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Caramelemperor:
Lol. You still don't get it? Women have a natural instinct to be curious....that's why they are drawn to 'bad boys'.
Like I said, it's more of a natural instinct that's why they themselves don't even realize it (it's more like how guys have a natural instinct to be polygamous no matter how we deny it. Some men just learn to control theirs or train themselves).
It's that instinct to be curious that makes women feel like they can change a guy. It's that instinct that makes them stab each other in the back to know what their best friend has been 'enjoying' in all the gists they've been sharing with each other. It's that instinct that makes them want to know why all the other guys are dying for them but somehow this other guy doesn't send them. Can you figure it out now? It's the curiosity that makes most women leave guys that out rightly like them for guys that don't like them cos they feel like "how can this guy not be wanting me even though I'm so hot?" That curiosity is what makes them get with such guys and then they start seeking for attention. Once you start seeking attention from someone, feelings start to develop.
The more attention you can deprive them of, the more they want. What 'bad boys' do is give them enough attention to make them stay but starve them of enough attention to keep them wanting more.
Psychologically, the person with the "lesser love" controls the other person. Can you now figure out why bad boys press their buttons so easily?
Nuff said.

VicMadich88:
I met my wife (very beautiful, humble Igbo gal) in 2012, and we've been datin since then. We both from Imo State...

On tht same year we met, I moved to south Africa to study an still residing in SA. I see her twice a year, and she visits SA as well. We got married ths past February, and few days after our wedding, I had to return.

But now I feel I made a very big mistake by marrying her, not because she's bad for me bt because I've realized I'm not in love with her anymore. I don't know wat to do, she's such a wonderful lady. God fearing, sings in the church choir, young and beautiful.

How should I let her know that i'm not in love with her anymore? I'm scared of the embarrassment my parents will bare with all of this? Our pastor at church? Her family? I don't believe in divorce, so are my parents...but what do I do in this situation?.

fejeerow:
See what I was telling a friend the other day... people don't value virgins and decent girls anymore... they want the badgirl that will give then bj, doggie style and their ass.... isn't obvious this man is seeing someonelse that is turning his head... you don't believe in divorce then what do u want us to advice you on? Do u want to murder her so you can escape her? U better bring back the love and make your wife the bad girl u want her to be but foe u alone.. don't go and make decisions that u ll regret.

fejeerow:
See what I was telling a friend the other day... people don't value virgins and decent girls anymore... they want the badgirl that will give then bj, doggie style and their ass.... isn't obvious this man is seeing someonelse that is turning his head... you don't believe in divorce then what do u want us to advice you on? Do u want to murder her so you can escape her? U better bring back the love and make your wife the bad girl u want her to be but foe u alone.. don't go and make decisions that u ll regret.

torqque7:
Not true..we only want crazy girls for sex and fun but a good girl to wife..don't get it mixed up..the fact that we say good girl and Virgin doesn't mean when we marry her she would not fvck us good cos that's where they get it wrong..you should be a good girl but a freak in the sheets with your husband..the secret is knowing how to balance the two,once you do that then we will be fine and loyal to you. But a lot of good girls and Virgins tend to misbehave when married,they will be forming I don't like giving bj or I am too shy and not comfortable to explore sexually with my husband.

VicMadich88:
I met my wife (very beautiful, humble Igbo gal) in 2012, and we've been datin since then. We both from Imo State...

On tht same year we met, I moved to south Africa to study an still residing in SA. I see her twice a year, and she visits SA as well. We got married ths past February, and few days after our wedding, I had to return.

But now I feel I made a very big mistake by marrying her, not because she's bad for me bt because I've realized I'm not in love with her anymore. I don't know wat to do, she's such a wonderful lady. God fearing, sings in the church choir, young and beautiful.

How should I let her know that i'm not in love with her anymore? I'm scared of the embarrassment my parents will bare with all of this? Our pastor at church? Her family? I don't believe in divorce, so are my parents...but what do I do in this situation?.

VicMadich88:
I met my wife (very beautiful, humble Igbo gal) in 2012, and we've been datin since then. We both from Imo State...

