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I am trying so hard to get over my huge losses in the past 12 months, i have lost a lot of money gambling. Today alone I lost 600 euros, I feel sick and suicidal, I feel cheated and so stupid.
I come from a humble but well educated background, and I have found favor in the sight of resourceful men because of my personality, intelligence (academic) character and appearance (good looking). My relocation abroad was made possible by a client whom I met while I worked as an intern in Nigeria. He gave me a chance at a good life, I came here got lonely and bored and found solace in gambling. I work very hard and earn good money monthly 1500 euros at least (depending how many hours i work), but what do I do with it? I give it to the bookmakers. Countless times I have tried to stop but after some days in one case some months I go back once pay day arrives and I stake so high trying to recover what I already lost.
This whole shit is affecting my mood and relations with people, the thought of the no of persons that look up to me and respects me whom I fear I have disappointed saddens me. I feel so sad. I could have accomplished a lot if I had sent half of that money to my family back home. My mother would be very disappointed and so would every person who knows me...they see me as the go to guy, they hold me in high regard and always ask for my advice when taking decisions, they see me as a model, a man with strong character, if only they know how vulnerable and lonely I am,but I have failed, the knowledge moves me to tears. I curse the day i learnt sports gambling. I hope I dont kill myself over the way I feel.
In case you are not an addicted gambler yet, stop it and save yourself from destruction, I advice you to cut your loss...money is the cheapest thing that gambling will cost you, it will cost you your dignity, relationships and ultimately your life.
Dont end up like me.

You lost €8k to gambling? Bro, I'll be the last man to show you pity. Sorry, I can't cry with you

You can go ahead and self destruct. Permission granted bro

You can still retrace your tracks. Nobody forces you into gambling, you can get yourself out from that rut.


You are gonna be alright if only you stop feeding your addictions.

Jacksparr0w127:
You lost €8k to gambling? Bro, I'll be the last man to show you pity. Sorry, I can't cry with you

You can go ahead and self destruct. Permission granted bro

I do not ask for pity, maybe support from persons who have lost their widows might gambling. The money is not the problem here (I have a job and I must pay the price my working when others play) the problem is fighting the addiction. This is just me venting, I know there are others like me, talking about it anonymously is making me feel better.

How about visiting a therapist?

ghettowriter:
You can still retrace your tracks. Nobody forces you into gambling, you can get yourself out from that rut.


You are gonna be alright if only you stop feeding your addictions.

You probably dont gamble, you will never understand, its so difficult to quit.

Plaintainboy:
I do not ask for pity, maybe support from persons who have lost their widows might gambling. The money is not the problem here (I have a job and I must pay the price my working when others play) the problem is fighting the addiction. This is just me venting, I know there are others like, talking about it anonymously is making me feel better.

Now I understand, it's addiction. We all have one or two things we are addicted to as human being. Sometimes, these addictions are really hard to overcome

I'll suggest you stay away from things/people that make you gamble.

TBH, I find it hard to understand how people get addicted to gambling even when they keep losing. Nothing could be worse than losing your hard earned money to gamble. I'll rather use to pay for strippers. Lol (Just being sarcastic)

You can as well seek for counselling.

Spicylate:
How about visiting a therapist?

Yes I thought about that, but the arrangement here is not really black friendly and the free therapist services are like old peoples home. I want to move to the US for some months to cool off, gambling houses are illegal in most of the states unlike in Europe, ( online gambling is not my thing) so I would be fine staying in one of those states. Thanks for your concern. I just want to talk as I cant even tell this things to people I know, they envy me (in a good way) they think life is at my feet, but far from it, I feel so dejected.

Jacksparr0w127:
Now I understand, it's addiction. We all have one or two things we are addicted to as human being. Sometimes, these addictions are really hard to overcome

I'll suggest you stay away from things/people that make you gamble.

TBH, I find it hard to understand how people get addicted to gambling even when they keep losing. Nothing could be worse than losing your hard earned money to gamble. I'll rather use to pay for strippers. Lol (Just being sarcastic)

You can as well seek for counselling.

Chasing my losses got me into this situation. Humans abhor losses innately, this keeps us going back to try and get what is ours back...but atlas we only lose more. Sad.

