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Lemme share my background briefly
I got pregnant at 16, now i am 26.
The news of the pregnancy left me in depression so I avoided my boyfriend. Lied to him I had travelled anytime he wanted to see me. The bubble bursted when he found me at home. He was so furious. Tried explaining to him that the news of my pregnancy made me depressed that was why i avoided him. He left with this words "dont ever call me or text me until i ask u to do so"....that was the end.
I never saw him or heard from him until three and half years later when he commented on my facebook picture with his son, but I was so hurt that I couldn't reply it. He was a Muslim, and I am a Christian.
I never loved or like again. For ten years remained single. Didn't even feel any crush for anybody . suitors have been coming but I turn them down.

Three months ago I met this guy, he is a muslim. Our souls knitted.He asked me out and I said yes, just to have company and emotionally bond. I also enjoy his presence. I took it as casual dating.
He is such a darling, cared for me, pampered and pet me like a baby. He gives me allowances on weekly basis, so that i never have to spend a kobo out of my salary. He has never touched me. Sometimes we sleep on the same bed overnight and he has never laid his hands on me. Althrough our relationship, the worst we have done is pecking.
Out of the blue, he knelt in the presence of his friends and mine and proposed marriage with a ring .
Was shocked and scared. Said yes to spare him public shame with the intention of calling off the engagement after their departure.
My reasons are:
1. Never thought of marriage or settling down. The passion or interest aint there.
2. We have barely dated for three months-too short.
3, he is a muslim and i am a christian.
I do care about him and think about day and night but marriage has never crossed my mind .
The calling off the engagement was emotional, we both cried. ...he felt betrayed claiming I wasted three months of his life.
Marriage wasn't what I bargained for,just a mutual relationship with him
Nls, what do i do?

But why have you been eating his money every week?

He is not getting any younger, neither are you.

Better start planning of where to print your cards and the type of souvenirs you will buy for the wedding.


I only fear for your religious differences.... . Why start what you cannot finish?

Let the bashing begin!

Mek i tink smal first

WELL ARE YOU A TRUE CHRISTIAN? or religion difference doesn't MATTER to you?

Is it a real relationship or you just playing the guy and using him as an emotional SHOULDER?

Do your families accept such union?

Would you convert to a MUSLIM just for him?

My dear if you do not want to have endless in-law issues and KIDS who are atheist OR who have split personalities then ARRANGE YOUR LIFE AND DECIDE YOUR DESTINY, COS YOU CAN NOT COME HERE AND ASK OF FOR ADVICE FOR A CHOICE WE DIDN'T ADVICE YOU TO TAKE IN THE FIRST PLACE.

Whoever plays tunes for foools must learn the dance of shame.

ONE WOLD THINK YOU WOULD BE WISER AND AT LEAST ABSTAIN FROM COMPLICATED THINGS. Muslims are wonderful people tho but their VIEWS vary. Don't get into something that will damage the vision of your life.

Michellekabod:
Lemme share my background briefly
I got pregnant at 16, now i am 26.
The news of the pregnancy left me in depression so I avoided my boyfriend. Lied to him I had travelled anytime he wanted to see me. The bubble bursted when he found me at home. He was so furious. Tried explaining to him that the news of my pregnancy made me depressed that was why i avoided him. He left with this words "dont ever call me or text me until i ask u to do so"....that was the end.
I never saw him or heard from him until three and half years later when he commented on my facebook picture with his son, but I was so hurt that I couldn't reply it. He was a Muslim, and I am a Christian.
I never loved or like again. For ten years remained single. Didn't even feel any crush for anybody . suitors have been coming but I turn them down.

Three months ago I met this guy, he is a muslim. Our souls knitted.He asked me out and I said yes, just to have company and emotionally bond. I also enjoy his presence. I took it as casual dating.
He is such a darling, cared for me, pampered and pet me like a baby. He gives me allowances on weekly basis, so that i never have to spend a kobo out of my salary. He has never touched me. Sometimes we sleep on the same bed overnight and he has never laid his hands on me. Althrough our relationship, the worst we have done is pecking.
Out of the blue, he knelt in the presence of his friends and mine and proposed marriage with a ring .
Was shocked and scared. Said yes to spare him public shame with the intention of calling off the engagement after their departure.
My reasons are:
1. Never thought of marriage or settling down. The passion or interest aint there.
2. We have barely dated for three months-too short.
3, he is a muslim and i am a christian.
I do care about him and think about day and night but marriage has never crossed my mind .
The calling off the engagement was emotional, we both cried. ...he felt betrayed claiming I wasted three months of his life.
Marriage wasn't what I bargained for,just a mutual relationship with him
Nls, what do i do?

