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leksmediaweb:
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I will grow my kids with words from Tupac Shakur and Nas. Depression will come but they will conquer them. With Pac and Esco in you the world is yours.

Thank you for sharing your experience OP. Life is not a bed of roses, you either choose to lie on it or stuck to your noses.

If I have my way I will open up a rehab or something where people can go have time when they are depressed or lonely. Set it up like form of vacation ground where you meet with nice people who will be employed to treat you nice and make you feel people still love you despite if the rest of the world hate you.

What a business idea? I will like to partner with you if you still want to establish it.

Jabioro:
Glory be to God you survived all the odd.. I have bigger experience more than yours, but I promise myself that I won't commit suicide instead I prayed to God to kill me, I could remember how many years it took me to get out-of the mess. It cause my first marriage with three kids and others I have no time mention for now. Today those children are under graduate,the woman, of yesterday my children mother who left me and marry to another man with three wives, become the fourth were begging as now to return to the home she left empty.. mine is great financial loss and collapse of business.. Today.. I own my little empire.. To all suicides is not the best option. When there is life there is hope

it might seem lengthy or opening of old wounds but if you wud pls open a thread tells us abt ur ordeal and how u scaled tru I bet you lives will be transformed hopes will be renewed and blessing will follow you.

Maybe he was forced into the career and forced into things by parents and they over posessive and controlling ,he couldn't take it anymore so living a uncontent rich life, he ended it all.
On another level.. .this type of cases the white man country never leave unsolved. The news will be on authority neck to provide evidence of what happend and with one week all solid evidence will be provided.. ..but this country Na puzzle them go use end the matter.

UniosunGuy:
Life ain't just about the money..

abeg help me ask am well ...

TruthisGOD:
Op, well you've stated your reasons why you nearly commited suicide but thank God you didn't. But does anybody know what propelled Dr. Oji to comnit suicide? I bet the doctor's case is not worst than so many people's case. People talk about depression when the doctor has the three basic things in life- food, clothing and shelter. While this three basic things may not guaranty absolute gratification but it will make one to live a comfortable and to an extent a happy life. Money of course is not everything but it solves most of our problems and eliminate most of our worries. Depression is just a mindset and can easily be cured by consistent renewal of the mind-don't isolate yourself, interact with people, share your problems with people and you will learn that there are people that have pass through worst case than yours and still made it alive. Also strongly believe in yourself; these are the needed thereapy to cure depression and renew your mind. Finally when you go outside take solace from this set of people- people that are painfully poor, born blind, cripple and deaf, yet the move on with life without commiting sucide. Know that these set of people their only means of livelihood is through begging for alms. Sometimes, when the trod in the street begging, the are snubbed and scoffed; yet the move on with life, that is mindset. Nothing can justify Dr. Oji act.

You're still talking food, shelter, and clothing. . .You still don't get it. . .

This your story made me to evaluate my situation like there is still hope..but time Comes in life when all you can think of is to end everything because deep down you know thé life you leaving is hell

lifeexperience:
Don't wanna reveal my real identity here because I am well known here. So have to use a fresh account.

After the whole scenario and saga of the Dr. Oji Alllwell who took his life by jumping from 3rd mainland bridge, I had known and come to notice that life isn't all about money and riches. Who would have thought that a young man of his age who is a Medical Doctor, own an SUV and a driver and might be living in a very comfortable house will commit suicide.

The whole internet was full with sympathy to the family, insults to the young man and many felt why will a young man who is a Medical Doctor and living comfortably will commit suicide. But the truth about it is if you haven't suffered depression, false accusation and so many challenges in life you will think life is all about comfort, roses and possession of wealth.

My sad life and experience.

Sometime early last three year, 5th of Feb 2014 to be precise. I was falsely accused of something I do not know anything about to the extent I was blackmailed and filmed on another scenario to make the accusation look solid. The accuser accused me of trying to rape her who was my highly respected leader's wife and this was arranged by her and her friend.

To cut the story short, I have a man I once called my leader who is highly influential both in business and politics and he really loved me and took me as his son. I even had a room in his house. But the wife never liked me because she had once asked me to have sex with her which I blatantly rejected and kept it secret within me. But her mind kept judging her that I might leak out this secret one day which I will never even do because I am the secretive type and nobody might believe me because of her innocent lifestyle. But she quickly played a smart one on me.