Plaintainboy:
Chasing my losses got me into this situation. Humans abhor losses innately, this keeps us going back to try and get what is ours back...but atlas we only lose more. Sad.

lol. Sad. I hope you don't go chasing the 8k anymore

Jacksparr0w127:
lol. Sad. I hope you don't go chasing the 8k anymore

I broke my credit card this evening (I still have access to 1,500 in this month) I dont if I have it I may lose all the money this weekend. Il be in the US in April. I am trying to avoid Casinos, you wont find any in residential areas in most states in the US, its illegal, you really have to go out of your way to find one. I should get over it after 6months there. If I remain in EU (were its legal to gamble almost everywhere) I may succumb to the feeling and start chasing again. I feel so bad I cant wait to travel, I bought my air ticket as soon as I got back from losing today, I need a break before I do the unthinkable. I need to detox.



When I think about the meteoric growth rate of the unregulated gambling in Nigeria I feel distressed. It is a very big societal problem in the making.

Plaintainboy:
Il be in the US in April. I am trying to avoid Casinos, you wont find any in residential areas in most states in the US, its illegal, you really have to go out of your way to find one. I should get over it after 6months there. If I remain in EU (were its legal to gamble almost everywhere) I may succumb to the feeling and start chasing again. I feel so bad I cant wait to travel, I bought my air ticket as soon as I got back from losing today, I need a break before I do the unthinkable. I need to detox.



When I think about the meteoric growth rate of the unregulated gambling in Nigeria I feel distressed. It is a very big societal problem in the making.

I wouldn't know how hard it could be tho. I've never been into gambling. But I don't wanna believe it's more addictive than alcohol or smoking. I doubt

You can avoid going to casinos. That should help. Trust me, you won't die if you stay away

Jacksparr0w127:
I wouldn't know how hard it could be tho. I've never been into gambling. But I don't wanna believe it's more addictive than alcohol or smoking. I doubt

You can avoid going to casinos. That should help. Trust me, you won't die if you stay away

Have you tasted met or coke? it works in the same way...it keeps you hooked.
You cant understand anyways.. thanks, but I would appreciate comments from sports gamblers, only them would understand what am passing through.

Plaintainboy:
Yes I thought about that, but the arrangement here is not really black friendly and the free therapist services are like old peoples home. I want to move to the US for some months to cool off, gambling houses are illegal in most of the states unlike in Europe, ( online gambling is not my thing) so I would be fine staying in one of those states. Thanks for your concern. I just want to talk as I cant even tell this things to people I know, they envy me (in a good way) they think life is at my feet, but far from it, I feel so dejected.

Owk. I pray you are able to resist the urge. Addiction is not an easy thing to overcome but when you are determined, it will work out. And you need to learn how to save too.

Plaintainboy:
Have you tasted met or coke? it works in the same way...it keeps you hooked.
You cant understand anyways.. thanks, but I would appreciate comments from sports gamblers, only them would understand what am passing through.

nah. Never tried any.

Yes, sport gamblers will be able to help. Or lemme say 'ex' sport gamblers. Lol cuz the ones who are still in it won't have no solution

Spicylate:
Owk. I pray you are able to resist the urge. Addiction is not an easy thing to overcome but when you are determined, it will work out. And you need to learn how to save too.

I think I need to get a girlfriend too, I need to make an account on how I am spending my time and money. Thank you for the kind words.

Yea, I've lost quite a fortune on sports bet too (bet9ja). I always thought I'd recover my money by staking again after loosing. I even borrowed to stake at a time. I stopped betting though, after working my asss out to pay all my debts.... Na luck I take stop this gambling of a thing, because I had already made up my mind that I'll hama with it one day. Lol....
The best thing to do is just to forget all the money you've wasted already, if not you'll keep staking thinking that you'll recover your money some day... And that's where the problem lies.

kullozone:
Yea, I've lost quite a fortune on sports bet too (bet9ja). I always thought I'd recover my money by staking again after loosing. I even borrowed to stake at a time. I stopped betting though, after working my asss out to pay all my debts.... Na luck I take stop this gambling of a thing, because I had already made up my mind that I'll hama with it one day. Lol....
The best thing to do is just to forget all the money you've wasted already, if not you'll keep staking thinking that you'll recover your money some day... And that's where the problem lies.

