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fynestpotato:
As a man if u are still below 30 years of age marriage is not for you.

just like maturity marriage is not an "age" thing. Depends on the person's mental and financial strength

Hmmm

Such advice will only lead youths of that age bracket (esp. with no solid financial background) to perpetual penury. And the defacing outcome in our society become children to be sent into the road to hawk, beggars, kidnappers, etc.





Marriage is for prepared adults who would not deny their children the best of life by failing in parental responsibility.

Asquare49:
yes I am boo

Lol....Future hubby is reading but no you

Asquare49:
yes I am boo

Lol....Future hubby is reading but not you

NSK4U:
Such advice will only lead youths of that age bracket (esp. with no solid financial background) to perpetual penury. And the defacing outcome in our society become children to be sent into the road to hawk, beggars, kidnappers, etc.



Marriage is for prepared adults who would not deny their children the best of life by failing in parental responsibility.

I don't really agree with you.. What perpetual penury are you talking about? That the write-up encourages people never to despise little beginning and that they should not hesitate to start up their own family in a little way, if those dream houses and millions fail to come as planned?

oooooooh i think i hav to propose to my girl 2mao

This is a load of BS. Why on earth should you bring a woman and children into your house without adequate financial backing to take care of them??

tosyne2much:
Hehehe.. So you spotted me viewing?

Of course

smardray:
Ok sir... Loyalblak007 oya let's get married quick

I am. Married to Jesus

MasterRahl:
I spotted tosyne2much, the 10 rules guy viewing this thread. I wonder why he hasn't commented. I even forgot to screengrab him.

Now back to the matter at hand:
Every decision we make in life will either make or mar our future. The streets of Nigeria is filled with innocent children hawking bananas and groundnuts because two lovebirds failed to think twice before jumping into the murky waters of marriage.
In the school where my mum works, a child of Primary 1 pays a whooping N65,500 for tuition alone. If you want the best life for your children, I'll advise you make it first before marriage. If you want them to go to schools where children sit on the floor to learn, e concern you.
Marriage no be beans.

This is the gospel truth, every time I see an underage hawker I shed a silent tear. This is because this children never asked to be brought to suffer and considering we live in a competitive world; these kids are already been set up for a life of misery, discontentment because they simply are not equipped with the tools to compete with their privileged mates and this vicious cycle continues.

If you know you are a seks machine and you are not buoyant enough to raise kids, use protection or tie your gonads or something.

As for the Op, tell your fictitious uncle to eat sh.it

tosyne2much:
I don't really agree with you.. What perpetual penury are you talking about? That the write-up encourages people never to hesitate to start up their own family in a little ways, if those dream houses and millions fail to come as planned?

Starting a family is not something you should do simply because you feel like doing it or because the society see it as something you should do.

You should only start a family when you know you have the required tools (sticking with the financial aspect).

Imagine a couple who earns 100k combined monthly and then decide to start a family because they want to start in little ways. 3 kids along the line and with other responsibilities; how are they gonna cope with enrolling those kids in good schools, providing them with the necessary materials such that the kids can compete with their peers?

Funky123:
Thanks hun.....I don hear,i hope Mr right is reading this

Yes im reading this

fynestpotato:
sorry bros it's 2 late for u

better late than never

Am 24 and the girl i want to marry is still 11.
Is that marrying late?

oyetpel:
Am 24 and the girl i want to marry is still 11.

Is that marrying late?

lol...oga if u av wat it takes bfor den,its early

Loyalblak007:
I am. Married to Jesus

lets get married first then we'll both get married to jesus

nnamdiokere45:
lol...oga if u av wat it takes bfor den,its early

Are you being sarcastic?

marriage is not like nairabet that you gamble upon and wait for the uncertainties. age and availability of marriageable girls are not the only criteria you look out for as an aspiring husband and father; you have to be mentally mature and financially okay first! leave that your uncle's story...what's the possibility he would have succeeded like his peers if he had married at the same time with them?

stop comparing yourself with other people in this context - what works for them might not work for you, and vice-versa.

don't risk taking a wife if the well-being of your future family is not feasible. like someone said, when i see little kids hawking in the streets or at busy roads when their mates are going and returning from school, i shed silent tears.

No one is saying anything about dese strong headed slay dragons we have dese days. Even if der is money, marry one and lack peace of mind. A gud number of dese ladies have zero marriiable xtics. Since females out number men means d number of gud ones have greatly diminished considering marriage.

agrovick:
Starting a family is not something you should do simply because you feel like doing it or because the society see it as something you should do.

You should only start a family when you know you have the required tools (sticking with the financial aspect).

Imagine a couple who earns 100k combined monthly and then decide to start a family because they want to start in little ways. 3 kids along the line and with other responsibilities; how are they gonna cope with enrolling those kids in good schools, providing them with the necessary materials such that the kids can compete with their peers?

