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If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Nobody:
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Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Stevengerd(m): 12:23pm On May 05, 2017
When U Av A Business Idea Lemme Knw.
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by ellagabs(f): 12:28pm On May 05, 2017
u cn continue to giv him ur PUNA...
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Nobody: 12:30pm On May 05, 2017
Why u didnt file a complaint? U know he raped u... undecided


In the first place if i dont like the guy no matter how many times he begged...i dont wanna be rude but i will juz blocked his azz coz i dont like someone is pestering me.
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Nobody: 12:36pm On May 05, 2017
me dont know, Becuz i remembet some ways back, when i invited my girl to my appartment, And i wanted to have fun with her with all my ego, she caution me and i look straight to her eyes,

Then i respected her love and the urge went missing, means i cheerish her

after some weeks, we enjoy as much as i expected .


if he love you he cant put force on you.

no fake love
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by shortgun(m): 12:45pm On May 05, 2017
TUNSBOYLE:
me dont know, Becuz i remembet some ways back, when i invited my girl to my appartment, And i wanted to have fun with her with all my ego, she caution me and i look straight to her eyes,

Then i respected her love and the urge went missing, means i cheerish her

after some weeks, we enjoy as much as i expected .


if he love you he cant put force on you.

no fake love

Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by kullozone(m): 12:59pm On May 05, 2017
Which blog did you copy it from, aunty?
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Nobody: 1:00pm On May 05, 2017
TrapQueen77:
Why u didnt file a complaint? U know he raped u... undecided
People will doubt if it's actually rape, cos I was in his house and he can deny it.
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Nobody: 1:02pm On May 05, 2017
Stevengerd:
When U Av A Business Idea Lemme Knw.
Will you be financing it?
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Softorgasm(m): 1:22pm On May 05, 2017
He forced himself on you without condom..

Have you visited the hospital for a medical check up?

pls go for check up..

Since you were deflowered through rape, then pls talk to your mom or aunt, an elder woman that you trust, any action she take is for your own good.

Finally there is every possibility that you will start giving yourself easily to men or you will start to hate guys..
this is why you need must tell your dad or elder brother, their support will reconstruct your mind.

lastly admit yourself to rehab..
there you will find ladies with similar cases to yours, their story and how they overcome the rape trauma will help you..
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Nobody: 1:25pm On May 05, 2017
mizeminent:
People will doubt if it's actually rape, cos I was in his house and he can deny it.
Even if u were in his house...as long u got the receipts of ur conversation u can still file a case.
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Nobody: 1:43pm On May 05, 2017
Softorgasm:
He forced himself on you without condom..

Have you visited the hospital for a medical check up?

pls go for check up..

Since you were deflowered through rape, then pls talk to your mom or aunt, an elder woman that you trust, any action she take is for your own good.

Finally there is every possibility that you will start giving yourself easily to men or you will start to hate guys..
this is why you need must tell your dad or elder brother, their support will reconstruct your mind.

lastly admit yourself to rehab..
there you will find ladies with similar cases to yours, their story and how they overcome the rape trauma will help you..
So true
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by tifany89(m): 2:12pm On May 05, 2017
My only problem with you is dat u didn't try at all. How can someone threaten to come to ur house if u don't come n see him n den u succumbed, haba na. You should have called his bluff and ask him to come if fear nor dey catch am. I feel sorry for u sha coz dat isn't something worth experiencing. Tomorrow if u decide to do stuffs with ur husband or bf as the case may be, he may find it difficult believing ur story coz most girls v been using such lines to deceive guys. If u should arrest him, nothing reasonable may come out of it since no medical report to prove it so it's all going to boil down to helping the police to make money. They can make him confess to the crime but it may not be admissible in court coz he can claim torture or force as responsible for his statement. Forgive him if u can and move on with your life. It's quite unfortunate that these things happen. What exactly do u urselt want?
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by tifany89(m): 2:13pm On May 05, 2017
My only problem with you is dat u didn't try at all. How can someone threaten to come to ur house if u don't come n see him n den u succumbed, haba na. You should have called his bluff and ask him to come if fear nor dey catch am. I feel sorry for u sha coz dat isn't something worth experiencing. Tomorrow if u decide to do stuffs with ur husband or bf as the case may be, he may find it difficult believing ur story coz most girls v been using such lines to deceive guys. If u should arrest him, nothing reasonable may come out of it since no medical report to prove it so it's all going to boil down to helping the police to make money. They can make him confess to the crime but it may not be admissible in court coz he can claim torture or force as responsible for his statement.Forgive him if u can and move on with your life. It's quite unfortunate that these things happen. What exactly do u urselt want?
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Headlesschicken(m): 2:52pm On May 05, 2017
grin Children would always be children,n after all yuh big gal forming yuh brain deserted u d moment u needed it d most,just 2show how childish u are,i don't feel pity 4u anyway,just dust yuh ass n move on wiv yuh life,Berra days ahead...
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by tamertery(m): 4:38pm On May 05, 2017
OP

Atleast attache ur pictures now

So i can know wether to blame

The guy or not...

Thank you
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Socuul(f):
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Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Nobody: 10:50pm On May 05, 2017
Socuul:
I joined NL because of you OP

who do you blame in this situation now?
I actually blame in this situation cause I was d one dt befriend him and trust him to b a friend
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Nobody: 10:51pm On May 05, 2017
tamertery:
OP

Atleast attache ur pictures now

So i can know wether to blame

The guy or not...

