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this op Na wawa.... just tell us say dem FRIENDZONE you make we rest.

ademola2017:
Hi Nairalanders,

I am in a state of dilemma as my marriage is shaking.

Before we got married, my wife treated me like a piece of shit and never gave me any regards or attention. Any little quarrel would be blown out of proportion and wouldn't talk to me for days. I did the calling always and each time I ask her why she doesn't call, she would say I should get used to it. There was a day when a baseless quarrel occurred, she accused me falsely and we didn't talk for more than two months. I stayed single and was already moving on until her friend came begging on her behalf. I wondered why she didn't come herself but all the same I accepted her back. She changed like she was doing me favor but I still persisted because I loved her genuinely.

Fast forward, we got married and I was hoping for a good future with her. As usual I was very open to her and discussed every issues with her. At a point, I found out the marriage was one sided. I gave more but got little or nothing from her. I never burden her with house chores or cooking at all. We sat always to talk about her attitude but she would say things are fine while I will be grieving and having sleepless nights. She will wake up in the middle of the night to check my phone to know if i was cheating. I swear I have never cheated on my wife... She knows my password and never hid anything from her.
As we went on in the marriage, her behavior became worse and couldn't condone it again. She never saw anything wrong with her attitude and would say her apologizes are expensive.

I decided to do a background check on her and found out she double dated all through when we started dating and gave the guy more attention for 2years of our relationship. When things went bad between them, she fell back to me and unknown to me, I accepted her back. She and her ex were still in good communication till the night I confronted her. She would rather confide in her ex than confide in me (Now husband) Now, I feel so hurt, betrayed and used and can’t trust her again.

She has been very apologetic and says she is ready to change. So if had not found out about her double ways, I will still be condoning her insolent ways. I am seriously finding it hard in my heart to forgive her. Even if I do, I can never ever forget because I do not trust her again.

What will you guys advice?

Your wife applied OKAFOR'S LAW here.
Forgive her and move on.

ademola2017:
Hi Nairalanders,

I am in a state of dilemma as my marriage is shaking.

Before we got married, my wife treated me like a piece of shit and never gave me any regards or attention. Any little quarrel would be blown out of proportion and wouldn't talk to me for days. I did the calling always and each time I ask her why she doesn't call, she would say I should get used to it. There was a day when a baseless quarrel occurred, she accused me falsely and we didn't talk for more than two months. I stayed single and was already moving on until her friend came begging on her behalf. I wondered why she didn't come herself but all the same I accepted her back. She changed like she was doing me favor but I still persisted because I loved her genuinely.

Fast forward, we got married and I was hoping for a good future with her. As usual I was very open to her and discussed every issues with her. At a point, I found out the marriage was one sided. I gave more but got little or nothing from her. I never burden her with house chores or cooking at all. We sat always to talk about her attitude but she would say things are fine while I will be grieving and having sleepless nights. She will wake up in the middle of the night to check my phone to know if i was cheating. I swear I have never cheated on my wife... She knows my password and never hid anything from her.
As we went on in the marriage, her behavior became worse and couldn't condone it again. She never saw anything wrong with her attitude and would say her apologizes are expensive.

I decided to do a background check on her and found out she double dated all through when we started dating and gave the guy more attention for 2years of our relationship. When things went bad between them, she fell back to me and unknown to me, I accepted her back. She and her ex were still in good communication till the night I confronted her. She would rather confide in her ex than confide in me (Now husband) Now, I feel so hurt, betrayed and used and can’t trust her again.

She has been very apologetic and says she is ready to change. So if had not found out about her double ways, I will still be condoning her insolent ways. I am seriously finding it hard in my heart to forgive her. Even if I do, I can never ever forget because I do not trust her again.

What will you guys advice?

Don't beg a lady to marry you, just like the way that Diamond guy is busy disturbing us with his girl issue

My brother run keep running dnt look bck

She may end up killing you.

it's zero love fro you

SmellingAnus:
You are already married to her so you better forgive her and move on

But many girls are guilty of this stuff...

Guys too should learn how to treat their girls with much love and respect, who knows it may reduce some of these tendencies in them...

