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Never lie to your Pastor, Your Lawyer and your Doctor

my brother, flesh and blood. did not reveal this to you but our Heavenly Father.
Be properly guided.

What are you scared about ?

What are you doing wrong ?

AntiWailer:
What are you scared about ?

What are you doing wrong ?

I am scared about telling her my private thought and not knowing that a third party is in the loop. I don't like it.

sexy74:
my brother, flesh and blood. did not reveal this to you but our Heavenly Father.
Be properly guided.

Alright sir.

AK6464:
Never lie to your Pastor, Your Lawyer and your Doctor

Not in all cases oo.

bro firstly...y u take her fone


u could jst call nd tell her ur opinion about her openness wit d pastor

I see nothing wrong here. Is not like she's dating the pastor and secondly if you two were to be wedded, don't you think you'll still do counselling and that's also termed as "having a third party" in your affairs.

thunderfiremods:
bro firstly...y u take her fone



u could jst call nd tell her ur opinion about her openness wit d pastor

Taking my girl(s) phone' have saved me from the trap of runs gals and oloshos.

Nigga never go tru a woman's phone,n if u rly care about her like u said n wanna settle down wiv her,then never hide yuh findings from her,cos wen it all boils down to a fight, u wld just vomit d whole thing you ve been keeping inside,in a hurtful way....

You are right to be worried. Girls are more prone to manipulations and brainwashing by third parties. Next you know, the pastor will tell her you're not meant for her and God has revealed her husband to him and all that stuff and she'll buy it.

Simongm:
Hi Nairalanders, my Fiancée is a corp member serving in one of the southern state.
I paid her a visit last week and as a smart guy i had to check her phone to know the latest update about her through her msgs and chats.

So, there is this chat of hers that caught my attention, and that was the one she had with her pastor.
The pastor asked her when she will be through with service(NYSC) and her next step after service, then later ask her when she would settle down.

Surprisingly, i discovered that my girl was too open to her pastor in that conversation, to the extent that she told him everything about me.

I am really scared of her now and i have determine not to tell her any important info about myself... including the plans i have for her.
Because, i hate third party opinion about us. please is it okay if i discuss my findings with her and my stand?

I believe say na chop and clean mouth u won do ,if u won de committed why u de fear.well I de like dis de look u

Fifthcolumnist:
You are right to be worried. Girls are more prone to manipulations and brainwashing by third parties. Next you know, the pastor will tell her you're not meant for her and God has revealed her husband to him and all that stuff and she'll buy it.

Agreed!

Bros, I beg you, don't ever confide in that girl again. She is VERY porous.

kimbra:
I see nothing wrong here. Is not like she's dating the pastor and secondly if you two were to be wedded, don't you think you'll still do counselling and that's also termed as "having a third party" in your affairs.

too much openness is bad ....

Call her and explain things to her,ladies are too fragile to manipulations,they don't just know when to keep kwayet,her response will determine your next line of action.all this pastors sef

op why u scared? abi u wan jus chop and clean mouth? u dont need to be worried if she told her pastor about u except maybe u just wwant to shag her and dump.

lefulefu:
op why u scared? abi u wan jus chop and clean mouth? u dont need to be worried if she told her pastor about u except maybe u just wwant to shag her and dump.

No oo, i wan marry her na, no be to chop n clean mouth parol oo

I just don't like guys who are extremely too secretive...they usually die alone and in ignorance....for a girl you wanna marry i think it's necessary you let her know somethings about you, i mean things like your health, future plans, family background...and your pastor should be there as a guide and spiritual cover over your heads(you and your fiancee).

Simongm:
No oo, i wan marry her na, no be to chop n clean mouth parol oo

den u no suppose fear na

Most women see their pastor as their god.

OP, u should b glad she didnt deny u- she affirmed that u are in a relationship wit her (to someone she respects, her pastor) and u are sad. if u had chats indicating 'olosho' tendencies, u'l b here ranting about girls and fake luv. she luvs u

AK6464:
Never lie to your Pastor, Your Lawyer and your Doctor

Is the pastor the Governnor ?
Lawyer no prob
Doctor no prob
Wetin concern pastor for there ?

I couldn't stop shaking my head for this op while reading this. Like someone said up there, it's not like you saw her flirting o....you saw a chat where she's affirming her commitment to you and that's to her pastor for that matter.

I don't imagine myself getting married to a lady that has no spiritual covering over her head. Like my friend once said, a girl who has no one she's spiritually responsible to has no business being in a relationship...marriage simply shifts the spiritual responsibility to her husband (and this is not about seeing the person as her God). If I am to guess right, you aren't a very spiritual person and so something just irks you about her being spiritually responsible. Maybe you are scared you might be invited for a chat with the pastor or you just think she might start divulging details about your sexual romps with her.


Bro, relax. Your girl is on point. Girls dey spiritual, guys will Complain....girls do runs, guys will still complain again.