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I have been in a relationship for 5months now and I'm stucked and need a way out.
Here comes the issue. My parents are intertribal and both want me to get married to a yoruba guy saying if u marry outside yoruba land be sure we won't attend. blah blah blah. maybe cos of my dad being yoruba I don't really know.
Recently I met my current guy he's from Akwaibom, I told my mum and siblings about it yesterday and they rejected saying God forbid to it not to talk of what my dad will say when he gets to hear this.
I love this guy and he loves me too. I av told him about my parents choice even b4 we started dating and his response was " my dear when we get to that bridge we will cross it by God's grace and all will be story".
I really don't know what to do. should I quit now that the relationship is still fresh?
I really need your advice Nairalanders.

luckygirl93:
I have been in a relationship for 5months now and I'm stucked and need a way out.
Here comes the issue. My parents are intertribal and both want me to get married to a yoruba guy saying if u marry outside yoruba land be sure we won't attend. blah blah blah. maybe cos of my dad being yoruba I don't really know.
Recently I met my current guy he's from Akwaibom, I told my mum and siblings about it yesterday and they rejected saying God forbid to it not to talk of what my dad will say when he gets to hear this.
I love this guy and he loves me too. I av told him about my parents choice even b4 we started dating and his response was " my dear when we get to that bridge we will cross it by God's grace and all will be story".
I really don't know what to do. should I quit now that the relationship is still fresh?
I really need your advice Nairalanders.

Talk to your dad about it.. Don't assume

1) Are you 18+ ?
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2) Is your father the one to live and build your marriage for you ?
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3) Is he the one to marry you ?
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If you really love the guy and he too loves you (as you said).
I'll advise you not to go to your dad straight, instead go to someone your dad respects/listens to e.g your church pastor/leader (if you're a christian) and talk to them about it, and they will talk to your dad
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Babe i promise you Akwa Ibom people are peaceful/nice people.
(I'm one of them).
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Enjoy !!

ifex370:
Talk to your dad about it.. Don't assume

He has always told me to get married to a yoruba guy or no blessings

ANIEXTY:
1) Are you 18+ ?
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2) Is it your father that will live with you in your marriage
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3) Is he the one to marry you ?
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If you really love the guy and he too loves you (as you said).
I'll advise you not to go to your dad straight, instead go to someone your dad respects/listens to e.g your church pastor/leader (if you're a christian) and talk to them about it, and they will talk to your dad

Tnx dear. I will b 24 soon
As to getting some1 to talk to dad is a no go area cos my dad won't give audience or if he should he will call me later and ask when we started making family matters public

luckygirl93:
I have been in a relationship for 5months now and I'm stucked and need a way out.
Here comes the issue. My parents are intertribal and both want me to get married to a yoruba guy saying if u marry outside yoruba land be sure we won't attend. blah blah blah. maybe cos of my dad being yoruba I don't really know.
Recently I met my current guy he's from Akwaibom, I told my mum and siblings about it yesterday and they rejected saying God forbid to it not to talk of what my dad will say when he gets to hear this.
I love this guy and he loves me too. I av told him about my parents choice even b4 we started dating and his response was " my dear when we get to that bridge we will cross it by God's grace and all will be story".
I really don't know what to do. should I quit now that the relationship is still fresh?
I really need your advice Nairalanders.

@ the bolded , the bridge long well well ooooo, no be for mouth

luckygirl93:
Tnx dear. I will b 24 soon
As to getting some1 to talk to dad is a no go area cos my dad won't give audience or if he should he will call me later and ask when we started making family matters public

Lol.... A typical naija dad.... but babe trust me you gat to do what you gat to do, your dad married his wife (your mom), it's your time to choose yours.
What if you marry a yoruba guy now and few years latter your marriage crashes, will you blame your father for it ?....
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"Learn from others mistakes, you can never live long enough to make all the mistakes yourself " _ John Mason
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Be wise !!!

ANIEXTY:
Lol.... A typical naija dad.... but babe trust me you gat to do what you gat to do, your dad married his wife (your mom), it's your time to choose yours.
What if you marry a yoruba guy now and few years latter your marriage crashes, will you blame your father for it ?....
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"Learn from others mistakes, you can never live long enough to make all the mistakes yourself " _ John Mason
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Be wise !!!

