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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by peacefulone: 10:39pm On Dec 29, 2016
op, go find ur own girl. P.S. i hope u r using protection with her before we hear stories that touch wink

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by meggi4(m): 10:39pm On Dec 29, 2016
females are the worst of all God creatures dat gal bad u knw wat? gararadey
Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by obashiakpu(m): 10:40pm On Dec 29, 2016
Make her spare tyre as she did to you. Look for a more serious girl if she insist having an affair with you. She has no conscience.
Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by free2ryhme: 10:40pm On Dec 29, 2016
caukerzee:
Well it goes like this; I met this girl some months ago. I instantly had a liking for her reason being that she looked so much like an old friend. We got talking and as time went on, feelings began to set it. I made my intentions clear to her about wanting to date her and she was like "let's see how it goes". We hung out a couple of times, from the signs I was getting it became obvious that she was intrested in me.
One night we got chatting on whatsApp after we came back from an outing. I asked her: "hope you had fun today? " she replied: "yes. Thanks for making my day. It was generally a good day except that I'm having issues with my boyfriend ". ["Did I just hear boyfriend ?"; I said in my mind] Trying to play it cool I said: "Sorry about that". At this point I told many thoughts began to cross my mind. Not wanting to be a girlfriend snatcher I let it pass. We continued chatting. After a few convos she asked me: "Hope you're not hurt ?" "About?" (Pretending not to know what she was talking about ): I replied. "About the boyfriend stuff? "
"Nah...why should I?"
"But I have feelings for you and would have really like if we could work out I'm sorry ".
"Now I'm going to cry in my pillow for weeks (I said jokingly )".


"Lol. You're funny ".
"Do me a favour ".
"what ?"
"You're going to be responsible for getting me the second most beautiful and amazing girl now that I can not have you".
"Lol ".
Long story short, she began trying to convince me to give it a try. Telling me how her boyfriend stays outside town and how they only see once in a while. I let her know that I can't share my woman with another man, how I can't be the side guy. She kept insisting telling me to trust her. I still let her know that more than affection I need comitment and how it's impossible to be commited to two people and all the emotional baggage that comes with it (having witness a similar scenario ). She told me to pretend I didn't know about another man in her life. She kept insisting. I then asked: "If you have a boyfriend what that make me?"
"Boyfriend": she replied. We kept going back and forth about the scenario until I told her to forget it as I cannot be a "Backup plan". She claimed I did not care about her feelings.
The following evening her roommate called me asking me what I did to her friend and how she had been crying all evening. I felt bad and asked to meet so we could talk things over. I eventually agreed to date her giving her the following terms :
1. That she figures which of us she's going to continue with and a day will come when she has to decide or it's over.
2. That she never brings him up whenever we're together.
She was very happy and took the offer. Things got off to a great start. Time went on and we increasingly got fon of each other.
The first day we kissed, she told me she was feeling guilty. Trying not to be a drama queen, I reacted cooly. I just reminded her about our agreement of not bringing stuff like that up. She cries any time we have sextet and as time went on I made her feel comfortable about sex.
The relationship went on. We had fights, we reconciled every time like every other normal relationship.
A few days ago when she was supposed to leave town to her family for the Christmas, we had our goodbye sex and all that. We said our 'byes' and 'i miss you(s)' & parted ways. Latter that evening, she called me and was crying over the phone. I told her to calm down and tell me what the matter was. She told me that what she did with me earlier in the day, she did with the other guy. My heart shattred. I was so furious and didn't know what to say. I just ended the call. She kept calling and texting to apologise saying she won't bring him up again and that she needed someone to talk to at that point that's why she called. Ignored her for a while then I replied her; if she wants us to work out, she we have to meet up and talk about our relationship should be ideally. But she seems not to be able to make up her mind. I feel this is a typical case of trying to eat your cake and have it.
What do I do?

Stop all this fornication

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by mixter(m): 10:40pm On Dec 29, 2016
if men like wristbangle and solaxxberry don give you advise. I guess there's little I can say. Stick to their advice . In addition, after àll said and done, the choice is yours to make. Though I have a strong feeling that you know the right thing to do.
Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by Orikinla1: 10:40pm On Dec 29, 2016
Only immature and insecure people cheat on their lovers or spouses.
And the worst is a cry baby cheat.

