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jorion:
this is why i prefer to help my guys than to help any babe. because the day she tastes egusi soup sweeter than your okro soup, you will forever become an afterthought

sonofLuci:
Lol

schumastic:
EVEN IF HE ADDS ALL THE SPICE IN THE WORLD THAT GIRL WILL CONTINUE TO DO WHAT SHE IS ENJOYING TILL SHE GETS TIRED AND GAIN HER SENSES BACK..OP SHOULD JUST MOVE ON WITH HIS LIFE, IS OBVIOUS HE CREATED THE IMPRESSION THAT SHE IS THE ONLY GIRL IN HIS LIFE FORGETTING THE FACT THAT NO LADY WANTS TO DATE A GUY OTHER GIRLS DON'T WANT..LET HIM GET A SIDE CHICK NEXT TIME AND SAVE HIMSELF THE HEADACHE

mofeoluwadassah:
U sure u never cheated on her?I smell lies o

mofeoluwadassah:
U sure u never cheated on her?I smell lies o

jorion:
this is why i prefer to help my guys than to help any babe. because the day she tastes egusi soup sweeter than your okro soup, you will forever become an afterthought

SlimmB:
Nonsense! you think every nigga is like your ex's

sonofLuci:
If your boyfriend is a cheat, well I'm not. Lol

McBrooklyn:
OP, your girlfriend problem is a problem


And to all the ladies out there deceiving us, wasting our money, our food, our airtime, our precious time like the OP's girlfriend... Your future husband will not show on your wedding day!!!

Stellamariss:
pls stop is not funny.. at all

Lol, why?? ... You guilty as hell, ain't you??

sonofLuci:
Good evening guys and girls, I'm having a Lil problem with my girlfriend (not quarrel) she is just acting strange since we had misunderstanding few months back, she used to be a very calm and lovely girl but now it's almost the opposite she now demands money excessively, refuses to listen to what I tell most times, she argues a lot now,
I have been coping with all these her attitude since, most of the time she hardly pick my calls, she is still a student so she is currently in school.

So recently she finished her exams and she brought up an issue saying she can't come Holm email after the exam that she has to wait for her clearance which will take about a week, I said okay no problem, so today she said she is done with it and that she will be home by Saturday, so I asked her if she will spend the night with me, she said no (note, we have not seen for 3 months now and she loves spending the night with me whenever she comes back from school)

I was surprised, I asked her why she couldn't give straight answers, she was saying that she is not in the mood to spend the night, haha! For over 3 months we never see you are not in the mood to spend nigh the with your boyfriend? Very Strang I said to myself, she then said that the money can be used to do better things and that I should give it to her and she is from a good family o, we'll taken care of I still give her money for sweet mouth most times, but now I don't know what's wrong, please guys I need your advice, is this girl cheating on me? Because I have been suspecting her but I haven't accused her of it because I am a cool guy who doesn't like drama at all, I will hardly quarrel with anyone over something.



**addition

There was one time she was in school there was no class so we talked and talked so before ending the call I told her I love you so much cause I was missing her and she said thank you and I was like won't you tell me back, she said I'm in public na

Haba, and she usually tells me this regardless of whether she is in public or not, she didn't even say "you too" even if she was shy to say love,

Guys what do you think??

Mimido2:
when a chick starts going bad beg her

sonofLuci:
Relationship boring She is always in school o

Anytime she is back I take her out a lot, weiten I wan do again

tai2:
I used to be like many of the whiners here on Nairaland, “Oh I'm so in love with this babe but she's treating me badly, what do I do? what do I do?”. That was a long time ago and now I am wise and believe me I learnt from the school of hard knocks, this women dealt with me mercilessly until I actually sat down to analyze them and their ways and figured out the language they speak. If you think maintaining a woman is about excess love, showing affection, kindness, forgiveness, religion and all that bullsh*t, you're dead wrong, treat a woman too good, she will find an excuse to leave ( “I was once dumped by a chick who later told her friend, I was 'too nice'.”). But they will stay with an “omo rapala” that mistreats them day after day after day.