WOMEN after TBOSS fear them

Ehmmm M, Buh u hv already done what u needed to do now?

U already wrote 'i quit my engagement', so y asking what u should do again na.




Anyways, ur well-being should always be ur priority sha

[quote author=greatnaija01 post=54979751]WELL ARE YOU A TRUE CHRISTIAN? or religion difference doesn't MATTER to you?

Is it a real relationship or you just playing the guy and using him as an emotional SHOULDER?

Do your families accept such union?

Would you convert to a MUSLIM just for him?

My dear if you do not want to have endless in-law issues and KIDS who are atheist OR who have split personalities then ARRANGE YOUR LIFE AND DECIDE YOUR DESTINY, COS YOU CAN NOT COME HERE AND ASK OF FOR ADVICE FOR A CHOICE WE DIDN'T ADVICE YOU TO TAKE IN THE FIRST PLACE.

Whoever plays tunes for foools must learn the dance of shame.

ONE WOLD THINK YOU WOULD BE WISER AND AT LEAST ABSTAIN FROM COMPLICATED THINGS. Muslims are wonderful people tho but their VIEWS vary. Don't get into something that will damage the vision of your life.




My family don't approve if his religion and also his tribe(if he was a Christian he wouldn't be accepted because if his tribe).
I didn't play him, was sincere and true to him, but didn't have a purpose or future plan for us, didn't ever envisage marriage.

Question: Are you a wìtch or a heartless robot?

You knew your religion wasn't on the same wavelength yet you accepted his dating proposal. Play games with his mind by being there. Pretended you loved & then dump him?!

What do you do? I'll tell you. You know what? — Bottle yourself and migrate dear. Far away from humanity.

Any guy way give u advice they wast him time

KARMA IS COMING FOR YOU....


Don't worry.


You waste and eat his money every week for 3Months


The Thunder that Karma will Bring to your Door steps Is still doing NYSC

What do u do? What a stupid queshun after calling off d engagement? Wetin dey worry gehs naaaa? U didn't know he was a Muslim when u spent his weekly allowance......when he slept on ur bed.....when he was thoughtful n kind n generous n good?
He now proposed n u thought d time too short.... N ur not convinced n his a Muslim? Are u for real? U even made him cry! Think u have some issues u need to sought out! U are so confused....ur family won't allow u to marry him coz of both his tribe n religion? Y not marry ur family then n seek their opinion when u need to buy a pair of shoes! So with being a baby mama someone even showed u love n u posted all these as reasons to reject?as per what? A slay queen? Lmao! This is y falling in love with a naija babe is like fighting mike Tyson!

Holy molly...will I ever marry with all the rubbish my eyes have seen in dis country?

greatnaija01:
WELL ARE YOU A TRUE CHRISTIAN? or religion difference doesn't MATTER to you?

Is it a real relationship or you just playing the guy and using him as an emotional SHOULDER?

Do your families accept such union?

Would you convert to a MUSLIM just for him?

My dear if you do not want to have endless in-law issues and KIDS who are atheist OR who have split personalities then ARRANGE YOUR LIFE AND DECIDE YOUR DESTINY, COS YOU CAN NOT COME HERE AND ASK OF FOR ADVICE FOR A CHOICE WE DIDN'T ADVICE YOU TO TAKE IN THE FIRST PLACE.

Whoever plays tunes for foools must learn the dance of shame.

ONE WOLD THINK YOU WOULD BE WISER AND AT LEAST ABSTAIN FROM COMPLICATED THINGS. Muslims are wonderful people tho but their VIEWS vary. Don't get into something that will damage the vision of your life.

Please just shut it! I have seen very unhappily married xtians so wtf u on about? Ur type will come again with tribal differences n bullshit! D girl said their souls knitted....even when she knew he was Muslim.... But I don't blame d geh sha.....na d mumu guy I blame....gehs don't want nice guys...I keep telling y'all! They don't! They despise nice guys....only want fvckers!

Michellekabod:
Lemme share my background briefly
I got pregnant at 16, now i am 26.
The news of the pregnancy left me in depression so I avoided my boyfriend. Lied to him I had travelled anytime he wanted to see me. The bubble bursted when he found me at home. He was so furious. Tried explaining to him that the news of my pregnancy made me depressed that was why i avoided him. He left with this words "dont ever call me or text me until i ask u to do so"....that was the end.
I never saw him or heard from him until three and half years later when he commented on my facebook picture with his son, but I was so hurt that I couldn't reply it. He was a Muslim, and I am a Christian.
I never loved or like again. For ten years remained single. Didn't even feel any crush for anybody . suitors have been coming but I turn them down.

