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Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by hartson: 7:09pm On Jan 14, 2017

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Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by kinglekiss(m): 7:14pm On Jan 14, 2017

hmmm,just passing by.. I don't have nothing much to say, "THE TRUTH HURT"

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by Kronical(m): 7:16pm On Jan 14, 2017

Coming from a single lady, I don't find this article interesting..

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by Dream2(m): 7:43pm On Jan 14, 2017

amodu:
Your consent first .....

bro Dream 2, what do you think

amodu:
Your consent first .....

bro Dream 2, what do you think

You're on the right track sir,GO AHEAD.

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by Beamborla(f): 7:47pm On Jan 14, 2017

...comprehension wahala sha. This is not written for the married, it's for the singles. And who says a spinster can't give advise to the married? Knowledge/wisdom can be found anywhere; where you least expect it. We've all seen and heard stories so I see no big deal if someone decides to share what she has learned or deduced from happenings around her with others.

Except you are directly from the pit of hell, what the OP has written is on point. If you've got issue with the messanger, Kuku say it out instead of hiding under she's not married and blah...blah...blah.

Calling her out because of her status is not only myopic, it reeks of lack of wisdom.

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Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by Nobody: 7:52pm On Jan 14, 2017

refiner:
Yea..but we are only 4 tho..

Real lucky I must say because out of four at least one will be SS, one will be AA and the other two AS. Well according to my elementary biology.

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by Nobody: 8:15pm On Jan 14, 2017

Most singles ladies I know that have been giving marriage advise are not married, they are still single writing their dos and don't to the married and the pre-married. Few that are married have bad marriages. If you think I'm joking check them out very well.

So I've long stopped taking them seriously cos they like sounding so perfect without blemish but will never act on what they preach not withstanding I'll take the sense from their gibberish n dump the latter.

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by refiner(f): 8:16pm On Jan 14, 2017

Ioannes:
Real lucky I must say because out of four at least one will be SS, one will be AA and the other two AS. Well according to my elementary biology.

According to God's elementary biology,that's doesn't exist... wink

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by davidif: 8:45pm On Jan 14, 2017

lanicky:
Many people are so carried away by hustling and bustling of marriage... They are so in love with the idea of happily ever after..that they forget that if proper care is not taken, their marriage might not end up being the bed of rose they've been dreaming of.

You see them upload pre wedding pictures taken in Atlanta, Dubai or beautiful places in Nigeria.

Don't get me wrong o.. I'm not saying you shouldn't get married or take unique pre-wedding pics.. But there are some things you should consider before going to the marriage alter.

Make them marriage experts epp me add more points. Thanks.

1) Do not allow your religious belief or what your pastor preach or say often about marriage dictate the kind of person you should tie the knot with

Remember, this marriage journey would last till death do you part, unless you would opt for divorce at the long run.

Many people let what their pastor or religious belief affect their life so much that they end up marrying the wrong person.. Sometimes, you just have to let love lead.. Or pray and ask GOD yourself.. Pastors are human beings too.. Nd sometimes, they let the flesh rule them thereby, misleading many people.

If you end up marrying the wrong lady or man.. Your pastor won't face the marriage ordeal for you.. You would bear the cross alone.
So be careful.. Before you take the wrong step

2) Do a blood test

Do not get blinded by love.. Before wedding, make sure you and your spouse go for blood test to confirm your genotype, and health status. Do widal tests.
Do not treat this with negligence, because it could cost you a lot.

Some people have sickle cell trait, some are oblivion to this fact.. While some chose to overlook it because of love or faith in religion.
Like I said earlier, ignorance is not an excuse. Do what is right for your unborn children

I would say the risk of giving birth to a sickle cell child is not worth taking.
It might cost you lots of money, your time, and your job, because you'd live in constant fear whenever the child have crisis, which may lead to death eventually if proper care is not taken.

3) Take your time to know your partner better

Do not rush into marriage, because it's trending.
Do not sacrifice your freedom and happiness on the marriage alter...
Take your time to know your partner better.. Remember you're going to have to live with him or her for the rest of your life.