Even fellowship girls are still tempted by young men of the world and leave their fellow fellowship brothers to look for bad boys to convert. They are never satisfied with a squeaky clean good man. To them every guy that is too good is a nuisance. Even the ones that are married have only calmed down and become good in order to trap a husband that offers them security or at least a husband that has managed to figure out their buttons. Be wise, young men, be wise.

Maintaining women of all shapes ages and sizes is all about control and remaining in control. The moment you lose control, you lose yourself and a woman will ride you till the very end. Some people say all sorts of rubbish, “Oh my woman is not like that, she's different”, all that one na story, Eve betrayed Adam, Delilah betrayed Samson, so who on earth is your woman that she won't act like those that came before her?

There are different levels of control, there is no control, artificial control and true control. No control is the default situation most guys fall into. They love a woman and believe everything she says in the heat of passion ”I'll never ever leave you”, “I can't wait to marry you” etc etc, and deceive themselves into overconfidence and over love. A no control guy does not know how to tell his babe no and is always apologizing even when it is not his fault. When they start exhibiting too much attention and love, the chick gets bored and starts looking for “rude boys” somewhere. Then her mind starts wavering and she starts telling you “I need space”, “I'm confused”. When you hear these words you're in trouble.

Unfortunately most young guy today no dey hear word and they will start reminiscing about the sweet nothings the babe told them when the going was good and continue to misbehave and show over love and over affection. Meanwhile one bad guy fit dey comb the babe for corner somewhere. In the end the chick leaves and the guy is in a wreck, crying, complaining to his friends begging etc and at that point the girl no go wan hear again, anything you're saying is a waste of time. A chick will bring up some of the dumbest excuses when she wants to dump you. She might regret leaving you later but all that one na Tales By Moonlight what matters is the wrecked condition she will leave you in at that moment.


The next level of control is artificial control. Artificial control works a lot in Nigeria today, and people exercise this level of control primarily by having money. This is what the so called big boys and sugar daddies use to maintain their babes. Some poor guys starving on their pocket money and University allowances even try to maintain this level of control to their own downfall. With artificial control a girl might screw around but will not really leave you until she finds another guy with better control than you. The best way to use artificial control is ruthlessly, if you have money and control them with money make sure you take no crap from them or else they will turn you to a MUGU and you fall into the no control category even though you have money.

Remember money is relative. Some guy has more than you somewhere. Some guys exercise artificial control through other means as well, such as being older, being in a bigger office, better school, living in a bigger house etc. Until the chick meets someone with better control she will not leave but always remember you are in control and use it to your advantage. Don't boast about it though as they really hate it when you point out that the reason they are with you is because of artificial control ( even though we know its true). All those threads written by sacked bankers on Nairaland who have lost their babes are a result of the artificial control category. Control go, babe go.

Guys without money should remember this ( University boys open your eyes) the moment you start spending to maintain control, you will never stop and this is a problem when you do not have money so students, graduate trainees and people without money should avoid money artificial control as much as possible. You will only wreck yourself financially, because they will only get greedier and you will find out you cannot keep up and she will use the money you have used to better her looks, wardrobe and her life to find a replacement for you. They always want to upgrade. If you have money to spend it is okay to use artificial control just make sure you do it in a responsible way, not in a way chicks will use “MUGU” to replace your name on their phones.


The last control category is true control. Maintain this level of control and you are the true guru. You are the Don Juan, the guy women trip and fall down for regardless of whether or whether not. The true control man is in control of EVERYTHING. He will not chase a babe he cannot control or who he knows will want to lord over him. Before he spends his money on a woman he makes sure that she knows who is in control and spends his money sparingly, in fact she might spend more than him. If she tells him she is in her male corpers friends house sleeping because she does not have light he laughs and tells her “I hope he knows how to screw well, I know you're probably lonely”. It might pain him inside but you will never see it, because he knows that if she finds out he is jealous he is finished, if she feels he is not jealous, she will correct herself and find call him 20 times a day to make sure he truly loves her.


The guy who shouts at his babe and tells her what sort of nonsense is that ( why should she sleep in Mr Corper-With-Generator's house) is maintaining artificial control, she will tell him she won't do it again and do it the next day and for the next 10 months, and get combed mercilessly by Mr. Corper-With-Generator and his colleagues. It takes 10 minutes for a quickie and that place does not have a gauge you will use to measure who did and did not do when she comes back. Artificial control men and no control men should take note.