From how the whole film started. One morning she called me from my room (in the guest house) to come and help her fix something in her room. I was still with my night wear and went to her room straight with it. As I got there, she told me to remove my shirt that I will be climbing her closet to help her nail something. I did exactly as she instructed not knowing she have her own motives. After climbing the closet there was nothing there to nail and I told her everything is intact. She said she was hearing some noise so she thought maybe their was some loose somewhere. As I came down, she filmed me unknowingly with her phone as I was trying to wear my clothes. That was how everything started.

She connived with her friend and they both lied against me saying I once asked her out too. I denied everything and her husband believed me at some point because he knew right from time the woman never liked me but didn't show full support of me because of the wife. My family and few of my friends were all with me at that point and they knew I can never do that not even with a married woman. She insisted that she will provide video clip for more prove and I was first to say she should do so, not knowing of what she have done earlier and edited some part of the video.

The whole story changed when she provided that video clip. The husband, my girlfriend, my family (father, mother, siblings and infact every of my extended family), friends and the whole world deserted me and I was even cursed by my parents for making them look stupid for earlier supporting me. I was left alone in this whole world, I was sacked because "my leader" has a very high stake where I work and was thrown inside the cell for 3 weeks until the man instructed for my release and never to come close to his fence again.

After I came out, I felt like the ground should swallow me, I was rejected by everybody including my parents (though my mother stood by me as her son but never believed anything I was saying). At this point I felt depressed, I asked myself what's the need of living in this life when everybody is against me on what I never did. Nobody to even listen to me anymore because everybody was hiding their wife and girlfriends away from me (funny world) and describing me as rapist. Do you know what it takes to be wrongly accused of what you don't even know anything about and been backed up with convincing evidence?

From that point I knew this life is of two phases. A once happy man now became the saddest man on earth. At some point I ran into cars on motion but accidents are always averted, bought Rat killer and some poison on three occasions but anytime I wanna take my life, one spirit come and says stand and defend yourself one day you must surely triumph and the world will believe you and another mind will say no need because that time will never come. But I am very happy today that I was able to mend my life through that phase. Though I still pass through depression sometime but I am being able to manage my life and open up my own business to be a boss of my own because of the stigma it brought to me. I am doing very well in my business (small company) today and don't even have any single friend because I fill their is no need for that when I couldn't even get one by my side during the bad times. Same goes to girls because I see them as Lucifer (sorry to use this word) and don't think that mindset will ever make me to marry. To my family they said I should come for forgiveness which I did on what I never committed (Oh Lord). Today I am living a lonely life all alone with no friends, don't mingle with neighbours, hardly communicate with families and some point even I doubt if God exist because he saw me pass through what I knew nothing about and just kept mute up till this day. The only friend I had and still have is the web and internet which I fall to anytime I feel like.

But sometime life isn't what you see on someone physically. If you have suffered depression and have been in some situation people go through in life you will never judge people for somethings they do or what they pass through. Who will be thinking of wealth when you are be confronted with false accusation and passing through depression. If it was pushed further I would have served a jail term for what I don't know. Probably still inside jail by now.

Your prayer should be one day you should never experience depression. Though I don't support suicide and will never support it. If I have my way I will open up a rehab or something where people can go have time when they are depressed or lonely. Set it up like form of vacation ground where you meet with nice people who will be employed to treat you nice and make you feel people still love you despite if the rest of the world hate you. Life isn't all about the roses but about how you can manage the bad time when it hits you.

Sorry for the long writing and grammatical blunders.

@Topic: You have done well for yourself; you have overcome the most difficult phase of the scenario. But you must not get too used to being alone...This life is very funny and also very short. I will advise to start making new friends gradually and do not be afraid to share your story with your new trusted friends...

Life is beautiful and very short...keep on living, sky is the limit.

Stay blessed!

depression for dis kind hard time wey man never chop bellefull? even if depression come abeg na where him want stay? cus number 1 hungry go kill am.number 2 no space for my house for him to stay...no b 2day naija dn dey suffer e dn tey.life himself na big setup.

Thank you for sharing this.

Nothing can justify his act as you stated but his state of mind may have been highly unstable. He was not reasoning well, and may not be in control of his mind at that point.