Three months ago I met this guy, he is a muslim. Our souls knitted.He asked me out and I said yes, just to have company and emotionally bond. I also enjoy his presence. I took it as casual dating.
He is such a darling, cared for me, pampered and pet me like a baby. He gives me allowances on weekly basis, so that i never have to spend a kobo out of my salary. He has never touched me. Sometimes we sleep on the same bed overnight and he has never laid his hands on me. Althrough our relationship, the worst we have done is pecking.
Out of the blue, he knelt in the presence of his friends and mine and proposed marriage with a ring .
Was shocked and scared. Said yes to spare him public shame with the intention of calling off the engagement after their departure.
My reasons are:
1. Never thought of marriage or settling down. The passion or interest aint there.
2. We have barely dated for three months-too short.
3, he is a muslim and i am a christian.
I do care about him and think about day and night but marriage has never crossed my mind .
The calling off the engagement was emotional, we both cried. ...he felt betrayed claiming I wasted three months of his life.
Marriage wasn't what I bargained for,just a mutual relationship with him
Nls, what do i do?

Wait first, you didn't tell us weather you aborted the baby or not??...anyway, the only good reason i see why you called off the engagement is the religion issue asides that you are just a supposed "over grown puppy" which prolly is wallowing in confussion.

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luminouz:
Please just shut it! I have seen very unhappily married xtians so wtf u on about? Ur type will come again with tribal differences n bullshit! D girl said their souls knitted....even when she knew he was Muslim.... But I don't blame d geh sha.....na d mumu guy I blame....gehs don't want nice guys...I keep telling y'all! They don't! They despise nice guys....only want fvckers!

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your ignorance smells.

CHRISTIANS or MUSLIMS if things the principles are not kept NO MARRIAGE WILL WORK. open your religious blind eyes and see what i wrote with a eyes of logic n reason. am not a fanatic.

greatnaija01:
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your ignorance smells.

CHRISTIANS or MUSLIMS if things the principles are not kept NO MARRIAGE WILL WORK. open your religious blind eyes and see what i wrote with a eyes of logic n reason. am not a fanatic.

Thank God u said religion! I believe in morals now bro....not d yeye naija religion u believe in...my grandmum is a Muslim...grandpa a christian....yet dat never affected d kids....they were taught virtues not religion....n my parents (both xtians) taught me same...virtues n morals rule over religion(fake Alfas n pastors everywia)
Hope my ignorance has not killed u?

firstking01:
Wait first, you didn't tell us weather you aborted the baby or not??...anyway, the only good reason i see why you called off the engagement is the religion issue asides that you are a just a supposed "over grown puppy" which prolly is wallowing in confussion.

My baby boy will clock 11 years next week...his dad threatened to have me imprisoned if I tampered with the pregnancy....imagine that Malo boy forcing me to keep a baby i wasnt ready to keep... Dont regret it though.
For about a decade i have beeb single-rocking clubs and focusing on my carrier . when i finally chose to date, will marriage be the first thing on my mind?barely three months of exploring d dating world?

Michellekabod:
My baby boy will clock 11 years next week...his dad threatened to have me imprisoned if I tampered with the pregnancy....imagine that Malo boy forcing me to keep a baby i wasnt ready to keep... Dont regret it though.
For about a decade i have beeb single-rocking clubs and focusing on my carrier . when i finally chose to date, will marriage be the first thing on my mind?barely three months of exploring d dating world?

Then follow your heart but carry your brain along and tread with caution...you must be a strong woman for staying single and catering for the boy all alone...me, i 'll advice you not to marry a muslim for obvious reasons...keep open your options for other christian male suitors if et-all you don't have one at the moment cos i'm sure men will always come esp as you are a career driven lady...but, repent from clubing

still you are ignorant. i never said i was religious. i didn't give a religious advice. so stop picking a brawl where there is none and grow up

luminouz:
Thank God u said religion! I believe in morals now bro....not d yeye naija religion u believe in...my grandmum is a Muslim...grandpa a christian....yet dat never affected d kids....they were taught virtues not religion....n my parents (both xtians) taught me same...virtues n morals rule over religion(fake Alfas n pastors everywia)
Hope my ignorance has not killed u?

greatnaija01:
still you are ignorant. i never said i was religious. i didn't give a religious advice. so stop picking a brawl where there is none and grow up

Ewwwww! Just look at yew! I gave u an olive branch yet u still behaved like a Pharisee! Run along now little boy!

Girls don't need to be treated nice, show them the reasons why their not up to your standard. for that you will have a rest of mind.

No advice here