ikp120:

Sure, and then make your own personal decision. Shikina!

balanceofterror1:



The reason we have so many divorce cases today is that we neglect so many things thinking that they doesn't matter and age is one of such. I don't think that a genuine child of God will pray to God for a wife and God will direct him to marry his senior. This is a generation of carelessness and doesn't matter, America etc are doing it, are my the only one.

WriteBoy:



Wise man, I bow in your presence. It's your type that cooks dinner and goes to the market as well.

WriteBoy:



At first when I read this I thought to myself: "What a conceited human being -- He thinks he has it all figured out". Well brother man, let me tell you something everyone's needs are not the same. I don't want to be in a marriage where the woman has a wildly different trajectory than mine. It's not any irrational, it is what I want. It is also something that I have seen close relatives get, so mine will not be any different.

Should I become too plain and tell you that what I want is a woman that will help me as I work to achieve my goals?


If you like don't marry a person that's congruent to your values and see how you will suffer for that foolishness. Every human being has a complementary nature, it behooves you to study yourself and discover which one is ideal for you.

It has everything to do with age. I am a firm believer in the fact: The more time a person spends in this world, the more wisdom they will accrue as a result. Some people are faster than others in this regard, they blossom on time. I call those ones the outliers. The majority of people are only able to make certain decisions, reach some milestones with time.

That's how life works, the more time you spend here, the wiser you will become. I don't want a woman that hasn't seen life in the way I think life should be seen.

WriteBoy:
Age is very important in marriage. For marriage to work, the two participants must be at the same or almost at the same point in their lives.

A lot of the times, a good determinant of what stage a person is in their life is their age.

Personally, I will not settle down with a person who is more than five years younger than me. I want to be on the same wavelength with the person that I settle down with, I don't want us to have different priorities. I want us to be at the same stage of life. I want to be able to reason with the person on the same level. I want a person who has had almost the same type of life experiences as me.


Anyone who says age is just a number is being fatally optimistic.

ikp120:


Bro, yes age is just a number. Maturity has nothing to do with age but background and personal decisions. Some 20 years olds are more mature, both mentally and physically, than most 35 years olds.

As for the bolded, you two can NEVER have the same priorities naturally. I guess you should know better than that. C'mon you can't tell me you're looking for a lady who is just like you? WTF! That's both absurd and irrational mehn. No two persons have the same priorities except they agree on that, which is purely all about understanding, which has nothing to do with age.

Abeg change this your orientation o before you enter and see wetin mouth no fit talk.

balanceofterror1:


After I have accepted his decision to rob me?

ikp120:


Na wa o. Na you get his decision making spirit ni?. Just accept that his decision is his own decision. They have a right to their decision. Then you state your own decision either in words or action.

Ighotago?

balanceofterror1:



May be 'accept' have a different definition in your dictionary

Benita27:
"Abomination" in Africa of course.

balanceofterror1:


And a wise man will ask the wife to suck his dick and in turn suck her vagina abi?.

ikp120:


Dude na so you be? Na wa o.

To accept someone's decision as their decision is something like this, "You want to rob me? Okay". That means you recognise their right to their own personal decisions. Then you on the other hand go make your own decision.

At the end of the day, the scenerio go be like this: "You want to rob me? Okay. But I won't allow you to rob me". Is that too hard to understand?

balanceofterror1:


In this case, did you accept or reject them?.

balanceofterror1:


How do you know?, these things give me joy.
I must be a wicked man to leave everything for my wife to do.

knightsson:

The last I checked, we are Africans.

Benita27:
I know that, i am not of the notion that men should wash their wives undies.

knightsson:

Another rear gem in this aspect of reasoning.

Thank God!

Benita27:
You thought wrongly.
Bye!.

WriteBoy:



Well, I am happy for you even though we are exact opposites. What makes me happy is not becoming a feminized man.

balanceofterror1:


I don't think you're married and living only with your wife.

WriteBoy:


No I am not married. But when married there's nothing stopping me from hiring helps for her. My time is too precious to be wasted on domestic chores.

balanceofterror1:


Wait till you're married. I was like you but after my marriage I humble myself.

WriteBoy:


Do you mean you got pussy whipped? I am not talking out of pride here. In the future, I know I will be very busy. Even at the moment, I don't use my time for cooking or laundry, I outsource those non-core tasks. I don't see a reason why that should suddenly change because of marriage.

It's also wrong for you to say you were like. Two people can never be the same.

Crownadex:
av been disturbed since last year 4rm my friends that it's time 4 me to marry bcz I'm old enough & I'm now 28yrs of age ...... pls what does age needs to do in marriage ?