The most dangerous thing is to have sex with a girl who already has a boyfriend you don't know.
Whether she has contracted HIV or other infections from him.
Whether he is a cultist or criminal of another kind.
Tomorrow if you get attacked and murdered, ignorant people will not know you asked for it.

Finall analysis, you are taking advantage of her immaturity and insecurity.

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by TheMan001: 10:41pm On Dec 29, 2016
caukerzee:
Well it goes like this; I met this girl some months ago. I instantly had a liking for her reason being that she looked so much like an old friend. We got talking and as time went on, feelings began to set it. I made my intentions clear to her about wanting to date her and she was like "let's see how it goes". We hung out a couple of times, from the signs I was getting it became obvious that she was intrested in me.
One night we got chatting on whatsApp after we came back from an outing. I asked her: "hope you had fun today? " she replied: "yes. Thanks for making my day. It was generally a good day except that I'm having issues with my boyfriend ". ["Did I just hear boyfriend ?"; I said in my mind] Trying to play it cool I said: "Sorry about that". At this point I told many thoughts began to cross my mind. Not wanting to be a girlfriend snatcher I let it pass. We continued chatting. After a few convos she asked me: "Hope you're not hurt ?" "About?" (Pretending not to know what she was talking about ): I replied. "About the boyfriend stuff? "
"Nah...why should I?"
"But I have feelings for you and would have really like if we could work out I'm sorry ".
"Now I'm going to cry in my pillow for weeks (I said jokingly )".
"Lol. You're funny ".
"Do me a favour ".
"what ?"
"You're going to be responsible for getting me the second most beautiful and amazing girl now that I can not have you".
"Lol ".
Long story short, she began trying to convince me to give it a try. Telling me how her boyfriend stays outside town and how they only see once in a while. I let her know that I can't share my woman with another man, how I can't be the side guy. She kept insisting telling me to trust her. I still let her know that more than affection I need comitment and how it's impossible to be commited to two people and all the emotional baggage that comes with it (having witness a similar scenario ). She told me to pretend I didn't know about another man in her life. She kept insisting. I then asked: "If you have a boyfriend what that make me?"
"Boyfriend": she replied. We kept going back and forth about the scenario until I told her to forget it as I cannot be a "Backup plan". She claimed I did not care about her feelings.
The following evening her roommate called me asking me what I did to her friend and how she had been crying all evening. I felt bad and asked to meet so we could talk things over. I eventually agreed to date her giving her the following terms :
1. That she figures which of us she's going to continue with and a day will come when she has to decide or it's over.
2. That she never brings him up whenever we're together.
She was very happy and took the offer. Things got off to a great start. Time went on and we increasingly got fon of each other.
The first day we kissed, she told me she was feeling guilty. Trying not to be a drama queen, I reacted cooly. I just reminded her about our agreement of not bringing stuff like that up. She cries any time we have sextet and as time went on I made her feel comfortable about sex.
The relationship went on. We had fights, we reconciled every time like every other normal relationship.
A few days ago when she was supposed to leave town to her family for the Christmas, we had our goodbye sex and all that. We said our 'byes' and 'i miss you(s)' & parted ways. Latter that evening, she called me and was crying over the phone. I told her to calm down and tell me what the matter was. She told me that what she did with me earlier in the day, she did with the other guy. My heart shattred. I was so furious and didn't know what to say. I just ended the call. She kept calling and texting to apologise saying she won't bring him up again and that she needed someone to talk to at that point that's why she called. Ignored her for a while then I replied her; if she wants us to work out, she we have to meet up and talk about our relationship should be ideally. But she seems not to be able to make up her mind. I feel this is a typical case of trying to eat your cake and have it.
What do I do?


So baba, d punnany was so sweet that you have to come to nairaland to tell how u refuse to share... Baba this ur story sef, u get journalistic problems and dat ur sex mate na better OGBANJE.

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by stan241(m): 10:41pm On Dec 29, 2016
davidif:


Guy I tire for some of the comments I dey read on here sef. Its almost surprising that no one is excoriating him for what he did.


