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Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and other abusive behavior as part of a pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse. The frequency and severity of domestic violence can vary; however, the one constant component of domestic violence is one partner’s consistent efforts to maintain power and control over the other.

Domestic violence is an epidemic affecting individuals in every community, regardless of age, economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality. It is often accompanied by emotionally abusive and controlling behavior that is only a fraction of a systematic pattern of dominance and control. Domestic violence can result in physical injury, psychological trauma, and in severe cases, even death. The devastating physical, emotional, and psychological consequences of domestic violence can cross generations and last a lifetime. It is not always easy to determine in the early stages of a relationship if one person will become abusive.

Domestic violence intensifies over time. Abusers may often seem wonderful and perfect initially, but gradually become more aggressive and controlling as the relationship continues. Abuse may begin with behaviors that may easily be dismissed or downplayed such as name-calling, threats, possessiveness, or distrust. Abusers may apologize profusely for their actions or try to convince the person they are abusing that they do these things out of love or care.

However, violence and control always intensifies over time with an abuser, despite the apologies. What may start out as something that was first believed to be harmless .
TIPS THAT SHOWS YOU ARE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
Telling the victim that they can never do anything right.

Showing jealousy of the victim’s family and friends and time spent away.

Accusing the victim of cheating and keeping or discouraging the victim from seeing friends or family members.

Controlling every penny spent in the household.

Taking the victim’s money or refusing to give them money for expenses

Dictating how the victim dresses, wears their hair, etc.

Stalking the victim or monitoring their victim’s every move (in person or also via the internet and/or other devices such as GPS tracking or the victim’s phone)

Preventing the victim from making their own decisions
Telling the victim that they are a bad parent or threatening to hurt, kill, or take away their children

Intimidating the victim with guns, knives, or other weapons

Pressuring the victim to have sex when they don’t want to or to do things sexually they are not comfortable with.

Preventing the victim from working or attending school.

It is important to note that domestic violence does not always manifest as physical abuse. Emotional and psychological abuse can often be just as extreme as physical violence. Lack of physical violence does not mean the abuser is any less dangerous to the victim, nor does it mean the victim is any less trapped by the abuse.

Additionally, domestic violence does not always end when the victim escapes the abuser, tries to terminate the relationship, and/or seeks help. Often, it intensifies because the abuser feels a loss of control over the victim. Abusers frequently continue to stalk, harass, threaten, and try to control the victim after the victim escapes. In fact, the victim is often in the most danger directly following the escape of the relationship or when they seek help.

Unfair blame is frequently put upon the victim of abuse because of assumptions that victims choose to stay in abusive relationships.

The truth is, bringing an end to abuse is not a matter of the victim choosing to leave; it is a matter of the victim being able to safely escape their abuser, the abuser choosing to stop the abuse, or others (e.g., law enforcement, courts) holding the abuser accountable for the abuse they inflict.

Some girls deserves beating to reset their thinking faculty


If not for the spirit of God in me

i would have beaten my ex in so many cases bt i kept mute

Homeboiy:
Some girls deserves beating to reset their thinking faculty


If not for the spirit of God in me

i would have beaten my ex in so many cases bt i kept mute

I will call you a good man for ignoring her.Thank God she is an ex now.If one is not happy with a relationship,i will rather advice you walk out than inflicting bruises on her.Inflicting bruises on he wont change the behaviour in her,so why beating her up in the first place...Thumbs up man!

Homeboiy:
Some girls deserves beating to reset their thinking faculty


If not for the spirit of God in me

i would have beaten my ex in so many cases bt i kept mute

Spirit of God?....abi your ex knew Takwando

Source?

Alondrah:
Source?

My brain and google....mixture

sexybbstar:
My brain and google ....mixture

That explains it all. Preach sis Preach

Fight back please, don't be intimidated by these so called woman beater

JeffreyJamez:
Spirit of God?....abi your ex knew Takwando

Hehehehe

My nigga . LMAO

I dey imagine how the guy go slap the girl and the babe go give am upper-cut and 3 of his teeth go start to dey dance skelewu for floor.

My nigga go kuku call for backup. LMAO

Apparently, no group is saying YES to domestic violence.

Or is there any?

ikp120:
Hehehehe

My nigga . LMAO

I dey imagine how the guy go slap the girl and the babe go give am upper-cut and 3 of his teeth go start to dey dance skelewu for floor.

My nigga go kuku call for backup. LMAO

Slap ke....him hand no go reach her face sef before him back ouch ground

Lashort:
Fight back please, don't be intimidated by these so called woman beater

Fight back by sex starving him or what?

JeffreyJamez:
Slap ke....him hand no go reach her face sef before him back ouch ground

Bros you wicked o.
Abeg Homeboiy na truth this bros talk?

ikp120:


Bros you wicked o.
Abeg Homeboiy na truth this bros talk?

My hand no dey o

xynerise:
Fight back by sex starving him or what?

(If he can lay his hands on you obviously he's going to take it by force if you try to deprive him from it)

FIGHT HIM WITH YOUR HANDS & LEAVE HIM

Lashort:
Fight back please, don't be intimidated by these so called woman beater

Fight him back?That will be complicating the issue.

sexybbstar:
Fight him back?That will be complicating the issue.

What's the solution then? Sit there and watch him beat you up

ikp120:

Bros you wicked o. Abeg Homeboiy na truth this bros talk?

i have been trying to understand wat he said or wat ur saying bt hell No
i cant compromise

Lashort:
(If he can lay his hands on you obviously he's going to take it by force if you try to deprive him from it)

FIGHT HIM WITH YOUR HANDS & LEAVE HIM

Please, don't fight back before you run. Just run as fast as possible.

Domestic violence affects both sexes.

never happened and will never happen .

I can't imagine .myself doing such .

I may be really angry but the highest thing I I'll do is to bad mouth u . or look for another means to punish u for what u did. but i will never raise my hand to even attempt it.
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. never have ... never will

Homeboiy:
Some girls deserves beating to reset their thinking faculty


If not for the spirit of God in me

i would have beaten my ex in so many cases bt i kept mute

people are really very stupid in this nairaland. ..how can somebody that they gave birth to open his gutter of a mouth and type nonsense ..nawa well homeboiy or whatever u are called, For u to say a girl deserves geting beat up shows the type of person u are..and u have d guts to say if not for the spirit of God in u.. .Violent men every were Girls please be careful. ..

Yesiambeautiful:
people are really very stupid in this nairaland. ..how can somebody that they gave birth to open his gutter of a mouth and type nonsense ..nawa or whatever u are called, For u to say a girl deserves geting beat up shows the type of person u are..and u have d guts to say if not for the spirit of God in u.. .Violent men every were Girls please be careful. ..

please dont quote me nxt tym to talk rubbish

I thought dt women loved niggas whom do beat d shit outta dem wen dey mess up,tough love...

Homeboiy:
please dont quote me nxt tym to talk rubbish

oga abeg go and sleep.. . I will quote u again and again to bring to your notice that what u are saying is nonsense

Have nice rest.

Yesiambeautiful:
oga abeg go and sleep.. . I will quote u again and again to bring to your notice that what u are saying is nonsense

Have nice rest.

As i saw oga go n sleep, my mind tells me ur a benin brought up

well we r in dsame city

I never beated her bt her words where heavy

night rest to u too

Homeboiy:
Some girls deserves beating to reset their thinking faculty


If not for the spirit of God in me

i would have beaten my ex in so many cases bt i kept mute

Its f*ckboys like you I like to beat up , they think they are though for wanting to hit women, when you'll never see them fighting their own size. Men protect their women . Coward men hit their women.