Did u read d post bro!!! He showed her love..respect n attention......what was her reply? Cheating!!!!!She didn't even come to beg despite d fact that her ex ditched her.....she knew he loved her n was weak in it......love makes some men weak..but not Me!!!!
Hoes will always be hoes....sorry Op!!!!!

NgoziOkoli:
This one too want to be forming love doctor. Iranu!

QUEEN OF THE SAVAGE!!!!

See guys, to be frank with you divorce is still an option, don't die in a relationship because you are afraid of what people will say, divorce and move on if it can't work, you owe yourself happiness don't expect it from no one.

ademola2017:
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Splinz:
Since she's remorseful and willing to change, please, e jo, mbok, forgive and forget.

We're all humans after all. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

ur sense dey sambisa

Op you saw the sign of insolence and insubordination from on set and you still put your head.

Abeg that lady is not your wife, it will take divine intervention for her to truly acknowledge you and yield her heart to you as a wife.

ademola2017:
Hi Nairalanders,

I am in a state of dilemma as my marriage is shaking.

Before we got married, my wife treated me like a piece of shit and never gave me any regards or attention. Any little quarrel would be blown out of proportion and wouldn't talk to me for days. I did the calling always and each time I ask her why she doesn't call, she would say I should get used to it. There was a day when a baseless quarrel occurred, she accused me falsely and we didn't talk for more than two months. I stayed single and was already moving on until her friend came begging on her behalf. I wondered why she didn't come herself but all the same I accepted her back. She changed like she was doing me favor but I still persisted because I loved her genuinely.

Fast forward, we got married and I was hoping for a good future with her. As usual I was very open to her and discussed every issues with her. At a point, I found out the marriage was one sided. I gave more but got little or nothing from her. I never burden her with house chores or cooking at all. We sat always to talk about her attitude but she would say things are fine while I will be grieving and having sleepless nights. She will wake up in the middle of the night to check my phone to know if i was cheating. I swear I have never cheated on my wife... She knows my password and never hid anything from her.
As we went on in the marriage, her behavior became worse and couldn't condone it again. She never saw anything wrong with her attitude and would say her apologizes are expensive.

I decided to do a background check on her and found out she double dated all through when we started dating and gave the guy more attention for 2years of our relationship. When things went bad between them, she fell back to me and unknown to me, I accepted her back. She and her ex were still in good communication till the night I confronted her. She would rather confide in her ex than confide in me (Now husband) Now, I feel so hurt, betrayed and used and can’t trust her again.

She has been very apologetic and says she is ready to change. So if had not found out about her double ways, I will still be condoning her insolent ways. I am seriously finding it hard in my heart to forgive her. Even if I do, I can never ever forget because I do not trust her again.

What will you guys advice?

Despite all the cold behaviour she displayed, you still went about to marry her.

If you could be that dumb then to ignore all the signs prior to marriage, you should be so numb to act all hurt and aggressive now

Sapphire86:
Chairman, you saw the signs before marriage and still went ahead as if you were under a spell.

How can another person treat you so shabily and you still went ahead to vow 'till death do us part'? You have always been the side dude now you are the side husband.

Love is kind not spiteful. Love does not put down but lifts up; my brother, why didn't you see the signs?

Your wife has always taken you for granted and explicitly implied that you are a FOOL even without saying that word. 'Her apologies are expensive' - is the statement of someone who gives NO fvcks about you.

As you don marry now, I cant advise you to divorce but rather expand your already enlarged heart to forgive because from what you said she was not sorry she treated you bad but that she's sorry she got caught.

Lay down how you want your marriage to be so that when the children come they can respect you as their father and not someone mummy has to put up with.

my dear u really said my mind

my friend get a second wife that loves you shikenna

Look at the way most of the ladies are quick to blame him but it's common, having two men in which the one you love doesn't really love you much, while the one you don't love is madly in loving with you. Ladies pray and fast for the former to propose( which will never work) while the latter will. The bottom line is that they accept the latter proposal out of the refusal of the former to propose. She will grow to love you, just continue to remain good, with time she will find out the other man will only be her ex and nothing more.

luminouz:
QUEEN OF THE SAVAGE!!!!

