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Good morning, please I need your advise and will be grateful if I get matured ones. I met my boyfriend early this year and I asked for his genotype which he told me was AA. But some weeks ago, we went to do the test and found out we are both AS. we went to four different labs and it was still the same thing. My boyfriend is of the opinion that we continue with the relationship and go for PGD(pre Implantation genetic diagnosis) but am not too convinced. I had been a victim of heartbreak several times and this guy seems to be the best man I have ever met. please I need your advise. No insults please,just advise me.

post this in the Family section, if you want serious advise.

thanks

My advice is look for another spouse.
Than to get children that would...

Who says she can't get d best advise in romance section?







Op please go for d pre implantation shii and if the results say u both can't marry then there is absolutely nothing u two can do abt it

nothing is wrong yet... is he giving hints of marriage?

Life is a risk. And marrying someone who has same AS genotype as you is risky. Very very risky. All you need so is visit a family who has done this before and are now living with the consequences.

But if the guy is buoyant enough for the medicals, then you can take the risk.

My dear the realities of marriage are different from relationship. In the relationship the guys sound very optimistic when they are love struck but when they get into the marriage and face reality they turn on you and most times begin to see you as the cause of all their generational problems. I've seen loving families turn to war zones because of this SS matter.

Answer the questions below then take a decision yourself:
1) how much does the PGD cost?
2) how many children do you guys want to have?
3) is he financially capable to bear the expenses of the treatment in addition to the cost of running a family?


From your answers above you know what to do.

Best of luck.

Pls dont take d risk o

DaddySLY:
nothing is wrong yet... is he giving hints of marriage?

yes he is.

dingbang:
Who says she can't get d best advise in romance section?
Op please go for d pre implantation shii and if the results say u both can't marry then there is absolutely nothing u two can do abt it

Thanks .....

juola:
Thanks .....

u welcome. And hey please keep a straight face, remember it's his fault and he lied to you in the first place. Don't let love blind ur eyes when it comes to the health of your children else u"d spend billions..

Nutase:
My dear the realities of marriage are different from relationship. In the relationship the guys sound very optimistic when they are love struck but when they get into the marriage and face reality they turn on you and most times begin to see you as the cause of all their generational problems. I've seen loving families turn to war zones because of this SS matter.
Answer the questions below then take a decision yourself:
1) how much does the PGD cost?
2) how many children do you guys want to have?
3) is he financially capable to bear the expenses of the treatment in addition to the cost of running a family?
From your answers above you know what to do.
Best of luck.

I had tried to call off the relationship but am unable to. Anytime I try to talk about it,I end up crying my eyes out.

Hmmn it depends on the size of your wallet..All this stuffs relating to genes are so expensive.If you guys are not that rich then you leave him.Number 2 is amniocentesis..I think a child's genotype can be figured out just like deformities and eliminated..That one solely depends on your views on religion and abortion and also your wallet .Number 3 is in vitro fertilization which for me is the best if you have money because many eggs will be harvested and I guess they can pick out the AS or AA one and flush out the rest..This one also depends on your views on IVF and religion and also your wallet.The last but not the least is to get married and take your matter to dunamis or any church you go to..God works miracles if you have faith..I heard of a woman with 4 non SS kids even though she and husby are AS..So the ball
Is in your court..

juola:
I had tried to call off the relationship but am unable to. Anytime I try to talk about it,I end up crying my eyes out.

You need to be strong if you don't want to cry for the rest of your life. Watching your children die and your darling husband heap the blame on you or hate you is more painful than loosing a lover. Make hay while the sun shines.

dingbang:
u welcome. And hey please keep a straight face, remember it's his fault and he lied to you in the first place. Don't let love blind ur eyes when it comes to the health of your children else u"d spend billions..

he actually didn't lie about it. I did the test and even showed me the results. let me say it was God's guidance that made us do another test

juola:
he actually didn't lie about it. I did the test and even showed me the results. let me say it was God's guidance that made us do another test

alright... just don't make any more fatal decisions.

Rone16:
Hmmn it depends on the size of your wallet..All this stuffs relating to genes are so expensive.If you guys are not that rich then you leave him.Number 2 is amniocentesis..I think a child's genotype can be figured out just like deformities and eliminated..That one solely depends on your views on religion and abortion and also your wallet .Number 3 is in vitro fertilization which for me is the best if you have money because many eggs will be harvested and I guess they can pick out the AS or AA one and flush out the rest..This one also depends on your views on IVF and religion and also your wallet.The last but not the least is to get married and take your matter to dunamis or any church you go to..God works miracles if you have faith..I heard of a woman with 4 non SS kids even though she and husby are AS..So the ball
Is in your court..

Hmmm.... thanks. The major problem is my religious views. Abortion is not allowed for whatever reason

Rone16:
Hmmn it depends on the size of your wallet..All this stuffs relating to genes are so expensive.If you guys are not that rich then you leave him.Number 2 is amniocentesis..I think a child's genotype can be figured out just like deformities and eliminated..That one solely depends on your views on religion and abortion and also your wallet .Number 3 is in vitro fertilization which for me is the best if you have money because many eggs will be harvested and I guess they can pick out the AS or AA one and flush out the rest..This one also depends on your views on IVF and religion and also your wallet.The last but not the least is to get married and take your matter to dunamis or any church you go to..God works miracles if you have faith..I heard of a woman with 4 non SS kids even though she and husby are AS..So the ball
Is in your court..

