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Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Mimzyy(f): 9:43am On Dec 29, 2016
troubledheart:


Paste your number.

Send a mail. If I'm wrong, I'll tender an open apology right here. If you're unable to prove me wrong, I'll cc the mods.
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by troubledheart(f): 9:46am On Dec 29, 2016
Mimzyy:


Send a mail. If I'm wrong, I'll tender an open apology right here. If you're unable to prove me wrong, I'll cc the mods.

I am going to email you with my real account here on NL.
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Mimzyy(f): 9:47am On Dec 29, 2016
troubledheart:


I am going to email you with my real account here on NL.

Patiently waiting.
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by troubledheart(f): 9:48am On Dec 29, 2016
Mimzyy:


Patiently waiting.

Sent. Please respond. Hope it makes you happy.
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Mimzyy(f): 9:50am On Dec 29, 2016
troubledheart:


Sent. Please respond. Hope it makes you happy.

No mail yet.
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 9:50am On Dec 29, 2016
Yawn , mimzy d attention seeker's here again . I doubt op's a troll . Abeg make una go back to Romance n quit derailing dis thread

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Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Mimzyy(f): 9:52am On Dec 29, 2016
troubledheart:


Sent. Please respond. Hope it makes you happy.

It takes less than a minute to get a mail notification on NL. I am yet to receive any.
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by troubledheart(f): 9:54am On Dec 29, 2016
Mimzyy:


It takes less than a minute to get a mail notification on NL. I am yet to receive any.

Then your email has issues. I sent it twice. Tried the third time and they said I have sent too many anonymous mails. So refresh ur email or something
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Mimzyy(f): 9:56am On Dec 29, 2016
troubledheart:


Then your email has issues. I sent it twice. Tried the third time and they said I have sent too many anonymous mails. So refresh ur email or something
Been refreshing. Still the same. Just the old messages.
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by troubledheart(f): 9:59am On Dec 29, 2016
Mimzyy:

Been refreshing. Still the same. Just the old messages.

Can't do more than this. Be patient I already sent it. Or paste ur number let me call u.
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Mimzyy(f): 9:59am On Dec 29, 2016
troubledheart:


Then your email has issues. I sent it twice. Tried the third time and they said I have sent too many anonymous mails. So refresh ur email or something

You sent a mail with this moniker. I just rcvd that.
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by troubledheart(f): 10:00am On Dec 29, 2016
Mimzyy:


You sent a mail with this moniker. I just rcvd that.

I sent with another 1st and you didn't get it? Why do I have a feeling you got it but just don't want to admit it?
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:03am On Dec 29, 2016
troubledheart:


I am going to email you with my real account here on NL.
Woman, you get distracted easily. No wonder you're pregnant again for another man who doesn't want to marry you. Why are you bothering yourself trying to prove to her you're not a troll when she's the one trolling? Focus on what you're here for otherwise close this thread.

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Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:04am On Dec 29, 2016
Voice2:

Humans are forever hard to understand! Why would someone with blood in his/her veins be this harsh?

People weren't harsh in their criticism when she made the mistake the first time - that explains why she didn't learn from it. Handle a defaulter with kid gloves and he/she would most likely crawl back into the same pool of vomit.

Last time I checked, she clearly stated she wasn't here to cop a feel of our sympathies, but to have the truth meted out to her without the luxury of euphemisms.

If the truth is too harsh for you, or if it's making you thoroughly uncomfortable, you can always find the nearest wet transformer in your locale to go give a heartfelt Christmas hug.


The OP did have the intention of having a future with the@ guy but she discovered too late that he didnt

Point out where she explicitly had that stated.

She had an intention of having a future with an ex-boyfriend that she cannot even confront with the news of her pregnancy. Splendid.


Really friend, intentions are never a guarantee until you walk down the aisle, so if you must criticize, let it be for the fact that she engaged in sex outside wedlock at all, anyone with an 'intention' can suffer similar fate. Cinched deal my foot![/b]

I am not your friend. Only those of high intellectual calibre get to have a spot in my social orbit, not slowpokes who cannot reason their way out of a paper bag.

All I dished to her were constructive criticisms. She after all asked for our input, and I, in turn gave her my piece of mind in all honesty. I wonder why I am being singled out here? Are you so sentimental that you cannot see beyond the wool covering your eyes?

Plans do not always work out—some founder, and some succeed. But that shouldn't deter people from making plans for the future.

She obviously was too cack-handed in the formulation of her plans—assuming she had any. And instead of saying it as it is, you choose to honey-coat the circumstances.


Then you go on to talk of dildøs and cucumbers and "we must all have sex at some point." Listen to yourself, what moral right have you to criticize this lady? You are doing the same thing but with an intention?

