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It's well, God that made the marriage work at the first instance will definitely make all things work for good, just keep praying for him to have a change of heart, he his still your husband.

Juzzybabe:
"Obsessed with abroad guy"...Did you read the part where I stated I dated him since 2013 while he was in Nigeria drinking garri and I had to steal from my guardians to feed him as well? The man who took my virginity...I loved him even while he was empty with nothing. It was after our wedding that he told me all along he had a land and was building a house in Lagos. I married the poor guy I knew, not cuz he traveled. So get your point well please.

My dear, you don't owe anybody any explanation. The average Nigerian believes that a broken marriage is always the fault of the wife, so they must find an attack point one way or the other. Some of them will even say you didn't lie down flat enough for him to trample over you. So bloody what if he was based abroad before your marriage? That gives him no right to treat you like dirt. Your ex is nothing but an evil narcissist and like all narcissists do, if you're no longer under their control, they will try to bring you down every way possible. It's good that you're no longer in the same country with him, it would have been much more thouger to push him away. Your life may even be in danger.

It's good to see that you're taking the right steps towards keeping custody of your daughter. No sane judge will award the custody of a two year old to a man how much more a mentally unstable one. Tell him that you can't wait to meet him in court and get the marriage over and done with and hell will freeze over several times before he gets custody of your baby. You shall overcome this and enjoy the fruit of your labour over your daughter by God's grace.

dinachi:
Keeping the child away from him is the most foolish thing you can ever do. Your daughter will grow, locate her father and hate you forever for keeping her away from him.

Story, that's the tactics deadbeat parents use to escape responsibility. They believe the child will come looking for them when they come of age. Blood is thicker than water ko? Newsflash! Children of nowadays don't go looking for deadbeat parents. They only relate with the parents or guardian that was present in their lives during their formative years. Just a few weeks back, Segun Arinze got embarrassed on social media by the daughter her didn't bond with as a child. Till today, Dele Alli's father is begging to be a part of his life, but he's not interested. This ought to teach absentee parents a lesson. But no o, they will be expecting the child they abandoned to 'locate' them and hate the person that raised them.

cococandy:
So you think a man can give a two year old the type of dedicated care a mom can? Or don't you realize that if he gets custody of that child, it will just be for him to send the child to his parents or his new woman who will use the baby as a punching bag. Please apply reason when commenting

Most of them know nothing about caregiving, hence that kind of advice.

Juzzybabe:
My dear, even if he knows am here, he can do nothing. I have tried to keep this calm and protect his family name for the sake of my baby. she bears the name. but this guy has sent out the so called legal petition to all my Facebook contacts, my name and his are written in that document. He has been exposing himself and people have been asking me about my marriage but I always tell them to just ignore. Am sure this case will give us both social popularity cuz am very ready now to tell the world what they did to me all in a bid to protect my kid from that wicked man and his family.

That man you are describing sounds like a cultist! Kill any emotion you have for him before he kills you!

Remain outside the country, your husband is a sadist and wants to steal your joy. Don't come back until your child grows. Meanwhile, let them grant the divorce in your absence, contact a lawyer and discuss this issue

A word is enough for the wise

The Lord is with you.

cococandy:
So you think a man can give a two year old the type of dedicated care a mom can? [b]Or don't you realize that if he gets custody of that child, it will just be for him to send the child to his parents or his new woman who will use the baby as a punching ba[/b]g. Please apply reason when commenting

I don't know how you came about this conclusion. That you heard stories of such does not mean it will happen in all cases. I didn't advise her to leave her baby. I advised what's in the child best interest in her knowledge. It baffles me that many do not see that the man is trying to slow OP down. Ofcourse, it's clear OP will win the case in court.

but y ll he tel u 2send ur marriage xert on dhl? maybe u re troublesome & wud seize or fite him so he doesn't want 2c u except n court only. as 4d child dogh he s too young 2hand ova 2d fada but u must undastand dat u cnt deprive d child his fada. u both own d child & u ve got 2resolve dis issue as peaceful as u can 4d sake of ur child & agree on who should custodise d child.

AuroraB:
Shut your mouth up and take corrections, olofo, olori pelebe
She mentioned her 'daughter' and has been doing so but in order to vomit dirt, your brain has only about bastard to come up with
You had to quote me without visiting the thread. Empty head
Why am I replying the NL resident idiott gan
Bye, onye apari

nkita ara...

