I have been a guest for so long on nairaland but decided to register because of this problem.

I have always been afraid of sleeping alone in a room except there is someone sleeping there with me. Even my secondary and tertiary days I had colleagues sleeping on my bed with me because of this phobia.

This was due to some horror movies we used to watch as children at night especially when dad travelled. I was scared of watching but couldn't stay in the room alone while my sibblings were watching with loud volume.

Fast forward to this time I am married, so many times I have pleaded with my husband not to leave me alone in the room but he loves sleeping in the parlour just because of television.

He works and comes home past 8 pm and just refuses to leave the sitting room because he wants to watch what he missed during the day. Most times he sleeps there. Countless times after tossing up and down , I go and wake him up to come sleep. Sometimes he listens, sometimes he doesn't. The only time he sleeps in the room is when wants to have sex and after that many times, he goes back to TV.

Note that I keep my house spotlessly clean infact I am a neatness freak, so it's not because of untidiness. I have tried to use dialogue told him severally that if I wanted to be sleeping alone I wouldn't hv gotten married. Still no improvement.

Now it's affecting my health severely because I now suffer harsh migraines and my heakth is failing due to the fact that i only get to sleep around 4 am when my eyes are too tired to be afraid.

At a point i started taking matress to the sitting room to sleep , but the sound of the TV doesnt help. In addition he leaves the lights on without being security conscious of the night.

I am seriously contemplating leaving him to go to my family house so that I can get some healthy sleep time, as I don't know what else to do. In addition we agreed that no one should come leave with us.

I need mature advice. He is the type at NEVER Listens. Dialogue hardly works, nagging him is the worst. Please advice

It's time to start taking active steps in overcoming your fear. You're not holding yourself accountable at all but you're just blaming your husband. Your childhood fear of sleeping alone in a room isn't your husband's fault; it has nothing to do with him but everything to do with you. The solution is for you to get over your fear and the best way to do it is to well, sleep alone in a room, though I know that's not what you want to hear. Pray, turn on a small wall light and remember that the horror movies you watched as a child weren't real. Whenever you feel afraid, pray again. Be brave.

safiya7:

I am seriously contemplating leaving him to go to my family house so that I can get some healthy sleep time, as I don't know what else to do. In addition we agreed that no one should come leave with us.

Don't.

madam please overcome that Phobia first and have Rest of mind.

Biko, buy a TV for the room.


Then, try to stop being afraid. Just try. Don't be surprised that in the not so distant future, your darling husband will treat a lot of your forkups by simply refusing to sleep in the same room or entirely leaving you alone in the WHOLE house! I bet you would go crazy. Just relax and lose this phobia... Nothing will kill you when you sleep alone. This is me who doesn't watch horror movies advising you dearie. A horror head once came out of our TV and a ghost once chased me on the dark starcase(if you too like say na lie , I know what I saw), the thing is, I still go about my business normally but just avoid the horror movies like a plague ni.


May God bless your marriage.

BTW, didn't you hear you ain't supposed to marry a TV, football or video games addict? Oh, a non cuddler is a no-no too! Whew, you don marry this one sha...No signing out for you. Na manage you go manage. Good luck.

You better face your problem now and deal with it. I would have suggested that you get television for the room but that won't be the ultimate solution .Even if your husband listens now he may have to use that weakness whenever there is an issue btw you guys.
You must learn to sleep alone.

sisisioge:
Biko, buy a TV for the room.


Then, try to stop being afraid. Just try. Don't be surprised that in the not so distant future, your darling husband will treat a lot of your forkups by simply refusing to sleep in the same room or entirely leaving you alone in the WHOLE house! I bet you would go crazy. Just relax and lose this phobia... Nothing will kill you when you sleep alone. This is me who doesn't watch horror movies advising you dearie. A horror head once came out of our TV and a ghost once chased me on the dark starcase(if you too like say na lie , I know what I saw), the thing is, I still go about my business normally but just avoid the horror movies like a plague ni.


May God bless your marriage.

BTW, didn't you hear you ain't supposed to marry a TV, football or video games addict? Oh, a non cuddler is a no-no too! Whew, you don marry this one sha...No signing out for you. Na manage you go manage. Good luck.

Thanks so much. God knows hv tried so much. Sometimes even when I pray I am scared of closing my eyes except he s in the room, scared that the demons I am casting will just appear in my front! Chai Jesus!

Cornerstone2020:
You better face your problem now and deal with it. I would have suggested that you get television for the room but that won't be the ultimate solution .Even if your husband listens now he may have to use that weakness whenever there is an issue btw you guys.
You must learn to sleep alone.

He already does!. Infact when I was little, I always settle any quarrel between myself and any of my sibblings n even in school my colleagues at least before 6pm! Just because I didn't want to be alone at night. Whether I was at fault or not it didn't matter. All that mattered was that I not be left alone at night.

Lol I have this childhood friend on nairaland @doglover24 she loves horror movies with a passion. Well I think you should try and over come your fears start by sleeping alone with the lights on. I watch a lot of horror movies and play alot of horror gamesand I don't like being alone in the dark my mind to starts to create silhouettes in the dark

safiya7:


He already does!. Infact when I was little, I always settle any quarrel between myself and any of my sibblings n even in school my colleagues at least before 6pm! Just because I didn't want to be alone at night. Whether I was at fault or not it didn't matter. All that mattered was that I not be left alone at night.

just brave up and face all alone dear .Goodluck.

I once had this type of phobia when my dad died, even when i went to my sister's place we all sleep in the sitting room including her husband because of me. You have to overcome your phobia, what if you married a businessman that sometimes travel, would you be travelling with him?

Carry a mattress 2 d living room & sleep with him. If mohammad will not go 2 d mountain, den d mountain will come 2 him.

You are my opposite, I so much love sleeping alone, I like to change position, stretch my legs during sleep.


Please overcome your phobia by thinking about good stuffs, stop imagining horror movies.

Don't blame the poor man abeg. You want to overcome your fears? Get a baseball bat, go into the dark without any light. Visualize any ghosts or spirit jumping out from the shadows, tell yourself you are ready for a fight. Do this three separate days and you'll realize there is nothing to fear about the dark. This should cure your phobia. Case closed.

Gaggi:
Don't blame the poor man abeg. You want to overcome your fears? Get a baseball bat, go into the dark without any light. Visualize any ghosts or spirit jumping out from the shadows, tell yourself you are ready for a fight. Do this three separate days and you'll realize there is nothing to fear about the dark. This should cure your phobia. Case closed.

Really? Would this really work or are you pulling my legs?

safiya7:


Really? Would this really work or are you pulling my legs?

Well, it worked for me. It will get you very scared the first few minutes till you calm down and realize there is nothing lurking in the dark. Don't tell anybody before you go or they could come scare you which can scar you for life.