blazer234:
Your sister has no job I guess. She saw a man that is financially OK and married him. Your sister never knew what attracted her to the man will also attract other girls to the man.

Who is paying the bills? Your sister or the husband? How much is your sister contributing to home upkeep? Maybe nothing. So why is she complaining? Is the man collecting money from her to sleep with those girls? Is he not meeting your sister's needs? Oh, your sister wants to have the man and all his money to herself, right?

This is one of the challenges of being a full dependant on your husband. It renders you incapacitated and you will have no say since you can't even feed yourself until your husband gives you money. She should allow the man to enjoy his money.

A women who depends on husband for virtually everything has lost respect and she should take whatever comes her way. Marrying a financially sound man has got its price.

DarkRebel101:


Such coagulation of vile stupidity!

If idiocy were muscle power then the amount contained in this comment of yours is more than is required to bench press a third world nation.

She also discovered in his chat the curses from another girl he promised marriage before abandoning her to marry my sister. The lady lamented on how he made her commit series of abortions in the name he was not ready yet and his responds was I want to fvck you tonight are you free?.

chizzy4love:

You totally understood my write up.Thanks

As for people asking me to give her some of my money,even if I give her 2m to add to her 1.5, it still won't do because after setting up a business you still need to fund it with your reserve for about 2 to 3 more years before it stands firm.Many people are just commenting without even thinking.

skillzbae:




That's y I said if she believes in it. so many pple will tell u he will change with prayers

chizzy4love:
Please I need advice for my elder sister whose husband is a chronic cheat.Their marriage is about 2 years now with a son. She have whatsapp chat proof of his affairs with like 10 other girls. He gives her everything and hides these affairs but my sister is extremely smart. He cheated on her during their 9 years courtship with like 3 different girls that she knows of but she dint have enough proof and people including her inlaws begged her not to leave him without proof. Well fastforward to after marriage, he is still seeing those girls including new ones but this time she have enough proof.

The worst of all was her complains to my mum this morning. She said she discovered in a chat between her husband and one of the girls he dated that she dint initially have proof of that he wants to marry her secretly, that the lady initially aborted for him 3 times before and now he is begging her to get pregnant for him again and he will marry her secretly. Meanwhile he is still constantly chatting and sleeping with the remaining 9 or more others.

She also discovered in his chat the curses from another girl he promised marriage before abandoning her to marry my sister. The lady lamented on how he made her commit series of abortions in the name he was not ready yet and his responds was I want to fvck you tonight are you free?.

From the same whatsapp chat she discovered he gave another girl 10,000 naira to abort a pregnancy recently.
He also invited 3 other different girls from outside his state.
Please if I continue, this whole page will not be enough.

My mum was trying to advice her to save massively since she already have a 6months old baby for him because she cant take care of the baby alone in these hard times. But I think she should just quit.
Meanwhile her husband dosnt know she has all those proofs.

PLEASE I NEED MATURED ADVICE GUYS.
Note* He have refused to open any business for her so that she can be financially independent.

chizzy4love:

Thunder fire you and your entire family and generations, you demented baboon and a sentimental fool.Is it by force to comment on "my post"?, you first class i.m.b.e.cile.150k job is a well paid job in this Nigerian economy because I know how much teller staff and C.S.Os earn in banks right now and that her pay was from 2 years ago idiot.
You cant even talk when my driver or gate man is talking or even stand me one on one.i don't
blame all these China companys that made Android phones very cheap thereby making scamps to hide under faceless forums and insult just anyone they feel like and also free data from service providers.
Sentimental fools like you are the reason I kept reading as a guest and not sign up all these while.
You can't even spell ordinary "hungry" correctly,how can you pass WAEC you scamp,bastard and a colossal idiot.
I won't dignify you with my response again and don't ever comment on my post next time because you are not one of the matured readers I asked for.

Bujumbura:
Nne tinye onu in this matter and leave Cock alone.


Na dis Valentine dey do you

chizzy4love:

1.5 million can't start a proper boutique.it can't even cover her upkeep alone for 6 months.we are from a middle class background.Even I, as a single working class girl right now have way more than that in my account now and it's no money to me.after renting won't she furnish,feed herself and the baby.she already has a high standard of living.we are from middle class family .we live a comfortable life.so to me,1.5m is really nothing.trust me.
besides,she was earning about 150k every month before she resigned her job and lived in a 2 bedroom flat as a single girl.hope you understand now.

Ishilove:

Oga, na you dem dash all these bans?

sexy74:

So to want to tell us that your sister did not cheat on him during the 9 years they dated?
Na who Dem catch be thief.

Fourwinds:
good advice...

foolish woman..what was she thinking

Ace2013:
will you marry her after she dumps him?

Toks2008:


I'm neither in support of philandering nor defending it but its time we told each other some home made truth....Most married men cheat but a philandering husband that respects his wife will do it far far away from her and would use protection to avoid bringing home disease for the lady...

I'm not going to argue this matter...believe what you want but that is a fact.

onome2013:
Is not your portion by God's grace don't be scared

chizzy4love:
Please I need advice for my elder sister whose husband is a chronic cheat.Their marriage is about 2 years now with a son. She have whatsapp chat proof of his affairs with like 10 other girls. He gives her everything and hides these affairs but my sister is extremely smart. He cheated on her during their 9 years courtship with like 3 different girls that she knows of but she dint have enough proof and people including her inlaws begged her not to leave him without proof. Well fastforward to after marriage, he is still seeing those girls including new ones but this time she have enough proof.

