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Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by missjo(f): 11:23pm On Dec 15, 2016 |
sisisioge:Ohh. You people confuse me a lot here I thought the kids are for both of you, not you alone (mine). 1 Like |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by bukatyne(f): 1:35am On Dec 16, 2016 |
What I want from MINE husband 1. Genuine love 2. Genuine love 3. Genuine love 4. Genuine love 5. Genuine love |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by bellong: 1:46am On Dec 16, 2016 |
bukatyne: Fixed |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by sisisioge: 3:04am On Dec 16, 2016 |
missjo: Boyalomo! They are really for as long as the man is happy being her husband, it doesn't take much for that status to change. It's almost not strange in marriages to see unattended wife and children...he just might develop selective memory about paternity. The woman on the other hand almost never forgets the kids are hers. 1 Like |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:11am On Dec 16, 2016 |
It is interesting no one mentioned wealthy and successful outright. Or that they expect thier husbands to help with the housechores. Or that they want thier husbands to give them time alone with the TV sometimes Or that they woukd like him to listsn to their conversation instead of brushing them off. Or that the husbands should do a little romancing before sex. Or that the husband should not leave them alone with the kids all the time. They are his kids too. Or that the husband should be pleased with whatevermeal they prepare and not insist on a fresh meal when he gets home. Or that the husband should allow them privacy with thier phones when they are facebooking r whatsapping Or that the husband should be patient with them and liaten when they are pasaing thier message across. Or that the husbands should let them win an argument / have the last word in an argument. Or that the husband should never ever hit them(no one mentioned this!? ) Or that the husband should take them out once in a while, not just only on thier birthday or anniversary (even that one sef, some men no dey do!) Or that the husband should appreciate them when they spend hours making up and dressing in those killer high heels to too beautiful for them Or that the husband should appreciate them when they come home with a new hairdo. Or that the husband should allow them progress in their educational careers Etc These are common complaints by women I have come across. However, they hardly pass this message directly to thier husbands. They want all these things (and more I am sure) but when it comes to communicating it, for some reason thet are unable to, however they nag and vex when such things are not done! See na, I give una chance oh, una dey give telemundo list 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:12am On Dec 16, 2016 |
Small time now, they will say all i mentioned above is in their list, make we come dey search for am |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:16am On Dec 16, 2016 |
Mimzyy: Nice list. Very concise and self explanatory Communication is veey important in a relationship and you have done very well. Financially independent though... For the guy? What does that mean? That you will take care of the family but he shouldn't place his financial responsibilities on you? Hehehe |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:18am On Dec 16, 2016 |
missjo: You just dey comment upandan, I no see ya contribution o! If u like put 'he must be loving and caring only' |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:19am On Dec 16, 2016 |
sisisioge: He doesnt need to be wealthy or successful? That's not important? 2 Likes |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:20am On Dec 16, 2016 |
Arijude: |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:24am On Dec 16, 2016 |
cococandy:3 is quite vague. Emotional support how? Nothing about helping you carry baby for an hour or two? 4. If he's not in the mood? When are men never in the mood? Anyway, I trust u. If he steps out of line even once you will divorce him 1 Like |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:25am On Dec 16, 2016 |
percival: Even though there is some level of sarcasm in this post, I think it is quite realistic and a dream of many nigerian women. |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:26am On Dec 16, 2016 |
uzobaby: |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:28am On Dec 16, 2016 |
sisisioge: There's actually nothing wrong in him looking out for your family. This is Africa and nigeria to be more specific a Nigerian woman's list/expectations. Dont let misjo browbeat you |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:29am On Dec 16, 2016 |
