Domestic Violence......Yes its always about the men beating women, everyone talks about men beating women, some would even say men who beats women are animal....but sometimes we forget to address the issue of women's provocative attitude and insultive words which could trigger a man's temperament....women should help men not to get angry and should respect them...women have the highest role to play in this cos most of this men who raised their hands to beat women are bin frustrated and have gotten to their limit...Everyone's got their limit...Most men who calls these men animals could obviously do more when they put on the same shoes or find themselves in that position......This is not to support domestic violence tho but women should please help these men to avoid bin abused....#LOBATAN#

@lalasticlala

It takes two hands to clap & not every situation is the same. You can't solely place blame on women, while there're men who are repeat offenders & have been violent in every relationship they've been in due to psychological & environmental issues etc. Yes, some women are provocative but there're also men who don't need much provocation to glove a woman. All it takes could be dinner not being ready on time & he'd flip the Bleep out over that. You hear of cases like that all the time. Guys have issues too, so it's not always about what these women did in most of these cases, if you followed up on either the relationship itself or the relationship history of the guy involved.

While I do acknowledge that there are provocative women out there, you must also admit that it's a personal choice to punch or slap them or choose to leave them. What about the many abusers who are not provoked who just feel the need to control not only their lovers , some even do it with friends and colleagues?. What about the ones who use drugs and alcohol as an excuse knowing they have bigger underlying personal issues. Every abusive guy is responsible for their own behavior and lack of self control , no excuses . WOMEN SHOULD HELP MEN NOT TO GET ANGRY ? Really ? Trust me if you cant control your own anger issues no one can help you there......go get counseling or something. Respect should be mutual.

Lionessza:


While I do acknowledge that there are provocative women out there, you must also admit that it's a personal choice to punch or slap them or choose to leave them. What about the many abusers who are not provoked who just feel the need to control not only their lovers , some even do it with friends and colleagues?. What about the ones who use drugs and alcohol as an excuse knowing they have bigger underlying personal issues. Every abusive guy is responsible for their own behavior and lack of self control , no excuses . WOMEN SHOULD HELP MEN NOT TO GET ANGRY ? Really ? Trust me if you cant control your own anger issues no one can help you there......go get counseling or something. Respect should be mutual.

Yup. They say an abuser will always blame you for their actions towards you. Like you have them on remote control lol. Pathetic, really.

ZarZar:
It takes two hands to clap & not every situation is the same. You can't solely place blame on women, while there're men who are repeat offenders & have been violent in every relationship they've been in due to psychological & environmental issues etc. Yes, some women are provocative but there're also men who don't need much provocation to glove a woman. All it takes could be dinner not being ready on time & he'd flip the Bleep out over that. You hear of cases like that all the time. Guys have issues too, so it's not always about what these women did in most of these cases, if you followed up on either the relationship itself or the relationship history of the guy involved.

Still trying to make it sound like the guys are to be blame most of the time while op is saying it's a two way street, 50/50 thing.

NairalandCS:


Still trying to make it sound like the guys are to be blame most of the time while op is saying it's a two way street, 50/50 thing.

His title says otherwise.

ZarZar:


Yup. They say an abuser will always blame you for their actions towards you. Like you have them on remote control lol. Pathetic, really.

Lol , yeah it's really pathetic same as the parents who get "upset" at children and punch them like they are punching their drinking buddies or even worse beat them to death . I mean seriously who do we blame that lack of self control to now? The poor 6 year old who broke and glass or something

ZarZar:


His title says otherwise.

Touché.

Lionessza:












Lol , yeah it's really pathetic same as the parents who get "upset" at children and punch them like they are punching their drinking buddies or even worse beat them to death . I mean seriously who do we blame that lack of self control to now? The poor 6 year old who broke and glass or something

Hahaha. TBH, sometimes I can understand the blinding rage where kids are concerned Yazi, my sister's kids drew these giant people on the walls & the middle one punched holes through her brand new leather sofas with a pen. I was silently raging on her behalf because if it were me, I'd be in orange overalls by now I don't like ANYONE messing with my stuff. I think I'd be one of those spirits that haunt their former homes lol.

