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I Am Sad by SarahMaria: 8:29pm On Jul 17, 2011
I know a lot of user here can`t understand me but if I go and speak about my problems with other white people they just tell me the same things everytime. Yes divorce, he wanted the papers not you cry

I love my husband so much and he is a very good man and a good father. Our relationship is just great. We do not have any problems.

BUT there is something, I was in Nigeria after we married. We stayed for two weeks. There was not enough time to meet all his family members. I met his parents, his brother and a lot of cousins. He has two sister here in Europe. 2 are in Nigeria with the parents. The parents were really nice to me. I felt good with them. When they are calling they are happy when they can here the children and they ask about me often. The older sister two aks about me and the children and I talk to her on phone sometimes, but the two younger sisters, undecided, I have never met them and I have never spoke to them.

There are not on phone when I am there when my hsuband is calling. I saw their facebook profiles and I wanted to contact them, but no answer

Today I saw a message on my husbands handy. he wrote his sis that he can not call now because he is going with the children and "their mum" to the playground. shocked
He is calling me the children mum?? Am I to sensible or what? why he call me like that?
should I ask him abou that or does I cause problem for nothing?

Another problem is that I think that his age is wrong. I found it out yesterday. He always told me that he have three younger sisters but I saw the profiles on facebook. 2 are defenitly older and the third is from 1981!!! how she wrote!! so he can not be from 84 when he is older.

I am confused, but I am afraid to ask. Why he lie? Does he lie?
Why does he call me the childrens mum and not his wife??

Does I think to much about all these??
Re: I Am Sad by 9jafetish(f): 8:34pm On Jul 17, 2011
SarahMaria:

I know a lot of user here can`t understand me but if I go and speak about my problems with other white people they just tell me the same things everytime. Yes divorce, he wanted the papers not you  cry

I love my husband so much and he is a very good man and  a good father.  Our relationship is just great. We do not have any problems.

BUT  there is something, I was in Nigeria after we married. We stayed for two weeks. There was not enough time to meet all his family members. I met his parents, his brother and a lot of cousins. He has two sister here in Europe. 2 are in Nigeria with the parents. The parents were really nice to me. I felt good with them. When they are calling they are happy when they can here the children and they ask about me often. The older sister two aks about me and the children and I talk to her on phone sometimes, but the two younger sisters,  undecided, I have never met them and I have never spoke to them.

There are not on phone when I am there when my hsuband is calling. I saw their facebook profiles and I wanted to contact them, but no answer  

Today I saw a message on my husbands handy. he wrote his sis that he can not call now because he is going with the children and "their mum" to the playground.  shocked
He is calling me the children mum?? Am I to sensible or what? why he call me like that?
should I ask him abou that or  does I cause problem for nothing?

Another problem is that I think that his age is wrong. I found it out yesterday. He always told me that he have three younger sisters but I saw the profiles on facebook. 2 are defenitly older and the third is from 1981!!! how she wrote!! so he can not be from 84 when he is older.

I am confused, but I am afraid to ask. Why he lie? Does he lie?
Why does he call me the childrens mum and not his wife??

Does I think to much about all these??
no suprise at all ,where you went wrong is tht u married a nigerian
Re: I Am Sad by SarahMaria: 8:35pm On Jul 17, 2011


are nigerian women not marrying nigerian men and are happy with them?
what is this
Re: I Am Sad by MrCork17: 8:40pm On Jul 17, 2011
SarahMaria:

Are you a teacher? 

Madam did the English teachers in yo village go on strike?   undecided
Re: I Am Sad by SarahMaria: 8:41pm On Jul 17, 2011
Is it fun to beat people who are already down undecided
Re: I Am Sad by 190: 8:42pm On Jul 17, 2011
OP

Come to DADDY -

I promise to call you my love not my children mum

Its ok you can cry on my shoulder's
Re: I Am Sad by MrCork17: 8:43pm On Jul 17, 2011
SarahMaria:

Is it fun to beat people who are already down  undecided

Madam I have moiney. Why dont we discuss this ovar dinner.  I drive a BMW with alloy wills! wink
Re: I Am Sad by Goldieluks: 8:44pm On Jul 17, 2011
why don't you ask ur husband of your doubts,and see what he says.
Re: I Am Sad by Dyt(f): 8:45pm On Jul 17, 2011
He s ur husband
u married him cos u loved him
cmon
sit him down n tell him everyth u noticed
n hey no threats
Re: I Am Sad by SarahMaria: 8:46pm On Jul 17, 2011
You think I should ask him?

I do not know how I should start it without making a problem from it.  undecided
Re: I Am Sad by MrCork17: 8:48pm On Jul 17, 2011
SarahMaria. madam are u light skin and are u as fat as Mrs Chima? am lookin for a wife! wink
Re: I Am Sad by SarahMaria: 8:51pm On Jul 17, 2011
If I am light skinned?

