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Omotayor123:
I just witnessed a scene where a woman is sent packing from her matrimonial home because she's allegedly "using her husband STAR"
A Star that couldn't buy him a Bicycle before the Marriage.

Even if she was using the Said Star isn't it just better for her to Continue

Jokes Apart,


This is the Gist:
The couple both work in a Big company But the wife is more financially stable compare to the husband. she's currently building a house with her husband supervising the whole thing. she got a car of recent in her husband's name but the family and the Society won't have any of these.

Her kindness have been turn to wickedness and she's being sent packing in a humiliating manner. (They have a kid)

Now, my question is:

When you were using your own star you can't afford a bike.
When your wife bought you a new car,you and your family said she is spiritually using your star.


Isn't it a Low self esteem If your wife's income and financial status is affecting your confidence as a man

If you Make her life miserable and not make her happy just because she's richer than you, does that not mean you were never in love with her.

Love is peace,not competition. Whoever makes more money shouldn't
be a problem as long as we knows and respects each other as husband and wife.....


What's your Take on This

If the wall does not give way, the lizard can't gain entrance... the dudes not worth the babe.

INTROVERT:
Questions is, who sent her packing?

LET ME SPEAK FOR THE GUYS before you answer the above.
First of all she, like many others may have lost respect for our husband because 'richer' than them. She suddenly becomes proud and pompous to do household chores etc because she dishes out more dough.

Obviously u r one of those men who would always find fault with whatever a woman does. D op said she was sent packing for allegedly using d 'husband's star'. Because u see d STUPIDITY in that action, u chose to believe what u just typed. Na wa for u!

Omotayor123:
I just witnessed a scene where a woman is sent packing from her matrimonial home because she's allegedly "using her husband STAR"
A Star that couldn't buy him a Bicycle before the Marriage.

Even if she was using the Said Star isn't it just better for her to Continue

Jokes Apart,


This is the Gist:
The couple both work in a Big company But the wife is more financially stable compare to the husband. she's currently building a house with her husband supervising the whole thing. she got a car of recent in her husband's name but the family and the Society won't have any of these.

Her kindness have been turn to wickedness and she's being sent packing in a humiliating manner. (They have a kid)

Now, my question is:

When you were using your own star you can't afford a bike.
When your wife bought you a new car,you and your family said she is spiritually using your star.


Isn't it a Low self esteem If your wife's income and financial status is affecting your confidence as a man

If you Make her life miserable and not make her happy just because she's richer than you, does that not mean you were never in love with her.

Love is peace,not competition. Whoever makes more money shouldn't
be a problem as long as we knows and respects each other as husband and wife.....


What's your Take on This

I'v been with a lady who was more financially buoyant, she spends more and i just feel somehow abt it. I never asked her to get me anything cos as a guy, it jst feels somehow to me...though she ocassionally do so on her own. Even though she knws she has far more money, she still wants me to ger her stuffs, thats just women for u. They love the feeling of being taken care of by a guy. Definitely, i would want to be more financially buoyant than my wife. At least, i hav experienced.

tobaseye:
It looks like a movie but excuse me, it happens every day.

One of my friends was a victim of this, before she got married she had a good job, a car and a shop as a trained fashion designer. Most of her clients her from the office where she worked and others by referral.

When she got married she assists her husband to build on his land, as both had land before they got married. she even borrowed money from her mom in order to get the house completed on time.

After some months into the marriage her husband asked her to leave her pay job which she did purposely to respect her husband and save her marriage and she could not even operate her old shop because of distance from their new house and the shop, though she built a big shop in their new house that she planned to use.

But what did she get in return, she was kicked out of the house with a one year old child and an empty bank account. Not until then she realised that all that had transpired over the one year and few months of marriage was a product of envy.

I guess the guy couldn't withstand his wife earning more than him and he killed her career sent her out with an allegation that she was possessed.

Please ladies be wise, think well before you leave your job because of marriage. Be sure you are doing the right thing even if you have to do so.