The worst of all was her complains to my mum this morning. She said she discovered in a chat between her husband and one of the girls he dated that she dint initially have proof of that he wants to marry her secretly, that the lady initially aborted for him 3 times before and now he is begging her to get pregnant for him again and he will marry her secretly. Meanwhile he is still constantly chatting and sleeping with the remaining 9 or more others.

She also discovered in his chat the curses from another girl he promised marriage before abandoning her to marry my sister. The lady lamented on how he made her commit series of abortions in the name he was not ready yet and his responds was I want to fvck you tonight are you free?.

From the same whatsapp chat she discovered he gave another girl 10,000 naira to abort a pregnancy recently.
He also invited 3 other different girls from outside his state.
Please if I continue, this whole page will not be enough.

My mum was trying to advice her to save massively since she already have a 6months old baby for him because she cant take care of the baby alone in these hard times. But I think she should just quit.
Meanwhile her husband dosnt know she has all those proofs.

PLEASE I NEED MATURED ADVICE GUYS.
Note* He have refused to open any business for her so that she can be financially independent.

blazer234:
Your sister has no job I guess. She saw a man that is financially OK and married him. Your sister never knew what attracted her to the man will also attract other girls to the man.

Who is paying the bills? Your sister or the husband? How much is your sister contributing to home upkeep? Maybe nothing. So why is she complaining? Is the man collecting money from her to sleep with those girls? Is he not meeting your sister's needs? Oh, your sister wants to have the man and all his money to herself, right?

This is one of the challenges of being a full dependant on your husband. It renders you incapacitated and you will have no say since you can't even feed yourself until your husband gives you money. She should allow the man to enjoy his money.

A women who depends on husband for virtually everything has lost respect and she should take whatever comes her way. Marrying a financially sound man has got its price.

chizzy4love:

Thunder fire you and your entire family and generations, you demented baboon and a sentimental fool.Is it by force to comment on "my post"?, you first class i.m.b.e.cile.150k job is a well paid job in this Nigerian economy because I know how much teller staff and C.S.Os earn in banks right now and that her pay was from 2 years ago idiot.
You cant even talk when my driver or gate man is talking or even stand me one on one.i don't
blame all these China companys that made Android phones very cheap thereby making scamps to hide under faceless forums and insult just anyone they feel like and also free data from service providers.
Sentimental fools like you are the reason I kept reading as a guest and not sign up all these while.
You can't even spell ordinary "hungry" correctly,how can you pass WAEC you scamp,bastard and a colossal idiot.
I won't dignify you with my response again and don't ever comment on my post next time because you are not one of the matured readers I asked for.

Toks2008:


You need a mature advice and I will give you one.

FACE YOUR BUSINESS AND LET YOUR SIS MARRIAGE BE ...

Most guys cheat but only those who love their wives won't do it to their face and from your story I can say the guy loves your sis...
and I believe he is wise enough to use protection for his numerous side dishes.

I dont support infidelity neither can anyone stop it from happening...

musabayokanu:


Big girl Afo nshi, na jealousy go kill you. You never marry instead of making peace for ur sis and the husband, all you are thinking is divorce without even considering her life after divorce.

You are wicked....... sily big girl.

When u are doing a sales rep job and they pay u 180k with a driver and a big office, u follow men that future ur bills u call ur self a big girl.

All you want Nairaland to tell you, is to advice your sister to start the business and hook up with a man that will provide her secondary support.

People like you are just the reason why the society is what is is today.

naijaGhandi:
I have read a lot of comments here and i wonder why we are this rude all in the name of giving her advice.

The insult directed to the op and her sister is unfair. We have to understand eachother's differences. She already mentioned that she will show her sister the comments in this thread, some of you have very good advice but you shouldn't expect it to be a rubber stamp. Give them time to read it all then come to a conclusion.

Many people claiming your sister was foolish to have married the man, don't understand the complexities of marriage.

You can marry a decent man and after wedding he begins to flirt due to reasons that no one can explain.

First and foremost, i think your sister needs to take care of her heart, high b.p is a silent killer, she should accept her fate and put all her trust in GOD to change the man for good.

Secondly, she can involve herself in online businesses that will also give her time to take care of her kid...many american nursing mothers use this strategy.

If she gets involved in the right online biz, she can get close to 6m profit within 6 months...i hope that will be enough to start her boutique biz.

Love conquers all, let her concentrate on her family, develop herself, in whatever way possible. Most.of these old rich men you see today were once like your sister's husband, with time, challenges will make him sit up, but before then let her do all she can not to worry herself over his flirty lifestyle.

Love is crazy, a stupid part of her still loves him,let her not let go because there's no perfect man anywhere.

abouzaid:
i noticed that too,she should even move back to her parents instead of renting a flat to reduce temptation from men.

abouzaid:
i noticed that too,she should even move back to her parents instead of renting a flat to reduce temptation from men.

chizzy4love:
My dad won't take her in cos he was against the marriage from onset.

chizzy4love:

Giving out money has never been an issue but sustaining it a big issue.Even if I give her extra 2m and she invests,how will she sustain the biz for the next few years without external income and also sustain her life and the baby..If you know the core values of business,you will understand me.So,please think properly and deeply before you respond.

MarieSucre:


Its those who hate their wives deeply that hide and cheat. They are slow poison, snakes in green grass. The woman will just start emaciating and wasting away. Before she knows that she is dying of Aids and puts two and two together that she caught it through her cheating husband, she is already dead.

Yes, cheating can be stopped. By the cheating partner. Abi did they tie his pricck to the women's vahjayjay.