On tht same year we met, I moved to south Africa to study an still residing in SA. I see her twice a year, and she visits SA as well. We got married ths past February, and few days after our wedding, I had to return.

But now I feel I made a very big mistake by marrying her, not because she's bad for me bt because I've realized I'm not in love with her anymore. I don't know wat to do, she's such a wonderful lady. God fearing, sings in the church choir, young and beautiful.

How should I let her know that i'm not in love with her anymore? I'm scared of the embarrassment my parents will bare with all of this? Our pastor at church? Her family? I don't believe in divorce, so are my parents...but what do I do in this situation?.

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StephDamielola:
I just pity for that Virtious Woman.... Truly you don't deserve her type.

You deserve those SA girls with big hips that drinks mungwongoti


Truth be told, you are seeing another Woman. YOu are just looking for excuses to justify your crazy thoughts

Missonas:
You want out thats what you asking. You want anonymous and faceless people to tell you how to deal after making decisions? Brother go do you and leave us alone. If you did your homework well you wont be asking us this.

Fix it! The grass is not always greener at the otherside. Her only problem is agreeing to be your wife. Go home and start being a good husband to that woman. Put her first!

MarieSucre:
What exactly do you men want?

VicMadich88:
Evry relationship hs its ups & downs..and every1 in the relationship hv their pro's & cons...she isn't a saint in tht sense, bt she's a good girl. I cnt bring her to SA bcz she dsnt wnt to relocate...Keep me in ur prayers bro's..tht she changes her mind and we try work it out.

The temptation here is too high, there's lots of beautiful, intelligent, humble & God fearing woman ths side...an the more shs nt wit me...the more I get weak.

ZarZar:
Don't mind us'bali , he's probably too ashamed to admit that he's seeing someone else down South, hence the sudden change of heart. Which is unfair on both women if my suspicions are true. His life, the ball is on his court. A person shouldn't stay in a relationship out of obligation imo. I think he should just be honest, set the lady free, so she can go find a man that'll love & appreciate her.

loswhite:
what has the topic got to do with virgins and decent girls? So a girl giving her man doggie or bj automatically makes her indecent right? The truth is there are many of u girls out there looking for justifiable excuse to become olosho....well continue

VicMadich88:
Distance is an issue...We've both sort of drifted apart, we hardly talk...I'm available to talk and video call her all the tym bt She only texts me during the night an so forth (mostly she wud be sending me funny videos & sermons). I neva treated her badly, never...I send her money every month. U ppl keep on sayin marriage isn't about lov & sex...but trust me those 2 are aspects of marriage...an with my wife everything its missionary, dull & boring.
U kno 9ja galz dey deprive us sexually, with the NO SEX b4 marriage terms... as men we pushed to marry an make them wives. bt tht is not the reason I married her, I married her bcz it felt real.
Anyhow, she dsnt wnt to relocate wth me...she says she dsnt wnt to be away frm hr family...an I dnt see myslf comin to reside in Nigeria at all. I am being defeated by my emotions, I'm a man and have physical needs.
note: I dnt hv any gf in SA...

Badgers14:
My brother, not to blow my trumpet here but I 've seen a lot in this life me and you dey.

My previous response was some of the scenarios that happened and i witnessed. But let's be honest here, the problem you are having is what you just stated on your last paragraph.

Long distance relationship is not ideal. Allow me to share my personal experience, got married filed for my wife to relocate to U.S, after first interview her case was placed on administrative processing that lasted six months.

During the six months, it was like they unveiled all the beautiful women in the U.S and sent them my way, I was just imagining where were all these women all this while. Let's have some adult talks here, sometimes i will be imagining what they look like, you know stuffs like that. My brother I was shocked, when i go to party , all i am seeing is nya$h everywhere . I had so many thoughts.

But true story, every since she moved in with me, It seems like they packaged all those beautiful women and locked them up somewhere, I find it difficult to admire other women and unlike before that i had those thoughts on my head.

I hope i didn't bore you with my story, I could go on and on but the truth of the matter is long distance is affecting your relationship.

Back then, at a work dinner people come with thier significant othera, smooching and stuffs and i will just feel like crap... I hate to admit this but lots of things that we had issues on then still happens now and everyone just overlook it.

