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I believe that marriage is a man-made institution set before God, man and the law... so wars won't be fought over women.

All rules of marraige and the tradition are fostered by the culture of the society that witnesses it; be it chastity, extra-marital or even the rites and amounts of wives.

God has nothing to do with the rules of marriage, but He is acknowledged because it is by him we are all able.

The saying "what God has brought together let no man put assounder" is a farce of theatrical proportion as the only thing necessary for a marraige are two forgivers that wish to stay true to their other halves.

d most important thing x d children, marriage x just d means...

same as that on life....a challenge.

Its overrated.

Hmmmmn..

From stories I've heard and what I see married people do, I'd say marriage is overrated
It's no longer respected like before when humans still had conscience.

It's better than sleeping around tho.. some just see it as avenue for constant sex

Headlesschicken:
d most important thing x d children, marriage x just d means...

I totally agree with u... but one can have children outside wedlock. And there is one ignored truth in the Nigerian society; that marriage is not for everyone

SINZ:
Its overrated.

Its overated doesn't mean its not a noble order. There are few man made institutions that protect the nobility of humanity that the institution of marriage

Instead of citing that it is overated, I woukd rather say it is abused. That is giving yuh opinion

But its the prerogative of humanity that it abuses anything and everything with time.

Opakan2:
Hmmmmn..

From stories I've heard and what I see married people do, I'd say marriage is overrated
It's no longer respected like before when humans still had conscience.

It's better than sleeping around tho.. some just see it as avenue for constant sex

LordCzar202:
Its overated doesn't mean its not a noble order. There are few man made institutions that protect the nobility of humanity that the institution of marriage

Every order was once noble till it became bastardized. The issue of nobility of humanity has to do with our species preservation isn't it? If that's the case then marriage isn't a must.

But there is a second order to it... union of families and preservation of family names. This was one of the first and most noble reasons people got married in the first place...

Not because of their creed or doctrine but to build stronger ties and maintain family name

SINZ:
Every order was once noble till it became bastardized. The issue of nobility of humanity has to do with our species preservation isn't it? If that's the case then marriage isn't a must.

LordCzar202:
But there is a second order to it... union of families and preservation of family names. This was one of the first and most noble reasons people got married in the first place...

Not because of their creed or doctrine but to build stronger ties and maintain family name

Are we examining this from a global perspective or are we just swimming in afrocentric stereotypes?

Marriage is a noble venture. It's a great experience if done right. It wasn't designed to be tolerated but enjoyed, howbeit, current society has made a farce of it.

guys pls i dnt knw hw to push this to front page bt i need advice on an issue,.i visited my gals dad for intro,asked for the marriage list and it was given to me and her dad asked me to study it and come for a review in areas i am nt comfortabl wit,sum days ago i went wit my uncle to for d review of the list & he uncle (fathers senior bro) was also sitted after tryin to beat down on sum thingsit didnt wrk bt rather her uncle was just addin up mor expenses,at a point he flamed up dt if am nt ready to marry i should go bck dt inshort d list is too cheap sef as far as he is concern ntin will b changed.my question nw is,does he hav a right to decide on his brothers children marriage when his broda is stil aliv,just because he is a senior?pls i need advic

Both on a global and afrocentric perspective... without the stereotypes

SINZ:
Are we examining this from a global perspective or are we just swimming in afrocentric stereotypes?

LordCzar202:
Both on a global and afrocentric perspective... without the stereotypes

Alright bruh, I personally think its overrated. Its not for everyone.

Wisebird22:
guys pls i dnt knw hw to push this to front page bt i need advice on an issue,.i visited my gals dad for intro,asked for the marriage list and it was given to me and her dad asked me to study it and come for a review in areas i am nt comfortabl wit,sum days ago i went wit my uncle to for d review of the list & he uncle (fathers senior bro) was also sitted after tryin to beat down on sum thingsit didnt wrk bt rather her uncle was just addin up mor expenses,at a point he flamed up dt if am nt ready to marry i should go bck dt inshort d list is too cheap sef as far as he is concern ntin will b changed.my question nw is,does he hav a right to decide on his brothers children marriage when his broda is stil aliv,just because he is a senior?pls i need advic

I believe this is something you and your lady need to sit down to analyse the situation, and then make her stand. The onus is on the girl to rub mind with her family to lead to an amicable conclusion. This stand has to be tough, given the times that we are in.

I also think its not for everyone, but where we differ is that i think it is abused.

SINZ:
Alright bruh, I personally think its overrated. Its not for everyone.

Nigerians just marry to please society and to look normal to their peers. I think they need to understand the meaning behind it first before experimenting and bringing children into the world all in the name of marriage with no actual plans of raising them properly. Smh....

Scared of that sh!t...

marriage is like a gamble

SINZ:
Its overrated.

Not when you are married to the right person

Fresca:
Nigerians just marry to please society and to look normal to their peers. I think they need to understand the meaning behind it first before experimenting and bringing children into the world all in the name of marriage with no actual plans of raising them properly. Smh....

When you are too wise, you tend to be babbling

Nadia where are you?

LordCzar202:
I believe this is something you and your lady need to sit down to analyse the situation, and then make her stand. The onus is on the girl to rub mind with her family to lead to an amicable conclusion. This stand has to be tough, given the times that we are in.

tnx bro,she has promised to talk to her dad,ystday,her immediate senior kul me that i shouldnt worry dt he will travel to see his dad to talk to him,tnx bro

Wisebird22:
tnx bro,she has promised to talk to her dad,ystday,her immediate senior kul me that i shouldnt worry dt he will travel to see his dad to talk to him,tnx bro

Its left for her and her family to compromise and yuh negotiation can be influenced by you through your spouse... just like putting a hand in a glove to carry something hot.

One thing i know true love conquers all.

my brother marriage is all about spinning, bearing children, and weeping

Nice one