Now you making me to blush.

Mr poster this your story is an eye opener to me.
I have a girlfriend whose character is almost like that of your woman, if she apologize for being wrong today, tomorrow she will do the same thing and even apologize again.

Girls ehh, na only God go save we men.

But thank God she is just a girlfriend, if she refuse to change, I will just let her go for my own good.

luminouz:
QUEEN OF THE SAVAGE!!!!

Now you making me to blush.


Whats the ig of the guy in the picture. I'm crushing on him.



*shy face*

Wow its 2017 i no know say Niggas Mumu button still dey work o Chai



#Adonbelieveit

NgoziOkoli:
Now you making me to blush.


Whats the ig of the guy in the picture. I'm crushing on him.



*shy face*

Lmao!!!!!! Don't know the guy"s name sef!!!!!!

i will not comment until u check my signature

Splinz:
Since she's remorseful and willing to change, please, e jo, mbok, forgive and forget.

We're all humans after all. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

"you brood of vipers! who has warned you to flee from the coming wrath? produce fruits in keeping with repentance"

that is also in the good book.

As far a i can deduct, that lady is not repentant but wily. Let the buyer beware!!

I swear op, you must be very mad!! I feel like slapping you what nonsense did you just write up there?

She took you for a ride bcz you made your self a willing cheap, foolish and pitiable vehicle. The signs were so very much obvious when you guys were dating yet you went ahead and married her.

You think she's really apologetic? I really sorry for you if you believe that.. She's only apologetic bcz you caught her, if you forgive her, she will still continue bcz she never for once loved you. She married you bcz you were her only available option..

Better divorce her and reorganize your life else you will be miserable for as long as you are married to her

[quote author=Pieromania post=55354928]Bro u forced urself into an unwanted union,the signs were there bt u blindedly ignored it.She never loved u bt only using u to while away time,unfortunately for her the guy she loved jilted her and she used u as an option.Mature and experience ppl should knw whn they are wanted and loved bt in ur own case u sheepishly allowed urself to be fooled.
I dnt waste time dumping women at every slightest suspicion and provocation,if she doesn't treat me the way i do for her i dump them and move on.
Sori bro,u married the wrong person[/quote)Oga u have said it all ,I don't want to believe it is either inferiority complex or cowardice that makes guys of today to be an option to a lady that should be under them .from the lady's attitude partaning to when u guys were dating u were never wanted but since u insisted by hanging on ,she now used u as a replacement when the guy that she truly loved failed her ,the result is what you are seeing today, my brother sorry to let u know that u u are not in any way married to the woman u call a wife.

@OP is her b*mbum or br*ast big or very big??! if yes , i now know d reason you loved her worse than a blind man

...Often times, we see the signs BUT ignore them @ our peril!

ademola2017:
Hi Nairalanders,

I am in a state of dilemma as my marriage is shaking.

Before we got married, my wife treated me like a piece of shit and never gave me any regards or attention. Any little quarrel would be blown out of proportion and wouldn't talk to me for days. I did the calling always and each time I ask her why she doesn't call, she would say I should get used to it. There was a day when a baseless quarrel occurred, she accused me falsely and we didn't talk for more than two months. I stayed single and was already moving on until her friend came begging on her behalf. I wondered why she didn't come herself but all the same I accepted her back. She changed like she was doing me favor but I still persisted because I loved her genuinely.

Fast forward, we got married and I was hoping for a good future with her. As usual I was very open to her and discussed every issues with her. At a point, I found out the marriage was one sided. I gave more but got little or nothing from her. I never burden her with house chores or cooking at all. We sat always to talk about her attitude but she would say things are fine while I will be grieving and having sleepless nights. She will wake up in the middle of the night to check my phone to know if i was cheating. I swear I have never cheated on my wife... She knows my password and never hid anything from her.
As we went on in the marriage, her behavior became worse and couldn't condone it again. She never saw anything wrong with her attitude and would say her apologizes are expensive.