Thanks for sharing. I feel so bad and shortchanged because that money would have changed the lives of a lot of people I know personally. This thoughts weighs me down.

€600? Abeg tell me say you no fit manage money well. Gambling is not the problem but foolishness bro. I have enough sense never to ever bet more than 100 Naira a day.

Imagine chasing your losses. WTF! You don't do that mehn. If you must gamble, then abeg gamble responsibly. €600? Jeez! Bros your problem dey ya village dey look you.

You mean you've been gambling with your bank credits? Bros abeg quit sports betting. You need to go online and learn basic money management skills. You shouldn't have been staking that high. €600? Abeg kuku drink otapiapia WTF! And you're just earning about €1k a month on your job? Bros you no try at all.

Sports betting, like every other investment, demands that you use the money you're willing to lose. I guess you were gambling with your emotions, not your head, else you should have seen that you shouldn't be risking that much . In a single day, you practically staked over 50% of what you averagely earn in month?

I won't be shocked to know that you actually racked up up to 3 games on that €600. Abeg bros na you do yourself, no be sports betting.

Plaintainboy:
I do not ask for pity, maybe support from persons who have lost their widows might gambling. The money is not the problem here (I have a job and I must pay the price my working when others play) the problem is fighting the addiction. This is just me venting, I know there are others like me, talking about it anonymously is making me feel better.

Widow's mite? You really need to b around those battling such addiction, that should give u better morale to stop. It ain't gonna b easy but it will b worth it.

Cool story

Plaintainboy:
You probably dont gamble, you will never understand, its so difficult to quit.

I know its difficult but, is it impossible to stop?

Plaintainboy:
Have you tasted met or coke? it works in the same way...it keeps you hooked.
You cant understand anyways.. thanks, but I would appreciate comments from sports gamblers, only them would understand what am passing through.

Bro, don't mind the idiot jacksparrof. He probably has psychological and social problems thats why his comments are insensitive and immature.
. Anyway, i ve gambled before and just like you said,its not the loosig that is the problem, its the addiction to either want to recoup losses or win again using the format that brought the initial win. i lost a lot over 4 years ago, although it isn't even up to 2% of yours, it was significant to my pocket as i was much younger. Good thing is that I learnt that night, and evet since, the only time i tried to bet was when i asked a friend i met betting to stake N100 for so many matches that weekend. The temptation came but the key was I tried to avoid thinking about it. i saw it as a free lottery which I don't have a strong chance for. It was days after i even asked and he said no show and mentioned a match which no one expected the scores. With that, i kept taking my mind out of it and counting my losses. So if i see gamblers now, i just laff and tell my self that i ve seen it all... What else? No addiction whatsoever. i cant make an effort to gamble again. i think you should first count your losses, as you can't do anything about it, then channel the disappointment to focussing on your work and making more money. With time, no doubt you will eventually forget about it and you will look at the next generation of gamblers and smile.

Plaintainboy:
I think I need to get a girlfriend too, I need to make an account on how I am spending my time and money. Thank you for the kind words.

Yea, I think getting someone who is willing to help you pull out would be a nice idea. Now, that means you will have to be open about your addiction so she'd be able to know what she's in for. Good luck

ikp120:
€600? Abeg tell me say you no fit manage money well. Gambling is not the problem but foolishness bro. I have enough sense never to ever bet more than 100 Naira a day.

Imagine chasing your losses. WTF! You don't do that mehn. If you must gamble, then abeg gamble responsibly. €600? Jeez! Bros your problem dey ya village dey look you.

You mean you've been gambling with your bank credits? Bros abeg quit sports betting. You need to go online and learn basic money management skills. You shouldn't have been staking that high. €600? Abeg kuku drink otapiapia WTF! And you're just earning about €1k a month on your job? Bros you no try at all.

Sports betting, like every other investment, demands that you use the money you're willing to lose. I guess you were gambling with your emotions, not your head, else you should have seen that you shouldn't be risking that much . In a single day, you practically staked over 50% of what you averagely earn in month?

