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Smellymouth:
If you need good advice, take the thread to family section...

The truth is, no one here cares...

ZarZar:
Lol, another Ted Bundy in the making.

Santi69:
'Take this, you go dey alright' meme, Anyone?

Eglobalma:
Read his book too

ZarZar:
Then you know how it ended for him. If you're being honest here with this story, then you should seek psychiatric help immediately because your preoccupation with causing harm onto others is unhealthy. You could be a psychopath just like Bundy was.

Eglobalma:
Where will i find those this is naija we only have pastors or native doctors. To show u the gravity i have even tot of suicide, cuz i fear going to prison

Snow84:
Since my childhood days, I had wished I could hate them with passion, but instead, I grew up trying to help ALL of them. This is because I have concluded that they will forever be endangered. But I would detest any female around me that tries to fight her own battle without me.

I will use everything in my possession to help women, but once my reserve dries up, they would become my enemies. Still, I never stopped thinking that all the helps I rendered to them in the past will be repaid by only one of them. I feel like marrying all the women that are not married--I see this as helping heart-broken ones-- but I hate polygamy with passion.

shaiba:
You sound very sad and depressed. I may be wrong.

I'd like to ask a few questions cause I think this is triggered by a thought or something you are yet to get over. I took time off to go thru some of your write ups and its all in same trend.

This feeling didn't just start, you fell in love at a point in time and when the relationship (which lasted for 3yrs) didn't work out you felt being treated as a cute bunny (your words) and your feelings were toyed with. You also feel you get too much of attention because of your looks and good nature.
You get frustrated when you don't have much money with you... I could go on and on from your articles.

Now what?

1. See a psychiatrist - you need to talk to a person rather than staying on the phone or computer.
2. Accept the fact that you did not create yourself and appreciate your gifts. You could use it for good.
3. Try meditation - it helps clear your mind and relax
4. Remove focus on yourself, you already got that from the girls. Get a pet and nurse it or do something creative like learning arts (drawing, photography etc.)
5. You don't talk much about friends or family so I guess you enjoy being alone, try going out, maybe travel to other places

There is more to life than the thought of hurting girls.

Ever thought about the pains you will bring to others who love you just the way you are?

I don't know you but I know you have more to give and people to help and love.

Please see a psychiatrist. I'll remember you in prayers.

Snow84:
I may conclude that he was not disappointed by a lover. I was like him. Women are wired to think that men should take care of them, hence you see them carrying about this srnse of entitlement. That was the first thing that pitched me against them. Secondly, women seem to think their private part is an asset that can be used to trap men. Then I wanted to prove to them that it is not. In times of trouble, women think they should be rescued first, so I wanted to treat them as second fiddle, a position they admire.

To get out of the shackles of hating them, I labelled them as an endangered specie that needs my only help to survive.

shaiba:
You sound very sad and depressed. I may be wrong.

I'd like to ask a few questions cause I think this is triggered by a thought or something you are yet to get over. I took time off to go thru some of your write ups and its all in same trend.

This feeling didn't just start, you fell in love at a point in time and when the relationship (which lasted for 3yrs) didn't work out you felt being treated as a cute bunny (your words) and your feelings were toyed with. You also feel you get too much of attention because of your looks and good nature.
You get frustrated when you don't have much money with you... I could go on and on from your articles.

Now what?

1. See a psychiatrist - you need to talk to a person rather than staying on the phone or computer.
2. Accept the fact that you did not create yourself and appreciate your gifts. You could use it for good.
3. Try meditation - it helps clear your mind and relax
4. Remove focus on yourself, you already got that from the girls. Get a pet and nurse it or do something creative like learning arts (drawing, photography etc.)
5. You don't talk much about friends or family so I guess you enjoy being alone, try going out, maybe travel to other places

There is more to life than the thought of hurting girls.

Ever thought about the pains you will bring to others who love you just the way you are?

I don't know you but I know you have more to give and people to help and love.

Please see a psychiatrist. I'll remember you in prayers.

Eglobalma:
I would love a distraction, something to keep my mind busy at all times. Sadly im in a very complicated place in life and getting something to distract myself with from where i stand doesnt sound as easy as it seems.

shaiba:
Its not easy but you can start with one little positive step. You have a bright future ahead of you, a destiny to fulfill and you are full of life.
Start with mediation, talk with someone, please.

IdeyFindWife:
Pace yourself
Felt like that too, only without the hate
Don't burn out emotionally trying to carry the pains of the world on your shoulders alone (even started an NGO effort, not running it presently anymore-no time)
Always remember, you're only as good for them as much as you care and can actually fulfill the vision of being a helping hand to them, ok? So, let that inspire you and give you balance
Go get trained if possible at places like LEADs Africa etc; Read books and get vaster on your passion
Start a foundation or some other empowerment-agency and systematically sort problems/cases out one by one
Work on your Self-Guilt by celebrating your milestones in sorting every/any case or for simply still just being here at the Creator's Will still to be functioning and contributing positively to the world around you
the Self-guilt accentuates your, earlier-mentioned, notions of powerless so that even, after having done your best, you still feel guilt for not doing enough hence you start wishing you could bring dem closer, maybe make dem yours and be there for them always?
Burrrrrrrrt, Noo! It won't help you! Believe me, it won't!
Rather, you'll ending spreading yourself too thin and bringing too many "damsels-in-distress" into your personal space within a short space of time which is another quick recipe for madness. So, don't go that way!
And know that, no matter what you can't and won't be able to help everybody.

Story about the boy rescuing washed-up Clams on the beach by throwing them back into the sea, to save them, has always inspired me. You wanna know why?
Well, an older man came along and engaged him in the futility of his effort pointing out the tens of thousands of clams on the shore to him querying him on why he could even deceive himself that he could make any impact that way.
So, he says to the boy: And do you think what you're doing really matter to these clams
Story says the boy, bent down, picked up another clam to save and replied: "Well, my actions may not matter to all the Clams on this shore, but it sure does matter to this one"! And he threw it back to safety, in the sea!
You may be that boy, don't let ur good become or be tainted with evil...Do your Clarke Kent thing and do it well!
You're part of the solution, never be the problem; keep it up, stop feeling guilty...go, superman you!

Raine80:
We can't fix you here unfortunately. Fantasising about being a killer and being a killer are not one of the same. You have morbid thoughts and a lot of unspent anger that does not make you a bad person. The fact remains it's not something that can be resolved on a forum.

Snow84:
That he admits he has a problem is a good omen. That I have never seen you talking of needing help should be a cause for alarm.

You always want us to believe that you are stone-hearted; a time is coming when you will long to be in the company of your children. That is when it will dawn on you that wisdom is a word that has no fixed definition. Do you know that lights around an object can be manipulated to render it invisible?