TruthisGOD:
Op, well you've stated your reasons why you nearly commited suicide but thank God you didn't. But does anybody know what propelled Dr. Oji to comnit suicide? I bet the doctor's case is not worst than so many people's case. People talk about depression when the doctor has the three basic things in life- food, clothing and shelter. While this three basic things may not guaranty absolute gratification but it will make one to live a comfortable and to an extent a happy life. Money of course is not everything but it solves most of our problems and eliminate most of our worries. Depression is just a mindset and can easily be cured by consistent renewal of the mind-don't isolate yourself, interact with people, share your problems with people and you will learn that there are people that have pass through worst case than yours and still made it alive. Also strongly believe in yourself; these are the needed thereapy to cure depression and renew your mind. Finally when you go outside take solace from this set of people- people that are painfully poor, born blind, cripple and deaf, yet the move on with life without commiting sucide. Know that these set of people their only means of livelihood is through begging for alms. Sometimes, when the trod in the street begging, the are snubbed and scoffed; yet the move on with life, that is mindset. Nothing can justify Dr. Oji act.

greatgod2012:
Goggle it my brother!
Just type mental health in goggle search and you'll adequately educate yourself properly!

Depression is a terrible mental sickness, I don't pray it for my worst enemy! What even made it more terrible is that depressed people don't agree that they have problem, the state will even becloud their reasoning and they won't even agree that they're being suicidal or that suicide is bad!

May you and your loved ones never experience depression!

Don't misinform people, please. Depression is not a MENTAL SICKNESS but a mood disorder, often caused by a state of low feeling/mood.

Depression is not as bad as you paint it to be. As a matter of fact, we have all experienced depression at some point in our lives. That many don't know they are depressed is because the level of depression is not so great to make such person take drastic measures.

There are degree of depression. The greater they are, the more devastating the affected would act. The ultimate thought of great depressions is suicide, and not every depressed being would consider suicide. Some prefer being left alone to think and cry for some time.

What reinforces depression are, but not limited to;
1. Lack of trust.
2. Inability to talk to people.
3. Being castigated when one is down.

Again, depression is not a mental disorder. While there is a fine thin line between mental health and depression, I would be quick to state that they are not in any way the same.

Learnt alot from this post.
Never associate yourself with a married woman who has asked you out. Never! They can go to any length to cover their secret.

Depression is an illness. Just like diabetes, hypertension. However, its an illness of the mind.

It doesnt always have to do with having the basics of life. Many rich celebrities abroad have committed suicide, usually because of a background history of depression.
Some are lucky that the medicines- antidepressants work for them, others are not as lucky as no medicine worked for them till they succumb to their thoughts of suicide and act it out.
A good support system is essential, but sadly may not be enough. Psychotherapy equally doesn't work for some.
Whereas, just a single tablet a day is enough for some to see the world as beautiful.

Sanchez01:
Don't misinform people, please. Depression is not a MENTAL SICKNESS but a mood disorder, often caused by a state of low feeling/mood.

Depression is not as bad as you paint it to be. As a matter of fact, we have all experienced depression at some point in our lives. That many don't know they are depressed is because the level of depression is not so great to make such person take drastic measures.

There are degree of depression. The greater they are, the more devastating the affected would act. The ultimate thought of great depressions is suicide, and not every depressed being would consider suicide. Some prefer being left alone to think and cry for some time.

What reinforces depression are, but not limited to;
1. Lack of trust.
2. Inability to talk to people.
3. Being castigated when one is down.

Again, depression is not a mental disorder. While there is a fine thin line between mental health and depression, I would be quick to state that they are not in any way the same.

Please educate yourself. Depression is a serious mental disorder. Usually not taken lightly in places where health is valued. Because I feel sad about a failed exam,or business doesn't mean I'm suffering from depression.
So know the difference. Drs will tell you its one of the most difficult psychiatric/mental disorders/illnesses to treat.

Op this ur xprience strong wallahi... Nothing is hidden under the earth 4ever.. Good u're moving on. The truth shall prevail one day.

the doctor was a sickler and had epilepsy.

askibee:
it might seem lengthy or opening of old wounds but if you wud pls open a thread tells us abt ur ordeal and how u scaled tru I bet you lives will be transformed hopes will be renewed and blessing will follow you.

Yeah..i will...

TruthisGOD:
Op, well you've stated your reasons why you nearly commited suicide but thank God you didn't. But does anybody know what propelled Dr. Oji to comnit suicide? I bet the doctor's case is not worst than so many people's case. People talk about depression when the doctor has the three basic things in life- food, clothing and shelter. While this three basic things may not guaranty absolute gratification but it will make one to live a comfortable and to an extent a happy life. Money of course is not everything but it solves most of our problems and eliminate most of our worries. Depression is just a mindset and can easily be cured by consistent renewal of the mind-don't isolate yourself, interact with people, share your problems with people and you will learn that there are people that have pass through worst case than yours and still made it alive. Also strongly believe in yourself; these are the needed thereapy to cure depression and renew your mind. Finally when you go outside take solace from this set of people- people that are painfully poor, born blind, cripple and deaf, yet the move on with life without commiting sucide. Know that these set of people their only means of livelihood is through begging for alms. Sometimes, when the trod in the street begging, the are snubbed and scoffed; yet the move on with life, that is mindset. Nothing can justify Dr. Oji act.