I won't be shocked to know that you actually racked up up to 3 games on that €600. Abeg bros na you do yourself, no be sports betting.

Though not important but I get enough income other than my pay to live on quaterly. And stop focusing on the money, the problem is with the addiction, if you are an addicted gambler who has the means you wont be staking peanuts. 1000 naira could maybe some ones else 600euros, its relative. Just focus on the problem if you must comment please, and for your betting formula/advice implicit in your comment, they all fail.

mctowel01:
Bro, don't mind the idiot jacksparrof. He probably has psychological and social problems thats why his comments are insensitive and immature.
. Anyway, i ve gambled before and just like you said,its not the loosig that is the problem, its the addiction to either want to recoup losses or win again using the format that brought the initial win. i lost a lot over 4 years ago, although it isn't even up to 2% of yours, it was significant to my pocket as i was much younger. Good thing is that I learnt that night, and evet since, the only time i tried to bet was when i asked a friend i met betting to stake N100 for so many matches that weekend. The temptation came but the key was I tried to avoid thinking about it. i saw it as a free lottery which I don't have a strong chance for. It was days after i even asked and he said no show and mentioned a match which no one expected the scores. With that, i kept taking my mind out of it and counting my losses. So if i see gamblers now, i just laff and tell my self that i ve seen it all... What else? No addiction whatsoever. i cant make an effort to gamble again. i think you should first count your losses, as you can't do anything about it, then channel the disappointment to focussing on your work and making more money. With time, no doubt you will eventually forget about it and you will look at the next generation of gamblers and smile.

Thanks for your comment and sensitivity, I am not very old too, late 20's, I hope that this will be the biggest mistake of my life.

A messsge to the nairabets and gamblers.

Plaintainboy:
Though not important but I get enough income other than my pay to live on quaterly. And stop focusing on the money, the problem is with the addiction, if you are an addicted gambler who has the means you wont be staking peanuts. 1000 naira could maybe some ones else 600euros, its relative. Just focus on the problem if you must comment please, and for your betting formula/advice implicit in your comment, they all fail.

Bro na you dey do yourself. Use your head when betting. Common sense demands that when investing in a venture as risky as sports, you should do so with an amount of money that you're willing to lose.

People lose BILLIONS of Pounds in a single day in Wall Street and the Stock Market and they don't go around wailing about their losses because they fully take responsibility for every single dollar that they stake in any deal. Even if I lose $1,000,000 in a bet, I won't shake because I take calculated risk, not wild risks; I fully understand the risks in every bet I place hence I calculate my risks properly. That's the difference between an investor and a gambler: CALCULATED RISKS ONLY!

Bros no dey blame addiction, blame FOOLISHNESS! Get wiser mehn!

ikp120:
Bro na you dey do yourself. Use your head when betting. Common sense demands that when investing in a venture as risky as sports, you should do so with an amount of money that you're willing to lose.

People lose BILLIONS of Pounds in a single day in Wall Street and the Stock Market and they don't go around wailing about their losses because they fully take responsibility for every single dollar that they stake in any deal. Even if I lose $1,000,000 in a bet, I won't shake because I take calculated risk, not wild risks; I fully understand the risks in every bet I place hence I calculate my risks properly. That's the difference between an investor and a gambler: CALCULATED RISKS ONLY!

Bros no dey blame addiction, blame FOOLISHNESS! Get wiser mehn!

You lack knowledge. I am not asking for donations or funds, as it stands now I gave earned 150euros today....my venting anonymously makes me feel better. You are so disrespectful and stupid, what rubbish, keep your advice or comment to yourself you ill mannered urchin.

Nma27:
Widow's mite? You really need to b around those battling such addiction, that should give u better morale to stop. It ain't gonna b easy but it will b worth it.

Thanks for your concern...its really difficult but I must find a way to stop. In my settings people dont always talk about this kind of personal destructive problems, its gonna make people doubt your sense of judgement and potential affect your relationship in future. I have offered advice's to people on financial issues from time to time, I have some training in that area, funny that I cant even manage my own finances. I was fine till I relocated and started filling lonely...gambling gave me action and time flew by very fast.