Firstly, I have to admit I created a new account to get this much needed help.
Ok, So I met my girlfriend sometime last year and just recently we celebrated our 1 year anniversary as lovers.
Truth be told, she is an amazing personality; submissive, loving, caring, intelligent and hardworking. Infact, she's got a large portion of attributes that any man would want in a woman.
When we first met, I noticed really that she has alot of online friends whom she usually chat with as close friends (or maybe lovers sha). I kept cool thinking it ll just pass when things get serious between us. During this period she told me how she got close with one of those online guys that she requests porn clips from him. Fortunately or unfortunately, I know this guy ( he is my friend gan sef), I just allowed the matter lay low and warned her never to ask him or any other guy for such things as it reduces the respect any person has for the lady and she promised not to. This is because I dont want anyone disrespecting and disregarding her whenever she s been introduced to family and friends.
Alas! I caught my babe, requesting porn video from another of her online friends (I don't know this guy tho..) Once more. She assured me that she just did it coz she hasn't seen this guy before so its safe to ask him, Unlike the previous guy that they do see.
After this occurrence, I ve caught her flirting with friends on facebook messenger to the extent that they refer to her as 'my love' some even call her 'my wife'. More saddening is that some of them are mutual friends and are guys I really know. She claims they are the ones disturbing her and she has no feelings for anyone of them except me ; Her First love.
Fast Forward to present day, we started having a bigger issue now which is about to bring the relationship to halt. Four days back while we were chatting she asked if I know any guy answering so so name. I check my friends list and answered NO. That question kept pondering my heart so I decided to log into her facebook account. (I Later got to know her password after I helped her change password once). I came to understand that the guy she just asked about and herself had just been friends and as usual, she is showing this guy green light and flirting seriously with him (someone that she's yet to see o and just met for that matter)..
I decided to break the relationship. But surprisingly she kept reaffirming me that there s nothing between her and the guy that its just facebook friendly chatting.

PLEASE ladies and matured people in the house. Is it really possible that she actually mean what she is saying? do ladies still really behave this way after which they are in a relationship with someone they claim to love Or maybe I am the one overeacting here?
EDAKUN EPP ME

Bro ,you don't need help on this one. It should be a straightforward easy decision to make.let her be a goner . she's obviously manipulating you and you are also acting naive. Man up bro

My guy, let me be clear with you on this one your babe is not straight with you since day one. Na you long the whole thing because immediately you got to know she's chatting with lots of nigga online , na then you suppose don take am personal and ask her to stop or you go bounce.

If she's into you, she would gradually cut them off and you would know. But instead you kept cooling like thermocool AC . The porn clips and you still lay low again! Who does that? And na your friend she dey ask for porn clips , she fit dey send to him sef make you no know.

If i were you, the relationship won't make it up to 6mo, you know why because when your babe dey ask another nigga for porn clip she's a or an OLOSHO. When she see say you be baba cool she continues to chat with her online fuckmate and kept requesting for diiccck and god knows what more.

That guy she asked if you know lately, if you check well she fit don bang that guy and asking just to see if she can cover her track. That babe just dey use you cool off after she don go warm up elsewhere.

I always make my woman know when am uncomfortable with her online presence, she can't just be chatting and chatting endlessly and i go keep cool NEVER! I know her phone lock code but i always avoid checking her stuff instead i tell her what I don't want. Chikena

OP sleep dey my eye oooo


Make day break first

fuckerstard:
My guy, let me be clear with you on this one your babe is not straight with you since day one. Na you long the whole thing because immediately you got to know she's chatting with lots of nigga online , na then you suppose don take am personal and ask her to stop or you go bounce.

If she's into you, she would gradually cut them off and you would know. But instead you kept cooling like thermocool AC . The porn clips and you still lay low again! Who does that? And na your friend she dey ask for porn clips , she fit dey send to him sef make you no know.

If i were you, the relationship won't make it up to 6mo, you know why because when your babe dey ask another nigga for porn clip she's a or an OLOSHO. When she see say you be baba cool she continues to chat with her online fuckmate and kept requesting for diiccck and god knows what more.

That guy she asked if you know lately, if you check well she fit don bang that guy and asking just to see if she can cover her track. That babe just dey use you cool off after she don go warm up elsewhere.

I always make my woman know when am uncomfortable with her online presence, she can't just be chatting and chatting endlessly and i go keep cool NEVER! I know her phone lock code but i always avoid checking her stuff instead i tell her what I don't want. Chikena

TRUE im the thermocool guy but this babe was really pure when I met her that was the reason why I could not even be suspecting the whole olosho thing.
And you know, the kind of accolades that society has given those kind of ladies.