I decided to do a background check on her and found out she double dated all through when we started dating and gave the guy more attention for 2years of our relationship. When things went bad between them, she fell back to me and unknown to me, I accepted her back. She and her ex were still in good communication till the night I confronted her. She would rather confide in her ex than confide in me (Now husband) Now, I feel so hurt, betrayed and used and can’t trust her again.

She has been very apologetic and says she is ready to change. So if had not found out about her double ways, I will still be condoning her insolent ways. I am seriously finding it hard in my heart to forgive her. Even if I do, I can never ever forget because I do not trust her again.

What will you guys advice?

you really ode!

you marry a bitcch now you are asking for advice to get raid of that bitcch

when that bitcch bring a bastard son to you, you will know the next step to take. for now keep behaving like ode until you get small sense.

raphemmanuel:
Mr poster this your story is an eye opener to me.
I have a girlfriend whose character is almost like that of your woman, if she apologize for being wrong today, tomorrow she will do the same thing and even apologize again.

Girls ehh, na only God go save we men.

But thank God she is just a girlfriend, if she refuse to change, I will just let her go for my own good.

Had one like urs before!!!! Had to ditch her... She went all shades of ' am gonna curse d lights outta u' colour n but I didn't give a poo!!!!! No time to time d time......if I can't be happy with u...d fvck we calling it a relationship...should be called strangerboat..n I ain't riding in no damn boat n shiit!!!!

ademola2017:
Hi Nairalanders,

I am in a state of dilemma as my marriage is shaking.

Before we got married, my wife treated me like a piece of shit and never gave me any regards or attention. Any little quarrel would be blown out of proportion and wouldn't talk to me for days. I did the calling always and each time I ask her why she doesn't call, she would say I should get used to it. There was a day when a baseless quarrel occurred, she accused me falsely and we didn't talk for more than two months. I stayed single and was already moving on until her friend came begging on her behalf. I wondered why she didn't come herself but all the same I accepted her back. She changed like she was doing me favor but I still persisted because I loved her genuinely.

Fast forward, we got married and I was hoping for a good future with her. As usual I was very open to her and discussed every issues with her. At a point, I found out the marriage was one sided. I gave more but got little or nothing from her. I never burden her with house chores or cooking at all. We sat always to talk about her attitude but she would say things are fine while I will be grieving and having sleepless nights. She will wake up in the middle of the night to check my phone to know if i was cheating. I swear I have never cheated on my wife... She knows my password and never hid anything from her.
As we went on in the marriage, her behavior became worse and couldn't condone it again. She never saw anything wrong with her attitude and would say her apologizes are expensive.

I decided to do a background check on her and found out she double dated all through when we started dating and gave the guy more attention for 2years of our relationship. When things went bad between them, she fell back to me and unknown to me, I accepted her back. She and her ex were still in good communication till the night I confronted her. She would rather confide in her ex than confide in me (Now husband) Now, I feel so hurt, betrayed and used and can’t trust her again.

She has been very apologetic and says she is ready to change. So if had not found out about her double ways, I will still be condoning her insolent ways. I am seriously finding it hard in my heart to forgive her. Even if I do, I can never ever forget because I do not trust her again.

What will you guys advice?

How many children are between you two?
If none, pls take the bold step and walk out of the marriage.
Trust me, you would be a prisoner in your home and would live a miserable life.

tifany89:
Me self am still trying to understand what her problem really is but I nor fit for trouble this evening. make she nor direct her missiles come meet me lolz

ass licker

leave the women alone

AmazingElla:
I swear op, you must be very mad!! I feel like slapping you what nonsense did you just write up there?

She took you for a ride bcz you made your self a willing cheap, foolish and pitiable vehicle. The signs were so very much obvious when you guys were dating yet you went ahead and married her.

You think she's really apologetic? I really sorry for you if you believe that.. She's only apologetic bcz you caught her, if you forgive her, she will still continue bcz she never for once loved you. She married you bcz you were her only available option..

Better divorce her and reorganize your life else you will be miserable for as long as you are married to her

Ur amazingella? Well am amazed wella!!!!!!

professorfal:
You saw it coming but were blinded by that crap you call love.

2 massive big stout for u.