bukatyne: You have said nothing |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by sisisioge: 7:07am On Dec 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness: Well, I don't expect him to. If he wants to cover some tabs here and there , no probs. But I don't still expect him to. |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by sisisioge: 7:09am On Dec 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness: If he's able to take care of me and mine...then he's just capable enough. The wealth and co are added advantage. |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by cococandy(f): 7:35am On Dec 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness:Yup. Same way I trust you to be a wife-beating womanizing and disrespectful husband when your time comes. |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by Mimzyy(f): 7:37am On Dec 16, 2016 |
It means that he should enough money of his own to take care of the family. I'll not saddle him with responsibilities that are not of our nuclear family and I'll also assist him with the family responsibilities if need be. The list you made, any sane man will not hit a woman. 5minsmadness: |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 8:11am On Dec 16, 2016 |
cococandy: |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by bukatyne(f): 9:33am On Dec 16, 2016 |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by bukatyne(f): 9:37am On Dec 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness: Bellong codes and even helped me edit You see, when a husband genuinely loves his wife, he doesn't need to be told to be faithful, loyal, caring and whatever else catches your fancy. Even God gave us only two commandments... 1. Love Him 2. Love your neighbor. My husband's genuine love is all I ever wanted and gotten so I am the richest woman in the world. 1 Like |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 9:54am On Dec 16, 2016 |
bukatyne:Rolls eyes, exasperated Telemundo |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by bukatyne(f): 10:15am On Dec 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness: God forbid Telemundo... Why do people think a love triangle et al is romantic |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by megareal: 10:25am On Dec 16, 2016 |
1. Brains. From being well informed and educated to having little knowledge about almost everything. That way you can hold conversations, solve family problems succeed in business and still be astute enough to decode me . 2. Care. Spiritual, emotional, physical etc. Care enough to listen to me and really comprehend. Care enough to tell me thank you for all the liitle things that make your house a home. Care enough to take me out, dote on me and generally make my life happier than before I married you.. 3. Fidelity and respect. I don't subscribe to that boys will be boys mantra. You married me, let me satisfy you. No side chicks, side games etc. Respect my views, person , opinions etc. Just as I treat you with respect, reciprocate. 4. Defence Headquaters. Let me have enough confidence in you to know that even if the heavens roar, you can fight for me. That way, I'm shielded from your family, mad friends and all contrary human specimen. I wont go looking for trouble cos I want you to live long, but if it comes as they normally do, be ready to do your darndnest. Also be a spiritual defence headquarters to me too, dnt leave all the prayers to me. 5. Understanding. Understand they are times I wnt feel like s,,,ex, wont feel like washing, cleaning or even being a wife sef. Biko leave me be, na hormones cos am. If you can help, thank you, if you can't, dnt complain, I'm not a househelp. I won't always be 100% at all times, when you see the demon in me come out, let me be. I don tire sef 4 Likes |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by Nobody: 11:13am On Dec 16, 2016 |
Changedabitsonotlegitanymore 1 Like |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by LoveDecay(m): 11:39am On Dec 16, 2016 |
megareal: Your reward for been such a good wife |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 12:33pm On Dec 16, 2016 |
merahki:Wow! This was awesome! |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by Nobody: 1:22pm On Dec 16, 2016 |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by sisisioge: 5:51pm On Dec 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness: You, just like the rest of your male folks never listen. pls did you read anything written here at all? She said she wants him to be fair with in dealings with her. If he's fair, he would not leave her alone to do all the chores, take care of the Kids, care for him and herself and still expect a cooperative woman. Capability, love, respect...etc... How do you translate these? Listen dude...listen. |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by sisisioge: 5:52pm On Dec 16, 2016 |
LoveDecay: You just no well |
Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 8:13am On Dec 17, 2016 |
sisisioge: @bold, Exactly! Which is why i said this earlier 5minsmadness: I, like the rest of my male folk, dont listen to vague sentences and we are bad at interpretation. It is a male thing. We are more into direct statements! So instead of beating round the bush Hit the nail on the head and we will do it! Don't leave us lost in translation. [size=4pt]one yeye male will come now and suppoet your statement so you girls can coo over him, meanwhile in reality he cant figure it out either . I dey watch am [/size] |
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