Eeyah... I feel sorry for the woman. some men are ingrate.
God will surely judge him.

when it comes to the issue of husband, no matter how to rich I am. he must be richer than me in all raminification. * 10 self

Bumbae1:
Whats wrong with the woman being the rich one
Shebi na same thing

i love your dp

Omotayor123:
Eeyah... I feel sorry for the woman. some men are ingrate.
God will surely judge him.

U are right infact sum men are demons in human flesh but I am among the few rare nice guys around ..BEB I have 10,000 tubers of yam in my barn with 5,000 goat and 1 acre of ugu land just to mention a few..I am tall,handsome,black,musular and healthy..I will take care of you like a kween ad carry u around like egg.
See ur sexy pink lips like the mouth of a fish.Oya take am nothing do you.

blesoh:
Hahahahahaha its for Mynd44, anyway if you are a good man, may the prayer work for you too

Ofcourse i am .

blesoh:
I wanted to quote mynn, sorry not u

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Safiaa:
The fact of the matter is that MOST men will NOT be comfortable with their wife earning more than them. There is a sense of masculinty that men get being the main financial support for their familes. Now that doesnt mean a woman should take advantage of the fact that she earns more. But hey, such is life.

When i talk about not dating 'broke men' it falls back to this. You cant tell me this is the 21st century, and women are the financial providers these days. It takes a very strong emotionally stable man to withstand his wife making more than him. Women want to naturally feel like their being taken of regardless of their own financial status, so in the end it may cause problems. Its the truth, and i dont care what anybody has to say.

I don't agree with u here. I see nothing wrong with ur wife earning more tho i shudnt be d case bt if by chance, favor or luck then it shud cause no issues if the couple had d right mindset b4 marrying and by dat i mean best frnds.

if ur wife is ur best frnd or atleast gud frnds there's and understanding that u guys have dat keeps u close not matter the storm or circumstance bt sadly wat we hv are marriages of convenience and in some cases manipulations and schemes so undoubtably u end up with little issues escalating to mega ones. If the foundation be destroyed wat can the righteous do.

Bumbae1:
Lol when she is tired nko lol

Btw for a guy how many time a week you think sex is needed for long lasting relationship ( marriage )
1 a week not a good thing ?

once a week is ok but will stay tuned to XVIDEOS

SIRmanjar:
U are right infact sum men are demons in human flesh but I am among the few rare nice guys around ..BEB I have 10,000 tubers of yam in my barn with 5,000 goat and 1 acre of ugu land just to mention a few..I am tall,handsome,black,musular and healthy..I will take care of you like a kween ad carry u around like egg.
See ur sexy pink lips like the mouth of a fish.Oya take am nothing do you.

blesoh:
@ Mynd44 God bless you sir. U ll marry a good wife if u are not married yet.
Some men think, Women are slaves that needs to be ordered around.

Amin

Presh900:
I rather die than be poorer than my wife... [url][/url]

Die bawo Unto wetin? Be careful of what you say.

It is illiteracy and ignorance of accept d fact dat some1 is able to achieve more in life.

Mynd44:
Part of the reason why men dont like when their wife is richer is because they want to dominate the woman but the more financialy independent a person (male or female), the less possible it is to doninate that person. So they say a richer woman will be proud but it is that she will not agree to be subjugated.

They also seem to think a richer wife won't have time to take care of the home. They want a maid as a wife who will be in the kitchen or in the bed.

Personally, if I have a wife that's richer, better for us as the family have more disposable income and the standard of living rises. I dont see the need to control my wife as we are partners, we can just be ourselves.

And on the issue of taking care of the house, my wife is not a maid. I will rather employ a maid and pay the maid to do that. Heck, aint nothing sexier than your wife going for a board meeting and coning back to "thank" you for supporting her prepare for it.

But then again, what do I know? I dont even have a GF.

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God bless u for this post, I don't know why men don't see it this way, if only they have wisdom they'll know it's a win-win for them!

Just like my male friend would say(and yes he is a feminist too) ,I want to train my daughters to not reduce or limit their successes and dreams in life just to please a feeble-minded,low self-esteemed man who believes his money is everything. There is more to a man than wealth. Like having an idea that creates that wealth,which unfortunately these men don't have and when they meet a woman who does they feel intimidated.
As for the 'humble' women who do everything to massage these men's fragile ego,you are just plain stupid and deserve whatever you get. Its not a guarantee he won't cheat or divorce you.