In fact most of the accomplished true control guys have barricaded their hearts a long time ago. They show affection strategically and when a chick leasts expects it. They are not always complete bast@rds, they will send flowers and call a babe to check on how she is doing but they do it strategically and sparingly. Too much of ice cream and chocolate is not good. Too much visiting of woman is not good. Calling her more than she calls you is an equally stupid idea. If she calls twice call once. What bothers other guys does not bother men of true control. Even if they love a chick they will never show it more than the chick shows it. They say I love you three times a year. This sort of guy might love a chick but still screw one or two around to ensure that he remains in control of his senses.

Sex is sex, love is a different kettle of fish. Sex helps you keep things in perspective. Screw one woman too much, you might become stupid and lose control. Fidelity is over rated my brothers, you can love a woman but don't confuse it with being faithful. If she suspects you are screwing outside, thats okay for them, just make sure you're never caught and she only suspects, suspicion is good, it keeps her on her feet, she knows she can be replaced. When she sees that text message on your phone, tell her “you are the only one for me “ and buy enough “ chocolate and flowers” and then leave her to think. But NEVER keep two chicks, you should have one chick and the occasional ones you are chopping outside to maintain perspective and self-control, that way you won't create unnecessary problems for yourself. If you are not on the financial capability of Atiku Abubakar, polygamy is a bad idea. If you can retain control without screwing outside, fine for you. But the day your woman is caught screwing outside, you will feel seriously cuckolded and feel like a fool.

A true control guy will NEVER date a woman he cannot control. A woman who does not respect you is one you have no control over, these women do not understand equality, look at the divorce rate in America ! A true control guy has ALL control but he never uses money to control too much. He never makes it about money or how much he has. Most true control guys have more money than the women they control, other much more skilled true control guys may have less money but always make sure that she knows who is boss. Because once you let a women who's money is longer than yours gain control, you are finished. A true control guy also has koboko control ( meaning he knows how to give it to her in bed, if you do not know better learn by hiring a skilled Pay As You Go or else she will leave you for the first Mr. Magic Stick). In fact koboko control is way better than money control. Look at Kimora Lee Simmons and Djimon Honsou, you go no say na koboko dey at work, no be by fine face or too much money. ( No offense to Russel Simmons but he had artificial control).

A true control guy also has fashion control, he knows how to dress and be neat ( it might not be the most expensive stuff he wears but he looks smart and neat always, he has fashion sense). A true control guy also knows how to tell his babe no and stick to his no. They rarely say “I'm sorry” and always make a chick laugh or some other tactic to avoid using those words. A chicks friends will beef this sort of guy in public and on forums like Nairaland and berate their friends for dating him but will secretly dream of screwing him. It even helps when the guy acts nice to the chicks friends, but not too nice (as in we are all age-mates level, respect must be maintained at all costs, chicks know how to disrespect a guy who plays with them too much). All men should strive to attain true control. True control will give you peace of mind and undying attention.

Be wise, my brothers be wise, enough of these tears on Nairaland. These days more men come here to complain than women. This is a war we have to win at all costs. For the sake of the male reputation. For more advice, I am here all week. Remember I have been beaten before but I am now wise, I exercise true control now and take no nonsense from them. If you let them bring you down they will finish you and your village people will say it is the work of juju and your uncles and aunties.

Sexxkillz:
[color=#000030]LOL!

She has broken up with you already. She just hasn't told you and she'll never tell you. She has moved on with her life, possibly with another guy. You are now a pest to her which is confirmed by her sharp "blunt as fuck_" responses. All she wants now is for you to notice that she has 'changed', and for you to "get tired" of her new attitude, and end the relationship and leave her in peace.

Too many signs she has sent out to you. She must be wondering how dumb you are for not getting the numerous clues. Pay her a surprise visit and you'll confirm all these yourself. I'm not saying you actually should, just saying.

It's a smart trick to leave a relationship without carrying the burden of being the one that called it quits. . . listen, things can NEVER be the same between you two.

