However, if he opens a shop and makes the mother financially independent for instance, that would take a lot of responsibilities off his shoulders.

okpanachil: @ biolabee Thank you joor,some of us actually make contributions like we don't understand our environment.While I do no support d idea of birthing kids you can't take care of d truth is ds tns happen.You rili think d@ d poster and d would be wife would have peace if he doesn't yield on ds matter. Do you guys know how much sacrifice d family wld have made 2 make sure he is where he is today and d resultant expectation frm ds sacrifices,to tell u d truth d poster wld neva b happy whenever he luks back and sees those family member he wld have helped not making d cut in life? Marriage in d african community transcends just d two couples,have u guys ever tut of wat d relationship btw the family of d guy and d wife would be . I have seen ds tns happen firsthand and to tell you d truth its never fun. some of us don too stay oyinbo land so we no even knw wassup for area again.My advice is d guy should just do his best and prioritize the projects that would improve the lot of d family but watever d case is never easy.

youngalex: my close friend with a secured job(earning #1.1m per annum),just started working last year is currently contemplating getting married but his family is kicking against it especially the mum who feels there are many family responsibilities(siblings in Uni,renovating the house in the village,opening a shop for mum etc) that needs to be taken care of ,he needs my advice so am throwing the issue to the house if u were in his shoes what will u do?

Haaaahahahaa..

I just cant stop laughing long enough to type a sensible response..

youngalex: my close friend with a secured job(earning #1.1m per annum),just started working last year is currently contemplating getting married but his family is kicking against it especially the mum who feels there are many family responsibilities(siblings in Uni,renovating the house in the village,opening a shop for mum etc) that needs to be taken care of ,he needs my advice so am throwing the issue to the house if u were in his shoes what will u do?

biolabee: Parents do it because of poverty

Let him settle his obligations and let the siblings be on their feet or else they will still burden his new family

Is it now the parents fault they are poor

They focussed on the shining light so he can help the rest when he is on his feet

A rich man among poor people is poor






Alternatively, he is free to abdicate his responsibilities after all this is the new millenium .. Lol

Lilimax:
The earlier he get 'detached' from his mother and set up his family, the better for him.
I'm talking from experience... He should try and settle his mother and sibbling to the level he can and face his own family else he may never get off the family responsibilty.

kennygee: Trust me, my dad did it, immediately he died, those same family members turned their baks on us and were the very ones giving my mum problems. It's not worth it, Your happiness is supreme, any family responsiblity can come after your husband or wife and kids.

bellong: If he is emotionally ready and matured enough to be married, the tantrums of his mother shouldn't debar him. He was not born to live his life for them. Responsibilities do not end especially financial ones. He will have to support his family members and parents till life drops out of him.

Although, he owes his family by helping with his siblings' education when the need arises but the the burden of the responsibilities should not be put on him alone. Between, we do not know if there was an agreement with the family to sponsor him through school and once he gets a job, he will in turn see others through. You just said my mind. Besides d salary is less dan a 100k. So y all these?

In summary, a categorical advice cannot be given except full information is known about the whole scenario. He knows what he wants, he should decide on what to do...

Fhemmmy:

Not that simple and easy, cos a curse from a mother is not easy to deal with, at same time, we have no idea what the mother and even the siblings has passed through to get him to the 1.1M Naira annually recipient.

eddiebruk: Marriage is not a thing that a man should rush into, we should not also forget that the Mother is saying all these because when a man Marries a woman, some responsibilities of the wife's family automatically becomes his, and some men because of fear of loosing their wife tend to Ignore their family after marriage while the family of their wife benefits from them, the mother is only being concerned about the Burden of the family and if the man isn't able to fulfill this, then he is not financially ready for marriage, Settling your immediate family should be every mans priority before getting into marriage, this is Africa, not America or Europe.

gboss4sure: If he is the first son let him settle his family first, man must do what he gat to do. With that amount he is earning now it is too small, 1.1m per year? Can he take care of a woman with it. Let him open up another business for himself, then when he gets more money he should open a business for his family so that the needs of his siblings can be settled from there... Omoh woman need no be wetin earning of 1.1M per year go fit solve, not to talk of when the woman starts droping children.

At 1.1m he should be looking into opening another business that will be making him money and not to talk of getting married. Family issue no be small matter o

Afrocatalyst: Family responsibility is no excuse to delay marriage. You can plan both. Besides you dnt marry and live with ur mum. Dat's wrong. I also have family responsibilities bt I married at 25.

Lilimax: Are you saying he should be enslaved to the his family without facing his own immediate family? Little wonder most of them end up marrying very late...