From all the comments I've read so far, you seem to make sense.. Marriage is not a man thing, its a man and woman, both must contribute in all ways to the future of the kids. I assure you a family that both of them makes 100k jointly will do better than a family where the man earns 250k and the woman contributes little or nothing
.. The ladies we have today are just so unproductive and do not prepare themselves to be a perfect "help meet"...
Too much Singular pronoun"my man" "the man" "my future husband" what about the woman
Why say I want a man who has a car, house,30 billion in his account?? Why not say, I want a man that we will have a car, have a mansion, have 30billion in our account? It should be "we" not just "He" alone

agrovick:
Starting a family is not something you should do simply because you feel like doing it or because the society see it as something you should do.

You should only start a family when you know you have the required tools (sticking with the financial aspect).

Imagine a couple who earns 100k combined monthly and then decide to start a family because they want to start in little ways. 3 kids along the line and with other responsibilities; how are they gonna cope with enrolling those kids in good schools, providing them with the necessary materials such that the kids can compete with their peers?

You don't need to earn 100k per month before you start up your family bro. Do you even know that an average married man in Nigeria earns less than 50k and some of them are living fine with their families, so why should you be using your own standard to make a generalization of all men?

Even married men often say that all you need to start up your family is steady income, so i don't know why you're using 100k+ monthly income to base your judgement. No matter what you say bro, people will always marry regardless of their monthly income. I just want you to know that our standard and preference differs.

This article is very easy to comprehend and I don't know why many of you don't seem to get the message at all.

The summary of the article is "never despise little beginning"

Loyalblak007:
I am. Married to Jesus

How many ppl Jesus wan marry haba
Me seff married to him

yes

Funky123:
Thanks hun.....I don hear,i hope Mr right is reading this

Child abuse

oyetpel:
Am 24 and the girl i want to marry is still 11.

Is that marrying late?

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maxysmith:
Child abuse

Am not having sex with her naw.

Am taking care of her as my little sister for now, am nurturing her.

I haven't confess my love or anything to her, but i know she likes me.

When she's mature enough like 18, then we will start the relationship.

Moreover i want to make things financially right before she comes of age.

At least am not behaving like one Mohammed.

hummm...is good if u can wait still wen she clocks 18 [quote author=oyetpel post=57508128]Am not having sex with her naw.

Am taking care of her as my little sister for now, am nurturing her.

I haven't confess my love or anything to her, but i know she likes me.

When she's mature enough like 18, then we will start the relationship.

Moreover i want to make things financially right before she comes of age.

At least am not behaving like one Mohammed. [/qu

maxysmith:
hummm...is good if u can wait still wen she clocks 18

Is what am doing morally right?

At least New France President had been eyeing his teacher since he was 15 and the teacher was 30 something then.



My only concern is that i feel i should produce a child for my mom to be a grandma, but since my 2 sisters will marry in the next 1 to 4 years time respectively i think i should wait, cos am a man.

tosyne2much:
You don't need to earn 100k per month before you start up your family bro. Do you even know that an average married man in Nigeria earns less than 50k and some of them are living fine with their families, so why should you be using your own standard to make a generalization of all men?

I believe the bold is where my issh lies; I'm using my own standard but then you and I know an income of less than 50k for a family of 4 or 5 is the starter pack for frustration.

Even married men often say that all you need to start up your family is steady income, so i don't know why you're using 100k+ monthly income to base your judgement. No matter what you say bro, people will always marry regardless of their monthly income. I just want you to know that our standard and preference differs.

This article is very easy to comprehend and I don't know why many of you don't seem to get the message at all.

The summary of the article is "never despise little beginning"

Yes people will always marry and engender kids but I believe family life is all about been responsible and been able to provide and provide adequately for the kids you've chosen to bring into the world.

I get the idea of not despising little beginning; I'm only adding that we should use our heads less we become a standard for mediocrity.

princefunmmy:
From all the comments I've read so far, you seem to make sense.. Marriage is not a man thing, its a man and woman, both must contribute in all ways to the future of the kids. I assure you a family that both of them makes 100k jointly will do better than a family where the man earns 250k and the woman contributes little or nothing
.. The ladies we have today are just so unproductive and do not prepare themselves to be a perfect "help meet"...
Too much Singular pronoun"my man" "the man" "my future husband" what about the woman
Why say I want a man who has a car, house,30 billion in his account?? Why not say, I want a man that we will have a car, have a mansion, have 30billion in our account? It should be "we" not just "He" alone

This is another important issue, any man who decides to marry a lady with this mindset is most likely to die young

agrovick:
I believe the bold is where my issh lies; I'm using my own standard but then you and I know an income of less than 50k for a family of 4 or 5 is the starter pack for frustration.



Yes people will always marry and engender kids but I believe family life is all about been responsible and been able to provide and provide adequately for the kids you've chosen to bring into the world.

I get the idea of not despising little beginning; I'm only adding that we should use our heads less we become a standard for mediocrity.

Yes I understand the face that you've got high standard for the kind of family you want to build, but you should also know that people will find it difficult to get married if we use your own standard as a ground for getting married