I don`t know. What is a white girl for you? dark skinned or red skinned smiley
Re: I Am Sad by Goldieluks: 8:51pm On Jul 17, 2011
Yea,ask him,
but make sure he is in a good mood,
ask him indirectly and  with a nonchalant attitude,as if its not bothering you,
but you know why you are asking and what you are trying to find out from him.
so ask him. smiley
Re: I Am Sad by SarahMaria: 8:53pm On Jul 17, 2011
I will do that. Maybe tomorrow when he comes home from work and he finished his meal wink
Re: I Am Sad by Omolola1(f): 8:58pm On Jul 17, 2011
Poster, i dont c anythn wrong in ur hubby callin u dat. If i saw what u wrote correctly, u said he told hs sister "he is takin the children and Their Mum" are u not their mum?

As for d sister's age stuff, dat is nothing, people put just anythng on facebk ds days. . .
Re: I Am Sad by SarahMaria: 8:59pm On Jul 17, 2011
Thank you for your post omulola.

I hope you are right.
Re: I Am Sad by Goldieluks: 9:00pm On Jul 17, 2011
SarahMaria:

I will do that. Maybe tomorrow when he comes home from work and he finished his meal  wink



Ok ,give it a go then,
communication is the most vital thing ,in a relationship/marriage.
it helps the relationship to grow,in trust.
Re: I Am Sad by SarahMaria: 9:04pm On Jul 17, 2011
Thats true, but My husband is a typical man.

Most of the time his answer is: We will speak tomorrow sad

It is very difficult to make him speak about important things.
Re: I Am Sad by MMM2(m): 9:06pm On Jul 17, 2011
op

u re d 2nd wife angry
Re: I Am Sad by 9jafetish(f): 9:07pm On Jul 17, 2011
SarahMaria:

Thats true, but My husband is a typical man.

Most of the time his answer is: We will speak tomorrow  sad

It is very difficult to make him speak about important things.
u should of married a white man
Re: I Am Sad by SarahMaria: 9:13pm On Jul 17, 2011
2 cnd wife shocked shocked
Re: I Am Sad by SarahMaria: 9:13pm On Jul 17, 2011
why should I marry a white man?
I want my man!
Re: I Am Sad by Omolola1(f): 9:14pm On Jul 17, 2011
applause
Re: I Am Sad by BABE3: 9:21pm On Jul 17, 2011
@ SarahMaria, talk to your husband. Make sure your Approach is very "subtle".


PS:  If you're serious about an issue and you want tangible contributions--I advice you to post your topics in the family Section. There, you'll get more sensible and matured replies.
Re: I Am Sad by Goldieluks: 9:21pm On Jul 17, 2011
second applause,



white men are worse,they don't even give you a notice,before
packing there white (asss) and stuff out of the house,
Re: I Am Sad by SarahMaria: 9:24pm On Jul 17, 2011
Thanks Goldielucks I will try that wink

Is true, white men are not better. they will run when you ask to much undecided
Re: I Am Sad by MissyB3(f): 9:35pm On Jul 17, 2011
All these oyinbo people that think every Naija man is with 'em because of ''the papers''.  undecided Well, who would blame them?!  undecided  undecided

SarahMaria, being referred to as the mother of his children may be unromantic but it certainly does not establish the suspicion of him being with you solely for the papers. As for the age issue, I can hardly make sense out of what you were trying to communicate but, whatever happened to talking it out as companions?

Plus, yes, post this in a section out of the reach of 9jafetish and her likes, for circumspect contributions.  cool
Re: I Am Sad by iv4real(f): 9:47pm On Jul 17, 2011
I don't really see anything wrong with him calling you the kids mum, obviously they know you are his wife. Then the sisiters age on facebook is nothing, my brother put his date of birth on facebook as 1979 meanwhile he was born in 1986. To me these are not issues or else you have noticed someother things you are not comfortable with . Try to learn how not to read meaning into everything, it will help you a lot.
Re: I Am Sad by ebenezer95(m): 9:49pm On Jul 17, 2011
9jafetish (f[quote][/quote] she married Nigerian meaning ??
Re: I Am Sad by White007(m): 9:49pm On Jul 17, 2011
9jafetish:

u should of married a white man

9jafetish, i thought you were a reasonable young lady? Don't you see your comments reeks of idiocy?

The poster  keeps ignoring you, but like a maggot in a pit full of feces you still had to rear your ugly head. sucka!

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Re: I Am Sad by african1(f): 9:50pm On Jul 17, 2011
Dont be sad! Usually people in Africa don't like when thier kids marry someone outside of thier group. One of my cousins is married to a nigerian, and his mother hates her very much. Also the mother thing is I think an African thing. Like my dad when he is telling people something about my mom he refers to her as "the mother of my kids"! Also if you curious about his age just ask him.
Re: I Am Sad by SarahMaria: 9:54pm On Jul 17, 2011
Thanks for your answers.
I feel much better now smiley

So true what you iv4real wrote !

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