As in eh, sometimes i just choose to believe since its for the most part a faceless forum, people just assume an online character and say things they'd really not be able to do in the real world. Op should have ran the instance she suggested such arrangement because she'd do same to him in the long run.

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by bayocanny: 10:43pm On Dec 29, 2016
I can relate
Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by smark61: 10:43pm On Dec 29, 2016
Whytelyon:


import stdio.nl
import secondeye.nl
import gfmodule.nl

main()
If found:CheatingGF==true
Then
DisposeCheatingGf()
And
puts: EndOfSory()
Else found:goodGF ==true
Then
Puts:RelationshipTillMarriage()
And
puts:EndOfStory()

End.




I wrote this simple code to check for cheating gf'z on Nairaland grin Op take note.




Lol na java?
Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by mengho(m): 10:44pm On Dec 29, 2016
if not I must marry to have kids, I would have stayed single 4ever, some fefol are just so disgusting. Gosh, I just find hard to trust any other woman apart from my mother & blood relatives.

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by faitheverest(f): 10:44pm On Dec 29, 2016
davidif:


Finally! The most reasonable post i 've read on here.


Thanks and good night!

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by chronique(m): 10:44pm On Dec 29, 2016
Dude, you are on your own. Remember HIV is real and women are carriers. Quit that shitty relationship now. She would always play the victim and like every or most women out there, would never accept she was wrong, when things get sordid. Just let her be. Think about your safety and the risk involved with shagging a partner who is sleeping with another partner, who could be sleeping with multiple partners, who could be doing same. You got only one life to live; don't live it carelessly or waste it. Nuff said.
caukerzee:
Well it goes like this; I met this girl some months ago. I instantly had a liking for her reason being that she looked so much like an old friend. We got talking and as time went on, feelings began to set it. I made my intentions clear to her about wanting to date her and she was like "let's see how it goes". We hung out a couple of times, from the signs I was getting it became obvious that she was intrested in me.
One night we got chatting on whatsApp after we came back from an outing. I asked her: "hope you had fun today? " she replied: "yes. Thanks for making my day. It was generally a good day except that I'm having issues with my boyfriend ". ["Did I just hear boyfriend ?"; I said in my mind] Trying to play it cool I said: "Sorry about that". At this point I told many thoughts began to cross my mind. Not wanting to be a girlfriend snatcher I let it pass. We continued chatting. After a few convos she asked me: "Hope you're not hurt ?" "About?" (Pretending not to know what she was talking about ): I replied. "About the boyfriend stuff? "
"Nah...why should I?"
"But I have feelings for you and would have really like if we could work out I'm sorry ".
"Now I'm going to cry in my pillow for weeks (I said jokingly )".
"Lol. You're funny ".
"Do me a favour ".
"what ?"
"You're going to be responsible for getting me the second most beautiful and amazing girl now that I can not have you".
"Lol ".
Long story short, she began trying to convince me to give it a try. Telling me how her boyfriend stays outside town and how they only see once in a while. I let her know that I can't share my woman with another man, how I can't be the side guy. She kept insisting telling me to trust her. I still let her know that more than affection I need comitment and how it's impossible to be commited to two people and all the emotional baggage that comes with it (having witness a similar scenario ). She told me to pretend I didn't know about another man in her life. She kept insisting. I then asked: "If you have a boyfriend what that make me?"
"Boyfriend": she replied. We kept going back and forth about the scenario until I told her to forget it as I cannot be a "Backup plan". She claimed I did not care about her feelings.
The following evening her roommate called me asking me what I did to her friend and how she had been crying all evening. I felt bad and asked to meet so we could talk things over. I eventually agreed to date her giving her the following terms :
1. That she figures which of us she's going to continue with and a day will come when she has to decide or it's over.
2. That she never brings him up whenever we're together.
She was very happy and took the offer. Things got off to a great start. Time went on and we increasingly got fon of each other.
The first day we kissed, she told me she was feeling guilty. Trying not to be a drama queen, I reacted cooly. I just reminded her about our agreement of not bringing stuff like that up. She cries any time we have sextet and as time went on I made her feel comfortable about sex.
The relationship went on. We had fights, we reconciled every time like every other normal relationship.
A few days ago when she was supposed to leave town to her family for the Christmas, we had our goodbye sex and all that. We said our 'byes' and 'i miss you(s)' & parted ways. Latter that evening, she called me and was crying over the phone. I told her to calm down and tell me what the matter was. She told me that what she did with me earlier in the day, she did with the other guy. My heart shattred. I was so furious and didn't know what to say. I just ended the call. She kept calling and texting to apologise saying she won't bring him up again and that she needed someone to talk to at that point that's why she called. Ignored her for a while then I replied her; if she wants us to work out, she we have to meet up and talk about our relationship should be ideally. But she seems not to be able to make up her mind. I feel this is a typical case of trying to eat your cake and have it.
What do I do?