Easier said, dont pray to be in a state of hopelessness, you pray, fast, speak the word, live a Godly life, work hard and then the issue persists. Sometimes you dont have control over these issues. Pls dont forget that some of us are introverts. Its the God factor that breaks my heart.

lifeexperience:
If you get to a point in life where you are been isolated and segregated from other people you will understand life and what depression really means. I seriously pray no man should witness such in life. Life pushed me to a point where I was ready to offer all the money I saved to the happiest poorest person on earth just to swap his/her happiness. Today people call me uncivilized, one man island and all sort of name not knowing what I passed through that brought those isolated feathers in me.

I don't know whether you believe in the supernatural or not; if that happens to me, that woman will rot to death until she confesses.

Jabioro:
Yeah..i will...

thank you

TruthisGOD:
Op, well you've stated your reasons why you nearly commited suicide but thank God you didn't. But does anybody know what propelled Dr. Oji to comnit suicide? I bet the doctor's case is not worst than so many people's case. People talk about depression when the doctor has the three basic things in life- food, clothing and shelter. While this three basic things may not guaranty absolute gratification but it will make one to live a comfortable and to an extent a happy life. Money of course is not everything but it solves most of our problems and eliminate most of our worries. Depression is just a mindset and can easily be cured by consistent renewal of the mind-don't isolate yourself, interact with people, share your problems with people and you will learn that there are people that have pass through worst case than yours and still made it alive. Also strongly believe in yourself; these are the needed thereapy to cure depression and renew your mind. Finally when you go outside take solace from this set of people- people that are painfully poor, born blind, cripple and deaf, yet the move on with life without commiting sucide. Know that these set of people their only means of livelihood is through begging for alms. Sometimes, when the trod in the street begging, the are snubbed and scoffed; yet the move on with life, that is mindset. Nothing can justify Dr. Oji act.

Truly, depression is just a mindset but have you ever been so alone that you can't tell anyone your problems cause they don't really care, bro I've been where this op is (even though my story is different) and I understand how it feels to be depressed... People around me sees me as the funny one and never take anything I say serious even when I'm serious, how do you expect them to understand the problem.... . Like the op, the Internet became my best friend after work

lifeexperience:
Don't wanna reveal my real identity here because I am well known here. So have to use a fresh account.

After the whole scenario and saga of the Dr. Oji Alllwell who took his life by jumping from 3rd mainland bridge, I had known and come to notice that life isn't all about money and riches. Who would have thought that a young man of his age who is a Medical Doctor, own an SUV and a driver and might be living in a very comfortable house will commit suicide.

The whole internet was full with sympathy to the family, insults to the young man and many felt why will a young man who is a Medical Doctor and living comfortably will commit suicide. But the truth about it is if you haven't suffered depression, false accusation and so many challenges in life you will think life is all about comfort, roses and possession of wealth.

My sad life and experience.

Sometime early last three year, 5th of Feb 2014 to be precise. I was falsely accused of something I do not know anything about to the extent I was blackmailed and filmed on another scenario to make the accusation look solid. The accuser accused me of trying to rape her who was my highly respected leader's wife and this was arranged by her and her friend.

To cut the story short, I have a man I once called my leader who is highly influential both in business and politics and he really loved me and took me as his son. I even had a room in his house. But the wife never liked me because she had once asked me to have sex with her which I blatantly rejected and kept it secret within me. But her mind kept judging her that I might leak out this secret one day which I will never even do because I am the secretive type and nobody might believe me because of her innocent lifestyle. But she quickly played a smart one on me.

From how the whole film started. One morning she called me from my room (in the guest house) to come and help her fix something in her room. I was still with my night wear and went to her room straight with it. As I got there, she told me to remove my shirt that I will be climbing her closet to help her nail something. I did exactly as she instructed not knowing she have her own motives. After climbing the closet there was nothing there to nail and I told her everything is intact. She said she was hearing some noise so she thought maybe their was some loose somewhere. As I came down, she filmed me unknowingly with her phone as I was trying to wear my clothes. That was how everything started.