AbayomiOS:
I'v been with a lady who was more financially buoyant, she spends more and i just feel somehow abt it. I never asked her to get me anything cos as a guy, it jst feels somehow to me...though she ocassionally do so on her own. Even though she knws she has far more money, she still wants me to ger her stuffs, thats just women for u. They love the feeling of being taken care of by a guy. Definitely, i would want to be more financially buoyant than my wife. At least, i hav experienced.

That she has more money does not mean you shouldn't care for her by getting her good stuffs sometimes.

my believe is just that, so far I'm not sharing my husband with anyone, it's well done coz all the earning will be directed to him to decide how it will be spent.

Jman06:
That she has more money does not mean you shouldn't care for her by getting her good stuffs sometimes.

Of course.

emmyreb:
my believe is just that, so far I'm not sharing my husband with anyone, it's well done coz all the earning will be directed to him to decide how it will be spent.

Your trust for men ehn

Give them everything, it doesn't guarantee they won't cheat or divorce you.

PaperLace:
Forget all this she'll become pompous, it's just a story to help their insecure ass. Who doesn't get pompous with money? Why do you think some women don't want their husbands to make excess money? I don't know why most Nigerian men are like this. A woman has to keep belittling her achievements to inflate one man's ego.

Do you know how many wives buy themselves a car and lie to people her husband bought it, just to make him and society feel better. Both of them contribute to build a house and she has to act like it was all his doing?? Ain't taking that shitt from any man born from a woman.

The problem is, the only thing lots of Nigerian men use to hold their wives and kids down is money. Once they lose that, it bruises their ego, they start feeling useless and carrying out the frustration on the innocent woman.

Are there no pompous rich men? Men that brag to the whole world how they made their wives. I keep saying, I rather sell my kidney than allow any man train or feed my daughter in the name of marriage!! Abegiii, talk another thing.

There are too many insecure and weak men out there when confidence and strength is what we women like.
Get the hold of your egos. Mumus.

Mindfulness:
There are too many insecure and weak men out there when confidence and strength is what we women like.
Get the hold of your egos. Mumus.

They always have a reason to back-up their insecure and dishonest self. If only I didn't know better...I would have believed them.

Omotayor123:
I just witnessed a scene where a woman is sent packing from her matrimonial home because she's allegedly "using her husband STAR"
A Star that couldn't buy him a Bicycle before the Marriage.

Even if she was using the Said Star isn't it just better for her to Continue

Jokes Apart,


This is the Gist:
The couple both work in a Big company But the wife is more financially stable compare to the husband. she's currently building a house with her husband supervising the whole thing. she got a car of recent in her husband's name but the family and the Society won't have any of these.

Her kindness have been turn to wickedness and she's being sent packing in a humiliating manner. (They have a kid)

Now, my question is:

When you were using your own star you can't afford a bike.
When your wife bought you a new car,you and your family said she is spiritually using your star.


Isn't it a Low self esteem If your wife's income and financial status is affecting your confidence as a man

If you Make her life miserable and not make her happy just because she's richer than you, does that not mean you were never in love with her.

Love is peace,not competition. Whoever makes more money shouldn't
be a problem as long as we knows and respects each other as husband and wife.....


What's your Take on This

The mumu husband, through his family idiocy just made him let go of his direct source of blessing.

Be it a man or a woman, we all rise and fall through someone.Find out who your backbone is and keep such happy at all times.... else,hmmmm!

neocortex:
Well, she is wrong in making up unfounded statistics to back up her point but some
set of men who accuses women of bringing nothing to the table will still be the one
to cry foul if the wife becomes wealthier.




Here you commit the same offence as the lady you quoted, how many Nigerian men do you know
to make such a baseless generalisation.



This trait is primarily a male one as you hardly find women who whine about not being in charge of
their home.



Please speak for yourself as you are not a standard of behaviour for all men.


You are right insecure and possessive men are found everywhere in the world.



