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DrWellbeing:
Having read your story which to me is like you are confused. If I may say a bitter truth to you I yhink I'm in the best position to do so. First what is your conviction about the lady and about the relationship. If you are convinced within you,then do the needful. Secondly regarding the age difference,to me that should not be a barrier or something to be ashamed for,perhaps because if what your family members and friends will say. Thirdly,If you are a christian, I mean born again, try to find out the mind of God as relating to you and the lady. That's my 9wn suggestion and God will give you wisdom and direction to go about it.

modestofynest:
When u Wan knack her the first time u ask us u knack again u ask us so continue ur knacking anywhere e lead u take am

megareal:
You weren't prepared. You slept with her without knowing basic details like her age? You really had a fling in mind.

Your asking this question also shows you are already not open to dating an older girl so move on else you will keep second guessing yourself in the relationship and will never be at ease introducing her and will more likely dump her in future. Better to let her go now that it's early than to break her heart the more later.

GEExclusive:
So you don't know she is 29 before eating her pomo? Na wa o..


Maybe you too scared you'll get lost in her pusssy like the first time...


Toothpicks everywhere

Fifthcolumnist:
My main fear is my parents. I'm the first born and don't want anything that would cause a rift blw I and them.

Fifthcolumnist:
About a month ago, I met up with a former female colleague at my work place. Although weren’t in anyway close to each other while I was there, partly cos I was shy, and half because I wasn't too keen on any rship yet, I was a distant admirer looking for a slight opportunity to flirt with her cos she was really beautiful. So I met up with her at her apartment to help her with a few items she was in need of. As I had hoped, one thing led to another and we began having sex on my second visit.

Although I had hoped our relationship would be a fling, things tuned out different; I'm fond of her and she's madly in love with me. Things were going well, and like most girls she started talk of a long term relationship.

The problem began about two weeks ago when I found out through curiosity that she's 29. I felt distraught. Why do bad things keep happening to good people? I'm only 24, still getting my life together and continuing with her would require nothing short of extreme courage or outright stupidity.

Now she knows about the age barrier but is willing to continue the rship despite the obvious difficulties it would entail. For her age is just a number. I love her, and a huge part of me is unwilling and unready to let her go, but a small part of my remote subconscious keeps disturbing me, warning me to count my losses and let go.

I fear I'll break my heart. Even more, I fear I'll break her heart too. But this is Africa and this kind of circumstances shouldn't be taken lightly.

I need your advice pls on if I should continue of break up with her. And if I should break up, how best to do so.


No insults pls.

Fifthcolumnist:
About a month ago, I met up with a former female colleague at my work place. Although weren’t in anyway close to each other while I was there, partly cos I was shy, and half because I wasn't too keen on any rship yet, I was a distant admirer looking for a slight opportunity to flirt with her cos she was really beautiful. So I met up with her at her apartment to help her with a few items she was in need of. As I had hoped, one thing led to another and we began having sex on my second visit.

Although I had hoped our relationship would be a fling, things tuned out different; I'm fond of her and she's madly in love with me. Things were going well, and like most girls she started talk of a long term relationship.

The problem began about two weeks ago when I found out through curiosity that she's 29. I felt distraught. Why do bad things keep happening to good people? I'm only 24, still getting my life together and continuing with her would require nothing short of extreme courage or outright stupidity.

Now she knows about the age barrier but is willing to continue the rship despite the obvious difficulties it would entail. For her age is just a number. I love her, and a huge part of me is unwilling and unready to let her go, but a small part of my remote subconscious keeps disturbing me, warning me to count my losses and let go.

I fear I'll break my heart. Even more, I fear I'll break her heart too. But this is Africa and this kind of circumstances shouldn't be taken lightly.

I need your advice pls on if I should continue of break up with her. And if I should break up, how best to do so.


No insults pls.

megareal:
That's the problem. If your parents can't be accepting of your choice, it is best to just let it slide. Good thing you already see the problem, if you can't profer a workable solution to it as at now, better let go now than create problems for the lady later.

megareal:
That's the problem. If your parents can't be accepting of your choice, it is best to just let it slide. Good thing you already see the problem, if you can't profer a workable solution to it as at now, better let go now than create problems for the lady later.

kaboninc:
I feel for you bro...having been there...

Well, all I can only say is that you're quite young and coming up.

Older ladies are actually sweet because they are very experienced.

You still do not know what you feel...and your greatest obstacle now is convincing yourself that you can do it.

Until you overcome this obstacle, just move on.

No one will die.

Life will continue...until probably Jesus comes or God decides to end the world.

Good luck pally!

kaboninc:
Problem is not even his parents but himself.

Can he accept it within himself?

kaboninc:
Problem is not even his parents but himself.

Can he accept it within himself?

megareal:
I doubt he can else he wouldn't even be asking for opinions. That doubt spells trouble down the line.