Thank you
If there's anybody to take blame, I will willingly takes it
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Nobody: 10:54pm On May 05, 2017
Headlesschicken:
grin Children would always be children,n after all yuh big gal forming yuh brain deserted u d moment u needed it d most,just 2show how childish u are,i don't feel pity 4u anyway,just dust yuh ass n move on wiv yuh life,Berra days ahead...
U sound like a child yourself, if you actually understand the post you will know that am not asking you to advice me just what you will do if you find yourself in such situation. It actually happened when I was 22years
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Nobody: 10:59pm On May 05, 2017
The above post actually happened two years ago and I have gotten over it. I posted it for people to give advice cos I know it can happen to anybody, people should also learn from my mistake cos we have all made mistake in our life as nobody is perfect.

I actually forgave him and block him out of my life but I did not forget. Talk to close relative and had therapeutic sessions with a proffessional.
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by edimolu(m): 11:06pm On May 05, 2017
mizeminent:
U sound like a child yourself, if you actually understand the post you will know that am not asking you to advice me just what you will do if you find yourself in such situation. It actually happened when I was 22years
Nd u havent moved past it?....why bring it up? undecided

*modified*

Ok
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Nobody: 11:11pm On May 05, 2017
I'm speechless. I'm sorry for what you went through. You have to learn to protect yourself because everything you did just sounds crazy! You are not friends with a strange man who followed you home. I don't want to beat you up about this but you really didn't care about your safety and wellbeing.
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Nobody: 11:12pm On May 05, 2017
edimolu:
Nd u havent moved past it?....why bring it up? undecided

*modified*

Ok
I hope you get raped by a man so we can ask you the same thing angry
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by tamertery(m): 3:53am On May 06, 2017
mizeminent:
If there's anybody to take blame, I will willingly takes it
Really?

But please still upload your dp...

And i bet i don't need to tell you to be more​ careful

And wiser next time grin wink
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by firstking01(m): 6:54am On May 06, 2017
Did you enjoy the "knacking"grin??
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Exponental(m): 7:39am On May 06, 2017
Are you controlled by a remote that made you do his wills? I think you wanted him too...
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by chigoizie7(m): 7:54am On May 06, 2017
mizeminent:
It was a sunny day and I was returning from a nearby clinic where my nephew was admitted when I noticed a white BMW trying to get my attention. I shunned it and continue walking, I was now in my street and close to my house but the car was still following me, I decided to wait and hear him out since I don't want a stranger to know my house.
He said " hello beautiful, my name is B.J and I will like to be your friend, but I don't want you to stand under the sun for long just give me your number and we will talk later".
In my mind, I was like " that's better because I will get rid of him easily if he calls and I did not pick".
That was how I met B.J, unfortunately for me, he was not easy to get rid of, because he actually knows my house and work in my street which means I get to see him everyday.
I actually gets to like him because he is cute, friendly and jovial. So he told me he has a girlfriend and I also told him I have a boyfriend who happens to be in another state.
We actually started hanging out frequently as friend of course until I noticed that he was getting too touchy. 'As me I no like that his touching body', I started to avoid him, I no longer pick his calls or gave him one or excuse or the other whenever he calls to see me.
It seems he finally realized, that I was avoiding him on purpose, he calls me that certain day that he was in my street and if I did not come out to see him he will come to my house. I mean it was even raining lightly that day, as I did not want him to come to my house because I can't answer any question I decided to go and meet him.
When I reach his car, their was a friend with him at the front, he told me to enter the back and zoom off, the rain was already falling heavily by now and I kept asking him where he is heading to and he replied "where we can talk, because I can't park under the rain".
We reached a place which he told me is his house that I should come in so we can talk, I refused, after much persuasion I followed him inside, the friend left immediately we got inside.
I refused to talk to him telling I wanted to go home he was like okay let's go, as I made to stand up from where I was sitting he pushed me back and I fell backward on the bed to which he climb atop me doing all form of touching which I tried to refuse but he was too strong for me because I couldn't push him off. That was the day I realized that I did not have strength.
He went ahead and force his tom inside me, that was very painful, I shouted and cried. At last, he stood up and was begging me to forgive him because he did not understand what came over him. I did not say anything, I just requested to be returned to my house which he did and I blocked him out of my life.
He tried to contact me several times but I never bothered to pick his calls, two months later he is still trying to explain himself.
Anyway that was my first time of being knacked, he did not know that and I never told him because I like forming being matured and knows everything.


P.S: IF THIS HAPPENED TO YOU, WHAT WILL YOU DO?
U will just enjoy it and simply move on.


If u had not enjoyed it, u no for de get a second mind of trying to give him a chance to explain himself.

He messed up, block him off ur life.
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Curry30: 11:50am On Jun 25, 2017
IF YOUR STORY IS TRUE....then it's so sad and pitiful.

No woman should experience rape & no man should do as much as assault a woman not to talk of rape.

Anyway, you gave him the opportunity by not setting boundaries. From the 1st meeting you should have walked away.

Let him follow you to your house. What more can he do? NOTHING.

To answer your question now, forgive yourself first for your mistakes then forgive him.

It sounds stupid but I guarantee you'll feel a lot better. As you didn't file any reports then, there's nothing the law can do now.

Share your experience with matured minded people (some have similar experiences) and let their words encourage you.

DONT LOOK BACK...FORWARD EVER. Find love and move on with your beautiful life. God bless you!!!
Re: If This Happens To You, What Will You Do? by Fourwinds: 12:07pm On Jun 25, 2017
I just read a story of a foolish girl.
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