First off, morality is a sham, and I never called her immoral, only reckless and unwise.

Secondly, don't be stupid, will you?—that was a metaphor. I am male, and not female. Cucumbers and dildøs were only used to buttress the point I was making.

How is recognising and stating an axiom – that sex is an integral part of our human nature which cannot be ignored for very long – deprive me of your so-called moral right? Only God knows how this drifted to a lecture about morality.

Priggish changeling.


Hey, Troubledheart, did you hear her sneer that your first child was fathered by a different man? Truth is, the kind of people who tell you never to commit an abortion are usually the ones who jeer at single mothers, not to talk of a single mum with children from different fathers.

How was that a sneer? How was inquiring whether the man who fathered her first child is equally responsible for the second baby qualify as a jeer? Know this that you are a veritable simpletøn.

Of all the Nlanders, it was the most petty of the flock that decided to give me a mention on this topic. Ain't that a bïtch?


So please, go ahead and abort this pregnancy

The same vermin who had the gumption to give me a TED lecture on morality so happens to be the same person advising a woman to MURDER her child in cold blood. Sweet.

What an irony!

I find it quite interesting that your account was created only last night, yet the first person you decided to quote happens to be me. How convenient.

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Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Mimzyy(f): 10:07am On Dec 29, 2016
troubledheart:


I sent with another 1st and you didn't get it? Why do I have a feeling you got it but just don't want to admit it?

Hmmmm. You're sure you're not the one playing mind games as it is just your word against mine?
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by bennyrazz: 10:12am On Dec 29, 2016
ephi123:

That's not fair. We are imperfect people who live in an imperfect world. People make mistakes, it's not nice to kick a person who is already down.
people make mistakes but not the same mistakes over and over again. How are you sure she won't make a third one? since she can't close her legs?

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Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Twaci(f): 10:14am On Dec 29, 2016
Mimzyy:


Hmmmm. You're sure you're not the one playing mind games as it is just your word against mine?
Question is, why do you think she's a troll?

I'm curious.
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:19am On Dec 29, 2016
aflyingbird:
Yup , she's only looking at posts she agrees with . I suggested adoption buh I guess she doesn't want dat


Of course. She doesn't seem very mature either, nor does she come across as one fully aware of the many implications of her action(s). The innocent children who never asked for any of it would unfortunately be the ones that suffer it the most.

Somehow, I have an inkling as to the true identity of the OP—gleaned from her single-mother status and writing style. But, I'd rather keep mum and not impinge on her privacy.

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Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Mimzyy(f): 10:21am On Dec 29, 2016
Twaci:
Question is, why do you think she's a troll?

I'm curious.

My bad. She isn't a troll. She's genuine. Troubledheart, I am really sorry for derailing your thread. 'twasnt intentional, too many trolls on here lately and one only gets to find out after so much time has been wasted offering genuine advice. I AM SORRY. FORGIVE ME.

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Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Twaci(f): 10:22am On Dec 29, 2016
Mimzyy:


My bad. She isn't a troll. She's genuine. Troubledheart, I am really sorry for derailing your thread. 'twasnt intentional, too many trolls on here lately and one only gets to find out after so much tine has been wasted offering genuine advice. I AM SORRY. FORGIVE ME.

Hmmm.

Good morningsmiley
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by troubledheart(f): 10:23am On Dec 29, 2016
DarkRebel101:


Of course. She doesn't seem very mature either, nor does she come across as one fully aware of the many implications of her action(s).

Somehow I have an inkling as to her true identity—gleaned from her single-mother status and writing style. But, I'd rather keep mum and not impinge on her privacy.

You don't know the whole story. . And what you are assuming based on what you have read is quite wrong. I don't want to start telling you everything. But it's fine. Your opinion is Wat you have typed. Not actually what it is. I finally told him.. and he has called again that he wants us to see and talk. I'll make my decision after that. You have tried. Thanks for all your sayings.

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Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by troubledheart(f): 10:24am On Dec 29, 2016
Mimzyy:


My bad. She isn't a troll. She's genuine. Troubledheart, I am really sorry for derailing your thread. 'twasnt intentional, too many trolls on here lately and one only gets to find out after so much time has been wasted offering genuine advice. I AM SORRY. FORGIVE ME.

It's fine.. keep my secret. Thanks.
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Mimzyy(f): 10:30am On Dec 29, 2016
troubledheart:


It's fine.. keep my secret. Thanks.

Reply my mail will you?
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Berbierklaus(f): 10:30am On Dec 29, 2016
I don't know the joy people find in bringing their life's issue on Nairaland,no matter how anonymous you think you are.
What happens to talking to a pastor,counselor, or family member, or even a friend?
I wonder how y'all feel having people throw different opinions here and there on your matter
Well what do I know.

