When a relationship comes to an end, the process of healing and moving on hopefully begins. The person you’re trying to let go of may be a recent part of your love life or an old flame. Now comes the task of wiping the slate clean, so you’ll be ready when a new partner enters your life.

Here are 15 practices that will help you leave the past behind:

1. Keep a realistic perspective of the person. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and every relationship has good and bad times. Acknowledging both assures you that your old love was not, in fact, ideal.

2. Clean your emotional house. Honestly inventory the strong feelings left over–pain, anger, regret–and then take time to heal. Proven techniques for doing that abound. Find the ones that make sense to you and get to work.

3. Clean your physical house. You might still have reminders of the relationship you’re trying to leave behind — photographs, mementos, and letters. Boxing them up can have a cleansing effect, a signal to your subconscious mind that a new beginning is underway.

4. Burn the bridge completely. If you know the relationship with your ex is truly over, then there’s nothing to gain from trying to be “just friends” or other variations. The best break is a clean break.

5. Watch your language. Meaning, watch how much you talk about your old relationship. The more your ex’s name comes out of your mouth, the more that person stays in your thoughts.

6. Close anything left open-ended. Whether they left your life weeks ago or years ago, you might have things you still need to say, amends you need to make, items you should have returned, or feelings you want to convey. Bring closure by taking care of what you need to.

7. Turn off the instant replay. Your mind can get stuck reliving the past, either adding fuel to your smoldering anger or romanticizing your memories. Either way, remember that you have sole possession of the remote control and can choose to direct your thoughts elsewhere.

8. Get involved in new activities. The process of leaving an old love behind is helped greatly by finding new pursuits that bring you joy, especially those that connect you with interesting people.


9. Resist the urge to follow the person via social media. Yes, of course you want to know what they’re up to! But if you really want to get that person out of your head, don’t fill it with current images and updates.

10. Tighten your ship. Let the breakup be an opportunity for honest self-assessment — so you’re that much better prepared for your next relationship. Are you a little too controlling? Argumentative? Clingy? Now’s the time to deal with it.

11. Forgive your ex. Holding a grudge ties you to the past, keeping you psychologically connected to the person and experiences you are trying to put behind you. Let it go — and set yourself free.

12. Forgive yourself. It’s just as likely you’ve said and done things yourself along the way you are not proud of — and equally important to put them behind you.


13. Practice gratitude. One time-honored way to move on from the past is to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Like magic, the words “I am thankful for …” will empower you to step forward.

14. Activate your support group. Enlist trusted friends and family to your cause, people who will inspire excitement about the future.

15. Expect new love to appear at any moment. Looking ahead with anticipation will help you stop looking back with longing. Romance can appear anywhere, anytime. Your job is to be fresh and ready when it does — not stuck in the past.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/02/24/15-ways-to-get-an-old-love-out-of-your-head/

I'm hardly emotional

my ex gf is a slut. why would i give a Bleep about a LovePeddler who parades herself publicly looking for sex *spits*

nice! as for me, if i don forget u as in delete you, synchronizing machine or backup software even recycled bin can retrieve you back to my memory




#positivevibes

I don't need this.
It not a new thing getting over my Ex.
Thanks for trying

cant get over the idiot cos it pains me each tym I remember her stupid lifestyle



I will use obedience complex on her


fùck her till blood begin comot from her pushy

my girlfriend finally call it quit with me today because she claims she want to help her family survive.she prefers to b a call girl, instead of staying with me to raise a family.i love her so much.i have a job to take care of her and her family,but she insisted dat she swore in a shrine in Nigeria to b a call girl to pay d money she was owing and to raise her family.i called her mom explaining d dangers of prostitution in Europe including d emotional trauma,I was shocked with her response"my daughter knew why she traveled,let her b"I was shocked.so today we finally call it quit.she cried profusely but there was nothing I could.i told her I love her,dat if she changed her mind,am waiting for her.Wat a cruel world.mothers driving their daughters to dia grave: NOTE:she aborted my baby which is just a month old because she wanted to "hussle".she didn't believe in me,with a salary of 1700£

flyover30:
my girlfriend finally call it quit with me today because she claims she want to help her family survive.she prefers to b a call girl, instead of staying with me to raise a family.i love her so much.i have a job to take care of her and her family,but she insisted dat she swore in a shrine in Nigeria to b a call girl to pay d money she was owing and to raise her family.i called her mom explaining d dangers of prostitution in Europe including d emotional trauma,I was shocked with her response"my daughter knew why she traveled,let her b"I was shocked.so today we finally call it quit.she cried profusely but there was nothing I could.i told her I love her,dat if she changed her mind,am waiting for her.Wat a cruel world.mothers driving their daughters to dia grave: NOTE:she aborted my baby which is just a month old because she wanted to "hussle".she didn't believe in me,with a salary of 1700£

