the ones u don't. shikena.

hotmomma:
To God be ALL THE GLORY, i announce the birth of my son this morning thru vd. Kai it is well.
Bs coming soonest. Still soooo raw in my memory mehn.
Cc iomoge2 blessedmum feddy27 sugah helovesme onegai mamaoo contem11 zaynie all november mamas and so many i cant mention.

Congratulations.... God bless your LO

Just because its NOVEMBER.
We own the floor

Lets celebrate with LadyMessi who had her girl successfully.
Lets also celebrate with Hotmomma who had her boy successfully.

001.Besea ----------- 11|4 Welcome 2 our Princess
002. Bolseas ----------- surprise 22
003. Deyoola -----------10|21 Welcome 2 our Princess
004. Ebony13 ---------- 9|3 Welcome 2 our Prince & Princess
005. Florena -----------XY 4
006. Godmother -------- 10|22 Welcome 2 our Princess
007. Iomoge2 ------- 10|24 Welcome 2 our Princess
008. Jumayin ---------- 10|31 Welcome 2 our Prince
009. Jummy004 ------ XX 17
010. LadyMessi ------- 11|7 Welcome 2 our Princess
011. Lexajen ---------- XX 9
012. Missade ---------- 10|23 Welcome 2 our Princess
013. Mydeporch ------- XY 30
014. Oshey01 ---------- XX 22
015. Phummy1821 ---- XY 16
016. PrincessKF ------ 10|25 Welcome 2 our Prince
017. Princesskiki ------- XY 14
018. Pweetyface --------XX 7
019. Rejoice02 --------- 10|31 Welcome 2 our Princess
020. Roseval ----------- Pending 11
021. Sweetrie ----------- 10|31 Welcome 2 our Princess
022. Temmygal25 -------Pending
023. Twogreatnations -- 11|6 Welcome 2 our Princesses
024. XX01 ------------- XY 20
025. Hotmomma ----- 11|? Welcome 2 our Prince

From October.

2. Mamajesu
3. Ojac1
4. Marcjane 11|1 Welcome 2 our Prince
5. Chicmoni

This is the month the Lord God almighty has given us.
We would all go and bring forth our bundles of Joy in Jesus Name, Amen

#TeamNovember4SharpSharpDelivery
#TeamNoLoss

LadyMessi:
*Runs to the room*
*Grabs MIC*

Birth Alert! Birth Alert!! Birth Alert!!!
Mamas join us to celebrate
Our priceless jewel who made her triumphant entry into the world yesterday by 10:pm in a grand style through VD


God bless the remaining November mamas.
Our moto is :Baby alive, mother alive, while dady will be Rejoicing.

May the Almighty who did it to me do it to other waddling mamas.

Bs later

cc: iomoge2

Congratulations teamie..... welcome little one.

Congratulations to the new mama's that have put to bed, may joy and celebrations never cease from your homes!
May we always be thankful and have good news to share... Amen!!!

iomoge2:

Like
Chio.
Coding things.

So happy 4 u hotmomma.
Hugs.

Walahi! Serious coding o.
See hotmomma even your team captain did not know you were preggers

Congratulations Hotmama and LadyMessi. More of God's blessings in your life.

@BellaElla,

I gave birth a week before my SIL. You can imagine the kind of comparisons na. We both did our omugwo same time in my MIL's house. Imagine 3 months of unsolicited advice and subtle competitions. I won't lie and form that I was a saint. I gave as good as I got.

In hindsight, I would have handled some things better but it was terrible then. I wanted to do EBF and she wasn't. I had zero issues with my milk supply but her baby was much bigger than mine and everyone kept pressurising me to give formula and I finally gave in. Because, they would feed him formula if I was downstairs and he started crying. There were so many things that I won't go into now but I learnt how to do my own thing and grow a thick skin.

Even after how many years, it's still there. And I know they will continue to experience it because people generally like to compare. Who started walking first, who talked first, what position in class, etc. But my skin is tough and I really don't care. I pick the advice I listen to and throw the rest away.

Coldfeet:
Peal and boil the cocoyam till soft and pound like you would pounded yam, add small palm oil to it to reduce stickiness. When it's ready ( they maybe lumps) just dissolve into already simmering pot of orisirisi allow to boil a while then add the bitter leaf
( best if you get the fresh leaf and wash yourself cos those ones already washed may be mixed with some other leaf ) don't cook for long and it's ready.


Keep your mind off the issue and don't let it bother you(difficult I know) if you are tensed your body won't produce milk, take lots of hot fluid and keep putting her to breast and express as often as possible.

Please have it at the back of your mind that not all methods will work same way for everyone so you don't get disappointed and discouraged when it doesn't work for you! Our bodies are different and various factors send and unseen may hinder milk let down, it's just how nature made it and no fault of yours.

Have a beautiful Sunday ladies


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She sucked and was swallowing till she fell asleep this morning. Made the soup yesterday.
I pumped with manual without stress (90mils) from i)one breast as she was sucking only one well.
Dunno if all is well now. But ate the remaining soup today.