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by beecity: 10:45pm On Dec 29, 2016
caukerzee:
Well it goes like this; I met this girl some months ago. I instantly had a liking for her reason being that she looked so much like an old friend. We got talking and as time went on, feelings began to set it. I made my intentions clear to her about wanting to date her and she was like "let's see how it goes". We hung out a couple of times, from the signs I was getting it became obvious that she was intrested in me.
One night we got chatting on whatsApp after we came back from an outing. I asked her: "hope you had fun today? " she replied: "yes. Thanks for making my day. It was generally a good day except that I'm having issues with my boyfriend ". ["Did I just hear boyfriend ?"; I said in my mind] Trying to play it cool I said: "Sorry about that". At this point I told many thoughts began to cross my mind. Not wanting to be a girlfriend snatcher I let it pass. We continued chatting. After a few convos she asked me: "Hope you're not hurt ?" "About?" (Pretending not to know what she was talking about ): I replied. "About the boyfriend stuff? "
"Nah...why should I?"
"But I have feelings for you and would have really like if we could work out I'm sorry ".
"Now I'm going to cry in my pillow for weeks (I said jokingly )".
"Lol. You're funny ".
"Do me a favour ".
"what ?"
"You're going to be responsible for getting me the second most beautiful and amazing girl now that I can not have you".
"Lol ".
Long story short, she began trying to convince me to give it a try. Telling me how her boyfriend stays outside town and how they only see once in a while. I let her know that I can't share my woman with another man, how I can't be the side guy. She kept insisting telling me to trust her. I still let her know that more than affection I need comitment and how it's impossible to be commited to two people and all the emotional baggage that comes with it (having witness a similar scenario ). She told me to pretend I didn't know about another man in her life. She kept insisting. I then asked: "If you have a boyfriend what that make me?"
"Boyfriend": she replied. We kept going back and forth about the scenario until I told her to forget it as I cannot be a "Backup plan". She claimed I did not care about her feelings.
The following evening her roommate called me asking me what I did to her friend and how she had been crying all evening. I felt bad and asked to meet so we could talk things over. I eventually agreed to date her giving her the following terms :
1. That she figures which of us she's going to continue with and a day will come when she has to decide or it's over.
2. That she never brings him up whenever we're together.
She was very happy and took the offer. Things got off to a great start. Time went on and we increasingly got fon of each other.
The first day we kissed, she told me she was feeling guilty. Trying not to be a drama queen, I reacted cooly. I just reminded her about our agreement of not bringing stuff like that up. She cries any time we have sextet and as time went on I made her feel comfortable about sex.
The relationship went on. We had fights, we reconciled every time like every other normal relationship.
A few days ago when she was supposed to leave town to her family for the Christmas, we had our goodbye sex and all that. We said our 'byes' and 'i miss you(s)' & parted ways. Latter that evening, she called me and was crying over the phone. I told her to calm down and tell me what the matter was. She told me that what she did with me earlier in the day, she did with the other guy. My heart shattred. I was so furious and didn't know what to say. I just ended the call. She kept calling and texting to apologise saying she won't bring him up again and that she needed someone to talk to at that point that's why she called. Ignored her for a while then I replied her; if she wants us to work out, she we have to meet up and talk about our relationship should be ideally. But she seems not to be able to make up her mind. I feel this is a typical case of trying to eat your cake and have it.
What do I do?
Guy must u straf all your girlfriends?? Why can't u guyz just have a normal relationship without sexing?? You have joined bad gang. Child of the world.
Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by smark61: 10:47pm On Dec 29, 2016
blackjah:
kpekus is the ultimate goal of the MALE race

Smh grin grin grin cheesy cheesy Nairaland Pipo sef
Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by Orikinla1: 10:50pm On Dec 29, 2016
chronique:
Dude, you are on your own. Remember HIV is real and women are carriers. Quit that shitty relationship now. She would always play the victim and like every or most women out there, would never accept she was wrong, when things get sordid. Just let her be. Think about your safety and the risk involved with shagging a partner who is sleeping with another partner, who could be sleeping with multiple partners, who could be doing same. You got only one life to live; don't live it carelessly or waste it. Nuff said.
Word.