ZarZar:


Hahaha. TBH, sometimes I can understand the blinding rage where kids are concerned Yazi, [b]my sister's kids drew these giant people on the walls & the middle one punched holes through her brand new leather sofas [/b]with a pen. I was silently raging on her behalf because if it were me, I'd be in orange overalls by now I don't like ANYONE messing with my stuff. I think I'd be one of those spirits that haunt their former homes lol.

Evil woman . Damn! @ the bolded, I know those little fucke#s can sometimes make you lose your mind. A few months back I laughed at my sister's man, he was washing his car and his son was out there with him , he's almost 3 . He left him alone for a few minutes to get something inside the house .when he returns the boy was like tata come see lol and he did and there was a long scratch at the door that he made with a tool . Yho he was so pissed I don't remember ever hearing him using profanity before but that day I heard him screaming loudly to the child "you asshole" . My sister on the other hand was like you are both assholes why leave him with sharp objects in the first place lol.

Lionessza:



Evil woman . Damn! @ the bolded, I know those little fucke#s can sometimes make you lose your mind. A few months back I laughed at my sister's man, he was washing his car and his son was out there with him , he's almost 3 . He left him alone for a few minutes to get something inside the house .when he returns the boy was like tata come see lol and he did and there was a long scratch at the door that he made with a tool . Yho he was so pissed I don't remember ever hearing him using profanity before but that day I heard him screaming loudly to the child "you asshole" . My sister on the other hand was like you are both assholes why leave him with sharp objects in the first place lol.

LMFAO. Ermerggerd!

ZarZar:



LMFAO. Ermerggerd!

I know hey.

Lionessza:

Ndingamcubha lol. I definitely don't have a single maternal bone on my body. My kids will be ruled with an iron fist. Kikikiki. I don't like unruly children.

ZarZar:


Ndingamcubha lol. I definitely don't have a single maternal bone on my body. My kids will be ruled with an iron fist. Kikikiki. I don't like unruly children.

LMFAO . Atleast I've found someone who's worse than me in that department, thanks for making me feel I will be the best mommy . TBH i get apprehensive just by thinking about having someone whom I can't give to anyone else when I'm tired of them . I can enjoy someone's kids coz I know when they start their usual ish I will take them back to sender lol.

ZarZar:


Ndingamcubha lol. I definitely don't have a single maternal bone on my body. My kids will be ruled with an iron fist. Kikikiki. I don't like unruly children.

omg Zar!!! is that how you will be dealing with our babies?

Lionessza:









LMFAO . Atleast I've found someone who's worse than me in that department, thanks for making me feel I will be the best mommy . TBH i get apprehensive just by thinking about having someone whom I can't give to anyone else when I'm tired of them . I can enjoy someone's kids coz I know when they start their usual ish I will take them back to sender lol.

LMAO. Same here. I don't dislike kids though, I just don't like the assholish ones A prime example, those kids that throw tantrums at grocery stores. Arg! There's this girl I'm "friends" with here at my place of residence. She moved to the burbs just yesterday though. So anyway, she has a 4-year-old son. The child has broken all her phones because she lets him play with them. Now when I used to go there, visiting, he wanted to play with mine. I wouldn't let him. You should have seen the look of pure pain on his mother face when I did that. Oh well. Don't care!

Jayceon:
omg Zar!!! is that how you will be dealing with our babies?

Hahaha. Don't start. How are you today, Jace?

ZarZar:


LMAO. Same here. I don't dislike kids though, I just don't like the assholish ones A prime example, those kids that throw tantrums at grocery stores. Arg! There's this girl I'm "friends" with here at my place of residence. She moved to the burbs just yesterday though. So anyway, she has a 4-year-old son. The child has broken all her phones because she lets him play with them. Now when I used to go there, visiting, he wanted to play with mine. I wouldn't let him. You should have seen the look of pure pain on his mother face when I did that. Oh well. Don't care!

Lol , I know those types and they usually don't stop that sort of behavior for a longtime if the parents are passive so she must be prepared for and assholish teenager lol.

ZarZar:


Hahaha. Don't start. How are you today, Jace?

I'm fine thanx,how is you?