Find out if he/she is quick to anger.. Can you help him/her overcome this problem?

*Does he take corrections or treat your suggestions or opinion like nothing?

*Are you ready to be submissive to a highly dominant partner?

*Is she the lousy type.. Or the one without proper home training.. Who would disrespect your parent at the slightest provocation?

*Is she a Mr Biggs or Mama put or Tantalizer kinda lady or a good cook? I know you won't want to take over the kitchen every day of the week why she polish her nails..

I love a guy who can cook too.. But a lady must know how to cook.. Your husband can't do the cooking everytime.

*Is she in love with who you are or what you have?

*Is he/she in love with your curves and edges, six packs, or beards alone.. What if your body changes at the long run?

My sister/brother better think twice before you answer "yes, I do"
The choice is yours?

4) Do not get carried away by material things or sweet talks

What happens when a marriage is built on a foundation of deceit?
Who bears the burden at the long run?
How would you feel if you found out that your husband or wife had lied about his/her educational background, financial status and every other thing?

Take your time to find out about every little secrets bikonu... Before marriage.. So as to avoid stories that touch.

5)Plan your future together

Before your wedding, plan your future together. During and after wedding ceremony, spend wisely. Don't imitate others..
If you want a wedding in Dubai, honey moon in Paris, but your bank is directing you to Lagos or your village.. Better do the wedding like that... Before DEBT DO YOU PART

You can always have an elaborate wedding anniversary later in future.

Good afternoon

Point number 3 is so pertinent.

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Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by davidif: 8:47pm On Jan 14, 2017

Beamborla:
...comprehension wahala sha. This is not written for the married, it's for the singles. And who says a spinster can't give advise to the married? Knowledge/wisdom can be found anywhere; where you least expect it. We've all seen and heard stories so I see no big deal if someone decides to share what she has learned or deduced from happenings around her with others.
davidif post=52810210:
Point number 3 is so pertinent.
Except you are directly from the pit of hell, what the OP has written is on point. If you've got issue with the messanger, Kuku say it out instead of hiding under she's not married and blah...blah...blah.

Calling her out because of her status is not only myopic, it reeks of lack of wisdom.

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by Came: 8:47pm On Jan 14, 2017

Consider if the person is a dirty person, trust me,you don't want to live with a dirty person ... Hmmmmmm... Very frustrating.

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Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by davidif: 8:48pm On Jan 14, 2017

Beamborla:
...comprehension wahala sha. This is not written for the married, it's for the singles. And who says a spinster can't give advise to the married? Knowledge/wisdom can be found anywhere; where you least expect it. We've all seen and heard stories so I see no big deal if someone decides to share what she has learned or deduced from happenings around her with others.

Except you are directly from the pit of hell, what the OP has written is on point. If you've got issue with the messanger, Kuku say it out instead of hiding under she's not married and blah...blah...blah.

Calling her out because of her status is not only myopic, it reeks of lack of wisdom.

Abi o! Wisdom can be found anywhere.

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Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by Apina(m): 8:54pm On Jan 14, 2017

lanicky:
Many people are so carried away by hustling and bustling of marriage... They are so in love with the idea of happily ever after..that they forget that if proper care is not taken, their marriage might not end up being the bed of rose they've been dreaming of.

You see them upload pre wedding pictures taken in Atlanta, Dubai or beautiful places in Nigeria.

Don't get me wrong o.. I'm not saying you shouldn't get married or take unique pre-wedding pics.. But there are some things you should consider before going to the marriage alter.

Make them marriage experts epp me add more points. Thanks.

1) Do not allow your religious belief or what your pastor preach or say often about marriage dictate the kind of person you should tie the knot with

Remember, this marriage journey would last till death do you part, unless you would opt for divorce at the long run.