So my brother find a way to gather your family together, talk her into moving to SA and find out reasons why she can't or you relocate to 9ja, if you can't then why and you know sort things out between you and your wife.

Take care my brother.

VicMadich88:
I met my wife (very beautiful, humble Igbo gal) in 2012, and we've been datin since then. We both from Imo State...

On tht same year we met, I moved to south Africa to study an still residing in SA. I see her twice a year, and she visits SA as well. We got married ths past February, and few days after our wedding, I had to return.

But now I feel I made a very big mistake by marrying her, not because she's bad for me bt because I've realized I'm not in love with her anymore. I don't know wat to do, she's such a wonderful lady. God fearing, sings in the church choir, young and beautiful.

How should I let her know that i'm not in love with her anymore? I'm scared of the embarrassment my parents will bare with all of this? Our pastor at church? Her family? I don't believe in divorce, so are my parents...but what do I do in this situation?.

VicMadich88:
I met my wife (very beautiful, humble Igbo gal) in 2012, and we've been datin since then. We both from Imo State...

On tht same year we met, I moved to south Africa to study an still residing in SA. I see her twice a year, and she visits SA as well. We got married ths past February, and few days after our wedding, I had to return.

But now I feel I made a very big mistake by marrying her, not because she's bad for me bt because I've realized I'm not in love with her anymore. I don't know wat to do, she's such a wonderful lady. God fearing, sings in the church choir, young and beautiful.

How should I let her know that i'm not in love with her anymore? I'm scared of the embarrassment my parents will bare with all of this? Our pastor at church? Her family? I don't believe in divorce, so are my parents...but what do I do in this situation?.

StephDamielola:
It means "I love you"

And yes, when they want to climax, they scream NAKUPENDA

tokodekehinde:
Love is more of an action word than it is a feeling. There are times you don't feel it. What to do incase like this is to begin to do the things that stimulate Love.
Spend time with her, tell her how beautiful she is, do things in common, hold her hand in public, invest in her and when having sex with her, do it with the I mention of also satisfying her, also take out time to think about the good things about her, all this will stimulate Love once again]

Bashnigga:
The emboldened got me laughing
Which one is mungwongoti again, na SA shekpe

VicMadich88:
I met my wife (very beautiful, humble Igbo gal) in 2012, and we've been datin since then. We both from Imo State...

On tht same year we met, I moved to south Africa to study an still residing in SA. I see her twice a year, and she visits SA as well. We got married ths past February, and few days after our wedding, I had to return.

But now I feel I made a very big mistake by marrying her, not because she's bad for me bt because I've realized I'm not in love with her anymore. I don't know wat to do, she's such a wonderful lady. God fearing, sings in the church choir, young and beautiful.

How should I let her know that i'm not in love with her anymore? I'm scared of the embarrassment my parents will bare with all of this? Our pastor at church? Her family? I don't believe in divorce, so are my parents...but what do I do in this situation?.

torqque7:
Hmm it's not hard.. its you women who complicate things,..we just want a homely woman that is not accessible to everyone (cheap)but only accessible to me who is her man..simple and when I say accesible to me alone I mean fully..all the way no reservations,willing to club with me ALONE,willing to have butterfly style sex with me ALONE even though she has never tried anything like that in the past..and so on, I'm sure you get the picture..

It's that simple,but you guys complicate things,it's either she's a good girl but boring to her husband because she is not willing to try out new things,or she is a retired olosho forming good girl now and with a that was in the past crap story, and you expecting to have a good loyal man after that crazy past?not possible only when a miracle happens.

StephDamielola:
Distance is also part of the problem. Lets tell the truth, this Partners need sex and more closeness. Sex isn't only for procreation, it helps to solve problems, to ease tensions and to renew the bond between two lovers.

I believe the SA girl from Kwazulu Natal

have been giving him head and he is busy screaming Nakupenda.....

StephDamielola:
Distance is also part of the problem. Lets tell the truth, this Partners need sex and more closeness. Sex isn't only for procreation, it helps to solve problems, to ease tensions and to renew the bond between two lovers.

I believe the SA girl from Kwazulu Natal have been giving him head and he is busy screaming Nakupenda.....