@bolded

flyover30:
my girlfriend finally call it quit with me today because she claims she want to help her family survive.she prefers to b a call girl, instead of staying with me to raise a family.i love her s NOTE:she aborted my baby which is just a month old because she wanted to "hussle".she didn't believe in me,with a salary of 1700£

Bros hope ur brain is ok...1700 n u expect her to keep the baby so dat u let her suffers abi...

faithsmart1:
@bolded wire me 5k nau

couldn't even sympathise with me.its all about d money with women.why?

abercrombie:
Bros hope ur brain is ok...1700 n u expect her to keep the baby so dat u let her suffers abi...

stop insulting pipo u don't know.am not in Africa,I said 1700£ pounds.i work with glaxosmithkline

flyover30:
couldn't even sympathise with me.its all about d money with women.why?

ehya, sorry ehn. Dnt mind me.. every one with his/her problem. You will soon find d one right for u.

can i forward my account no. nw

flyover30:
my girlfriend finally call it quit with me today because she claims she want to help her family survive.she prefers to b a call girl, instead of staying with me to raise a family.i love her so much.i have a job to take care of her and her family,but she insisted dat she swore in a shrine in Nigeria to b a call girl to pay d money she was owing and to raise her family.i called her mom explaining d dangers of prostitution in Europe including d emotional trauma,I was shocked with her response"my daughter knew why she traveled,let her b"I was shocked.so today we finally call it quit.she cried profusely but there was nothing I could.i told her I love her,dat if she changed her mind,am waiting for her.Wat a cruel world.mothers driving their daughters to dia grave: NOTE:she aborted my baby which is just a month old because she wanted to "hussle".she didn't believe in me,with a salary of 1700£

Seriously can't believe that..

faithsmart1:
ehya, sorry ehn. Dnt mind me.. every one with his/her problem. You will soon find d one right for u.

can i forward my account no. nw

hmm sounds desperate.is d recession really biting dat hard?no problem forward it,but u ll get it on Monday,and hey I don't send 5k to pipo.dats 8 pounds here.

rebirthforgoody:







Seriously can't believe that..

believe it oo.benin girls are just so annoying.they make u love them and heartbreak is all u get.she just want d whole world today in her hands.i wonder how much she will make being a call girl.and I don't know d kind of spiritual stuff she is into with d sponsorers who brot her.she is really scared

[quote author=flyover30 post=54498489] believe it oo.benin girls are just so annoying.they make u love them and heartbreak is all u get.she just want d whole world today in her hands.i wonder how much she will make being a call girl.and I don't know d kind of spiritual stuff she is into with d sponsorers who brot her.she is really scared[/quote



Is well.take heart.

flyover30:
hmm sounds desperate.is d recession really biting dat hard?no problem forward it,but u ll get it on Monday,and hey I don't send 5k to pipo.dats 8 pounds here.

Jeez!

flyover30:
believe it oo.benin girls are just so annoying.they make u love them and heartbreak is all u get.she just want d whole world today in her hands.i wonder how much she will make being a call girl.and I don't know d kind of spiritual stuff she is into with d sponsorers who brot her.she is really scared

You can get her out of this.
Involve NAPTIP.
Don't just allow her waste her life in Europe just because of how much?

flyover30:
my girlfriend finally call it quit with me today because she claims she want to help her family survive.she prefers to b a call girl, instead of staying with me to raise a family.i love her so much.i have a job to take care of her and her family,but she insisted dat she swore in a shrine in Nigeria to b a call girl to pay d money she was owing and to raise her family.i called her mom explaining d dangers of prostitution in Europe including d emotional trauma,I was shocked with her response"my daughter knew why she traveled,let her b"I was shocked.so today we finally call it quit.she cried profusely but there was nothing I could.i told her I love her,dat if she changed her mind,am waiting for her.Wat a cruel world.mothers driving their daughters to dia grave: NOTE:she aborted my baby which is just a month old because she wanted to "hussle".she didn't believe in me,with a salary of 1700£

Wow!
See selfishness and greed.

Not surprised by her mothers reaction..Most Nigerian moms are like that.

chinybelle:


You can get her out of this.
Involve NAPTIP.
Don't just allow her waste her life in Europe just because of how much?

well she thinks she is sacrificing her life for her family to get out of poverty.wat more can I do.am tired

hmmm

flyover30:
well