AfricanCalabash:
i dn't buy this sh*t. women are always causing problem here and there.

he dn't care for u and he sent u 40K, perhaps u abused him and he stopped.

u dn't love him any more! he saved u divorce papers and u are running from pillar to post (u dn't want to give consent).

enough of women and their escaped u guys should stop komin here to post and vomit rubbish-no apologies to feminist (even if a foolish man kills him self for una, una go still abuse his dead body)

i am not support the man though cus nobody have had his own side of the story.

give consent to his divorce request since u no want again or ADONBILIVIT

You, just like me, don't easily believe all these one-sided stories women are quick to post on social media. I've really understood that women are more interested in being seen as victims than actually narrating the true story so an amicable solution can be arrived at.

They just love that victim status.

some one somewhere is working some science in his head

may God help you through if you are correct

Juzzybabe:
She bears his name, so definitely one day I will have to answer to her on her paternity. If he truely cared, he would have settled his family after marriage. He left for Dubai 2 weeks after wedding. He returned in 2015 for roughly 3months where I was his beating sand while pregnant. That was all I got from the marriage I signed for. his mother ran our union and fed her son with lies. Do you really think it will be wise for me to leave my kid with such people? What have I done wrong to have another woman raise a child I labour 8hours and still got a cut for? I only wish to raise her into the woman I will beat my chest and be proud of. His intentions of custody is to hurt me, he doesn't deserve her. Remember the woman in the bible who slept on her child and exchange her dead baby for the woman with the living baby and asked the king to split the baby into two cuz she knew the child is not rightfully hers?? God intervene. He will stand by me and I will succeed.

thank God that child is a girl, it will be easy for you to fight the battle because woman knows more about girl child .
my advice for you is to find a good work did I say good perfect work, so that whenever the case start you will be able to claim physical and mentally, financial stable for taking care of her.and the second thing is for You to find a Good lair did I say lawyer no I mean liar that's all dear stay bless the Lord will fight ur battle if u used one heart with him

and also upload his data on social media if his wahala is too much fir u to handle so that we can help you destroy his image

bastard man Awon oloriburuku ti o je ki eyan Mon ounti yo se!!!!

cococandy:
Have to find a way to blame the woma don't you? Stupid

Who be this one nah? Why do you always like to quote me even though I always try to avoid a miserable and attention seeker like you. Must you needlessly quote me just to show to me how sex starved you are? Oooooh you think I just sleep with any cat and dog? Sorry baby, I don't do that. Kindly find someone else

I know you crave my attention and you aren't going to get it this morning. Kindly the silly ass out of my mention abeg

My dear sister, please hear me out marriage is not to be endured but to be enjoyed. And here in our African society, the child belong to the father and no body would want to answer a bastard, if he says he wants the child back. Then there are some requirement that he should comply to based on our Nigeria customs and traditions. Because at the end of day the child will always ask you of his father, and then it might be to late for you to handle. so you all have parents or family member's, they should all come in now. What an old man, sits down to see a child can,t see it even if he climbs on top of an iroko tree he cant see it. Be wise.

majekdom2:
has this blame laying changed these "men"? Crime is not peculiar to any gender!

Yes crime is peculiar to a particular gender, men are most likely to commit deadly crimes. Go to the prisons na them full there for all sorts of crimes like rape, serial murders, armed robbery , Dammy crane will soon join them.
Men are less moral and full of ego which means they let their ego take control of them than pure reason. This moral Decadence very peculiar in men is even more prominent in a black man, and their low IQ compared to other races is appalling.

cococandy:
Have to find a way to blame the woma don't you? Stupid

Who be this one nah? Why do you always like to quote me even though I always try to avoid a miserable and attention seeker like you. Must you always quote me unnecessarily just to show to me how sex starved you are? Oooooh! you think I just sleep with any cat and dog? Sorry baby, I don't do that. Kindly find someone else

I know you crave my attention but you aren't going to get it this morning. Kindly get your silly ass out of my mention abeg.

Next time you find my comment repulsive, kindly avoid it instead of following me around on this forum

tosyne2much:
Who be this one nah? Why do you always like to quote me even though I always try to avoid a miserable and attention seeker like you. Must you always quote me unnecessarily just to show to me how sex starved you are? Oooooh! you think I just sleep with any cat and dog? Sorry baby, I don't do that. Kindly find someone else

I know you crave my attention but you aren't going to get it this morning. Kindly get your silly ass out of my mention abeg.