Tnx

luckygirl93:
I have been in a relationship for 5months now and I'm stucked and need a way out.
Here comes the issue. My parents are intertribal and both want me to get married to a yoruba guy saying if u marry outside yoruba land be sure we won't attend. blah blah blah. maybe cos of my dad being yoruba I don't really know.
Recently I met my current guy he's from Akwaibom, I told my mum and siblings about it yesterday and they rejected saying God forbid to it not to talk of what my dad will say when he gets to hear this.
I love this guy and he loves me too. I av told him about my parents choice even b4 we started dating and his response was " my dear when we get to that bridge we will cross it by God's grace and all will be story".
I really don't know what to do. should I quit now that the relationship is still fresh?
I really need your advice Nairalanders.

what tribe is your mum

Nwabundo38:
what tribe is your mum

Mom is igbo

My parents can't make that choice for me. My mum once said I shouldn't bring an Akwa Ibom suitor to her house when I was dating an Akwa Ibom guy but I didn't care 'cause if she had the opportunity to have a chat with him she would have given her blessing. I guess they have their reasons for telling you it must be a Yoruba guy but what if the Yoruba guys who come for you aren't what you really want? Will you settle down with anything just because your parents want you to?. Decide for yourself, and follow it through. They may want the best for you, but at times their best isn't always the best.

luckygirl93:
I have been in a relationship for 5months now and I'm stucked and need a way out.
Here comes the issue. My parents are intertribal and both want me to get married to a yoruba guy saying if u marry outside yoruba land be sure we won't attend. blah blah blah. maybe cos of my dad being yoruba I don't really know.
Recently I met my current guy he's from Akwaibom, I told my mum and siblings about it yesterday and they rejected saying God forbid to it not to talk of what my dad will say when he gets to hear this.
I love this guy and he loves me too. I av told him about my parents choice even b4 we started dating and his response was " my dear when we get to that bridge we will cross it by God's grace and all will be story".
I really don't know what to do. should I quit now that the relationship is still fresh?
I really need your advice Nairalanders.

Go see his people 1st and see dia reaction cause u can't fight battle on 2 fronts. If dey are ok with it den dats half trouble.

I do understand ur parents view trust me. Dey have experience and just know dat in the long run dia will be challenges dat u have to swallow and go through.

Just make sure the dude no be strong head and a fighter o cause dem full dere plenty.

Ultimately it is ur call. Also u need to learn about the people, culture and language or else e go tough.

luckygirl93:
He has always told me to get married to a yoruba guy or no blessings

Still talk to him

use ur sence u are not a baby will u be wit ur parent foreva. love conqa all.

all diss parent causing tribal wahala since 13A.D
But dey will let you marry from the obama's right

ricki:
Go see his people 1st and see dia reaction cause u can't fight battle on 2 fronts. If dey are ok with it den dats half trouble.

I do understand ur parents view trust me. Dey have experience and just know dat in the long run dia will be challenges dat u have to swallow and go through.

Just make sure the dude no be strong head and a fighter o cause dem full dere plenty.

Ultimately it is ur call. Also u need to learn about the people, culture and language or else e go tough.

tnx

Even in this synchronized and versatile age??...parents still chose tribe were their children will marry from huh??....and why did your dad marry outside yoruba if he was so sure that yoruba people are "perfect" in marriage...


My parents can't detect for me who to marry....unless except maybe i must 've lost my will which is still very impossible...in your case maybe it's cos you're a girl

luckygirl93:
I have been in a relationship for 5months now and I'm stucked and need a way out.
Here comes the issue. My parents are intertribal and both want me to get married to a yoruba guy saying if u marry outside yoruba land be sure we won't attend. blah blah blah. maybe cos of my dad being yoruba I don't really know.
Recently I met my current guy he's from Akwaibom, I told my mum and siblings about it yesterday and they rejected saying God forbid to it not to talk of what my dad will say when he gets to hear this.
I love this guy and he loves me too. I av told him about my parents choice even b4 we started dating and his response was " my dear when we get to that bridge we will cross it by God's grace and all will be story".
I really don't know what to do. should I quit now that the relationship is still fresh?
I really need your advice Nairalanders.

5 months. that is all

parents wld always wnt u 2 gt married to ya tribal person.
Ma advise 2 ya z diz!!
dnt let lv make u marry sum1 ya parents do nt approve of, cause wen da tins gt rousey u wld definately come bak 2 dem, nd @ diz point dae wld be like shey we told u nt 2 marry em. be wise sha. da choice z ol urs.

omega25red:
5 months. that is all

No getting ur point

omega25red:
5 months. that is all

Not getting ur point

Family over everything!

ANIEXTY:
Lol.... A typical naija dad.... but babe trust me you gat to do what you gat to do, your dad married his wife (your mom), it's your time to choose yours.
What if you marry a yoruba guy now and few years latter your marriage crashes, will you blame your father for it ?....
.
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"Learn from others mistakes, you can never live long enough to make all the mistakes yourself " _ John Mason
.
.
Be wise !!!

As in eh. D father will still blame her like u can't keep ur marriage and blah blah. As for op. Go with ur hrt(d guy). Ur fada has finished his own business, it's ur turn to start urs