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| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 3:10pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
bbmpin:Even the rich suffer! Bringing a child into the world is giving a life an opportunity to live, Achieve, and exist. Nigeria including some countries haven't legalized abortion as a matter of fact they are against it. So opposition of abortion is not alone religious. Not all children from dysfunctional becomes criminals. No one knows what this unborn will be ![]()
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| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by MizMyColi(f): 3:21pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Alondra:I like your submissions thus far. |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 3:22pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
MizMyColi:Thanks ![]() |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by MizMyColi(f): 3:44pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Alondra:You are welcome. I had typed stuff earlier, but decided against posting here. In the end, it's the OPs life and she is free to do with, whatever she thinks is best for her. But I speak, not just as a mother, but as someone whose life calling bothers on humanity itself.... Abortion is never the easier route. It isn't. It isn't. As I type this, my head is filled with memories of people's exoeriences. Whether it's a day old foetus or a 9 month baby...it does not change the fact that a human being has been cut off even before getting the chance to catch a whiff of life. Before now, I would say stuff like..... "I don't support abortion over reasons like this o, but if you feel it's best for you....well it's your life" Alas, I guess my recent experience (birthing) has deleted that kind of diplomacy from my head. *sighs* I wish I could say more, but I'm constrained. I earnestly pray that you have a change of heart. I also pray that things get better for you financially. I pray that the father shows empathy and support. I pray for heaven's divine guidance at a time like this for you. I cannot pretend to understand what it must be like for you... But I believe you have been imbued with strength to overcome and rise above. I'm sorry I indirectly called you a coward Inugo? It's just how I really feel, however I could have kept that to myself seeing as it's not helpful to you in any way at the moment. I may never contribute shi shi towards ur pregnancy or raising the child. But I know that you are not without help. If you decide to accept your fate in good faith, and earnestly seek your creator in prayer and meditation, you will notice changes. You will first be filled with strength and uncommon joy. Troubledheart Please do not abort. I KNOW THAT the other option isn't easier either....but please don't abort. Chai, I pray I become financially balanced someday so I can create a foundation/home that takes in people in situations like this and similar ones. It is well. |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Voice2: 3:46pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:Back to Sender, Amen! Useless thing! Stupid, demented idiot. |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 3:46pm On Dec 29, 2016*. Modified: 4:14pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
baby124:He deceived nobody. It's not a crime to share her body with him. Exactly, "share", you know it's a shared decision. It was a mutual decision, nobody was deceived into fuckkking the other, they both wanted it, both opened their legs for it. Do you see how crazy it is to marry someone you don't love just because she become pregnant for you? He's in his kid's life doing what he needs to do as a father but has another woman he's going to marry. You ladies need to be wiser because you're the ones who get belle when fuckkked. You better stop opening your legs uselessly for men or live with the consequences when you get pregnant instead of aborting aborting an innocent child. |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by baby124: 3:51pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Incline:Oh we both know he is lying to her to sleep with her. He is taking advantage of her vulnerability owing to the fact that she has a child for him. It's normal for any human being to aspire to be with the father or mother of their kids. It takes a certain kind of psycho to take advantage of that. If he is only there for his kid, he will do what he is there for. He is not a prize and we are not learning any lessons from you here. Only the fact that you have a psycho as a friend, and he will end up cheating on his wife big time. I am sure you who are his town crier will also have an excuse for his behavior when he starts cheating and emotionally abusing his wife. Maybe that time you will come and say women are pretenders so men must cheat. Please you have no lesson to teach the OP. Taking advantage of other's successfully doesn't make you wise, sharp or smart. It only shows that there is seriously something wrong with you. Even Jesus cannot help such a person. |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 3:51pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Voice2:I rebuke it, and send it back! Amen! Alleluia! Ni òrukó Jesu. ![]() Are you a member of Mountain Of Fire, or Charismatic Renewal? ![]() |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 3:53pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