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Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Mimzyy(f): 10:34am On Dec 29, 2016
Twaci:


Hmmm.

Good morningsmiley

Morning Bae. Compliments.
Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Mimzyy(f): 10:35am On Dec 29, 2016
Exactly what I intend to tell her off here.
Berbierklaus:
I don't know the joy people find in bringing their life's issue on Nairaland,no matter how anonymous you think you are.
What happens to talking to a pastor,counselor, or family member, or even a friend?
I wonder how y'all feel having people throw different opinions here and there on your matter
Well what do I know.

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Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by pocohantas(f): 10:48am On Dec 29, 2016
Mimzyy:
Exactly what I intend to tell her off here.
Exactly what you intend telling her where?
Some people need and seek advise anonymously, NL comes in here.

Don't you jump on different threads forming adviser? These kinda threads gives everyone opportunity to play counsellor, including yourself. Don't act like you don't support it, considering the fact you're on 90% of them.

I know you're trying to fit into the almighty mature family section, sequel to romance section brouhaha. Take it easy.

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Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Acidosis(m): 10:52am On Dec 29, 2016
If you continue in this manner, you may end up raising more kids before marriage.

You need to raise a "no marriage, no sex policy". Learn from your mistake and grow.

Personally, I would not use my mouth to recommend abortion as that's clearly against my belief system but I believe you know the best thing for you. Do whatever will give you peace, but remember the aforementioned policy.

You're not a thief until you're caught in the act. A lot of people have had more s.ex than you've ever had, yet they've never conceived. At the end of the day, na who carry belle dey promiscuous.

A lot of men will run away from you when they discover that you've had two kids with different men, not minding the fact that the new lady they run to had dated at least 15 men in Uni, with 3 clean abortions. You cannot cover pregnancy with make-up and virginity cream so fight against 'mistakes', shine your eyes and be wise.

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Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by ephi123(f): 10:53am On Dec 29, 2016
pocohantas:

Exactly what you intend telling her where?
Some people need and seek advise anonymously, NL comes in here.

Don't you jump on different threads forming adviser? These kinda threads gives everyone opportunity to play counsellor, including yourself. Don't act like you don't support it, considering the fact you're on 90% of them.

I know you're trying to fit into the almighty mature family section, sequel to romance section brouhaha. Take it easy.

True that.
Of course that comes along with all kinds of responses including insults, but that's the price to pay. Not everyone has someone they can confide in particularly in a judgmental society like we have in Nigeria.

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Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:54am On Dec 29, 2016
ephi123:


You can't just generalize that people from dysfunctional homes will be damaged / unruly. Some of the best people I know today, people breaking new grounds in niche areas, would have been aborted going by your standards.
They chose to let their dysfunctional backgrounds drive them to success in life.
Some agreed!

We can both agree also that "most" eventually end up lost!

It's never a good thing to be born into a dysfunctional home, That's why "family care" is a very "important topic" in Any society today

Studies show that most criminals, rapist etc became who they were because they lacked love!

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Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:56am On Dec 29, 2016
@troubledheart

It is good you decided to talk to the man who impregnated you. Whether he believes that you want to trap him with the pregnancy or not is pretty irrelevant. He has to know that you are pregnant because he is responsible for the pregnancy - along with you of course. The decision whether you should abort or not should be made together. I hope he is the gentle type and will be sensitive enough.

You have a child so you already know what it takes to raise a child. And you know yourself and if you can handle the responsibility of a second child. Soon you will know if the father of the child is willing to assist you or not, which will be a big factor in your decision, I guess.

If you decide to abort the pregnancy (maybe not), then do it as soon as possible. A few weeks will make a HUGE difference. You do not want to abort when the foetus starts to take on a human shape, it will be more difficult then, psychologically.

For all those here speaking out against abortion, I respect their views but none of them will assist you with the child's upbringing so make your own decision. It is your cross to bear whatever decision you take.

I wish you well from the bottom of my heart. I know it is not easy. Kuddos to you and may the future bring more ease to your life.

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Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by ephi123(f): 10:59am On Dec 29, 2016
bbmpin:

Some agreed!

We can both agree also that "most" eventually end up lost!

It's never a good thing to be born into a dysfunctional home, That's why "family care" is a very "important topic" in Any society today

Studies show that most criminals, rapist etc became who they were because they lacked love!


Going by your suggestions, those "some" should have been aborted because in your opinion "most" kids from dysfunctional homes become rapists and criminals. I am simply pointing out that if we were to use your standards those "some" would not exist today.

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