₦airaland Forum

@tpia: great point!

What pain me most in it is that the deceased might not be cared for when he/she was alive, and they will throw a big party after his/her demise, and such things are much common among the Ijebus,

I love Tpia's idea! But in Nigeria it is expected that you bury your dead with great funfare, maybe we should reduce the amount spent on the entertainment and use the a greater part to assist the community.
When my mum died I suggested we have a low key burial and start a foundation in her name to give scholarships to students from my community and my whole family and indeed some villagers thought I had gone mad. Needless to say no one bought my idea, yours truly had to go with theirs (a fun fare).
Nigerians will get there with time and exposure!

Trust my people in the north. The minute you are dead ur body would be prepared 4 burying. No funky celebrtation jst kunu

Thanks very much for this topic. What Nigerian have in practise always in this regards is a "Conventional mentality" People in this part of Africa love to do what others has done before they do theirs.

You see, what I belief is that you should be able to do sensible things than non-sensible things as extravagance spendings on Funeral is not important. As far as am concerned if any of my old parents dies, I can spend as little as N20,000.00 on it after the purchase of coffin. Period!
Or better still as a Christian, I can do it in the ways the Moslems does theirs and bury the dead immediately and forget everything there. Period!

Yhanks.

If I may ask, what is the purpose of working so hard, saving money, acquiring wealth? It is to satisfy our needs. What then are our needs? physical and emotional needs, under which organizing a funeral for a loved one falls. I wondered about this too during my father's burial. He was 60, and it pained me a lot that people had to gather and eat, and we the children of the deceased buying cow and food and drinks etc.

I think that the only justification for not spending money on funeral of a loved one, especially if the person is elderly is if you have not taken good care of that person when he was alive, or you have to borrow to do the ceremony. When Mike Adenuga buried his mother the whole of V.I and Ijebu stood still. He has the money, took good care of the mother when she was alive, she died ripe good old age and the man satisfied his emotional desires by spending his hard earned money to organise a world class burial for his mother.

Chemmzy:
What pain me most in it is that the deceased might not be cared for when he/she was alive, and they will throw a big party after his/her demise, and such things are much common among the Ijebus,

speaking of a daredevil...courageous to say a bitter truth knowing it may boomerang.