baby124:Instead of arguing, listen. |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by baby124: 3:55pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Incline:You never said anything that was worth hearing. Only supporting ridiculous things to make a point to bash OP. |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Voice2: 3:58pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:Since you typed such nice stuff in the first place, why send it back? Go check again , I modified the post for your benefit. |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 4:01pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
baby124:Telling the op to work on her self esteem and not having sex anyhow with men any more isn't ridiculous. If you were wise and want her best interest as a woman, you be advicing her to do the same!!! rather than supporting her decision to abort the pregnancy like it's really going to solve anything. |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by baby124: 4:05pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Incline:it's her body, she's an adult. What right do you have to tell her what to do with her life. Did she ask you for money? Sex? So why are you preaching? Can you say that in your life everything is perfect? From all accounts she took precaution not to get pregnant but it still happened. Besides if she keeps the pregnancy do you or can you pledge to take care of the baby and assume a fatherly role to it? I didn't tell her to abort, I told her to do what she thought was best for her. It could be abortion, it could not be. That is for her to decide because I won't be there when she has to live with what ever decision she takes. |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 4:32pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Alondra:[b][color=#000050] Nigerian law? Are you being fecicious? I Don't take anything "Nigerian" seriously and so should you! Just so we are clear! To you; It makes perfect sense for a girl that has an "unwanted" pregnancy that is in its "early stages" to keep it and bring the child into this world to suffer, because we want to give everyone an "opportunity" Have you seen underage kids begging on the streets? Have you seen mothers dump kids in refuge bins? Have you seen kids die of starvation? Have you seen babies left to suffer with relatives? All these can be prevented but no...... you want to give everyone a chance even the "mistakes" Its simple if a "couple" isn't ready to handle the demands of child care, They should be jailed for bringing that innocent soul into this world to suffer. Early abortion isn't a sin, Bringing a child into this world and leaving he\her to suffer is a "sin" Why create disasters that can be prevented! [/color][/b] |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Voice2: 5:00pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:I'm glad this exchange took place, some Advisor!(Smh) |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Sanchez01: 5:37pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:You're just TOO COLD! Haba! She made a mistake, fine. It is not in our place to play God over her at this point in her life. She was reckless, naughty, wayward, blah blah blah and all of that, does not mean you are better and does not make me better as well. You don't judge people when they're down. It's totally wrong. It's like beating a man who passed out. @troubledheart, I have nothing new to say than to ask you to make haste on whatever decision you take at the end of the day. It is easier saying you give up your child for adoption when orphanages are filled with children, and we have also seen women who further dimmed their future just because the mouths to feed are much. We have scenarios of children who suffered through life to become great. Whatever path you tow in the end should be your decision and not someone else's. That way, you'd find fulfillment that you did right or otherwise. Truth is, we all make mistakes at some point in our lives. Those who don't bring theirs to the fore would forever remain saints while those who feel burdened and troubled should be burned to the stakes. Just like a couple of persons suggested, if you are certain the man responsible won't see through with you, please don't usher the child in just so he or she questions his or her existence. Mizmycoli, I understand your stand and as a pro-life, I understand how difficult it could be to 'murder' an innocent child. But then, it just could be a graver sin if at the end of the day she's left to to stare at the sun while fending for the children becomes a herculean task. I have witnessed a couple of this and I must admit that it is not a funny sight, not in the least of ways. |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 5:42pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
bbmpin:We should all take Nigeria seriously i else it will continue to be how it is or worse. Now you really want to play the mind game isn't it? So to you murdering a seed with life because you believe it is a mistake is nothing to you? Do you support infanticide too? If you know you are not ready to give birth then why have reckless sex? Have you seen someone who has implications due to abortion? Have you seen a woman who remains barren for life out of abortion? Have you not seen great men and women who have made it from nothing? Do you know the number of women / ladies that lost their lives in the process of abortion? Have you heard of situations where the foetus survived even after trials of abortion? What will you suggest in these cases? Are you saying this because you are a man? If you had been aborted for selfish reasons will you be who you are now? Its all about balance! The suffering with not be forever plus never call anyone a MISTAKE! Bringing a child into this world is giving it hope ![]() |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 5:57pm On Dec 29, 2016*. Modified: 7:13pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Voice2: Why does this degenerate plague my shores still? If you think I'm one of those uptight, socially constrained, weak-kneed characters from those Mills-and-boon novels you chug, I advise you'd better perish the thought this very instant. Maybe I'd start taking you seriously when you no longer hide pusillanimously behind an alternate, or stop posing as a female. |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 5:58pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