Next time you find my comment repulsive, kindly avoid it instead of following me around on this forum

Lmao See bashing oo

cococandy:
So you think a man can give a two year old the type of dedicated care a mom can? Or don't you realize that if he gets custody of that child, it will just be for him to send the child to his parents or his new woman who will use the baby as a punching bag. Please apply reason when commenting

already laying accusations on the man,aren't you stupid?

Hmmmn, just coming across this story for the first time, but for a better understanding, had to peep into the previous threads and I shuddered. God knows I'm not strong enough to go through this.

Many noteworthy pieces of advice have been given to you. No matter how much we empathize with you, at the end of the day, you are the only one wearing the shoe and automatically knows where it hurts the most.

Get a good lawyer, get evidences he has been non-supportive, anything that can discredit him as a good father, get proofs too that you're financially and morally OK to cater for the child. Above everything trust God to settle you, then go to sleep. Similar thing happened to a sister, we were going in and out of court together, after the case dragged for a little over a year, she got her divorce and custody of her son. Though the man is late now but as rich as he was, he lost the case.

Like I said, trust God and go to sleep. I know you'll come out of this better, bigger and stronger.

Hugs and Kisses for you and your baby girl.

Philpham:
Yes crime is peculiar to a particular gender, men are most likely to commit deadly crimes. Go to the prisons na them full there for all sorts of crimes like rape, serial murders, armed robbery , Dammy crane will soon join them.
Men are less moral and full of ego which means they let their ego take control of them than pure reason. This moral Decadence very peculiar in men is even more prominent in a black man, and their low IQ compared to other races is appalling.

yeah,and the rate of falseful conviction is higher in male too,what do you have to say about that stupid, and you thinking black people have lower IQ shows how racist you are,the site you are displaying your racist view own was constructed by a black man

pls, no matter what don't give him your baby since she's a girl, we all know he won't be able to take care of her and with the trending stories of pedophiles up n dwn.Just get a good lawyer to stand for u.

A lot of Nairalanders are very shallow, imagine the comments, imagine the nonsense give the child to the father comments. Will he take care of the baby himself or go and dump her with the inlaws, no one can take care of a child like the mother that's just the simple fact.

Its in the best interest of the child to stay with the mother, so he can even come back to claim that child now abi? after all he has done.

Get a good lawyer, your child stays with you. Besides no judge will give a 2 year old to the father when its not like you are I capacitated and please stay in that country for now, don't com near naija ooo. I would have even said ignore him if not for the fact that he is disturbing your relatives.

How much is 40k, what does 40k do in taking care of a baby till 2 years. Mtchew.

tosyne2much:
Who be this one nah? Why do you always like to quote me even though I always try to avoid a miserable and attention seeker like you. Must you always quote me unnecessarily just to show to me how sex starved you are? Oooooh! you think I just sleep with any cat and dog? Sorry baby, I don't do that. Kindly find someone else

I know you crave my attention but you aren't going to get it this morning. Kindly get your silly ass out of my mention abeg.

Next time you find my comment repulsive, kindly avoid it instead of following me around on this forum

Same stupid defensive statements useless misogynistic fools like yourself make when a smart woman points out your errors! Pathetic!

Futureberry:
already laying accusations on the man,aren't you stupid?

You are more daft and silly than anybody on this thread because the OP already said her ex-husband is a woman beater but your stupid misogynistic traits won't let you see that!
I am very sure if she were your relative you would have called for the man's head! Useless hypocrite!

Nofuckgiven:
You are more daft and silly than anybody on this thread because the OP already said her ex-husband is a woman beater but your stupid misogynistic traits won't let you see that!
I am very sure if she were your relative you would have called for the man's head! Useless hypocrite!

yeah,like you did anything when your sister stabs your husband brother, you called the poor guy a weakling and a miserable being...stupid chuvinst

Nofuckgiven:
Same stupid defensive statements useless misogynistic fools like yourself make when a smart woman points out your errors! Pathetic!

Is this the best you can give?

Don't be a coward. Kindly use your main moniker lets talk

Nofuckgiven:
Same stupid defensive statements useless misogynistic fools like yourself make when a smart woman points out your errors! Pathetic!

I just ignored the retardd.

tosyne2much:
Is thus the beat you can give?

Don't be a coward. Kindly use your main moniker lets talk

ignore cococandy shes not worth it