Many people let what their pastor or religious belief affect their life so much that they end up marrying the wrong person.. Sometimes, you just have to let love lead.. Or pray and ask GOD yourself.. Pastors are human beings too.. Nd sometimes, they let the flesh rule them thereby, misleading many people.

If you end up marrying the wrong lady or man.. Your pastor won't face the marriage ordeal for you.. You would bear the cross alone.
So be careful.. Before you take the wrong step

2) Do a blood test

Do not get blinded by love.. Before wedding, make sure you and your spouse go for blood test to confirm your genotype, and health status. Do widal tests.
Do not treat this with negligence, because it could cost you a lot.

Some people have sickle cell trait, some are oblivion to this fact.. While some chose to overlook it because of love or faith in religion.
Like I said earlier, ignorance is not an excuse. Do what is right for your unborn children

I would say the risk of giving birth to a sickle cell child is not worth taking.
It might cost you lots of money, your time, and your job, because you'd live in constant fear whenever the child have crisis, which may lead to death eventually if proper care is not taken.

3) Take your time to know your partner better

Do not rush into marriage, because it's trending.
Do not sacrifice your freedom and happiness on the marriage alter...
Take your time to know your partner better.. Remember you're going to have to live with him or her for the rest of your life.

Find out if he/she is quick to anger.. Can you help him/her overcome this problem?

*Does he take corrections or treat your suggestions or opinion like nothing?

*Are you ready to be submissive to a highly dominant partner?

*Is she the lousy type.. Or the one without proper home training.. Who would disrespect your parent at the slightest provocation?

*Is she a Mr Biggs or Mama put or Tantalizer kinda lady or a good cook? I know you won't want to take over the kitchen every day of the week why she polish her nails..

I love a guy who can cook too.. But a lady must know how to cook.. Your husband can't do the cooking everytime.

*Is she in love with who you are or what you have?

*Is he/she in love with your curves and edges, six packs, or beards alone.. What if your body changes at the long run?

My sister/brother better think twice before you answer "yes, I do"
The choice is yours?

4) Do not get carried away by material things or sweet talks

What happens when a marriage is built on a foundation of deceit?
Who bears the burden at the long run?
How would you feel if you found out that your husband or wife had lied about his/her educational background, financial status and every other thing?

Take your time to find out about every little secrets bikonu... Before marriage.. So as to avoid stories that touch.

5)Plan your future together

Before your wedding, plan your future together. During and after wedding ceremony, spend wisely. Don't imitate others..
If you want a wedding in Dubai, honey moon in Paris, but your bank is directing you to Lagos or your village.. Better do the wedding like that... Before DEBT DO YOU PART

You can always have an elaborate wedding anniversary later in future.

Good afternoon

Your use of proposition is poor, u were constantly misusing them. You need to improve on ur writing skill and ensure to check and double check for grammatical errors. U did fairly well but most importantly don't pay attention to those saying u r in no position to speak on marital issues cos u ain't married, it would be tantamount to saying u have no right to a sense of judgment and thus have no view of life which every human person has.

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Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by amodu(m): 9:43pm On Jan 14, 2017

Dream2:
You're on the right track sir,GO AHEAD.

Your head dey dia

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by amodu(m): 9:44pm On Jan 14, 2017

Dream2:
You're on the right track sir,GO AHEAD.

Your head dey dia

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by amodu(m): 9:45pm On Jan 14, 2017

Dream2:
You're on the right track sir,GO AHEAD.

Your head dey dia

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by amodu(m): 9:45pm On Jan 14, 2017

Dream2:
You're on the right track sir,GO AHEAD.

Your head dey dia

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by humilitypays(m): 10:09pm On Jan 14, 2017

‎The op @lanicky is very right with her points, in fact, she is more than right, I am so impressed that a single lady wrote this, well done my sister!

Your number 2 point is very important: pls single guys and ladies, know your real genotype before u marry anybody!

If u have made the mistake already, as in your genotype is AS and your spouse' own is also AS, plz go to any reputable hospital whenever u get pregnant to check the genotype of the unborn baby before birth....so u and your spouse can decide on whether to keep the pregnancy or not!