MizMyColi:You are right it's the op decision to make, in fact she has made the decision this thread is just for validations. Whatever actions she takes I wish her the very best in it ![]() |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 5:59pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Alondra:A million likes for this... |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 6:03pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:I'm happy you agreed ![]() |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 6:04pm On Dec 29, 2016*. Modified: 6:58pm On Dec 30, 2016 |
Alondra:Is there any particular reason for you being happy at my agreeing? |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Voice2: 6:06pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Sanchez01:Hmmn, it might interest you to know that the same person wrote the post quoted directly above yours. Queer? |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 6:08pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:It's nice to know you are not the only one who thinks otherwise ![]() |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by sisisioge: 6:09pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Incline: you sef reason am? OP forgot she's the only one on quality assessment radia. |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Voice2: 6:09pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Sanchez01:It might interest you to know that THE SAME critic of casual sex wrote the post quoted directly above yours. See? |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by MizMyColi(f): 6:21pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Sanchez01:well sha. I understand your angle too. To each his own path. |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by cococandy(f): 6:27pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Mindfulness:Same to you from us |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by sisisioge: 6:40pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Wowzerful! I read all your posts OP and totally understand where you sit. Hmmmm, the embarrassment of whoooops-she-did-it-again... The unending insults from your folks... The burnt out cable( single mother of TWO from TWO men! Kabiesi o!) The emotional stress of managing pregnancy .... To add serious salt to injury, the bobo doesn't give a hoot about you! Whew! I understand...I sure do. However, sheet really happens and there's nothing in this world that hasn't been seen before. Biko, give this baby a chance... Once he/she is here, and you hold him/her in your arms...You would see all you've been through is worth it. Let them talk...You would be the winner and God won't let you do it alone. He caters for His children. About the bobo, can you stay off his face right now until baby bump gives him a cold reality? Yeah...then he would see that he's indeed about to be a father. Meanwhile, don't let him off the hook...call him into even the cheapest bill! It is well, may God help you. |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 6:46pm On Dec 29, 2016*. Modified: 7:15pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Alondra:Roger that. ![]() Sanchez01: What bedevils this country is that many of her citizens are terribly blinded to a fault, and would never call a spade a spade, even when faced with circumstances that greatly warrant it. The young lady asked that the truth be served hard and raw to her, and that was exactly what I did. She didn't ask that we be obsequious and tell her only what she wishes to hear. I had her chastised - partly for thinking to KILL a child, and partly for making the same mistake twice, and then I proffered some words of encouragement, yet you say I am being too harsh? I never passed judgement on her. What is wrong with you petty men? My major gripe with this forum is that it brims with inferior minds who are very much slow on the uptake. Voice2: Both nuance and context are lost on you. Why did God have to create stüpid people? He just had to ruin it, didn't he? I wonder how the likes of Nikola Tesla and Leonardo Da Vinci survived a day around the simple-minded and unintelligent people in their time without going insane. Damn! Who said eugenics was evil? I never criticised casual sex. What I did was criticise the OP for indulging in it with someone she wasn't certain to wed, especially since her first child was a result of something similar. God! Stupidity is a curse! |
| Re: Pregnant And Depressed. by Nobody: 6:48pm On Dec 29, 2016 |
Youve already made up your mind, So why are you telling us? You are not a good person. A good person is characterised by good choices. You want to kill a baby. And you have failed your first child by not giving him or her a father and a home. Your baby daddy will marry someone else and have kids he will actually be a father to. |
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