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It seems the op has an unusual need for attention -male attention. She enjoys the ''toasting'', the time and all, while claiming to still love her boyfriend. Some people call her kind of person an ''attention wwhore''.

Op, you can stop if you REALLY want to. Cease flirting with those guys. If you must remain friends then let it be platonic.

Its best you stop this ''attention whorring'' now as it may cause u dearly when u finally get married.

Rutirexa:
please no insults. Advise only.
I started dating this awesome guy. he was everything I wanted in a guy. we have been dating for two years and some months. Am 20, his 25. but the problem is I can't stop falling in love with other guys who are wooing me. I love my bf so much. and he loves me too. but my cheating aspect is what am trying to stop and he doesn't know. And after all these with other guys. I don't feel remorse like am doing anything wrong. but I know he would feel bad if he knows.
So what can I do to stop.

OP, is your heart a electric socket because how in God's name re u falling in love with any guy dat woo u because i Yam not understanding again,,, just make a resolution dat u won't cheat again and am assuring u that weakness would be gone for good

DeLioncourt:
these insults you have spewed forth serve no purpose... it only shows your ignorance. the girl has admitted her wrongs and is seeking help.
if you aren't going to offer advice or be a spectator, just remain quiet.

The advice you're giving actually Shows Your own ignorance

You understand her need for attention? If you really did you would have known that One guy cannot give her the attention she craves.
She knows what she is doing and she feels no remorse about it.

Just google
"Female narcissists in Relationships"
"Narcissists, sex and fidelity"

or Histrionic personality disorder and get a clue..

MrBrownJay1:
I guess what you are saying is that as soon as women get into a r/ship, they suddenly become unusually friendly with their male friends... Or is it possible that these women were ALWAYS unusually friendly with their male friends... And while it wasn't a problem for you as you were wooing her, it suddenly becomes an issue now that you are dating her (due to insecurity)?

The man clearly tried to differentiate between Women that have male friends and colleagues to an acceptable degree and girls that are unusually friendly with a high number of male friends.

waywardpikin:
There are those who have male colleagues and acquaintances to an acceptable degree. And then there are those who, as their boyfriend, you notice that they are unusually friendly with an alarming number of guys under the pretext of friendship. Of course if you try to draw her attention towards it you are labelled as insecure or suffering from low self esteem just as you have attempted to do here.

Yet you're trying to group everything he said together like he was talking about One group.

It is pure manipulation when you notice unusual behaviour on the part of Your girlfriend, Fiancee or spouse and then when you try to draw her attention to it, you're labelled paranoid, insecure or just Jealous. Must one turn a blind eye to everything in an attempt to appear as a "Secure man"?

vislabraye:
. This is the most hilarious comment on relationship I've ever read. Or were you trying to be sarcastic ? It's just like some blaming his opponent for scoring against him.

I'd like to mention you on a new thread...

Mznaett:
I'd like to mention you on a new thread...

Why another thread ?

DaySpringer:
The advice you're giving actually Shows Your own ignorance

You understand her need for attention? If you really did you would have known that One guy cannot give her the attention she craves.
She knows what she is doing and she feels no remorse about it.

Just google
"Female narcissists in Relationships"
"Narcissists, sex and fidelity"

or Histrionic personality disorder and get a clue..

TF are you talking about mate?
No one person can satisfy the attention needs of another person. The fact that we are all unique beings with different temperaments and behaviours is a simple indicator of that fact. This does not mean that a person cannot try to subdue the need for multiple partners. Everybody has a dark side waiting to be or not be unlocked. Don't throw one person under the bus just because your own sins haven't been uncovered.

DaySpringer:
The man clearly tried to differentiate between Women that have male friends and colleagues to an acceptable degree and girls that are unusually friendly with a high number of male friends.

Bwaaah.... An acceptable degree?! What makes YOU think that your views, on what is acceptable, are the same with hers?! AND isn't it funny how it is ALWAYS after they start dating these ladies that "suddenly" her friendly nature and male friends count is bothering such man?!

You should know that some women out there are indeed very friendly, and have many male friends, without being the LovePeddler that will sleep with all of them... And unless she does anything that warrant such thought, there shouldn't be any suspicion from her man. If there is any then he should look within himself for answers, as HE is the problem.

DaySpringer:
The man clearly tried to differentiate between Women that have male friends and colleagues to an acceptable degree and girls that are unusually friendly with a high number of male friends.



Yet you're trying to group everything he said together like he was talking about One group.

It is pure manipulation when you notice unusual behaviour on the part of Your girlfriend, Fiancee or spouse and then when you try to draw her attention to it, you're labelled paranoid, insecure or just Jealous. Must one turn a blind eye to everything in an attempt to appear as a "Secure man"?

Thank you jare. Mental people everywhere!

This sentence is small but really weighty. People don't understand what love entails. They think its about cheating left, right and center and still professing fake love for the one they're cheating on.

Love does not and cannot cheat because that person becomes a part of you and hurting them is hurting yourself too.

SINZ:
You haven't met someone you won't want to loose.

Rutirexa:
not like I do sex with them. what i mean is that I like being in their company. we stuffs kind of relationship like. it kind of complicating. not that I have feelings for anyone of them. but just like being with them. and I don't have high libido. it just like exploring. being with other guys. and not with your bf alone.

Continue Lying madam. So you want to tell me you dont have sex with the other guys you "date"??..I hear you oo

Rutirexa:
please no insults. Advise only.
I started dating this awesome guy. he was everything I wanted in a guy. we have been dating for two years and some months. Am 20, his 25. but the problem is I can't stop falling in love with other guys who are wooing me. I love my bf so much. and he loves me too. but my cheating aspect is what am trying to stop and he doesn't know. And after all these with other guys. I don't feel remorse like am doing anything wrong. but I know he would feel bad if he knows.
So what can I do to stop.

you're in the Hoe phase of your life.

Maybe you are a nymph...

Why not just be single and enjoy yourself with as many guys as you want.

Amberon11:
This sentence is small but really weighty. People don't understand what love entails. They think its about cheating left, right and center and still professing fake love for the one they're cheating on.

Love does not and cannot cheat because that person becomes a part of you and hurting them is hurting yourself too.

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