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by WomanOfRace(f): 10:52pm On Dec 29, 2016
UIA04:
You are dating a pricK eater


Shes pretending or has low self esteem

I'm sure her room mate is a fellow olosHo

She probably has five of your type she calls MAGA


U are feeling like Cupid god of love

Correct babe!! all the crying stuff na staged. The bobo don fall maga self without knowing. The babe na the type that believes in quantity the quality and she knows how to use her emotions to strategize.

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by athorello(m): 10:52pm On Dec 29, 2016
Share a pussi that's not olosho Bros,4 what!!! What if any of you luzgad? Mehn... Arus no dey messi o grin. Imagine going oral sef.... Blood of Zach shocked shocked
Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by smark61: 10:53pm On Dec 29, 2016
caukerzee:
Well it goes like this; I met this girl some months ago. I instantly had a liking for her reason being that she looked so much like an old friend. We got talking and as time went on, feelings began to set it. I made my intentions clear to her about wanting to date her and she was like "let's see how it goes". We hung out a couple of times, from the signs I was getting it became obvious that she was intrested in me.
One night we got chatting on whatsApp after we came back from an outing. I asked her: "hope you had fun today? " she replied: "yes. Thanks for making my day. It was generally a good day except that I'm having issues with my boyfriend ". ["Did I just hear boyfriend ?"; I said in my mind] Trying to play it cool I said: "Sorry about that". At this point I told many thoughts began to cross my mind. Not wanting to be a girlfriend snatcher I let it pass. We continued chatting. After a few convos she asked me: "Hope you're not hurt ?" "About?" (Pretending not to know what she was talking about ): I replied. "About the boyfriend stuff? "
"Nah...why should I?"
"But I have feelings for you and would have really like if we could work out I'm sorry ".
"Now I'm going to cry in my pillow for weeks (I said jokingly )".
"Lol. You're funny ".
"Do me a favour ".
"what ?"
"You're going to be responsible for getting me the second most beautiful and amazing girl now that I can not have you".
"Lol ".
Long story short, she began trying to convince me to give it a try. Telling me how her boyfriend stays outside town and how they only see once in a while. I let her know that I can't share my woman with another man, how I can't be the side guy. She kept insisting telling me to trust her. I still let her know that more than affection I need comitment and how it's impossible to be commited to two people and all the emotional baggage that comes with it (having witness a similar scenario ). She told me to pretend I didn't know about another man in her life. She kept insisting. I then asked: "If you have a boyfriend what that make me?"
"Boyfriend": she replied. We kept going back and forth about the scenario until I told her to forget it as I cannot be a "Backup plan". She claimed I did not care about her feelings.
The following evening her roommate called me asking me what I did to her friend and how she had been crying all evening. I felt bad and asked to meet so we could talk things over. I eventually agreed to date her giving her the following terms :
1. That she figures which of us she's going to continue with and a day will come when she has to decide or it's over.
2. That she never brings him up whenever we're together.
She was very happy and took the offer. Things got off to a great start. Time went on and we increasingly got fon of each other.
The first day we kissed, she told me she was feeling guilty. Trying not to be a drama queen, I reacted cooly. I just reminded her about our agreement of not bringing stuff like that up. She cries any time we have sextet and as time went on I made her feel comfortable about sex.
The relationship went on. We had fights, we reconciled every time like every other normal relationship.
A few days ago when she was supposed to leave town to her family for the Christmas, we had our goodbye sex and all that. We said our 'byes' and 'i miss you(s)' & parted ways. Latter that evening, she called me and was crying over the phone. I told her to calm down and tell me what the matter was. She told me that what she did with me earlier in the day, she did with the other guy. My heart shattred. I was so furious and didn't know what to say. I just ended the call. She kept calling and texting to apologise saying she won't bring him up again and that she needed someone to talk to at that point that's why she called. Ignored her for a while then I replied her; if she wants us to work out, she we have to meet up and talk about our relationship should be ideally. But she seems not to be able to make up her mind. I feel this is a typical case of trying to eat your cake and have it.
What do I do?