That was what really got me confused man.
She was all crying that she loved me and making me feel bad I broke her heart.

stambouli:
Bro ,you don't need help on this one. It should be a straightforward easy decision to make.let her be a goner . she's obviously manipulating you and you are also acting naive. Man up bro

Thanks so much for helping out a brother.

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Im naive actually because I dont do "player" thing and wont even become a close friend with a lady if I won't be dating her (as in; I have my boundaries so to say).
I dont want someone making me feel I ve used and dumped her (as they quickly say) or I ve broken her heart.
Although this s not my first relationship but I really love her like none..
Things are getting clearer now.
Thanks again boss

yinkeys:
@padiimii Save yourself from health risks o. What's her name. Maybe I know her & where is she in the country now

HMMM.... just checked your pic.

would you DM me

The writing is on the wall, don't let love for her blind you. Either you choose to catch fun with her and nothing else attached OR you forget about her.

Padiimii:

Thanks so much for helping out a brother.

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Im naive actually because I dont do "player" thing and wont even become a close friend with a lady if I won't be dating her (as in; I have my boundaries so to say).
I dont want someone making me feel I ve used and dumped her (as they quickly say) or I ve broken her heart.
Although this s not my first relationship but I really love her like none..
Things are getting clearer now.
Thanks again boss

you should be less concerned about what people say.your peace of mind and sanity is the most important

good luck

Una wicked o, una just dey suggests breakup breakup every and everytime, you said it that's she's a good girl except this Fbk stuff, bro from Man to Man, every girl likes attention especially from someone they don't know, she enjoy the attention and making them like her the more is to play their games. Would you be happy if no guy toast your babe? Cmon chill jor. Have it at the back of your mind that she's yours, and your sef stop going through her Fbk unless you wan kill yourself. The best way to get over it is to discipline yourself. The most important is the kpekus n her loyalty to you. My papa say na when woman dey your house na that time she b your own, when she lives, na another person own.

op wat are u waiting for.. fleeeeeeeeeeeeeeee without even looking back.



d way DAT gal go take brk ur hrt eh... it'll take d whole church of God with help from the police force to calm u down.

You must be a fool.

Lewaluv easy..

I know its difficult for you to bone the babe since she is giving you free fvck..


You gotta man up and dismiss whatever you have with that girl..

Op, warrayu stee waiting for? I mean why the hell would you stay with that kinda unfaithful someone?

I don't understand why nairalanders would always create another handle whenever they wanna seek help in their relationships...well, just break up with her for your own good...that's all i gotta say to you.

in young m.a's voice

if that is your chick then why she texting me, why she keep calling my phone speaking sexually, you call her stephanie I call her headphanie!


I am sure some of those niggas! must have told her

when you tired of your man! give me a call!....

she want to eat her cake and have it back.
she want a stable boyfriend and won't stop flirting around, it start from somewhere now she is doing it online who knows who she will try it with when you guys marry maybe you boss at work and she will tell you the only relationship between them is work.
no matter the advice we give you here, if you decide to go on with her thinking she will change it your life. my Yoruba people use to say this, nkan ti eyan ole gba ni olowo, talika loma tin ko I.e behaviour that someone cannot accept when rich it is from when poor he will start avoiding such act

Terryindeed:
Una wicked o, una just dey suggests breakup breakup every and everytime, you said it that's she's a good girl except this Fbk stuff, bro from Man to Man, every girl likes attention especially from someone they don't know, she enjoy the attention and making them like her the more is to play their games. Would you be happy if no guy toast your babe? Cmon chill jor. Have it at the back of your mind that she's yours, and your sef stop going through her Fbk unless you wan kill yourself. The best way to get over it is to discipline yourself. The most important is the kpekus n her loyalty to you. My papa say na when woman dey your house na that time she b your own, when she lives, na another person own.

Wat level of stupidity....

OP lemme tell u the spanking truth.....u are a perfect definition of a thermocool,a big thermocool....The sight of u alone fit make hot pure turn ice block....I just told u the truth

R3B3L:
Wat level of stupidity....

That Guy's stupidity has reached tertiary level

Its crystal clear na u knw wat to do.

A long one

Op iffa discover u lay low for one more time... I will take it on myself to personally get rid of u... Get the hell outta that movie u call a relationship..

Nerul:
Op, warrayu stee waiting for? I mean why the hell would you stay with that kinda unfaithful someone?

Nerul wassup naw??hope u have taken ur breakfast??...if u haven't com lemme giv u breakfast am interested in breakfasting u this morning..

Oyindidi:
A long one

Long Wat Oyindi nwamLong D?..jst curious!!

Abortions:
Long Wat Oyindi nwamLong D?..jst curious!!

Abortion, you greet me this morning?

Oyindidi:
Abortion, you greet me this morning?

sorry ma'am I 4got my manners...Gudmornin!

Abortions:
sorry ma'am I 4got my manners...Gudmornin!

Morning, how was your night? I'm listening