Hmmm.... thanks. The major problem is my religious views. Abortion is not allowed for whatever reason and my guy is a lecturer in a private university

I think and know that break up is the best option but I find myself so weak to break up with him

juola:
Hmmm.... thanks. The major problem is my religious views. Abortion is not allowed for whatever reason and my guy is a lecturer in a private university

Abortion is not allowed? What about fornication?? Or you and the guy have been celibate throughout the relationship

If it's possible to know the genotype of the kid while @ foetus stage then by all means abort if it's SS, what's the big deal there?

It's a joint decision (btw you and the guy) ya'll need to sit down, plan & discuss these things.

Rone16 has given you the best advice you need (except going to church to pray over baby genotype lols)

If break up is the route u eventually wish to take then I still wish you happiness sha, but speaking as a man, an evil man for that matter I know how tough it is for ladies to find good men.

So you owe it to yourself to Consider how practicable the options of ivf, abortions till u get the right 'child' etc is before you chose to throw in the towel.

Goodluck

juola:
I think and know that break up is the best option but I find myself so weak to break up with him

so after d comments u are still weak to break up with him.




You women sha..

Nutase:
My dear the realities of marriage are different from relationship. In the relationship the guys sound very optimistic when they are love struck but when they get into the marriage and face reality they turn on you and most times begin to see you as the cause of all their generational problems. I've seen loving families turn to war zones because of this SS matter.

Answer the questions below then take a decision yourself:
1) how much does the PGD cost?
2) how many children do you guys want to have?
3) is he financially capable to bear the expenses of the treatment in addition to the cost of running a family?


From your answers above you know what to do.

Best of luck.

Best advise so far. Sound Maturity.

You don't want to take the risk dear. i advice against it because by the time reality sets in, your eyes go clear. This is the time to think with your head not your heart.
Or just try visiting parents with ss kids, hospitals to see kids or people having crisis or go get the opinion of a doctor.

what GOD has join togeda let no man put asunda, my best advice go into prayer and have a meek spirit to let d holy spirit guide you









i can tel u to run nd i can tell to stay with him either way all na advice even u knw dat,so dats why i said try GOD

dingbang:
Who says she can't get d best advise in romance section?







Op please go for d pre implantation shii and if the results say u both can't marry then there is absolutely nothing u two can do abt it

Best advice...juola or warreva your moniker is, see this...btw, why did he lie about his genotype in the first place

dingbang:
Who says she can't get d best advise in romance section?







Op please go for d pre implantation shii and if the results say u both can't marry then there is absolutely nothing u two can do abt it

Best advice...juola or warreva your moniker is, see this...btw, why did he lie about his genotype in the first place...

LorDBolton:
Abortion is not allowed? What about fornication?? Or you and the guy have been celibate throughout the relationship

If it's possible to know the genotype of the kid while @ foetus stage then by all means abort if it's SS, what's the big deal there?

It's a joint decision (btw you and the guy) ya'll need to sit down, plan & discuss these things.

Rone16 has given you the best advice you need (except going to church to pray over baby genotype lols)

If break up is the route u eventually wish to take then I still wish you happiness sha, but speaking as a man, an evil man for that matter I know how tough it is for ladies to find good men.

So you owe it to yourself to Consider how practicable the options of ivf, abortions till u get the right 'child' etc is before you chose to throw in the towel.

Goodluck

OK...... thanks

[quote author=Piercedclit post=51704662]You don't want to take the risk dear. i advice against it because by the time reality sets in, your eyes go clear. This is the time to think with your head not your heart.
Or just try visiting parents with ss kids, hospitals to see kids or people having crisis or go get the opinion of a doctor. [/quote
Thanks

I met an old primary school classmate sometime this year and we got talking. He told me how he loved his girlfriend and they had been dating for about 3 years. He planned to settle down with her but then he did something selfish.

Short story.

About a year into the relationship, he told her to check her Genotype since she didnt know about it. she came back and told him "AS" ..... He was dumbfounded, then he told her He was " AA"... They continued their love until he just couldnt take it anymore. As of the time I met him (which was their 3rd year) he was waiting for her birthday to pass and then after a month he would break the News that he is "AS" too.

We lost contact again so i cant tell what happend. but he made up his mind to break the news so she could move on before it gets too late. Im quite sure by now he must have done that...



@ OP .....My point is forget the surgery....when humans are stuck in love they say anything. Please, try and move on and end the relationship.

Maychang:
I met an old primary school classmate sometime this year and we got talking. He told me how he loved his girlfriend and they had been dating for about 3 years. He planned to settle down with her but then he did something selfish.

Short story.

About a year into the relationship, he told her to check her Genotype since she didnt know about it. she came back and told him "AS" ..... He was dumbfounded, then he told her He was " AA"... They continued their love until he just couldnt take it anymore. As of the time I met him (which was their 3rd year) he was waiting for her birthday to pass and then after a month he would break the News that he is "AS" too.

We lost contact again so i cant tell what happend. but he made up his mind to break the news so she could move on before it gets too late. Im quite sure by now he must have done that...



@ OP .....My point is forget the surgery....when humans are stuck in love they say anything. Please, try and move on and end the relationship.

Hmmm...... Thanks