From wat u wrote now I can tell u dat d girl is a teenager n her bf is d guy she lost her virginity to. Dats y she cried during sex.cus she felt bad n dats y d first time dey meet when she left u dey av sex.dat guy is in control of her. She can't put him away just like that. Go n look for ur own gf

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by Nobody: 10:54pm On Dec 29, 2016
Hmm I just weak,God save us from karashika,hope you wear condoms sha
Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by duketerry22(m): 10:54pm On Dec 29, 2016
Do what you're gonna do and dump her this girl is using you to satisfy her feelings of loneliness, if her 'boyfriend' were to move back to be close to her you'd be a forgotten story and she'd tell you that you knew how it was and she's sorry she never meant to hurt you blah blah blah.. Banging both u guys the same day? Dude.. This isn't vampire diaries nobody compelled you so just leave before it's too late... grin grin

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by Oyediran11(m): 10:56pm On Dec 29, 2016
I want to believe the girl knows what she's doing, she knows when and how to dump you when the time comes. Anyway, I don't know some guys still fall for this old game. She does love you, maybe she likes something about you.
Check my signature and change your story
Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by THEREALLIFE: 10:56pm On Dec 29, 2016
BRO, YOU NOT THE MOST ATTRACTIVE GUY ON EARTH, NEITHER ARE YOU THE RICHEST DUDE ON THE PLANET. SHE ONLY CONSIDERED YOU COZ U HAD MORE QUALITY THAN HER PRESENT. BUT THE MOMENT, quote me on this; 'BUT THE MOMENT SHE FINDS SOMEONE WITH MORE PEDIGREE AND STATISTICS THAN YOU, SHE WOULDNT HESITATE.
COZ SHES DONE IT BEFORE.
I am no judge though. She may have her goals, dreams and aspirations above whatever feelings she has. Just a bystander thought.
In summary, if she' has done it before to another guy; chances are you are just going to be another victim.

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by Danielbuyner: 10:56pm On Dec 29, 2016
Well done

Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by dinachi(m): 10:56pm On Dec 29, 2016
caukerzee:
Well it goes like this; I met this girl some months ago. I instantly had a liking for her reason being that she looked so much like an old friend. We got talking and as time went on, feelings began to set it. I made my intentions clear to her about wanting to date her and she was like "let's see how it goes". We hung out a couple of times, from the signs I was getting it became obvious that she was intrested in me.
One night we got chatting on whatsApp after we came back from an outing. I asked her: "hope you had fun today? " she replied: "yes. Thanks for making my day. It was generally a good day except that I'm having issues with my boyfriend ". ["Did I just hear boyfriend ?"; I said in my mind] Trying to play it cool I said: "Sorry about that". At this point I told many thoughts began to cross my mind. Not wanting to be a girlfriend snatcher I let it pass. We continued chatting. After a few convos she asked me: "Hope you're not hurt ?" "About?" (Pretending not to know what she was talking about ): I replied. "About the boyfriend stuff? "
"Nah...why should I?"
"But I have feelings for you and would have really like if we could work out I'm sorry ".
"Now I'm going to cry in my pillow for weeks (I said jokingly )".
"Lol. You're funny ".
"Do me a favour ".
"what ?"
"You're going to be responsible for getting me the second most beautiful and amazing girl now that I can not have you".
"Lol ".
Long story short, she began trying to convince me to give it a try. Telling me how her boyfriend stays outside town and how they only see once in a while. I let her know that I can't share my woman with another man, how I can't be the side guy. She kept insisting telling me to trust her. I still let her know that more than affection I need comitment and how it's impossible to be commited to two people and all the emotional baggage that comes with it (having witness a similar scenario ). She told me to pretend I didn't know about another man in her life. She kept insisting. I then asked: "If you have a boyfriend what that make me?"
"Boyfriend": she replied. We kept going back and forth about the scenario until I told her to forget it as I cannot be a "Backup plan". She claimed I did not care about her feelings.
The following evening her roommate called me asking me what I did to her friend and how she had been crying all evening. I felt bad and asked to meet so we could talk things over. I eventually agreed to date her giving her the following terms :
1. That she figures which of us she's going to continue with and a day will come when she has to decide or it's over.
2. That she never brings him up whenever we're together.
She was very happy and took the offer. Things got off to a great start. Time went on and we increasingly got fon of each other.
The first day we kissed, she told me she was feeling guilty. Trying not to be a drama queen, I reacted cooly. I just reminded her about our agreement of not bringing stuff like that up. She cries any time we have sextet and as time went on I made her feel comfortable about sex.
The relationship went on. We had fights, we reconciled every time like every other normal relationship.
A few days ago when she was supposed to leave town to her family for the Christmas, we had our goodbye sex and all that. We said our 'byes' and 'i miss you(s)' & parted ways. Latter that evening, she called me and was crying over the phone. I told her to calm down and tell me what the matter was. She told me that what she did with me earlier in the day, she did with the other guy. My heart shattred. I was so furious and didn't know what to say. I just ended the call. She kept calling and texting to apologise saying she won't bring him up again and that she needed someone to talk to at that point that's why she called. Ignored her for a while then I replied her; if she wants us to work out, she we have to meet up and talk about our relationship should be ideally. But she seems not to be able to make up her mind. I feel this is a typical case of trying to eat your cake and have it.
What do I do?
A smarter wiseass girl is playing two grown men like fools! And wait for it, one of the confounded fools is even on nairaland asking embarrassing questions. I doff my cap for the girl. I must confess that she is very smart. @ OP I am very sorry because of how I sound but I am increasingly embarrassed by the juvenile response of some men to matters of the heart. Dump her sorry ass now
Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by mizzyboy007: 10:57pm On Dec 29, 2016
Guy, I'll give you the best advice you can ever get here... pretend to live her and agree to her terms, keep fvcking her pussay constantly till you are tired. then when you finally find the girl of your dreams, dump her sorry ass. those kind of girls don't deserve your kind of person.... Guy no dull oh. just do what I said and see how happy you will be. cheers.

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by mizzyboy007: 10:57pm On Dec 29, 2016
Guy, I'll give you the best advice you can ever get here... pretend to love her and agree to her terms, keep fvcking her pussay constantly till you are tired. then when you finally find the girl of your dreams, dump her sorry ass. those kind of girls don't deserve your kind of person.... Guy no dull oh. just do what I said and see how happy you will be. cheers.

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by Divay22(f): 11:03pm On Dec 29, 2016
Hmmmm....she likes the both of you equally,she doesn't wanna lose you she doesn't wanna lose him...my advice....
Tell her to list Wat she likes about you and what she dislikes about you,same thing she'll do for the other guy ,she can take a week off and shouldn't talk to any of you,Tell.her to be sincere with herself,Because she can't eat her cake and have it back......
Don't self pity her, be strict,After all this she should come to a conclusion of either dating you or the other guy,Don't let her tears move you,Tell her you can't afford to share her with anybody.........
She's confused,the both of you are equal before her,whatever that happens DON'T BE HER BACK UP PLAN.....

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by akeensbussy(m): 11:05pm On Dec 29, 2016
May God help us....Check my Signature.
Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by Seamareggae(m): 11:08pm On Dec 29, 2016
Nice story bro.... A babe in a relationship compelled you to date her...

I hope a married woman won't also compel you to marry her....

Well... Compliments of the season...

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Re: She Has A Boyfriend But Still Likes Me by youngfocus(m): 11:12pm On Dec 29, 2016
[quote author=dairykidd post=52290502]Don't know what these other guys above me are saying but Op u got it all wrong from d beginning...she just wanted fun with u..just hot,banging,rough,butt naked s3x n u messed it all up looking for luv/relationship...She already has that brah!! That's why she let u kno abt d existing bf...u r d one with d problems not her...u just made both ur lives complicated when it could have been a beneficial sonthin.I don't kno why some guys can't read signs even when its written in bold.. Gluck [/quote.bro wen u drop mic cum for two trophy,u just hit d nail on d head

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