1bkaye:

I wanted to know if she actually wanted to keep the baby or was being forced or persuaded by the guy as I think the woman should have the ultimate decision when it comes to abortions.

Lol all this second wife talk is a massive insult upon already very serious injury, I seriously really pity the wife smh

Oh ok
And honestly I pity the wife too


Well me, I can't live far away from my husband, no matter what

Bad road, no light? No education?

We go manage am like that.

Children going to school here are still scoring good grades in school.

Na WA ooo

Thanks

o jeez

He loves both women the same!

I never believed it is possible to truly love more than one person! I'm so naive!

1. You resent your wife for relocating
2. You want more kids
3. You encouraged this other relationship
4. You know you want to marry her

mtcheew.

It

Clown(Op saying he is Godly).Godly but is ready to impregnate another woman.

Bell the cat to your wife.I don't know how you are going to make her happy as you say.She ought to have known who she married and the implication of leaving you behind.
You will keep this girl as a babymama or decide to make her a second wife.

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Amelian:




Oh ok
And honestly I pity the wife too


Well me, I can't live far away from my husband, no matter what

Bad road, no light? No education?

We go manage am like that.

Children going to school here are still scoring good grades in school.

Na WA ooo

I can only imagine she did what she thought was best for her children which is fair enough

Op, pray fervently that both women are truly good women as Co wives.. If not polygamy is the worst legacy a man can ever leave for his children.
When he's gone to the world beyond, the children will only appreciate their mothers and resent their dad, for bringing such problems in their lives. Cause what u just caused is a huge problem, that continues for many generations to Come.
And that's what am experiencing in my own family. If not for God and my stubborn head. My enemy won't be alive today. It's that bad.


Hmmmm

Omegalala:
It was a tough decision for my wife too.
But when you get to that stage and want the best for your children, you will understand.

My dear, I will never understand nada

I schooled in Nigeria.. All my years in Nigeria. Am very OK.. Even better than some people abroad.

So am not understanding.. And I won't understand.. Cause have tasted the repercussions of polygamy.. Live and direct.. Not hear say.

Honestly u don't have an idea, what awaits in the future.

Until then, u will remember what have said.

Oh okay....forgive me if I'm wrong, but it seems you like your "life". Of course you know the U.S is made up of 50 states...which have a variety of seasons...it's not always hot or cold. I know you could find a state that has a pleasant weather climate! I could even recommend some to you!!
Me thinks you like having "your cake and eating it too" (a saying we have in the U.S). You are basically living the life of a family man 2-3 times a year & a bachelor for the other 362 days....right sir?!
But now you're gonna be a family man in Nigeria...interesting

Omegalala:
Thanks for your input.

(1) I'm Godly
(2) I don't have anything against polygamy (but just that I've never experienced it)
(3) From my brief stays and visits, as an adult bred in Naija, US is boring for me and don't like the weather. US if perfect for women and kids.

Thanks.

Omegalala:
I love both.

You will marry the second then!

And if you meet another fresh babe that has the qualities of your first two wives, what then?

joycesims:


You will marry the second then!

And if you meet another fresh babe that has the qualities of your first two wives, what then?

He will love the 3 both of them(sic).

Take

What

Omegalala:
Take it easy on me nah...

I wont tell you sorry,

Your topic should be " How to tell my wife I'm getting married to another woman without hurting her"

thorpido:
He will love the 3 both of them(sic).

I'm telling you, the 3 both of them! I guess this is what it means for one to have a big heart!

Omegalala:
She had two c-section births.
Doctor advised no more babies.

With this your response you are most definitely trolling today. Welldone super story writer.

Omegalala:
What aspect of polygamy is dangerous?

The aspect of one or either wives trying to wipe out each other and wipe out each other's children. If any of them have weak child or children.. Just know after some years the children starts dying either thru some ailments or accidents spiritually or making some dullards that can't even help themselves, how much be productive to the society.
That's if u have a bad wife amongst them.

That's the popular problems associated with polygamy.. Its always spiritual, so that one cannot blame the culprit.

U know anything spiritual with no concrete proof cannot be proved.

And no matter how u educate your wives to be good.. If they are bad.. All the talks falls in deaf ears.. But they will smile sweetly at you and say ha! Why do u have such negative thoughts. The other will even swear with the Bible.

All na lie! Pure acting.. Nothing real

All the sweat of training the kids abroad. Has gone down the drain in the long run.. Except some of the children are exceptional. If not forget their story

Not

Thanks.

Omegalala

You are disgusting, wretched Godless man. I pray that your wife returns the favor to you 10 fold. By God's grace she will find a man in the US and forget about you.

U shld pray the new pregnant girl (turning wife)does not turn you against ur wife and children abroad that u will forget their up keep and visits. becos this woman was fully aware that u ve family but still continued till she is now pregnant.
I will advice u don't marry her just make sure she is well taken care of and tell ur wife about this mess.

Please

Thanks.

Well I'm happy for you that you love the second wife because the first wife is already in the U.S where it even gets lonelier being single. she might also be getting down with her own side dude over there as you speak.

you may not be at a loss when you find out since you already have someone else that you love.

Op men like you disgust me
Look at you talking about love
You are selfish
Anyway I don't blame you
You don't even know what you are getting yourself into.
If you had an inkling, you would not have been here yapping about pro life bla bla
Na ur children I pity, they would grow up hating themselves and resenting you. They would end up clinging to their mothers.
Why do you want to bring children into a world of competition and jealousy
I don't even care about u, you and ur baby mama can eat shit. It's those children that would grow up with esteem issues i feel for.
U think polygamy is easy. Hahahahaha.
Say goodbye to peace of mind. That ur side chic u are in love with. Lmao. She's gonna taste bitterness.
By the time your legal family starts fighting her for your properties, she would know something.
I am from a polygamous home. It messed me up. I grew up with so much hate in my heart for my dad.
I made sure I married a man from a lineage of men with self control.
10-15 years from now your gonna regret this decision.
All you would left with is a flaccid deek and resentful children squabbling over what properties you have left.
But what do I know? your a man in love
Follow your dream, marry your princess and ride into doomland

Omegalala:
Please don't insult me.

I'm not Godless. I'm prolife.
Mistakes do happen.

This is the first time I would have sex with another woman since my 10 years old marriage.
When my wife is in Nigeria and she's not in the mood to have sex, I self-service.

I'm just seeking advice on how to handle the situation.

If you are a man you can relate with my situation.
My wife doesn't need a man, I'm not divorcing her.

This your trolling And I even took you serious in the first place. Chai!

Mistakes do happen but instead of correcting them you want to commit more? Well done o

Divorce your wife if you don't feel like a married man na. Am sure she wouldn't object as she doesn't need a man.

So

What

Omegalala:
So it's all doom. There is no way to get any good out my situation?
If property will cause problem in future I can give the kids good education and monetize the property then give to charity.

Or you could just maintain the good education and do your Will asap. You wan marry two wives! Chai! Chai! Chai! Something tells me the abroad chick is gonna lose out eventually. Would you be telling her?

Omegalala:
What are you suggesting as correction?

1. Mistake has been made already. Move on. You can accept responsibility of the baby you don't have to marry another wife.

2. If you must marry your new baby mama, then you have to legally divorce your first wife first.



How many kids do you have already?