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Knock knock, please may i come in, yes u are welcome. Thank you mamas, am porting from ttc thread life & direct. Plz where z vc (mama zayine), i came wt a lot of dollars, pounds & all the goodies just give me ur account number.
Lols... I promise to be a good student through out my period of admission & to abide by rules & regulation of this institution.

Twogreatnations:
BIRTH ALERT,

My princesses made their entrance yesterday at 10:00am. BS later please, vigilante is reeeeal!



Thanks to everyone on this beautiful thread.

....now I have a birthday mate..hallelujah... Congrats....

realdentist:
@nicoleswizzi
@iomoge2
How una dey?

....my sister hmmm its not easy o....hmmmm I have been discharged from d hospital, d cervix closure improved a little...but not even up to 3cm..so doctor said since it improved, DAT we should go home and continue bed rest since it myt be stress induced, for this week till next week Monday, and if by Monday dey check again and it has not totally improved DAT he will have to go on with the cercelage...which is OK by me and DH. My baby sef just kip moving around, ist scan she was breech position, and 2nd Scan she was in cephalic position... Well I thank God...bcs even if I don't feel her kicks DAT much at least I feel her move sometimes.... Plz @realdentist..baby is a girl take note...lol...tnx for showing concern...

Thanks @ enque, mummytee, akorkor, sugarbuns, firsttymum and jazzyjazz for the encouraging words. You ladies really lifted my spirit. @ twogreatnations, your advice is duly noted. If you don't mind me asking, so what were their birth weights eventually?

@ bellaella, in all fairness, you are a beautiful woman. Even when you were pregnant, you looked absolutely fabulous. Let that cold rage dissipate into thin air. Truth is men can never really understand some of these things, I think it's the way they are wired. Like experienced moms have said, people will always talk, just sieve the needful and useful info and let go of depressing ones. I'm sure in a few months from now, you'll look back and be grateful for all you went through for your baby. It gets better everyday.

Hello mamas. how hv we been? I ve been MIA for such a long time. Congrats to those that have offloaded, and happy waddling to those still preggy.

nneejima:
Knock knock, please may i come in, yes u are welcome. Thank you mamas, am porting from ttc thread life & direct. Plz where z vc (mama zayine), i came wt a lot of dollars, pounds & all the goodies just give me ur account number.
Lols... I promise to be a good student through out my period of admission & to abide by rules & regulation of this institution.

waow congrats lol..welcome

@ bellaella I wonder why people can't mind dre business...so far ur baby is healthy...weda he's big or not its not dre business, dey did not carry pregnancy for u... God will help any1 DAT will come and tell me nonsense when I deliver, weda na in-law or not I don't care.... Dey will now tell me weda na dem help me carry d belle for 9 months or weda dey were dre when I was going tru pregnancy palava... In fact am waiting for DAT person... As I read ur story body just dey pepper me ehh hahahahahaha... I just feel like appearing dre to help shut anybody DAT wants to vomit nonsense from dre mouth...

You are welcome mama nneejima, stress free, which team are you, ur EDD

nneejima:
Knock knock, please may i come in, yes u are welcome. Thank you mamas, am porting from ttc thread life & direct. Plz where z vc (mama zayine), i came wt a lot of dollars, pounds & all the goodies just give me ur account number.
Lols... I promise to be a good student through out my period of admission & to abide by rules & regulation of this institution.

Let me drop my BS now before I am unable to again.

On Sat 5th of Nov, I went for my weekly antenatal feeling very tired. Doctor looked at me pitifully and said " madam , u have really tried let's bring this babies out tonight" I was like " u defiantly must be joking, I practically begged you this man ever since I was 37weeks but you said no, "you are fit madam, let's give VD a trial" He said OK, that he would examine me , only for him to tell tell me afterwards that I was in labor already and was 4cm dilated.

Haaaaa! Here I was, feeling no pains, hubby was at work, bags at home , fear gripped me. I became doubtful and decided to go to the other hospital I registered waddling like a whale......... Meanwhile I put a call across to hubby to inform him.

I got to the other hospital I registered, met my gynae and he asked " any problem madam" as I still saw him three days earlier. I told him I was feeling pains ( na lie o) that I just wanted him to check my cervix. He smiled and said you are not in pains but I insisted. He finally did and as he brought his big hands out of my Vjay , blood came out with the hand! I was so scared. He said " madam, you are in labour, and I can't allow you go anywhere" my body just come down, reality dawned in me Fine I had wanted the babies our but now that d real deal was here I became afraid. Hubby came to meet me and I was admitted into the labour ward at 6pm same day . I was told to change my clothes into the hospital gown Hubby went to get my bags.

I was given castor oil and warm milk and two tablets was inserted into my anus. At 7:05 pm I was in serious pains and was visiting the loo every twenty minutes , I was checked again ( chai that thing was painful) at 11pm and I was 7cm dilated, at this point I had started seeing stars.
Hubby kept massaging my back while I took deep breath but later the breathing technique wasn't working again I even shouted at DH to please leave me alone ooo, I don't want massage again.