She has moved on. Do the same. [/color]

mofeoluwadassah:
so u telling me u've neva cheated on ur g.f abi

falconey:
dump her and move to the next....... from your write-up you are perplexed, don't let her cause you any more trouble.
there are so many chicks out there to sit and worry about one.

Whytelyon:



Ogoni luo di n'abo, o ma nke dimma , If girlfriend never get 2 boyfriend, she never know the one way good. There is someone obviously fùcking her now. I can smell it from here, see what you'll do for me, bobo,let her go, no too vex o, just behave like say, nothing vex you. Just gather money buy play station 4 (if you don't have one) buy better games, play your sorrows away... at the same time, day fine new mummy way go give u breastmilk while main mummy is away...

I know you dress well,your English is very good, what you'll do for me, start looking for another girl, Quickly! Na speed you go use now o... no waste time.

No make the mistake of not being a good boy to this new one, be nice, be romantic, leave the other one make she day fùck. When she fùck finish e go taya am.

Focus, get your own apartment, dress well, meet pretty girls outside and date another one, when she sees you no longer interested, make I hear say she no fine you come.

My ex gf dump me follow another man. My birthday way just pass how many days ago,I no beg am,she made it very obvious, that even her mumu,everyone of my friends come day see am. day send me happy birthday msg,day like ma posts day send inbox msgs... e remain to come ma house again Na em remain.... lol..

Be a Man, let her go..

Need to get back to C++ way I day code, we go talk later abeg...

*runs away*

9jayes:
Na advice be dis?

JuicyLucy:
3 years is an investment so I would advice you to try and make it work before you end it. You should also follow your gut instinct. Maybe she's going through a hard time and she's stressed so she's withdrawing.

Not seeing each other for 3 months at a time can also take its toll on a relationship. You know her best so I think you should push her to talk by expressing your fears not just asking her "R u ok?"

Tell her where you are at and share your suspicions with her. Be a man about it and don't listen to all these little boys on here who are afraid of getting hurt. Look before you jump by getting all the answers you need so that you don't have any regrets later on down the line. Don't sleep around because you should have respect for your body.

sonofLuci:
True brother, I hate sleeping around its not just my nature, I can't even Bleep a girl I don't love, no matter how beautiful she is, I have tried it before my dick no green go up, is not my fault this is how I'm just wired, I'm ashamed to say it, I just have to be in love with a woman before I can do anything.

Lol, the bolded is damn funny, Bruh...



cc: lalasticlala.. Pray make this post get to front page so you can get a better and reliable advice

SlimmB:
and what's the essence of telling you the truth cause am sure you suffering from trust issue, am even sure you'll count your cash after withdrawing from the ATM

sonofLuci:
Good evening guys and girls, I'm having a Lil problem with my girlfriend (not quarrel) she is just acting strange since we had misunderstanding few months back, she used to be a very calm and lovely girl but now it's almost the opposite she now demands money excessively, refuses to listen to what I tell most times, she argues a lot now,
I have been coping with all these her attitude since, most of the time she hardly pick my calls, she is still a student so she is currently in school.

So recently she finished her exams and she brought up an issue saying she can't come Holm email after the exam that she has to wait for her clearance which will take about a week, I said okay no problem, so today she said she is done with it and that she will be home by Saturday, so I asked her if she will spend the night with me, she said no (note, we have not seen for 3 months now and she loves spending the night with me whenever she comes back from school)

I was surprised, I asked her why she couldn't give straight answers, she was saying that she is not in the mood to spend the night, haha! For over 3 months we never see you are not in the mood to spend nigh the with your boyfriend? Very Strang I said to myself, she then said that the money can be used to do better things and that I should give it to her and she is from a good family o, we'll taken care of I still give her money for sweet mouth most times, but now I don't know what's wrong, please guys I need your advice, is this girl cheating on me? Because I have been suspecting her but I haven't accused her of it because I am a cool guy who doesn't like drama at all, I will hardly quarrel with anyone over something.



**addition

There was one time she was in school there was no class so we talked and talked so before ending the call I told her I love you so much cause I was missing her and she said thank you and I was like won't you tell me back, she said I'm in public na

Haba, and she usually tells me this regardless of whether she is in public or not, she didn't even say "you too" even if she was shy to say love,

Guys what do you think??