If u are AS don't ever marry AS!

If you are AA, you can marry any genotype: AA, AS, SS!

Most Nigerian hospitals give fake genotype result which has killed so many marriages!

Go for a genotype test in a very reputable hospital. If possible, do the test in 3 different good hospitals to be very sure plz.

But then, sickle cell can be cured now, but it's very costly if u are in Nigeria. If u are in US, it's cheap and free if u are a low income earner!

Nice topic!‎

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Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by nikkyshyne(f): 10:16pm On Jan 14, 2017

You guys should focus on the message not the thread starter. Geez

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Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by Nobody: 10:18pm On Jan 14, 2017

wonder2017:
Wait, u be woman or man? Funny though

A guy.....single and u?

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Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by Nobody: 10:24pm On Jan 14, 2017

refiner:
Lol...how should I know what u have never heard?...

Anyway..why did u attach ur number in ur siggy?

it because of my job,so I decided to add it,to avoid viewer's seeing you as scarm,you know na,for somone to be able to award a job or communicate with you online,he needs a real profile of who his connecting.....is that you on your profile?

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by Nobody: 11:35pm On Jan 14, 2017

Abeg pack well, marriage isn't for every soul. Some women ate not meant to be mothers, likewise some men fathers. Fück God!

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by Harinholar(f): 12:23am On Jan 15, 2017

Hummm.....so you haven't seen couples who consider all these ur epistle..Yet the marriage did not turn out fine...My dear it only take the grace of God... Marriage pass all diz things###

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Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by refiner(f): 7:03am On Jan 15, 2017

Martin124:
it because of my job,so I decided to add it,to avoid viewer's seeing you as scarm,you know na,for somone to be able to award a job or communicate with you online,he needs a real profile of who his connecting.....is that you on your profile?

Yea...but u could have added ur picx too so to complete the real profile...

Anyways,it's non of my bizzness

Good morning

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by Nobody: 7:59am On Jan 15, 2017

refiner:
Yea...but u could have added ur picx too so to complete the real profile...
Anyways,it's non of my bizzness
Good morning

good morning,how was your night la.?!!!

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by Nobody: 8:00am On Jan 15, 2017

Martin124:
good morning,how was your night la.?!!!

my pics will come soonest

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by Nobody: 10:55am On Jan 15, 2017

refiner:
According to God's elementary biology,that's doesn't exist...

i hear you loud and clear dear.

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by streetzdreamz(m): 11:00am On Jan 15, 2017

I see lots of comment reprimanding the op for creating this thread, cuz she is still young and not yet married! what's wrong with you people?? must I be a teacher before I impact basic things I know into others?? must I be a mechanic before I can fix your car if I know ma way around the problem its having? everything doesn't boil down on experience, she raised sane,sensible and important points, wonder why y'al can't read betwixt the lines, at least if you'l negate her, point out the flaws in her writeup...Nigerians sha,buncha hypocrites!!!!! always had a weird wish of marrying a lady with a Sickle cell anaemia,give her kids an entirely opposite life from their ma.

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Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by hollyrox(m): 11:28am On Jan 15, 2017

Thank you jare

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Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by xrenzy(m): 12:03pm On Jan 15, 2017

obiorathesubtle:
If she hasn't got a fat ass..

don't think about it..

wow ur taste is super dope I dig dat

Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by lanicky(op): 1:11pm On Jan 15, 2017

saintmark88:
She wants to be useful as miss nairaland, so that it doesn't seem like she not doing anything or playing her role, buh y not stick to something u have first hand xperience on....

Cos how can a lady who isn't married give advice to peeps on marriage, Nairaland is a joke

Must I be a mechanic before I can help you fix your car?

Nonsense.

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Re: Things To Consider Before Answering "Yes, I Do" by saintmark88(m): 1:36pm On Jan 15, 2017

lanicky:
Must I be a mechanic before I can help you fix your car?

Nonsense.

Haba, y r u attacking me nau??

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