A nurse with very big hands came to check again at 2am, as she inserted her finger, she got the shock of her life as I poked my finger into her eyeeye.She was so crude about it, she just kept searching as if she lost something precious inside my veejay! She left angrilly and a female doctor came to examine me, she was so gentle about it. I was just 8cm when I tot I should be fully dilated by now.

The doctor said she would rupture my membrane , she did and God my head started spinning. I screamed that I wanted to push oooooo. I was told not to and was taken to the delivery room..... Then the drama started.............

BellaElla:
There are so many things I wish I had known about motherhood before I became a mother. Perhaps I wouldn't have been so depressed right now.

I wish I had known that breastfeeding is so hard.
I thought that once I put to bed, milk would keep gushing.
I wish I knew that people would judge me so harshly because I introduced NAN to my son at 2 weeks because my milk production was too low, perhaps I would have lied that I was o EBF
I wish I had known that people would openly compare my son's weight to theirs at his age and tell me he isn't looking fresh and chubby cos am not on EBF. My son's birth weight is 2.9kg. He is 4 weeks old, pls is he supposed to be a giant?
I wish I had known that your in-laws think they can love your baby more than you and take better care of him than you can. Maybe I wouldn't have been feeling this cold rage at my DH right now for trying convince me to go back to EBF, when he was the one that pressured me into giving formula in the first place. Of course in laws can never be wrong
I wish I knew that childbirth would scar my body so bad, I always thought that the love I feel for my son would make me welcome a the wrinkles, fat and stretch marks. That is not my case. I feel terrible when I look at my pre pregnancy pics.
Mamas pls would man son become a drooling slowpoke because he is on formula
How do i increase an almost non existent milk supply. Breast pump isn't helping.
Mamas not on Ebf pls come out and say something. Tell me how you dealt with

Nigerians and this EBF madness. What's with all the guilt tripping? Now I understand why so many mothers LIE to people about exclusive breastfeeding, yet secretly they are feeding their babies ogi, soya, formula and even introduce solids at 4 months. How can someone claim a baby fed on formula will become a drolling slowpoke? Hian!!! What sort of unintelligent statement is that? What's the link between Down's syndrome and formula?

Even the foreigners that came up with the EBF concept do not make an issue of it or make mothers feel like failures.

Please do not starve your baby. If breast milk isn't sufficient or isn't filling him up, increase the number of formula feeds he gets a day. Your baby has to drink milk to add weight and achieve his milestones.

In the 60s, 70s, 80s and 90s , there was nothing like EBF. A lot of our grandparents, parents and even ourselves were not exclusively breastfeed for 6 months fed yet we all turned out well.

Personally, I have never hidden my support of combination feeding (formula plus breast milk) exclusively for 6 months. My son was on aptamil and breeastmilk for 6 whole months. I wasted money on madela electric pump (around 70k with this Buhari's exchange rate) and I couldn't get more than 20ml before I stopped wasting my time with it and tossed the thing in my kitchen drawer.

See eh, this EBF thing is just to clip the wings of the various formula manufacturers that were and are still making billions in turnover yearly from the sale of baby milk. It is also aimed to bridge the divide between the rich and poor as formula was previously seen as an option for the "rich". There's enough inequality in the world so just imagine what would happen if WHO comes out to publicly endorse formula This is my opinion and that of the other 'crazy' mums in the baby and toddler group I used to attend.

Yes, in laws can be wrong and sometimes you have to stand your ground and make your own rules. You have to tell your husband your stand and have him pass the message to his family.

I made my stand clear on my personal choices for my baby and I made sure my hubby/inlaws got the message loud and clear. Maybe you want to adopt this approach and be more vocal. My baby, my life and my responsibility. Every unsolicited opinion shall be met with a deserving response.

Most people do not look sexy during pregnancy and shortly after. Please do not be deceived by all the pictures you see on Instagram, et al. My tummy was riddled with stretch marks and I just stopped bothering myself about it. Now, they are barely visible.

Motherhood is a life changing experience. Focus on your happiness and your baby and trust me, you will return back to your pre-pregnancy state in no time. Rather than looking at your pre-pregnancy pics, look at pictures of your baby. I snap my son picture tire oh. Every outfit (even if it's sleepsuit) I will snap a picture . Anytime we are outdoors, I just dey snap dey go. the first time my son boarded a plane, oh la la, I was a snapping spree from departure lounge, inside the plane and till we landed. when I'm bored, I flick through my phone and marvel on how much he has grown. Those pictures today mean so,so much to me and I won't trade them for anything.

My dear, cheer up, be happy and enjoy this phase of motherhood. Eat well, sleep well, get your hair done, paint your toe nails and be merry. #poistivevibesonly

Babies grow so quickly. A time will come when you are busy chasing your baby up and down to eat a spoon of rice or sit still in a high chair, only then will you miss your bottle/formula days seriously.