You should have included the full reference here so that others can check. Mind you when a large segment
of women are working(60% are part of the workforce in the US), is it any surprise that those who are not
are less happier ?
It is called peer pressure and has nothing to do with gender but humans in general.



Since women wants control over everything as you claimed don't you think they should be ecstatic
that they make more money ?



It is normal for men who feel they are losing control of their home to feel unhappy.



Again context matters, please provide the full reference. But will you be surprised
that a full time housewife care more for her surroundings ?



Of course it is not, but that doesn't make it right either.



Of course her stat has no factual basis.



Sorry to burst your bubble you just picked out a statement that support your
position and excluding the context, here is a part of the forbes article I presume you
referenced:

So, if career women are bad marriage bets, so are career men.

And let me leave you with this rebuttal to your reference here:



At the bold, speak for yourself.



Again, you paint a picture of all richer women based on a subjective observation.

When wealth disparity is obvious, this behaviour may be exhibited by the family whether in a man or woman
as people generally tend to marry within their social group and those who don't may be resisted by their in-laws.
Then I ask if someone isn't welcome in a family , why try to prove himself when he can just walk away ?



The last time I checked women gets tagged as gold-diggers more often than men for obvious reasons.



An easy way to solve this problem is to marry an housewife and maybe get a written agreement
that she will never go into business so that your ego won't be bruised.



This is a false statement, control and dominance is the perogative of males,
some men can go to the extreme to exert control over their wife.
Are you aware that a third of women murders in the US is caused by their male partners ?
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/09/men-killing-women-domesti_n_5927140.html
And it is primarily for ego, ownership and control reasons. So women naturally wants control theory
does not hold water.



Again, you break your own rule can you point to any survey you did that confirm your position.
You should never have responded if you also believe in making wild assumptions about people
you know little about.



This is a choice any woman can make.


It is as if you know her personally, but if you don't this is a misplaced advice as it
adds nothing to the discussion except to make your opponent look bad.





Because broke ladies got divorced doesn't mean a woman can't be sent parking because she is richer than her husband.
There are no rules on reason why divorce should occur. Someone could be divorced because of cheating while another
due to "lack of respect"or both, they are not always mutually exclusive.

So men should marry women that fits their description of a wife so as not
to end up as frustrated whiners who complain bitterly about how bad women are.

I really didn't want to comment on this thread, but I felt the need to appreciate you for this great reply to that guy you quoted.

Truly speaking & without being guilty of the fallacy of generalisation, we (Nigerian men) are the major problem of Nigeria as a country. The day we collectively change our selfish mindset always packaged as 'ego', that is the day this country will begin to experience unhindered progress.

Irrespective of gender, wealth often brings a kind of superiority complex in any Individual. That is still no justification for a spouse to loathe his/her better-half's progress.

donodion:
The mumu husband, through his family idiocy just made him let go of his direct source of blessing.

Be it a man or a woman, we all rise and fall through someone.Find out who your backbone is and keep such happy at all times.... else,hmmmm!

yeah. you're rights
I won't be surprised if he dies penny less.

Precial419:
AM TIRED OF DESE THREADS. IF A WOMAN DOES NOT HAVE A JOB, SHE IS A LAZY WOMAN AND ALLOW HER MAN TO OPPRESS HER. IF A WIFE IS RICHER THAN HER HUSBAND, SHE IS SURELY BE PROUD AND DISRESPECTFUL. PLS GUYS R LADIES SUPOSE TO BE SITIN ON D FENCE?

depends

mikolo80:
depends

On wat?

Precial419:
On wat?

on the woman

Presh900:
I rather die than be poorer than my wife...

That's my guy, a true African man. But, my guy, the society is changing. Women are now taking big responsibilities at work places and even outperforming their male counterparts, hence may earn more than their male counterparts. So, my brother, when the two of you come together, you become one. Therefore it is not a matter of who earns more but respect and understanding afterall even the Queen of England has a husband. If your wife earns alot, then you are lucky because she may assist in some bills. That however should not reverse the roles of husband and wife. Husbands should love their wives while wives should respect their husbands.

Hmmmm

Omotayor123 You fine! I just had to comment it here. *Staring at dp*