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Hello everyone,

I was in a serious relationship with a lady for 3years. I was known by all her family members during the period we were going out. One thing lead to another (not cheating ) that made us broke up mutually. After the breakup I left the country for greener pastures. I was out of the country for five years and never visited. My ex got married within this period and I heard she recently had a kid. My family and her family had both family friends, so both family gist always flies around. They knew I haven't married and wasn't seriously dating as well. Am in a kind of what the new millennia called "suitationship". I was in the country recently and to my surprise I met my former girlfriend younger sister at one of the malls. We discussed generally about life, mutual friends and the situation of the country. I bought food and drinks for her and her friends and offer to drop them home if they are going my way. After chatting and talking we exchange phone contacts and I promised to keep in touch with her but i knew in mind i wasn't going to do that. less i forget, I never brought the topic of my Ex girlfriend up nor did i mentioned her name in any of our conversation. I purposely didn't bring it up for discussion and her sister did same thing as well. I guess we both had same believed of letting the past be in the past. After some days, I started received text messages from my former girlfriend sister, thanking me for what i did i.e. Paying for food and drinks. Then she went ahead to accused me of being heartless and callous saying I couldn't even asked of her sister during our conversation. I reply to the "thank you" part of the message and i shrugged off the rest. Since the first message she sent, I have received several messages from her saying "why didn't I mentioned her sister all through our conversation". To be honest with you guys, I have NOTHING against her sister (my EX) but i just don't see it as a big deal to talk about her or mentioned her name. I always wish her happiness in everything she do and I believed she is happy. My problem is how to handle the younger sister without embarrassing her and still keep the respect of both families. I have done everything within my power to stop her, I have blocked her contact several times. After blocking her phone number on my phone, she resulted to social media (Facebook, twitter, Instagram, whatsapp) to send her messages. I am tired of her and I don't want to inform any third party or tell her sister (my Ex) about what her younger sister is doing. I am not even interested in what she has to say or knowing why she's behaving that way. Just because of the respect I had for her and My Ex new family. Please I need you guys to advice me on what to do!!!

It's easy to tell if a Lady wants your attention, she was clear enough. All the charade she's putting up is not about her sister, it about herself.

You've not said anything, what did the sister do that you need advice?

Just ignore her. But if you find it hard to do so. Just invite her to have a one on one talk. There and then you sit her down and let her know you don't anything against her or her sister.


Just like Tosindru said, she could be crushing on you and needs your attention badly. It's very clear.

Just ignore her

daben1:
You've not said anything, what did the sister do that you need advice?

I need advice on how to shut her up politely without throwing up dust. Thanks

Edmitnick:
I need advice on how to shut her up politely without throwing up dust. Thanks

Below is what you need

Kingxway:
Just ignore her. But if you find it hard to do so. Just invite her to have a one on one talk. There and then you sit her down and let her know you don't anything against her or her sister.


Just like Tosindru said, she could be crushing on you and needs your attention badly. It's very clear.

Just ignore her

It's a simple matter, she wants your attention. You can go ahead to block her from other social media if she doesn't want to respect herself and your decision. Ir you can tell her outrightly.

I wonder why her attention is bothering you if you have nothing in mind....just behave asif you 've never met her before, i mean keep ignoring her.

From what I read I can say that you did not have any problems with your former girlfriend who is now married. The sister on the other hand is if the belief that you have problems with her. Now the only way out is making out time for her to meet with you and make sure you clear her doubts as to the subject matter.

Edmitnick:
Hello everyone,

I was in a serious relationship with a lady for 3years. I was known by all her family members during the period we were going out. One thing lead to another (not cheating ) that made us broke up mutually. After the breakup I left the country for greener pastures. I was out of the country for five years and never visited. My ex got married within this period and I heard she recently had a kid. My family and her family had both family friends, so both family gist always flies around. They knew I haven't married and wasn't seriously dating as well. Am in a kind of what the new millennia called "suitationship". I was in the country recently and to my surprise I met my former girlfriend younger sister at one of the malls. We discussed generally about life, mutual friends and the situation of the country. I bought food and drinks for her and her friends and offer to drop them home if they are going my way. After chatting and talking we exchange phone contacts and I promised to keep in touch with her but i knew in mind i wasn't going to do that. less i forget, I never brought the topic of my Ex girlfriend up nor did i mentioned her name in any of our conversation. I purposely didn't bring it up for discussion and her sister did same thing as well. I guess we both had same believed of letting the past be in the past. After some days, I started received text messages from my former girlfriend sister, thanking me for what i did i.e. Paying for food and drinks. Then she went ahead to accused me of being heartless and callous saying I couldn't even asked of her sister during our conversation. I reply to the "thank you" part of the message and i shrugged off the rest. Since the first message she sent, I have received several messages from her saying "why didn't I mentioned her sister all through our conversation". To be honest with you guys, I have NOTHING against her sister (my EX) but i just don't see it as a big deal to talk about her or mentioned her name. I always wish her happiness in everything she do and I believed she is happy. My problem is how to handle the younger sister without embarrassing her and still keep the respect of both families. I have done everything within my power to stop her, I have blocked her contact several times. After blocking her phone number on my phone, she resulted to social media (Facebook, twitter, Instagram, whatsapp) to send her messages. I am tired of her and I don't want to inform any third party or tell her sister (my Ex) about what her younger sister is doing. I am not even interested in what she has to say or knowing why she's behaving that way. Just because of the respect I had for her and My Ex new family. Please I need you guys to advice me on what to do!!!

What if your ex girlfriend sister reads this post?