She connived with her friend and they both lied against me saying I once asked her out too. I denied everything and her husband believed me at some point because he knew right from time the woman never liked me but didn't show full support of me because of the wife. My family and few of my friends were all with me at that point and they knew I can never do that not even with a married woman. She insisted that she will provide video clip for more prove and I was first to say she should do so, not knowing of what she have done earlier and edited some part of the video.

The whole story changed when she provided that video clip. The husband, my girlfriend, my family (father, mother, siblings and infact every of my extended family), friends and the whole world deserted me and I was even cursed by my parents for making them look stupid for earlier supporting me. I was left alone in this whole world, I was sacked because "my leader" has a very high stake where I work and was thrown inside the cell for 3 weeks until the man instructed for my release and never to come close to his fence again.

After I came out, I felt like the ground should swallow me, I was rejected by everybody including my parents (though my mother stood by me as her son but never believed anything I was saying). At this point I felt depressed, I asked myself what's the need of living in this life when everybody is against me on what I never did. Nobody to even listen to me anymore because everybody was hiding their wife and girlfriends away from me (funny world) and describing me as rapist. Do you know what it takes to be wrongly accused of what you don't even know anything about and been backed up with convincing evidence?

From that point I knew this life is of two phases. A once happy man now became the saddest man on earth. At some point I ran into cars on motion but accidents are always averted, bought Rat killer and some poison on three occasions but anytime I wanna take my life, one spirit come and says stand and defend yourself one day you must surely triumph and the world will believe you and another mind will say no need because that time will never come. But I am very happy today that I was able to mend my life through that phase. Though I still pass through depression sometime but I am being able to manage my life and open up my own business to be a boss of my own because of the stigma it brought to me. I am doing very well in my business (small company) today and don't even have any single friend because I fill their is no need for that when I couldn't even get one by my side during the bad times. Same goes to girls because I see them as Lucifer (sorry to use this word) and don't think that mindset will ever make me to marry. To my family they said I should come for forgiveness which I did on what I never committed (Oh Lord). Today I am living a lonely life all alone with no friends, don't mingle with neighbours, hardly communicate with families and some point even I doubt if God exist because he saw me pass through what I knew nothing about and just kept mute up till this day. The only friend I had and still have is the web and internet which I fall to anytime I feel like.

But sometime life isn't what you see on someone physically. If you have suffered depression and have been in some situation people go through in life you will never judge people for somethings they do or what they pass through. Who will be thinking of wealth when you are be confronted with false accusation and passing through depression. If it was pushed further I would have served a jail term for what I don't know. Probably still inside jail by now.

Your prayer should be one day you should never experience depression. Though I don't support suicide and will never support it. If I have my way I will open up a rehab or something where people can go have time when they are depressed or lonely. Set it up like form of vacation ground where you meet with nice people who will be employed to treat you nice and make you feel people still love you despite if the rest of the world hate you. Life isn't all about the roses but about how you can manage the bad time when it hits you.

Sorry for the long writing and grammatical blunders.

that's y I just keep to masef too, u can never explain defeat to someone who has never experienced it before.. each time I'm faced with depression, I try to sleep it out now, it saves me from thinking of suicide as a way out... nice one op

Your story was quite sad but I believe you did not defend yourself very well when you were accused. A video showing you putting on your shirt in her room is not enough evidence. I hate false accusation, if I were you as far as my hands are clean I will go to any extent to prove my innocence. If it means going to a shrine to swear both of us will do it. False accusation is more deadly than being shot with a gun. People have died, some in jail, families torn apart due to false accusation. I will never accept it.

Op don't worry. Life is a ball.

Through all these dark clouds, there's a brighter day ahead.

Its among the worst sins in islam.. To wrongfully accuse a chaste person and to bear false witness.

Just keep doing what you're doing. Stay alive. One day. You will sincerely thank God for the way your life turned out to be as different from what you wanted it to be. HE is the Grand architect of the universe.

As for the woman, she will live with a prodding conscience for the rest of her life. When ever she hears your name, she will have a depressed feeling. Initially, she'll suppress this feeling. But its natural. Its so strong that it can gradually take its toll on her mental stability till she seeks forgiveness.

Never imagine that suicide is the solution to a human problem. Get up and fight back. You serve A Mighty God.

Life isn't all about the roses but about how you can manage the bad time when it hits you? Love that.

lifeexperience:
I have lived with that and moved on. I don't care what the world think about me anymore...

Haha. reading this is making me angry

Depression is very real
I